Daughter Refuses To Share Her Bedroom With Mom’s 14 Y.O. Brother, Parents Are Furious
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Every one of us knows what the teenage years entail. We are changing, have our own strong opinions and obviously, need privacy and boundaries. While in childhood, sharing a room with our siblings was the best, now it’s weird and we can’t wait to have our own rooms. But you know what’s even more weird? Sharing a room with your mom’s 14 Y.O. brother who you have never even met.
With this situation, one 17 Y.O. Reddit user took her story online asking folks if she’s in the wrong for refusing to share her room with her mom’s brother despite being forced by her parents.
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Sharing a room with people who you have never met is weird, even if they are a relative
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The teen shared that her mom’s 14 Y.O. brother is moving in and while there’s one free bedroom in the house, her parents insist that she must share her bedroom with him
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The teen added that she doesn’t want to share her bedroom with him as she has never even met him and has her boyfriend over often
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The day before his arrival, she got into a big fight with her parents after she locked her door and refused to let her parents in to put his mattress there
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The same thing happened after the boy arrived, leading to silent treatment from the teen’s mom and dad’s comments that she is being selfish
Recently one Reddit user took her story online asking community members if she’s being a jerk for refusing to share her room with her mom’s 14 Y.O. brother, who she doesn’t even know, as he’s moving in with them. The post caught a lot of attention and received almost 4K upvotes and 1.6K comments.
The original poster (OP) shares that her mom’s little brother is moving in with them. While she doesn’t have a problem with it, she really doesn’t want to share a room with him. She also adds that in their home, there is one available bedroom in the basement, where she thought he would be sleeping. Well, apparently he’s afraid of the dark and mom insists he stay with her.
OP, who’s 17 Y.O., adds that she has never even met him and has her boyfriend over a lot. However, neither she nor her parents want to budge, thus the day before his arrival, things got even more difficult. While her parents were thinking of where they could put his mattress, OP locked her room and said that she doesn’t want him sleeping in the room.
The same thing happened once the boy arrived, which led to mom not speaking to the OP anymore, and her dad saying he’s disappointed and she’s being selfish. The teen shares that while she feels bad about the whole thing, she still doesn’t want him sleeping in her room.
Redditors backed up the teen in this situation and discussed that her parents’ plan for this setup is not normal and nobody will be comfortable with this, but suggested for OP to move to the basement instead. “Being a 17-year-old girl with a boyfriend, having the whole basement to yourself sounds even better,” one user wrote. “It is absolutely inappropriate to have opposite sex teenagers share a bedroom, even more so when they do not know each other,” another added.
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“This inappropriate living arrangement can create more chaos in the girl’s life and ruin her emotional well-being,” explained Hanan Parvez, who is the founder of PsychMechanics and an author as well. He notes that teenagers are going through a critical phase of psychological development.
Also, she’ll be forced to get along and live with a stranger, which obviously is something that nobody wants to do.
Now, while personal space is crucial for all of us, Hanan notes that teenagers highly value privacy. “They’re going through the process of shaping their identity. They need a lot of time to reflect on themselves and on the world.” He shares that this is especially true for introverted teenagers, who don’t like their sacred personal space getting invaded.
Speaking about the whole communicating issue, “It seems the mother is favoring her brother at the expense of her daughter,” Hanan emphasizes. Also, this unfairness is bound to create tension in the family dynamics. “The mother has to listen to her daughter’s concerns and find a solution or compromise that takes everyone’s needs into account.”
So as it seems that nobody is ready to compromise in this situation, what do you guys think would be the best solution? Do you think her parents are being unreasonable, or should OP give in? Share your thoughts below!
Redditors backed up the author, saying that she’s being fair and they would do the same in her situation
Honestly the parents trying to do this is really inappropriate. Having shared a room with my step brother when I was little, it was awkward, but at least we had grown up together more or less. Making a teenaged girl share her room with a younger teenaged boy she doesn't even know is absolutely crazy. It sounds like the boy has gone through something traumatic and I feel for him, but if they want the daughter to be more understanding, she is old enough to be told what happened. If I was her, I'd just take my s**t and redecorate the room in the basement.
