Woman Criticised By MIL For Not Quitting Her Job And Not Allowing Her Son To Be The Provider

There’s nothing quite like a promotion to give you a reason to celebrate. It feels good to be recognized, to know your hard work paid off, and to finally enjoy a bit more comfort in life, right?

But when this Redditor’s husband got a raise that tripled his salary, the excitement didn’t last long. Even though she was genuinely thrilled for him, things took an unexpected turn when he insisted she quit her job now that they “didn’t need” her income. She loved her career and had no intention of giving it up.

He couldn’t understand why—turning what should’ve been a happy moment into a tense, uncomfortable discussion. Read below for the full story.

The woman was thrilled when her husband told her he’d gotten a promotion that tripled his salary

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But things quickly got uncomfortable when he started insisting she quit her job because of it

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Financial independence protects women in relationships

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In marriage, we’re there to support our partners. That support looks different for every couple: sometimes it’s financial, sometimes emotional, sometimes practical. There’s no universal formula, only what works for the two people involved.

For the couple in this story, that balance suddenly took a hit. After his promotion, the husband began insisting he should be the sole provider and that his wife should stop working entirely. While that might sound ideal to some, not everyone wants or benefits from stepping away from their career.

There’s no shame in being a stay-at-home wife, and it shouldn’t be an issue if a woman prefers the opposite. The problem begins when a couple’s expectations don’t align and one partner tries to impose their vision on the other. And when financial independence is part of that disagreement, the pressure can become a serious concern.

It’s also important to remember that women’s financial autonomy is relatively new. In many European countries and in the United States, women could only open bank accounts without a male co-signer in the 1960s and 70s. What feels normal today was out of reach just two generations ago.

Even though progress has been made, old expectations haven’t vanished. Cultural pressure and even online trends like the “trad wife” movement can still encourage women to give up independence once they marry.

A 2021 YouGov poll found that 35% of women are fully or partially financially dependent on their partner, compared to just 11% of men. That kind of dependency carries real risks. A Glamour survey revealed that one in three women has stayed in a relationship simply because they couldn’t afford to leave. If a spouse suddenly passes away, financially dependent partners may be left extremely vulnerable.

Forbes suggests several ways women can protect their independence, even when one partner earns significantly more or one chooses not to work.

One big area is how couples manage their money. Joint bank accounts are convenient, but if only one partner controls them, the other may end up without real access to the household finances. Keeping a personal account alongside a shared one can make a world of difference, especially when it’s backed by even a small independent income.

Remote work has made that far easier. Plenty of stay-at-home parents take on flexible online jobs now, giving them their own earnings while still managing family responsibilities. It’s a straightforward way to stay financially connected without disrupting home life.

Another crucial point is staying involved in financial decision-making. In many relationships, one partner naturally becomes “the one who handles the money,” and the other gets left out of budgeting and long-term planning. Sharing those responsibilities helps both people feel informed and secure.

Even with all that in mind, some might still argue that the wife in this story should simply “enjoy” the easier life her husband’s promotion could offer. But research paints a more complicated picture: women feel more financially satisfied when couples manage money together, while men report higher satisfaction when they’re the ones in control. That alone is a reminder of how easily imbalances can develop.

And really, it took a lot of effort to get to a point where women can choose their own financial paths without question. Protecting that progress means paying attention when support starts to feel more like pressure. At the end of the day, love works best when both partners have the freedom to stay true to themselves.

The author later shared more details in the comments

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Many commenters thought the husband’s demands were a major red flag

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Others, however, argued that the woman wasn’t being appreciative enough of the opportunity his promotion created

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