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Grandma Refuses To Acknowledge Her First Grandchild As Family Because He’s Named After A Video Game Character
Dutch van der Linde. Uncle. There are quite a few names in the Red Dead Redemption 2 video game that would make terrible actual baby names. However, Redditor u/Bloofykins8675309 and his partner picked one that both sounds good and doesn’t have any negative connotations.
But when word got out and his mom — the baby’s grandma — learned about it, she was livid. Not only does the grannie believe it’s ridiculous to give this honor to a fictional character, but she also had something in mind herself and decided to stand by her opinion even if it means destroying the relationship she has with her son and his family.
Not sure what to make of it, u/Bloofykins8675309 made a post on Reddit, asking if he was the jerk in the situation or not.
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Red Dead Redemption 2’s Arthur Morgan is a hard man. He kills, he steals. But determining whether or not he’s a bad person is quite difficult. Even impossible if you haven’t played the game.
When he’s not chasing bounties or running from the law, he can be found providing his crew with much-needed supplies such as ammunition and food.
He’s often the mediator between disputing gang members as well. If he’s not involved with them directly, that is. But he’s quite reasonable. Arthur can put the solidarity of the camp before his own pride. Family comes first, and the gunslingers, runaways, and outcasts he lives with are the closest thing to family the man has.
Arthur cannot be bought or intimidated. Regardless of his enemy’s size, strength, wealth, or power. Confident in his ability to handle any situation and overcome any adversary, Arthur rarely shows any hesitation and will engage in combat even when outnumbered.
But after the smoke from his gun barrels settles, Arthur clearly understands that his behavior can sometimes be morally wrong. Though he justifies his actions saying he’s different from most criminals (Arthur genuinely believes he can help people), as time goes on, he questions this philosophy more and more.
There are definitely plenty of reasons why someone like Arthur Morgan can make a lasting impression on you.
People think that grandma is way out of line
What do you think ?
Otter 4 years ago
Momma is being a big old drama queen about the baby's name! For heaven's sake don't change the baby's name because of the dramatics, I mean she's having a fine old time and you might was well let her have her fun, but you do NOT want to ever give in to these tactics. If you do, it'll be the same over every tiny little thing, down to the brand of toilet paper you buy.
Honu 4 years ago
Her freakout kind of tainted the name, too. If it were me, if I then caved because she got furious, yelled at me, and threatened to never see my child, that name would always remind me of that massively negative experience and what an unstable, over-controlling woman she is.
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CatWoman312 4 years ago (edited)
Their baby their choice. My husband is an Arab and I’m white. I’m choosing an Arabic first name and English/family middle name. At first I did get some pushback, but when I explained the reasoning that my child will be mixed so I wanted a mixed name they shut up about it. This scenario? An uncle he never knew and a story that ties him and his wife together. Even after explaining the why on the name she still doesn’t budge? Why don’t she just adopt a dog and name him after the brother? I mean it’s their baby she needs to back off or she’ll never know her grandchild
BluEyedSeoulite 4 years ago
My kids are Korean and White. We also went with mixed names to reflect their heritage ❤️
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JuJu 4 years ago
Not just advocate for yourselves as parents but mostly for your son. There will be million things you have to defend or simply state and stand your ground. Momma has some issues and needs to be put in her place. Never force relatives' names on somebody's child. All the best to Arthur Morgan. May he have a happy and healthy life.
Carol Emory 4 years ago
My father tried to name all of us kids with names that started with a "D" to honor his mother, Dorothy. I was supposed to be Dawn. But when I was born, my father was on a job in another state so my mother got to decide what my name would be. Thanks mom! It's their child, their choice. G-ma needs to stay out of it.
Calypso poet 4 years ago
I have a friend named Dawn. Everyone thinks you're saying Don no matter what. How many times you have to say 'like dusk til dawn'! Your mom was wise, Carol!
Load More Replies... J Adams 4 years ago
Why didn’t the grandma name her own kids after the dead uncle if it was so important?
Hans 4 years ago
NTA. Your child, your parenting, your choice. If you would name your son a ridiculous ficitional name, a defensive hint to future ramifications for the child might be warranted for people you have a strong, trusted relationship with, but clearly nothing beyond that. Projected expectations, being expected to make up for something, and being compared to others are poison for small children – if this starts before they are even born, it ought to be stopped with force.
Viviane 4 years ago (edited)
The grandmother's obsession with the name is a big red flag to me, too. Will she insist that her grandson be the reincarnation of her brother instead of his own person? Is she trying to compensate for something, such as guilt? Rejecting an innocent child because of his name is a huge over-reaction. I hope it's an idle threat on her part. Otherwise, she needs counseling. She can miss her brother forever (there are people we all miss) and be disappointed with the chosen names, but she can't make a child a target of her rage and grief.
