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I have long hair, wear skinny jeans and I got my nose and both ears pierced. So, I have all the things that my parents hate. My mom keeps accusing me of being gay only because of my style. She constantly hits me with homophobic slurs and harsh comments, even though I’m straight.
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Jo Choto 6 years ago
It's sad that your mom can't accept you the way you are. I think she is more scared what other people think. The fact is, being gay isn't wrong or bad, and it's not a slur. Maybe you could tell her that one day.
J.S.T. 6 years ago
Some people just were raised to hate anything they don't think is accepted and it's failing and this mom knows it and that's why she keeps doing it because she can't accept the fact you can't change who someone is by being a jerk so she keeps trying and getting madder and madder and when she finally realizes how wrong she was it will be to late to apologize.
Harleen 6 years ago
I can't tell you how deeply I understand this. Do you still live with your parents? I would first try talking to a counselor. Your school probably has one and stuff like this is exactly what they're there for. They might have some great suggestions for you :) Do your friends know? Sometimes it's so embarrassing to tell them, especially if you feel like they don't understand either. But I bet you that if they're truly a good friend, one of them will get you. If their parents are decent people, perhaps you could live with them for a little while? If it gets worse, you can talk to the authorities and report your mother for mental and emotional abuse. They won't take you away, but they WILL give you help. No one deserves to live like this. It's not healthy for you. I hope you find help and hope <3
Kat K 6 years ago
I am 28 now, so my mom doesn´t really care anymore. When I was younger, also didn´t like the way I dressed or my hair. But I cannot imagine her being like that. Even if he is gay, or bi, or straight, it is still your child and you should love him no matter what. Like, she and the dad broke up, being straight and normal dressed aparently doesn´t give you happiness in life.
Crouching_Penn_Hidden_Teller@yahoo.com 6 years ago
guys have had long hair since the 60's. your mom's an old 8!+ch
Zaheen Muhammad 6 years ago
She's only concerned but yet to develop the understanding that you're free to make yourself look however you please. I'd say you keep trying and make her understand the difference between your appearnce and your sexual interest.
Lucinda Overhoussen 6 years ago
4rseh0le mums are the evolutionary equivalent of a desert. You either survive and flourish in spite of them orthey 7uck you over forever. Mum's aren't supposed to be like this and the Sahara was once a tropical rainforest. So don't let them win.
Jo Choto 6 years ago
It's sad that your mom can't accept you the way you are. I think she is more scared what other people think. The fact is, being gay isn't wrong or bad, and it's not a slur. Maybe you could tell her that one day.
J.S.T. 6 years ago
Some people just were raised to hate anything they don't think is accepted and it's failing and this mom knows it and that's why she keeps doing it because she can't accept the fact you can't change who someone is by being a jerk so she keeps trying and getting madder and madder and when she finally realizes how wrong she was it will be to late to apologize.
Harleen 6 years ago
I can't tell you how deeply I understand this. Do you still live with your parents? I would first try talking to a counselor. Your school probably has one and stuff like this is exactly what they're there for. They might have some great suggestions for you :) Do your friends know? Sometimes it's so embarrassing to tell them, especially if you feel like they don't understand either. But I bet you that if they're truly a good friend, one of them will get you. If their parents are decent people, perhaps you could live with them for a little while? If it gets worse, you can talk to the authorities and report your mother for mental and emotional abuse. They won't take you away, but they WILL give you help. No one deserves to live like this. It's not healthy for you. I hope you find help and hope <3
Kat K 6 years ago
I am 28 now, so my mom doesn´t really care anymore. When I was younger, also didn´t like the way I dressed or my hair. But I cannot imagine her being like that. Even if he is gay, or bi, or straight, it is still your child and you should love him no matter what. Like, she and the dad broke up, being straight and normal dressed aparently doesn´t give you happiness in life.
Crouching_Penn_Hidden_Teller@yahoo.com 6 years ago
guys have had long hair since the 60's. your mom's an old 8!+ch
Zaheen Muhammad 6 years ago
She's only concerned but yet to develop the understanding that you're free to make yourself look however you please. I'd say you keep trying and make her understand the difference between your appearnce and your sexual interest.
Lucinda Overhoussen 6 years ago
4rseh0le mums are the evolutionary equivalent of a desert. You either survive and flourish in spite of them orthey 7uck you over forever. Mum's aren't supposed to be like this and the Sahara was once a tropical rainforest. So don't let them win.
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