I'm kinda wondering if they want those two to share a room so he won't be alone. 14 years old, they've never met, afraid of the dark, nowhere else to go, don't ask him anything, then they put him in their room instead of the couch for a few days while they figure things out? I feel like this kid has maybe been through something big where they don't want him alone. Mom's that of making OP live in the basement would be pretty easy to go through with unless she has a high quality lock and never leaves to eat or pee. That being said, she is completely justified in not wanting to give up her space and privacy, indefinitely, without knowing what's going on/why.
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The parents want someone to keep an eye on the boy. It's possible the reason he had to move is something he did, or his behavior, and they're throwing their daughter at a situation with no backstory. Why hasn't she ever met her uncle before??
I wondered why they'd never met too. Maybe the parents are no/low contact with their parents.
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At least in America, if you assume legal guardianship of a minor it’s illegal to room them with a child of the opposite gender. I’m not 100% on this but I think it’s true for the foster care system. She could move to the basement, sure, but her parents need to clue her in a bit more to what’s happening and how she can be supportive for him. She’s 17, she can handle a general explanation of the situation.
In the foster care system yes, but this family so the legality is a little more fudged.
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If you told your counselor at school what your parents are trying to do, they would be in a ton of trouble. They would even send Health Officials to reprimand your parents. Totally inappropriate. The sad thing g is now that your mother has behaved this way with you, you will never be able to recover back to the way your relationship with your mom was before because she has treated you horribly. I am sorry your mom is trying to bump you out she sounds very selfish and unloving. You don't deserve this treatment. Stand your ground and when you turn 18 become Independant and set boundaries. She sounds like a control freak.
Your 'uncle' can sleep with your mum. They're siblings and it's far less inappropriate than him sleeping with you. There's more going on here than OP is being told.
Better yet - girls in one room boys in the other.
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She should mention this to several of her teachers, teachers are "Mandatory reporters" in the U.S. a visit from a CPS worker might change their minds.
What are they going to report though? While this isn't a good situation, and I think it's wrong, there isn't anything going on here (yet). Mandatory reporters have to have something report and just having a child tell them, my parents are forcing me to share a room, isn't something that's wrong.
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nta. op needs privacy and its gonna be awkward just sharing a room with another person.
If there is no light in the basement room, there is probably no other exit from it. In most states, it's against the law to use a basement without an alternate emergency exit. If parents are willing to install an egress, and it's properly ventilated and heated, I would establish a queendom, once the work is complete. Until then, Mom and Dad can screen off the dining area for their room and give their room to the young man.
Think the parents are really screwed up this has some really weird "what are you doing uncle" vibes.
You told your mom you don't care about moving into the basement room.. so why not just move down there and avoid all this mess? Sure it sucks to be the one who has to move, but it sure beats a 14yo strange boy, going through puberty, sharing a room with you when you try to change clothes or sleep...
To anyone saying it's ok for her to move into the basement is a idiot who never had there own room she said she lived there since she was little that's really messed up like would it be ok too move you from your house u lived in for forever
Wholly inappropriate for a 17 year old girl to be expected to share a bedroom with a 14 year old boy. In my country it's not illegal as far as I'm aware. However, when their is a option of separate rooms it is common sense. Both teenagers need their own space and as the 17 year old is almost an adult. I would take the opportunity to take the basement and have it transformed into a self contained apartment for her to enable her burdening freedom
She should move into the basement, I'm sure there's more space there and she would have free reign designing the space.
Yes, but why should she have to? I think there's a lot more to this story than we've been told. Very weird.
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My partner has a 19 year old daughter, I have a 13 year old daughter. We never ask them to share personal spaces with each other and they are (obviously) the same sex. Young people deserve the same level of privacy that we do.
