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Woman Says She Was Raised To Take Care Of Her Husband, Gets Roasted With 14 Responses
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Woman Says She Was Raised To Take Care Of Her Husband, Gets Roasted With 14 Responses

Twitter is definitely a place for people to share opinions, express their frustrations, or dish out hot takes. So it’s no shock to see a single tweet with someone’s thoughts explode into a full thread with people clashing, gifs and reaction images flying, and things becoming very personal. Especially when a person’s tweet touches a sensitive subject or a topic that many people have shifting opinions on.

This is exactly what happened to Brylea Kay, a college student from Texas.

On June 10, Brylea decided to share her thoughts on Twitter that sparked an outrage

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The woman shared a tweet detailing what kind of wife she would be and how she was raised. Cooking, cleaning, and washing her husband’s clothes are just some of the things Brylea says she’d do for her man, working round the clock to make him happy. She even describes it as being “old fashioned” and judging by the way people responded, many agree (and more).

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As soon as Brylea tweeted this, hundreds of people rushed to like, retweet, and, of course, drop their two cents in. And the general response? Not exactly positive. People pointed at many different aspects of the original tweet saying that it was internalized misogyny and sexism at work. Brylea later tweeted that their response was so harsh, she saw some replies where people wished she’d die, which is, of course, extreme and undeserved.

Most of the people didn’t take to Brylea’s thoughts kindly and offered her their own thoughts

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However, there were also people who didn’t have as harsh of a reaction

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somnomania
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3 years ago

My problem with that last tweet is that feminism IS about letting women have the power to choose. This woman said she was "raised" to take care of her husband. That's not choice, that's upbringing acting as blinders.

Nia Loves Art
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3 years ago

Yes, but she’s still choosing to do it now as an adult. Holding onto the values you were raised with is a choice.

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PaulV
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3 years ago

Hmm - I do all this for my wife. She''s got the big-bucks job, and I have more time. So why wouldn't I? Isn't that what brylea kay is doing? She didn't say, "I keep my ideas to myself and always tell him that he's right." My wife and I don't do that. And I get my way in other aspects. On weekends, she gets the jump on chores that I usually do. Re: alarms - my wife sleeps through alarms but must get up on time or she'd be late. So I wake her up when my alarm goes off. Isn't it Love - to help your spouse especially when you can and when you find it easier than she does? And I can and do, every day.

Mewton’s Third Paw
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3 years ago

Yes, that is love. I think that’s what she meant. But it was just distasteful to say she was “raised” to be that way. She should be that way because she cares about her lover. Not because she was programmed to be subservient to a man, which is how it came off. But for the record I agree with her and you. I wouldn’t be with someone if I didn’t think they deserved to be taken care of by me.

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Foxxy
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3 years ago (edited)

I was raised to be my husbands wife, not his mum. I am his equal not his slave. Whilst I do the cooking and cleaning it is only because he works and I don’t. BUT I do not wake him up, don’t make him lunch for work, I don’t lay his clothes out for him, etc, and if he complains about the way I do things then he can do them himself.

Elizabeth Cap
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3 years ago

There's a difference between a man being capable of these things and yet his wife does them by choice as acts of love and a man who expects to be waited on in this way and is not capable of doing for himself. The first attitude makes a great marriage, especially if both partners do for each other. It shouldn't automatically be assumed that to want to do those things for the man you love means that man is incapable, ungrateful, taking advantage or sexist.

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somnomania
Community Member
3 years ago

My problem with that last tweet is that feminism IS about letting women have the power to choose. This woman said she was "raised" to take care of her husband. That's not choice, that's upbringing acting as blinders.

Nia Loves Art
Community Member
3 years ago

Yes, but she’s still choosing to do it now as an adult. Holding onto the values you were raised with is a choice.

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PaulV
Community Member
3 years ago

Hmm - I do all this for my wife. She''s got the big-bucks job, and I have more time. So why wouldn't I? Isn't that what brylea kay is doing? She didn't say, "I keep my ideas to myself and always tell him that he's right." My wife and I don't do that. And I get my way in other aspects. On weekends, she gets the jump on chores that I usually do. Re: alarms - my wife sleeps through alarms but must get up on time or she'd be late. So I wake her up when my alarm goes off. Isn't it Love - to help your spouse especially when you can and when you find it easier than she does? And I can and do, every day.

Mewton’s Third Paw
Community Member
3 years ago

Yes, that is love. I think that’s what she meant. But it was just distasteful to say she was “raised” to be that way. She should be that way because she cares about her lover. Not because she was programmed to be subservient to a man, which is how it came off. But for the record I agree with her and you. I wouldn’t be with someone if I didn’t think they deserved to be taken care of by me.

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Foxxy
Community Member
3 years ago (edited)

I was raised to be my husbands wife, not his mum. I am his equal not his slave. Whilst I do the cooking and cleaning it is only because he works and I don’t. BUT I do not wake him up, don’t make him lunch for work, I don’t lay his clothes out for him, etc, and if he complains about the way I do things then he can do them himself.

Elizabeth Cap
Community Member
3 years ago

There's a difference between a man being capable of these things and yet his wife does them by choice as acts of love and a man who expects to be waited on in this way and is not capable of doing for himself. The first attitude makes a great marriage, especially if both partners do for each other. It shouldn't automatically be assumed that to want to do those things for the man you love means that man is incapable, ungrateful, taking advantage or sexist.

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