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Mom Asks If She Was Wrong To Refuse To Let Her Stepdaughter Use Her Deceased Daughter’s Wedding Dress
We often like or feel attached to particular things and objects for their sentimental value. They carry memories about people, places, and moments in our lives.
Imagine how special and priceless a mother considers a wedding dress worn by her daughter who tragically passed away at a young age. “It was so sudden. She was doing okay and was getting ready for her wedding that was supposed to happen the same month she passed away,” the 49-year-old mom who goes by the handle u/67099107 shared in her story on the AITA subreddit.
Now, her 23-year-old stepdaughter Zoey is getting ready to get married. “We were talking about wedding dresses and she suddenly brought up Lauren’s wedding dress,” the mom recounted. “She then said she’d like to wear it at her wedding. I felt uneasy.” Read how the whole situation evolved right below, and share your thoughts about it in the comment section.
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A woman shared how her stepdaughter asked to use her deceased daughter’s wedding dress, which made her very uncomfortable
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And this is what people thought about this whole situation
What do you think ?
Nena Rosebud 3 years ago
Absolutely. No need to further explain. Mom doesn't need to justify her reason.
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Lilla Ontherun 3 years ago
The world would be much easier if people would accept 'no' without complaining and whining.
йЫ щЪё 3 years ago
Also would be easier if people would have more common sense and not even ask such questions...
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BorPand8 3 years ago (edited)
It seems creepy and weird anyway. Even if I didn't have a personal attachment, knowing the history of the dress would be enough for me to nope on out of there. I mean, "She was so young, so looking forward to getting married and then she just died mysteriously..." "But it's so pretty! I wanna wear it!!!"
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Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
My sister died 6 weeks before her wedding. there was no question of anyone using her dress, etc. None. Who *are* these people? Ugh.
JuniorCJ82 3 years ago
How exactly is wanting to wear something after changing everything about it "trying to get close to you"?
Nena Rosebud 3 years ago
This is not the only wedding dress in the world. Girl needs to stop fixating on this one, pick another dress, and respect her step-mother's decision. No is no is no.
Tina Newman 3 years ago
I think the girl and her dad are trying to come up with a way to not pay for a wedding dress. That's what's going on. They don't give a damn about the dress, it's about the price. If she can get hold of that 1, she won't have to buy her own.
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Suz66 3 years ago
I would have it professionally wrapped and store it in a place that husband and stepdaughter can't find it. They are both totally unreasonable here. They don't know how devastated you are. Stepdaughter wanting to change it is out of the question. NTA
Patricia Keith 3 years ago
If your still on good terms with your daughters finance then let him keep it at his place for safe keeping or donate to a worthy cause of someone who is dying and needs a wedding dress for that special moment before they die.In remembrance of your daughter talk to her then finance about the best option for the dress.
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Ellie Rosser 3 years ago
Don't you love me as much as her? Why no, Zoe, no I do NOT love someone I just met as much as the daughter I knew and adored for 26 years.
Jaime Pagano 3 years ago
No Zoe, I don't love you like I loved and still love my daughter who has died. Matter of fact, I don't even like you after hearing your selfish entitled remarks. Good luck with your marriage, once your husband realizes what a t#@t you are, I'm not seeing you celebrating many anniversaries.
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Karis Ravenhill 3 years ago
NTA. Leave him, tell the DIL to fuc* off and find some common decency in her being. No one should ever ask, nevermind DEMAND, that you give away the sentimental items of your deceased child. Both your husband and his daughter are horrible people who will never respect you, run, NOW.
Imogene Cargeaux 3 years ago
I rmr seeing this on Reddit and it INFURIATED ME! ive never lost a child. But I did just lose my dad. Not the same thing but I have experienced a similar situation. my step sister wanted my dad vintage jean jacket. a jacket that my dad gave me when he was still here. I don't wear it a lot bcuz I don't wanna F**k it up. My step sister is 4 yrs younger than me. We're not close. Her n my dad barely knew eachother n she has stolen SO MANY OF MY CLOTHES I lost count. I'll go on Instagram n see her wearing clothes of mine that I've been looking for. So annoying. So I told her "no, absolutely not. You cannot have the jacket." She then threw a tantrum n then went to my brothers n asked them to grab it for her because "I gave it to her but she forgot it" ... my brothers aren't stupid, they're not just going to take something of mine w/out asking. Which pissed her off. She went on a fb rant calling me all these names. It was ridiculous. Don't budge. F**k ur step daughter n your husband.