Not suggesting the set up is appropriate, regardless, but has anyone considered that he might be gay? As in, he got kicked out and has nowhere to go because he came out and maybe her parents don’t want to out him further and (mistakenly?) saw it as acceptable? Only, they’d need to let the daughter know and maybe that’s why there’s the dissonance. My foster sister lived with us from 14-22. She was an acquaintance I knew from school. She knew I was queer, as did most everyone, and instead of living in the in-law unit she moved into my room. We became close, became friends and there was never an issue. If that’s a similar stitch, the parents need to let the daughter know for her own decision-making. Noting wrong with a setup like that. And for the folks pulling the gender argument, had it been a female cousin seeking safe harbor because she’s a lesbian, would gender play into that?
Gender and sexual orientation aside. I would be extremely uncomfortable and very p'd off with having someone I had never met become someone I had to share a bedroom with. I'd even go so far as to say scared. I would not be sleeping well with a stranger a few metres from me. I don't think any child should be expected to be okay with that. That is my issue with this.
Load More Replies... We are missing too many crucial details here! Is the brother moving in permanently? Does he only need a room with a window or a second person for a definite time? Is there maybe even a reason behind the fact that the daughter should share BECAUSE she isn't an adult yet (trauma?)? Talk with each other people! Talking is the only thing that helps! I fully understand the daughter going on the barricades if she too has only this little information!
Absolutely NTA. The parents are the selfish ones. They clearly have 0 respect for your privacy. The basement is perfectly acceptable. Once setup with lighting and furnishings. And he'll have his privacy too. WITAF? If they want to coddle him they can share their own room.
Totally inappropriate! I can't believe they expected her to be OK with that. He's not only a 14 year old boy, he's her uncle FFS! Pretty sure that's also against the law in some places.
How does it matter if he's her uncle or not? He's clearly in a very miserable situation right now and pressumably doesn't even want a huge fuss made about him
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I wonder if anybody has even asked Alex what he wants. When I was his age, the basement room would have been my preference and I suspect a 14 year-old boy is just as uncomfortable rooming with a 17 year-old girl as she is rooming with him.
Omg, that last comment “wala” that should be on the other post about incorrectly pronounced words! It’s French and it’s “voila”! Also, opposite sex teenagers need their own space, this is just wrong. He’s 14, not a baby, he can have the basement room.
Bizarre! What kind of parents force their teenage daughter to share her bedroom with a teenage boy?? I'm not trying to be dramatic, but I'd seriously call some sort of agency, and ask for their opinion. If I were you, I'd partition a section of the basement off, put up privacy screens, and make that section yours. Paint it, bring your stuff from your bedroom. Buy a lamp. You don't know what happened with your Uncle, and your parents are not telling you. No way in hell. Save your money, and get out when you are able. You are NOT this boy's sponsor, parent or caregiver. If he can't be left alone, let your mom share a room with him.
Am I the only one caught off-guard by a 14-year old boy being afraid of the dark?
You're doing the right thing. This was always your room and you cannot be forced to shary it with a 14 year old of the opposite sex. Even my brother was never allowed to sleep in the same room as his sisters, just because of the dressing and such. He had to sleep in the dining room when there wasn't a separate room for him. and there is a basement where he can stay. So there is no necessity whatsoever for him to be in your room. Hold on!
This is kinda ridiculous this child clearly has nowhere to go and there's probably a good reason Hes afraid of the basement. If the older girl doesn't want to share a room she should just go to the basement she'll probably be moving to college or moving out in a year or two anyway. Clearly this child has faced some trauma or has nowhere else to go if he's living with them
Trauma is a reason for behaivor not an excuse or currency to get stuff. If he's afraid of the dark deck the walls and ceiling with RGB LEDs, make the basement glow trickout that room and make it HIS room to make him feel welcome, don't throw him in a room with your teenage daughter has been living almost her whole life and force her to move out of it, because I can tell you she isn't going to stay I'm that room if he is there.
