
“I Said No Thank You”: Woman Demands Ex Pay For Her Dog’s Vet Bills, Contacts His Close Ones To Make Him Change His Mind After Getting A Refusal
The ancient Romans sometimes liked to say: “Let justice be done, though the world perish” – in other words, if we are nominally right in something, we are sometimes ready to defend our formal correctness even to the detriment of common sense. Or, in relation to the story that we want to tell you today, to the detriment of the health of one dog…
Yes, divorces of spouses become a real test not only for themselves, their children, or relatives. Sometimes former family pets suffer as well. In general, no matter how you look at it, the story described by user u/Both_Ad6935 is a clear example of a lose-lose situation.
The author of the post recently divorced his wife and she took their dog while parting ways
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The man admits that he was against buying a dog and had suggested they adopt one instead, but the wife was adamant
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Around half a year after their divorce, the woman got in touch with her ex demanding he pay for the dog’s surgery
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The man refused, claiming it was ‘her’ dog and he owed his ex nothing, and she then started badmouthing him to his friends
The Original Poster (OP) says that he and his wife recently divorced, and when they discussed the terms of separation, the woman took their dog without any questions. The thing is, the author of the post continues that initially it was his wife who really wanted to have a dog, and it was to be a purebred one. The man tried to persuade her to adopt a pet from a shelter or just take in a mutt, but the woman was adamant in her desire.
Arguments about the health of the dog did not have any effect – after all, mutts often have much better health than purebreds. In general, after some time, the couple acquired a pet belonging to a very specific breed, which is famously bad at breathing.
The author recalls that the dog they bought was never ‘theirs’, he was only ‘her’ dog – except when the weather was bad outside. Then, ironically, claims the OP, he had to walk the pet. The husband paid for all vet bills and dog-related bills as well. However, his income allowed him to do this easily. But after the divorce, when the ex-wife took the dog and was faced with the need to urgently perform some fairly extensive and expensive surgery, it turned out that the state of her finances did not allow this.
You probably have already guessed what happened next. The woman asked her ex-husband to help her with vet bills, but he flatly refused. It’s not that he was a dog hater, but firstly, the ‘I told you so’ principle came into play, and secondly, as the author of the post admits, after their divorce, for almost six months he heard nothing from his ex – until the moment when she needed financial help for her dog.
So the man refused, recalling that he had been told more than once earlier that this was not his dog, and that he was generally against buying it. In response, the woman contacted his friends about this rejection, and some of the OP’s guy friends criticized him for refusing to help an animal that he used to care about. On his part, the original poster sincerely believes he doesn’t owe his ex any help. And what about the pet?
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Apparently, we are talking about a representative of some of the so-called “brachycephalic” dog breeds – that is, with flat muzzles. Among the most popular breeds in this category are English and French Bulldogs, Bull Mastiffs, Boston Terriers, Pugs, Boxers, Shih Tsu, Lhasso Apso and Pekingese. Some dogs of these breeds may develop upper respiratory pathologies, which, however, can almost always be cured with surgery.
“The prognosis for dogs with brachycephalic syndrome depends on the number of conditions. If the ailments have gone untreated and become severe, the prognosis will be negatively impacted,” Jenna Stregowski, the Pet Health and Behavior Editor at The Spruce Pets, writes. “Dogs that receive successful surgery have good prognoses. Most dogs make a full recovery and go on to live normal lives. There may be some residual snoring and noisy breathing, but it is generally lesser than before treatment.”
As you can see, if the owner still finds funds for her pet’s surgery, everything will probably be fine with the health of the dog. But will it be her ex-husband’s money? The opinions of the commenters here are massively divided. Technically, folks in the comments suppose the man is certainly right – and he doesn’t owe his ex-spouse anything. But how to explain this to a poor animal which, after all, is not to blame for anything?
Yes, the situation is not that pleasant, the commenters state – they also feel sorry for the dog, but if the woman actually “wanted to keep the dog, then she inherits any and all responsibility. It’s not like you have shared custody of the dog,” as some people in the comments are convinced. Someone advised the OP’s wife to go on GoFundMe or get a pet treatment loan – and this actually does make sense. And what do you, our dear readers, think about this situation?
I presume this breed is a brachycephalic breed. Frankly these dogs should just be forcibly sterilised and breeding should be illegal in order to let the breeds die out, it’s just heartbreaking seeing them struggle for breath. If it were up to me the kennel club management would be thrown in jail for animal cruelty.
It is completely irresponsible to continue to breed these dogs on purpose. It would be one thing if she had rescued one who happened to be her favored breed, but she specifically sought out a breeder because she wanted a cute little accessory to match her aesthetic so she could make cute little posts on social media, with no regard for the animal's health and suffering. Absolutely disgusting.
My Freuchie. Who never had any respiratory problems was the kindest, sweetest, smartest dog I've ever had and after having about 12 different dogs she also was yhe healtiest dog right until she broke her back. And because she was so f*****g excellent she's the last dog ill ever own, no other dog will compare. Having said that I totally agree that breeding these snubnosed dogs is unethical but I don't agree to extinct them, luckily there is a Dutch breeder that started to actively breed out the nose in order to get them normal moses again and I truly believe these dog breed deserve yo be saved this way.
I agree. Frenchies and Pugs are ALWAYS going to have health problems. There is no such thing as a “healthy” Frenchie or Pug in their modern forms. Most of them even have to have c-sections these days as they cannot birth pups naturally. THAT should be one of the #1 indications to STOP breeding them so brachycephalic. They always have breathing issues. They almost always have eye problems, or dermatitis/allergies. Owners who say that they have a “perfectly healthy” Frenchie or Pug isn’t actually listening to them struggle to breathe. A snoring Pug isn’t “cute” - it’s struggling for air. The amount of other health problems that brachycephalic breeds have is staggering.
cue in my coworker "vet says she is healthy- for a frenchy". This just means there are worse cases. A dig that needs eyedrops and extra care till they die is NOT healthy.