Debra Huron 3 years ago
Just read this… so sorry for your huge loss… I pray that you DO NOT let her wear your daughter’s dress!!! Please listen to ALL the comments.. how the hell could she be so selfish and manipulative… I would want nothing to do with this so called step daughter ever!!! Your daughter would not want anyone else wearing her dress!!! God bless you👏
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Nena Rosebud 3 years ago
Absolutely. No need to further explain. Mom doesn't need to justify her reason.
Load More Replies... Lilla Ontherun 3 years ago
The world would be much easier if people would accept 'no' without complaining and whining.
йЫ щЪё 3 years ago
Also would be easier if people would have more common sense and not even ask such questions...
Load More Replies... BorPand8 3 years ago (edited)
It seems creepy and weird anyway. Even if I didn't have a personal attachment, knowing the history of the dress would be enough for me to nope on out of there. I mean, "She was so young, so looking forward to getting married and then she just died mysteriously..." "But it's so pretty! I wanna wear it!!!"
Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
My sister died 6 weeks before her wedding. there was no question of anyone using her dress, etc. None. Who *are* these people? Ugh.
JuniorCJ82 3 years ago
How exactly is wanting to wear something after changing everything about it "trying to get close to you"?
Nena Rosebud 3 years ago
This is not the only wedding dress in the world. Girl needs to stop fixating on this one, pick another dress, and respect her step-mother's decision. No is no is no.
Tina Newman 3 years ago
I think the girl and her dad are trying to come up with a way to not pay for a wedding dress. That's what's going on. They don't give a damn about the dress, it's about the price. If she can get hold of that 1, she won't have to buy her own.
Load More Replies... Suz66 3 years ago
I would have it professionally wrapped and store it in a place that husband and stepdaughter can't find it. They are both totally unreasonable here. They don't know how devastated you are. Stepdaughter wanting to change it is out of the question. NTA
Patricia Keith 3 years ago
If your still on good terms with your daughters finance then let him keep it at his place for safe keeping or donate to a worthy cause of someone who is dying and needs a wedding dress for that special moment before they die.In remembrance of your daughter talk to her then finance about the best option for the dress.
Load More Replies... Ellie Rosser 3 years ago
Don't you love me as much as her? Why no, Zoe, no I do NOT love someone I just met as much as the daughter I knew and adored for 26 years.
Jaime Pagano 3 years ago
No Zoe, I don't love you like I loved and still love my daughter who has died. Matter of fact, I don't even like you after hearing your selfish entitled remarks. Good luck with your marriage, once your husband realizes what a t#@t you are, I'm not seeing you celebrating many anniversaries.
Load More Replies... Karis Ravenhill 3 years ago
NTA. Leave him, tell the DIL to fuc* off and find some common decency in her being. No one should ever ask, nevermind DEMAND, that you give away the sentimental items of your deceased child. Both your husband and his daughter are horrible people who will never respect you, run, NOW.
Imogene Cargeaux 3 years ago
I rmr seeing this on Reddit and it INFURIATED ME! ive never lost a child. But I did just lose my dad. Not the same thing but I have experienced a similar situation. my step sister wanted my dad vintage jean jacket. a jacket that my dad gave me when he was still here. I don't wear it a lot bcuz I don't wanna F**k it up. My step sister is 4 yrs younger than me. We're not close. Her n my dad barely knew eachother n she has stolen SO MANY OF MY CLOTHES I lost count. I'll go on Instagram n see her wearing clothes of mine that I've been looking for. So annoying. So I told her "no, absolutely not. You cannot have the jacket." She then threw a tantrum n then went to my brothers n asked them to grab it for her because "I gave it to her but she forgot it" ... my brothers aren't stupid, they're not just going to take something of mine w/out asking. Which pissed her off. She went on a fb rant calling me all these names. It was ridiculous. Don't budge. F**k ur step daughter n your husband.
Debra Huron 3 years ago
Just read this… so sorry for your huge loss… I pray that you DO NOT let her wear your daughter’s dress!!! Please listen to ALL the comments.. how the hell could she be so selfish and manipulative… I would want nothing to do with this so called step daughter ever!!! Your daughter would not want anyone else wearing her dress!!! God bless you👏
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