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you cannot, put two teenage sibblings in a room even thought they are of the same gender.
They're not siblings. The 14 year old is the mom's brother
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The math isn't mathing. So the mom has a 17 year old daughter and a 14 year old brother? There's no way a 14 yr old boy and 17 yr old gurl should share a room
This is odd. Either something is up with the boy (he seems quite sensitive, to be afraid of the dark at his age) or they want him as a way to keep her boyfriend out of her room or both. The boy being displaced also means he has the significantly higher need at the moment, and it doesn't seem like the OPs parents have the bandwidth for her teenage shenanigans in protest right now. So she is burning through significant amounts of goodwill with her actions, and may come home to find her door gone, her stuff tossed, or something equally unpleasant. She is likely doing permanent damage to her parent/ child relationship and to their opinion of her. She needs to move to the basement ASAP, because making a difficult situation worse won't endear her to anyone.
So NTA...and so many reasons why! Even on a temporary basis (more than 1 night), it's just wrong. As she said, she's never even met him, and we all know that teenage boys are just walking hormones (and that's not a dig at guys, just a basic fact). I could write a novel on why this is wrong on so many levels, but I'm sure other commenters have made the same arguements... If push came to shove, though, and it was me, I'd move my room to the basement, lock, stock, & barrell. Who knows, she might even prefer the extra privacy; bonus points if the room is bigger than the room she's in now. Change is inevitable, and maybe her 14 yr old uncle has really been through something traumatic. If that's the case, maybe he should be in her room, closer to her parents, in case something happens (nightmares, etc)--but she shouldn't be there as well. I just hope that whatever happened hasn't put him in a fragile state of mind where no one knows what he's capable of...
I find it hard to believe that this post isn't made up. It sounds so absurd that parents -- particularly the dad -- would insist on such an idiotic demand. But if it is a legitimate post, then there may be local laws or ordinances preventing it. This is wrong on so many levels. If she were to become pregnant by her 14-year-old uncle, their child would be an idiot by incest, yes ? How absurd. I really don't believe it.
There are no state or federal laws against most opposite gender siblings sharing a room in their own home, but some institutions do regulate how spaces are shared. i know they arent siblings but same considerations might apply depending on their state. if OP is very concerned they might consider reaching out to a guidance councilor at their school. they are mandatory reporters and asking a teen girl to share a room with anyone regardless of age, gender, or familial relations when they are uncomfortable might fall into that category of concern
I get what OP is saying, I would hate that so so much. But whose house is it? Does OP always have so much authority over how the house is run?
Whoa there. That's a big question, it's obviously her parents house and this isn't a decision about how the house is run. If you're a parent, you need to reel it in a little. You sound like the type that would tell their kids that they feed them and clothe them so you are never allowed to disagree
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Everyone saying why cant a 17 year old girl share with a 14 year old boy they never met is a bleddy idiot. First of that kid will masturbate everywhere, secondly make the 14 year learn to sleep without a light. Clearly a dumb idea and when you have a spare room even dumber
No, a 14yo wont just masturbate everywhere! I don't know what you did in your teens, but I didn't
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How she's not the AH when she just can move in the basement if she want a room alone... She just didn't want too out of pettiness. And she's 17, grow up, you won't stay in your child room forever, you need to grow up and move forward. Have some empathy for a family member in need, a minimum.
And? Robert De Niro has 7 kids. Even if you dismiss his oldest, Drena (51), because she is adopted. Rafael is his and is 46. The newest baby was just born so... This is common enough that it was made fun of in the movie You've Got Mail. Hell, I had a kid in 2000. My father had my sister in 2001. Im 46 so wasn't even a teen mom either. Not hard to believe at all
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Honestly the parents trying to do this is really inappropriate. Having shared a room with my step brother when I was little, it was awkward, but at least we had grown up together more or less. Making a teenaged girl share her room with a younger teenaged boy she doesn't even know is absolutely crazy. It sounds like the boy has gone through something traumatic and I feel for him, but if they want the daughter to be more understanding, she is old enough to be told what happened. If I was her, I'd just take my s**t and redecorate the room in the basement.