In the Netherlands there is a breeder that is actively trying to breed out the stumbled out of his frenchies and that should be a worldwide endeavour, frogdogs are just too precious characters to be going extinct.
I disagree. Till they breed "healthy" dogs it will be try and error and in the meantime they produce more suffering.
Look at a picture of a pug one hundred years ago as opposed to now. Still recognizably a pug, but with an actual muzzle. It would be nice if all these 'squashed face' dogs could be bred back but that would still leave a number of generations to suffer.
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Do people actually fall for this?
Believe it or not.....🙄
Good way of finding out that your friends are either bad people, bad friends, or congenital morons. If they don’t side with the OP, they’re not worth having as friends.
I love your comment - congenital morons! It's fantastic lol!
Buying the poor thing in the first place was the mistake he made, honestly. As we say fairly often, "no" is a complete sentence. Her insistence on buying a dog as an accessory should have been a huge red flag. But to the question at hand, no, obviously he's NTA. Maybe she'll learn from this, unlikely though it might be.
They were married at the time. A unilateral NO is generally not a good thing. Making that compromise is not unusual. As for the friends in the article, maybe fill them in on the details so they're not just going on the ex-wife's side on the story. If they still side with her, then they were her friends not his.
I agree that buying the poor thing was the mistake. No one should ever buy a torture breed, nor should one ever buy an animal as an accessory. However, NO in a serious partnership isn't a full sentence. Not when it comes to important stuff (either for both, or for one of them, doesn't matter). In a partnership your partner, as well as you, has/have a right to get a bit more. That's why it's a partnership. It only works if you're on the same page.
Even if he said no, she could just buy it anyway. He can't stop it unless he divorces her.
I presume this breed is a brachycephalic breed. Frankly these dogs should just be forcibly sterilised and breeding should be illegal in order to let the breeds die out, it’s just heartbreaking seeing them struggle for breath. If it were up to me the kennel club management would be thrown in jail for animal cruelty.
It is completely irresponsible to continue to breed these dogs on purpose. It would be one thing if she had rescued one who happened to be her favored breed, but she specifically sought out a breeder because she wanted a cute little accessory to match her aesthetic so she could make cute little posts on social media, with no regard for the animal's health and suffering. Absolutely disgusting.
My Freuchie. Who never had any respiratory problems was the kindest, sweetest, smartest dog I've ever had and after having about 12 different dogs she also was yhe healtiest dog right until she broke her back. And because she was so f*****g excellent she's the last dog ill ever own, no other dog will compare. Having said that I totally agree that breeding these snubnosed dogs is unethical but I don't agree to extinct them, luckily there is a Dutch breeder that started to actively breed out the nose in order to get them normal moses again and I truly believe these dog breed deserve yo be saved this way.
I agree. Frenchies and Pugs are ALWAYS going to have health problems. There is no such thing as a “healthy” Frenchie or Pug in their modern forms. Most of them even have to have c-sections these days as they cannot birth pups naturally. THAT should be one of the #1 indications to STOP breeding them so brachycephalic. They always have breathing issues. They almost always have eye problems, or dermatitis/allergies. Owners who say that they have a “perfectly healthy” Frenchie or Pug isn’t actually listening to them struggle to breathe. A snoring Pug isn’t “cute” - it’s struggling for air. The amount of other health problems that brachycephalic breeds have is staggering.
cue in my coworker "vet says she is healthy- for a frenchy". This just means there are worse cases. A dig that needs eyedrops and extra care till they die is NOT healthy.
In the Netherlands there is a breeder that is actively trying to breed out the stumbled out of his frenchies and that should be a worldwide endeavour, frogdogs are just too precious characters to be going extinct.
I disagree. Till they breed "healthy" dogs it will be try and error and in the meantime they produce more suffering.
Look at a picture of a pug one hundred years ago as opposed to now. Still recognizably a pug, but with an actual muzzle. It would be nice if all these 'squashed face' dogs could be bred back but that would still leave a number of generations to suffer.
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
I’m making 80 US dollars for every hr. to finish some internet providers from home. I absolutely never thought it would try and be reachable anyway. My comrade mate got $13k just in about a month effectively doing this best task and furthermore she persuaded me to profit. Look at additional subtleties going to this article..__________ https://onlineweb76.blogspot.com/
Do people actually fall for this?
Believe it or not.....🙄
Good way of finding out that your friends are either bad people, bad friends, or congenital morons. If they don’t side with the OP, they’re not worth having as friends.
I love your comment - congenital morons! It's fantastic lol!
Buying the poor thing in the first place was the mistake he made, honestly. As we say fairly often, "no" is a complete sentence. Her insistence on buying a dog as an accessory should have been a huge red flag. But to the question at hand, no, obviously he's NTA. Maybe she'll learn from this, unlikely though it might be.
They were married at the time. A unilateral NO is generally not a good thing. Making that compromise is not unusual. As for the friends in the article, maybe fill them in on the details so they're not just going on the ex-wife's side on the story. If they still side with her, then they were her friends not his.
I agree that buying the poor thing was the mistake. No one should ever buy a torture breed, nor should one ever buy an animal as an accessory. However, NO in a serious partnership isn't a full sentence. Not when it comes to important stuff (either for both, or for one of them, doesn't matter). In a partnership your partner, as well as you, has/have a right to get a bit more. That's why it's a partnership. It only works if you're on the same page.
Even if he said no, she could just buy it anyway. He can't stop it unless he divorces her.