Depressed Girl Shocked At The Way Her Therapist Treated Her Gets Even More Surprised When It Works

Please don't say therapists are a waste of time, space and money. There are some s****y ones, trust me I've had my fair share of them, but not all of them are s****y. Comments like this can cause people who really need physiological help to not seek it. If all you needed was to sort yourself out you didn't need "drugs". However, many people do need antidepressants and pills because of chemical imbalances in their brains..

I had a similar experience with a therapist when I was a teenager. She would continuously yawn through our sessions and I'd ask her for help dealing with things and her responses would be just plain stupid and unhelpful (a bit like what you got). The last straw was when she charged me full rate for a ten-minute session. I actually confronted her about it and her response was "sometimes we have enough with a shorter session." Sure, but ten minutes? I complained about that to my mother and never went again. My mom talked to her and her explanation was that "teenagers are hard to get through to." Dammit! I was ASKING you for help and you did nothing! It's been almost twenty years since that and I still feel that she wasted my time and my mother's money.

I'm sure you'll know better than I because the experience is yours. However, from how you told about it, it seems that the therapist was right after all. You cured yourself, and only you could know how....

That is really frustrating. I'm sorry she was so unhelpful! But there are some great therapists out there too. It is true that often people go into therapy or counseling thinking that they will give all the answers and just tell you a perfect solution to each problem, but there are a lot more layers than that. They do need to give you a helping hand and lead you to find your answers in a way that will continue to help in the future, not just in the moment. To help you learn how to help yourself eventually and not need a therapist all your life. But it doesn't sound like she approached that in a helpful way, of course you'll need more from her when just starting out.

Your therapist was right u did have to ask urself these questions- but I agrees with u. If want any help I dont JUST want prompts. I would want help to answer and fix those problems.

In my understanding it is only you that can come up with the solution, the job of the therapist is to help you find those solutions by talking to and listening to you, to help you find the answer(s)/solution(s) that work for you.

Right, because your one experience with a terrible therapist means they all suck.

Well a therapist is there to give you answers or to turn on a switch and magically make things go away. They are someone who is willing to listen and assist you by guiding you to discover the answers for yourself. After all, if you just want someone to tell you want to do then you can ask a friend. That way if things go wrong you can easily blame them.

So... she was right then? And instead of creating a situation where you were at risk of growing dependent on a service you didn't need, you were enforced to turn to and trust in your own strength and qualities? You even got a long term result, from just one appointment! One could also say you met a very, very good therapist...

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So you asked a therapist to help you, she said only you could help yourself, so you left her and helped yourself and now you are 100 % better... Seems to me she was right !! ;-p I'm glad you're good and I'm not trying to make fun of you, I'm just joking around, no offense intended :-) Have a nice day. :-)

Don't be nervous about seeing a therapist. Even if your therapist sucks you can change to a different one. Therapists are mostly nice and understanding.

Therapists are like clothing-you may need to try on a few before you find your fit. Also, try to be a little forgiving if you have one bad experience, therapists are real humans, too. They also have bad days that aren't representative of who they are. But don't hang around if you find that after 3 visits, they all left a bad taste in your mouth. Find another who can connect with you and your issue, and who can help you.

If not, try another. It took my daughter several before she found one that "fit." They can even be a good therapist for one person but not another.