I'm kinda wondering if they want those two to share a room so he won't be alone. 14 years old, they've never met, afraid of the dark, nowhere else to go, don't ask him anything, then they put him in their room instead of the couch for a few days while they figure things out? I feel like this kid has maybe been through something big where they don't want him alone. Mom's that of making OP live in the basement would be pretty easy to go through with unless she has a high quality lock and never leaves to eat or pee. That being said, she is completely justified in not wanting to give up her space and privacy, indefinitely, without knowing what's going on/why.
Load More Replies... The parents want someone to keep an eye on the boy. It's possible the reason he had to move is something he did, or his behavior, and they're throwing their daughter at a situation with no backstory. Why hasn't she ever met her uncle before??
I wondered why they'd never met too. Maybe the parents are no/low contact with their parents.
Load More Replies... At least in America, if you assume legal guardianship of a minor it’s illegal to room them with a child of the opposite gender. I’m not 100% on this but I think it’s true for the foster care system. She could move to the basement, sure, but her parents need to clue her in a bit more to what’s happening and how she can be supportive for him. She’s 17, she can handle a general explanation of the situation.
In the foster care system yes, but this family so the legality is a little more fudged.
Load More Replies... If you told your counselor at school what your parents are trying to do, they would be in a ton of trouble. They would even send Health Officials to reprimand your parents. Totally inappropriate. The sad thing g is now that your mother has behaved this way with you, you will never be able to recover back to the way your relationship with your mom was before because she has treated you horribly. I am sorry your mom is trying to bump you out she sounds very selfish and unloving. You don't deserve this treatment. Stand your ground and when you turn 18 become Independant and set boundaries. She sounds like a control freak.
Your 'uncle' can sleep with your mum. They're siblings and it's far less inappropriate than him sleeping with you. There's more going on here than OP is being told.
Better yet - girls in one room boys in the other.
Load More Replies... She should mention this to several of her teachers, teachers are "Mandatory reporters" in the U.S. a visit from a CPS worker might change their minds.
What are they going to report though? While this isn't a good situation, and I think it's wrong, there isn't anything going on here (yet). Mandatory reporters have to have something report and just having a child tell them, my parents are forcing me to share a room, isn't something that's wrong.
Load More Replies... nta. op needs privacy and its gonna be awkward just sharing a room with another person.
If there is no light in the basement room, there is probably no other exit from it. In most states, it's against the law to use a basement without an alternate emergency exit. If parents are willing to install an egress, and it's properly ventilated and heated, I would establish a queendom, once the work is complete. Until then, Mom and Dad can screen off the dining area for their room and give their room to the young man.
Think the parents are really screwed up this has some really weird "what are you doing uncle" vibes.
You told your mom you don't care about moving into the basement room.. so why not just move down there and avoid all this mess? Sure it sucks to be the one who has to move, but it sure beats a 14yo strange boy, going through puberty, sharing a room with you when you try to change clothes or sleep...
To anyone saying it's ok for her to move into the basement is a idiot who never had there own room she said she lived there since she was little that's really messed up like would it be ok too move you from your house u lived in for forever
Wholly inappropriate for a 17 year old girl to be expected to share a bedroom with a 14 year old boy. In my country it's not illegal as far as I'm aware. However, when their is a option of separate rooms it is common sense. Both teenagers need their own space and as the 17 year old is almost an adult. I would take the opportunity to take the basement and have it transformed into a self contained apartment for her to enable her burdening freedom
She should move into the basement, I'm sure there's more space there and she would have free reign designing the space.
Yes, but why should she have to? I think there's a lot more to this story than we've been told. Very weird.