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Vivian Ashe 4 years ago
I don't think this has anything to do with Grandma wanting to honor her dead brother. Some mothers have a really hard time accepting the fact that they no longer have the power to control their adult children's decisions. I went through this with my own mother. Even into my 30s and 40s, she would demand that I do a certain thing, and she'd use various threats (refusal to visit, cutting me out of her will, etc.) to get her way. When the threats didn't work, there would be major drama, tears, angry letters, and accusations. Sometimes family members sided with her, because her demands were over something relatively petty, and they felt I should just give in to keep the peace. But I'm still glad I refused to cave to those tactics. Although it took a long time, she eventually learned she had to respect those boundaries. If I hadn't kept them, I'd still be letting her run my life in my middle age.
YupItsMe1234 4 years ago
Just get a puppy and name it after the uncle, then there is no way you can name the kid after the uncle otherwise both will come running when you yell the Robert John and that will just be a mess ;)
UpupaEpops 4 years ago
In my culture, it's common to name your child after their parent. My father grew up with 3 Alice's. Apparently, it was quite fun. :D Sadly, my name is different, but if I ever have a daughter I'll probably name her Alice.
Load More Replies... Otter 4 years ago
Momma is being a big old drama queen about the baby's name! For heaven's sake don't change the baby's name because of the dramatics, I mean she's having a fine old time and you might was well let her have her fun, but you do NOT want to ever give in to these tactics. If you do, it'll be the same over every tiny little thing, down to the brand of toilet paper you buy.
Honu 4 years ago
Her freakout kind of tainted the name, too. If it were me, if I then caved because she got furious, yelled at me, and threatened to never see my child, that name would always remind me of that massively negative experience and what an unstable, over-controlling woman she is.
Load More Replies... CatWoman312 4 years ago (edited)
Their baby their choice. My husband is an Arab and I’m white. I’m choosing an Arabic first name and English/family middle name. At first I did get some pushback, but when I explained the reasoning that my child will be mixed so I wanted a mixed name they shut up about it. This scenario? An uncle he never knew and a story that ties him and his wife together. Even after explaining the why on the name she still doesn’t budge? Why don’t she just adopt a dog and name him after the brother? I mean it’s their baby she needs to back off or she’ll never know her grandchild
BluEyedSeoulite 4 years ago
My kids are Korean and White. We also went with mixed names to reflect their heritage ❤️
Load More Replies... JuJu 4 years ago
Not just advocate for yourselves as parents but mostly for your son. There will be million things you have to defend or simply state and stand your ground. Momma has some issues and needs to be put in her place. Never force relatives' names on somebody's child. All the best to Arthur Morgan. May he have a happy and healthy life.
Carol Emory 4 years ago
My father tried to name all of us kids with names that started with a "D" to honor his mother, Dorothy. I was supposed to be Dawn. But when I was born, my father was on a job in another state so my mother got to decide what my name would be. Thanks mom! It's their child, their choice. G-ma needs to stay out of it.
Calypso poet 4 years ago
I have a friend named Dawn. Everyone thinks you're saying Don no matter what. How many times you have to say 'like dusk til dawn'! Your mom was wise, Carol!
Load More Replies... J Adams 4 years ago
Why didn’t the grandma name her own kids after the dead uncle if it was so important?
Hans 4 years ago
NTA. Your child, your parenting, your choice. If you would name your son a ridiculous ficitional name, a defensive hint to future ramifications for the child might be warranted for people you have a strong, trusted relationship with, but clearly nothing beyond that. Projected expectations, being expected to make up for something, and being compared to others are poison for small children – if this starts before they are even born, it ought to be stopped with force.
Viviane 4 years ago (edited)
The grandmother's obsession with the name is a big red flag to me, too. Will she insist that her grandson be the reincarnation of her brother instead of his own person? Is she trying to compensate for something, such as guilt? Rejecting an innocent child because of his name is a huge over-reaction. I hope it's an idle threat on her part. Otherwise, she needs counseling. She can miss her brother forever (there are people we all miss) and be disappointed with the chosen names, but she can't make a child a target of her rage and grief.
Load More Replies... Vivian Ashe 4 years ago
I don't think this has anything to do with Grandma wanting to honor her dead brother. Some mothers have a really hard time accepting the fact that they no longer have the power to control their adult children's decisions. I went through this with my own mother. Even into my 30s and 40s, she would demand that I do a certain thing, and she'd use various threats (refusal to visit, cutting me out of her will, etc.) to get her way. When the threats didn't work, there would be major drama, tears, angry letters, and accusations. Sometimes family members sided with her, because her demands were over something relatively petty, and they felt I should just give in to keep the peace. But I'm still glad I refused to cave to those tactics. Although it took a long time, she eventually learned she had to respect those boundaries. If I hadn't kept them, I'd still be letting her run my life in my middle age.
YupItsMe1234 4 years ago
Just get a puppy and name it after the uncle, then there is no way you can name the kid after the uncle otherwise both will come running when you yell the Robert John and that will just be a mess ;)
UpupaEpops 4 years ago
In my culture, it's common to name your child after their parent. My father grew up with 3 Alice's. Apparently, it was quite fun. :D Sadly, my name is different, but if I ever have a daughter I'll probably name her Alice.
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