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‘We Legit Buy Boy Pants For Our Daughter’: Man Shares How He Realized Girls’ Over-Sexualization Begins With Clothes
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‘We Legit Buy Boy Pants For Our Daughter’: Man Shares How He Realized Girls’ Over-Sexualization Begins With Clothes

TikToker @ericasaysstuff recently asked dads of daughters to tell about the moment they realized the oversexualization of women starts incredibly young. Michael Vaughn, a husband and proud father of a 14-month-old daughter, Eleanor, had a lot to say about that matter.

“It was 100% the clothes. And I knew it was going to be bad, but I didn’t know how bad,” Michael stated in a TikTok video which amassed a whopping 3.3 million views. He then continued to tell his concerns about the systematic sexism which became obvious when shopping for clothes for his daughter.

So let’s see Michael’s eye-opening video right below, which will surely make us question the ways our society may be reinforcing this toxic mindset at the most vulnerable and earliest age, often without us adults even noticing it.

Michael, a dad of a 14-month-old daughter, responded to a TikToker asking dads to share how they realized that girls are being oversexualized at a very young age

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He said it was while shopping for clothes for his daughter that he noticed things were very bad

Bored Panda reached out to Michael Vaugh, a proud dad, husband, and educational presenter and trainer who has worked in higher education for 15 years where he helped faculty, staff, and students find new ways to use technology to enhance their teaching and learning.

These days, Michael is taking TikTok by storm with his educational videos where he has tackled various useful parenting topics like best baby items in a car, understanding the phenomenon of cuteness aggression, and covering infant health outcomes.

Michael told us that it all started when “a friend of ours had recommended it a few months into the pandemic. My partner and I had our baby about a month before the pandemic started. Having a pandemic baby turned out to be extremely difficult. One thing I wasn’t able to do with our daughter that I’d really been looking forward to was volunteering with a local class called Boot Camp For New Dads.”

Michael said that “but by the time the class I was scheduled to volunteer for came around, our state was already in lockdown due to COVID,” so he got into TikTok. “It turned out to be a great outlet for sharing some of the things I’d learned with other new dads. The community on the app is really something special,” he added.

When asked how big of a problem the systematic over-sexualization of girls really is, Michael said it’s pretty significant. “Clothes are just one example. I’d encourage anyone seeing this to go read through the comments on the video. There are literally hundreds (possibly thousands given the volume of comments) of women sharing experiences being catcalled, shamed, and sexualized starting at a very young age.”

“But to focus on the clothes in particular: When you compare girls clothes to boy clothes, seemingly everything related to size is different. According to the United States Center for Disease Control’s growth charts, the average difference in size between a 36-month-old boy and girl is about half an inch and three-quarters of a pound.”

According to him, “despite this nearly imperceptible difference, girl’s clothes are often tighter than boys clothes in the same size, are made of flimsy and transparent fabric, and have shorter sleeves, shorter midriffs, shorter inseams, and lower necklines.”

“In the meantime, young boys have clothes that are durable, protective, and emphasize power in their sayings and iconography. The disparities in clothing are just one-way society reinforces the toxic mindset that female bodies are intended to be displayed, and conditions young girls to believe objectification is normal,” Michael explained.

Michael doesn’t think it should be this difficult to find what he calls “platonic clothing” for children

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River Webb
Community Member
1 year ago

what a great father, just the kind of guy his daughter needs :)

Jane Alexander
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1 year ago

Yes the kind of father Every girl needs!

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Roxy Eastland
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1 year ago

Necklines as well. I found that very frustrating, that they are so much lower in girls' clothes, for no reason and even in winter. Toddler clothes for girls are designed to reveal more skin than toddler clothes for boys. It isn't healthy for society. I also remember when it was the fashion to have the Playboy bunny symbol on stuff for girls, including for newborns. "I might be tiny now, but just look at me and project your idea of how sexually attractive and available I'll be if you wait". BTW, it isn't sexualisation - that's what we do to boys, teach them everything is about getting their rocks off - it's objectification. We teach girls they are sexy objects for the boys to make use of. I have taught my kids to shop for clothes from 'both sides of the shop' because it's all nonsense anyway. Girls need tough clothing for rough play, and boys like cute animals on their clothes, or pink and purple. Neither of them turn a hair, and they're now nearly 18 and 12.

Christina Uhlir
Community Member
1 year ago (edited)

It all depends on consumers, and sadly, consumers are easily manipulated by businesses, by politicians, and whom ever. All those "must have" advertisements are just justification for higher pricing, and they, in fact, are "don't need at all".

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Zedrapazia
Community Member
1 year ago

I always wondered why my mom bought me boy pants when I was a kid, now I understand I guess. I still prefer man pants until now, much more comfortable AND the pockets are actually big and useful! F**k fake pockets.

just me
Community Member
1 year ago

Yes! Forget 'boyfriend' jeans. I just buy guys jeans. And sweatshirts. They're actually warm. Who wants thin and skin tight in Minnesota winter?

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River Webb
Community Member
1 year ago

what a great father, just the kind of guy his daughter needs :)

Jane Alexander
Community Member
1 year ago

Yes the kind of father Every girl needs!

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Roxy Eastland
Community Member
1 year ago

Necklines as well. I found that very frustrating, that they are so much lower in girls' clothes, for no reason and even in winter. Toddler clothes for girls are designed to reveal more skin than toddler clothes for boys. It isn't healthy for society. I also remember when it was the fashion to have the Playboy bunny symbol on stuff for girls, including for newborns. "I might be tiny now, but just look at me and project your idea of how sexually attractive and available I'll be if you wait". BTW, it isn't sexualisation - that's what we do to boys, teach them everything is about getting their rocks off - it's objectification. We teach girls they are sexy objects for the boys to make use of. I have taught my kids to shop for clothes from 'both sides of the shop' because it's all nonsense anyway. Girls need tough clothing for rough play, and boys like cute animals on their clothes, or pink and purple. Neither of them turn a hair, and they're now nearly 18 and 12.

Christina Uhlir
Community Member
1 year ago (edited)

It all depends on consumers, and sadly, consumers are easily manipulated by businesses, by politicians, and whom ever. All those "must have" advertisements are just justification for higher pricing, and they, in fact, are "don't need at all".

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Zedrapazia
Community Member
1 year ago

I always wondered why my mom bought me boy pants when I was a kid, now I understand I guess. I still prefer man pants until now, much more comfortable AND the pockets are actually big and useful! F**k fake pockets.

just me
Community Member
1 year ago

Yes! Forget 'boyfriend' jeans. I just buy guys jeans. And sweatshirts. They're actually warm. Who wants thin and skin tight in Minnesota winter?

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