Load More Replies... My partner has a 19 year old daughter, I have a 13 year old daughter. We never ask them to share personal spaces with each other and they are (obviously) the same sex. Young people deserve the same level of privacy that we do.
Not suggesting the set up is appropriate, regardless, but has anyone considered that he might be gay? As in, he got kicked out and has nowhere to go because he came out and maybe her parents don’t want to out him further and (mistakenly?) saw it as acceptable? Only, they’d need to let the daughter know and maybe that’s why there’s the dissonance. My foster sister lived with us from 14-22. She was an acquaintance I knew from school. She knew I was queer, as did most everyone, and instead of living in the in-law unit she moved into my room. We became close, became friends and there was never an issue. If that’s a similar stitch, the parents need to let the daughter know for her own decision-making. Noting wrong with a setup like that. And for the folks pulling the gender argument, had it been a female cousin seeking safe harbor because she’s a lesbian, would gender play into that?
Gender and sexual orientation aside. I would be extremely uncomfortable and very p'd off with having someone I had never met become someone I had to share a bedroom with. I'd even go so far as to say scared. I would not be sleeping well with a stranger a few metres from me. I don't think any child should be expected to be okay with that. That is my issue with this.
Load More Replies... We are missing too many crucial details here! Is the brother moving in permanently? Does he only need a room with a window or a second person for a definite time? Is there maybe even a reason behind the fact that the daughter should share BECAUSE she isn't an adult yet (trauma?)? Talk with each other people! Talking is the only thing that helps! I fully understand the daughter going on the barricades if she too has only this little information!
Absolutely NTA. The parents are the selfish ones. They clearly have 0 respect for your privacy. The basement is perfectly acceptable. Once setup with lighting and furnishings. And he'll have his privacy too. WITAF? If they want to coddle him they can share their own room.
Totally inappropriate! I can't believe they expected her to be OK with that. He's not only a 14 year old boy, he's her uncle FFS! Pretty sure that's also against the law in some places.
How does it matter if he's her uncle or not? He's clearly in a very miserable situation right now and pressumably doesn't even want a huge fuss made about him
Load More Replies... I wonder if anybody has even asked Alex what he wants. When I was his age, the basement room would have been my preference and I suspect a 14 year-old boy is just as uncomfortable rooming with a 17 year-old girl as she is rooming with him.
Omg, that last comment “wala” that should be on the other post about incorrectly pronounced words! It’s French and it’s “voila”! Also, opposite sex teenagers need their own space, this is just wrong. He’s 14, not a baby, he can have the basement room.
Bizarre! What kind of parents force their teenage daughter to share her bedroom with a teenage boy?? I'm not trying to be dramatic, but I'd seriously call some sort of agency, and ask for their opinion. If I were you, I'd partition a section of the basement off, put up privacy screens, and make that section yours. Paint it, bring your stuff from your bedroom. Buy a lamp. You don't know what happened with your Uncle, and your parents are not telling you. No way in hell. Save your money, and get out when you are able. You are NOT this boy's sponsor, parent or caregiver. If he can't be left alone, let your mom share a room with him.
Am I the only one caught off-guard by a 14-year old boy being afraid of the dark?
You're doing the right thing. This was always your room and you cannot be forced to shary it with a 14 year old of the opposite sex. Even my brother was never allowed to sleep in the same room as his sisters, just because of the dressing and such. He had to sleep in the dining room when there wasn't a separate room for him. and there is a basement where he can stay. So there is no necessity whatsoever for him to be in your room. Hold on!
This is kinda ridiculous this child clearly has nowhere to go and there's probably a good reason Hes afraid of the basement. If the older girl doesn't want to share a room she should just go to the basement she'll probably be moving to college or moving out in a year or two anyway. Clearly this child has faced some trauma or has nowhere else to go if he's living with them
Trauma is a reason for behaivor not an excuse or currency to get stuff. If he's afraid of the dark deck the walls and ceiling with RGB LEDs, make the basement glow trickout that room and make it HIS room to make him feel welcome, don't throw him in a room with your teenage daughter has been living almost her whole life and force her to move out of it, because I can tell you she isn't going to stay I'm that room if he is there.
