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“Just Kind Of Weirding Me Out”: Woman Runs From Christmas Celebration After Family Tradition Is Revealed
Many people have unique Christmas traditions to make their celebrations more festive. Some do it for cultural reasons, while others have simply found a way to add eccentricity to their Yultide practices.
A woman discovered this peculiarity with her fiancé when she celebrated Christmas with his family. It was her first time spending the holidays with her future in-laws, who welcomed her with a rather odd ritual that she had a difficult time making sense of.
She was so befuddled that she ended up leaving the party, which brought tension to a supposedly festive evening.
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Christmas is supposed to be a festive time spent with loved ones
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But for this woman, her Yuletide celebration with her fiancé became a weird and tension-filled evening
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High-conflict personalities are a common source of stress during festive times
Based on the woman’s account, her boyfriend immediately created tension with his reaction to her discomfort about his family’s Christmas tradition. He seemed to have disregarded her feelings and instead grew more annoyed as she expressed uneasiness.
His behavior may indicate a high-conflict personality. According to therapist, lawyer, and High Conflict Institute co-founder Bill Eddy, one red flag is having an “all-or-nothing thinking.”
“High-conflict people often speak in all-or-nothing terms. They tend to see people as all-good or all-bad,” he wrote. “Rather than excuse such extremes, take them seriously in looking at overall personality patterns of behavior.”
No one wants tension during a supposedly festive season. However, it can be unavoidable, especially with a high-conflict personality around. The best way to avoid drama from erupting is to manage these people.
According to psychotherapist Dr. Tracy Hutchinson, it begins with reframing expectations. She noted that the focus should be on having a nice, conflict-free time together rather than trying to fix the past.
Humor can also help diffuse heated situations by sharing positive, funny memories to lighten the mood. Dr. Hutchinson even advises using photo albums or videos for visual recollection.
But if all else fails, detachment could bail you out.
“If pulled into a conflict with a high-conflict person, mentally repeating the words ‘detach, detach, detach’ can help remove yourself mentally and avoid reacting emotionally,” Dr. Hutchinson wrote.
Such strategies may help the woman deal with future tense situations with her husband. However, if it becomes a recurring theme to the point of toxicity, she may need to consider professional help or even rethink the relationship.
The author provided more information about her story
Some commenters thought her reaction was warranted
However, one person called her out for ‘being a prude’
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Boo 7 hours ago
Pardon my French....but who the fùck does this????? And to throw in the knickers that you're wearing that day? Do you just strip down in the living room and throw them in a basket? Jfc...can't blame the woman for leaving!
Zoe Vokes 5 hours ago
And fiancé didn’t warn her so she wasn’t expecting it. Her public reaction was his fault for not telling her in advance that it would happen. If she had wanted to join in then she could have worn her most acceptable pair of underwear and not a s**y lace thong for instance. Or so that she could put a spare pair in her pocket if she kind of wanted to join in. Or had time to prepare saying no. But all could have been solved by cooking more food or someone plating dishes equally.
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Shark Lady 7 hours ago
Oh hèll no, I could see it being a funny game if it was clean or brand new underwear, but putting used in is so unhygienic not to mention creepy. Plus, what if someone was on their period or was dealing with an UTI or thrush etc. Bleugh
Crystalwitch60 6 hours ago
Ikr like what the hell, I’d have noped it outta there instantly to . Then told him to do one with his disgusting perverted lunatic parents ,and yes exactly like that to cos there are no other words for this level of WHAT THE F K are there 😱🤮
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ispeak catanese 4 hours ago
The minute he'd said the parents don't make enough food was the time to decide what extra food they'd be bringing. Sandwiches, a salad, a tray of something. Super ridiculous.
Boo 7 hours ago
Pardon my French....but who the fùck does this????? And to throw in the knickers that you're wearing that day? Do you just strip down in the living room and throw them in a basket? Jfc...can't blame the woman for leaving!
Zoe Vokes 5 hours ago
And fiancé didn’t warn her so she wasn’t expecting it. Her public reaction was his fault for not telling her in advance that it would happen. If she had wanted to join in then she could have worn her most acceptable pair of underwear and not a s**y lace thong for instance. Or so that she could put a spare pair in her pocket if she kind of wanted to join in. Or had time to prepare saying no. But all could have been solved by cooking more food or someone plating dishes equally.
Load More Replies... Shark Lady 7 hours ago
Oh hèll no, I could see it being a funny game if it was clean or brand new underwear, but putting used in is so unhygienic not to mention creepy. Plus, what if someone was on their period or was dealing with an UTI or thrush etc. Bleugh
Crystalwitch60 6 hours ago
Ikr like what the hell, I’d have noped it outta there instantly to . Then told him to do one with his disgusting perverted lunatic parents ,and yes exactly like that to cos there are no other words for this level of WHAT THE F K are there 😱🤮
Load More Replies... ispeak catanese 4 hours ago
The minute he'd said the parents don't make enough food was the time to decide what extra food they'd be bringing. Sandwiches, a salad, a tray of something. Super ridiculous.
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