Load More Replies... you cannot, put two teenage sibblings in a room even thought they are of the same gender.
They're not siblings. The 14 year old is the mom's brother
Load More Replies... The math isn't mathing. So the mom has a 17 year old daughter and a 14 year old brother? There's no way a 14 yr old boy and 17 yr old gurl should share a room
This is odd. Either something is up with the boy (he seems quite sensitive, to be afraid of the dark at his age) or they want him as a way to keep her boyfriend out of her room or both. The boy being displaced also means he has the significantly higher need at the moment, and it doesn't seem like the OPs parents have the bandwidth for her teenage shenanigans in protest right now. So she is burning through significant amounts of goodwill with her actions, and may come home to find her door gone, her stuff tossed, or something equally unpleasant. She is likely doing permanent damage to her parent/ child relationship and to their opinion of her. She needs to move to the basement ASAP, because making a difficult situation worse won't endear her to anyone.
So NTA...and so many reasons why! Even on a temporary basis (more than 1 night), it's just wrong. As she said, she's never even met him, and we all know that teenage boys are just walking hormones (and that's not a dig at guys, just a basic fact). I could write a novel on why this is wrong on so many levels, but I'm sure other commenters have made the same arguements... If push came to shove, though, and it was me, I'd move my room to the basement, lock, stock, & barrell. Who knows, she might even prefer the extra privacy; bonus points if the room is bigger than the room she's in now. Change is inevitable, and maybe her 14 yr old uncle has really been through something traumatic. If that's the case, maybe he should be in her room, closer to her parents, in case something happens (nightmares, etc)--but she shouldn't be there as well. I just hope that whatever happened hasn't put him in a fragile state of mind where no one knows what he's capable of...
I find it hard to believe that this post isn't made up. It sounds so absurd that parents -- particularly the dad -- would insist on such an idiotic demand. But if it is a legitimate post, then there may be local laws or ordinances preventing it. This is wrong on so many levels. If she were to become pregnant by her 14-year-old uncle, their child would be an idiot by incest, yes ? How absurd. I really don't believe it.
There are no state or federal laws against most opposite gender siblings sharing a room in their own home, but some institutions do regulate how spaces are shared. i know they arent siblings but same considerations might apply depending on their state. if OP is very concerned they might consider reaching out to a guidance councilor at their school. they are mandatory reporters and asking a teen girl to share a room with anyone regardless of age, gender, or familial relations when they are uncomfortable might fall into that category of concern
I get what OP is saying, I would hate that so so much. But whose house is it? Does OP always have so much authority over how the house is run?
Whoa there. That's a big question, it's obviously her parents house and this isn't a decision about how the house is run. If you're a parent, you need to reel it in a little. You sound like the type that would tell their kids that they feed them and clothe them so you are never allowed to disagree
Load More Replies... Everyone saying why cant a 17 year old girl share with a 14 year old boy they never met is a bleddy idiot. First of that kid will masturbate everywhere, secondly make the 14 year learn to sleep without a light. Clearly a dumb idea and when you have a spare room even dumber
No, a 14yo wont just masturbate everywhere! I don't know what you did in your teens, but I didn't
Load More Replies... How she's not the AH when she just can move in the basement if she want a room alone... She just didn't want too out of pettiness. And she's 17, grow up, you won't stay in your child room forever, you need to grow up and move forward. Have some empathy for a family member in need, a minimum.
And? Robert De Niro has 7 kids. Even if you dismiss his oldest, Drena (51), because she is adopted. Rafael is his and is 46. The newest baby was just born so... This is common enough that it was made fun of in the movie You've Got Mail. Hell, I had a kid in 2000. My father had my sister in 2001. Im 46 so wasn't even a teen mom either. Not hard to believe at all
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