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Man Inherits Grandma’s House And Moves In, Tenant Asks Him To Leave Because Of Her Past Trauma
At the very least, you should trust the person you are sharing a home with. However, after two strangers move in together, their living arrangements can get complicated quickly, especially when financial hardship is part of the equation.
That’s exactly what happened to Reddit user Pleasant-Block8456. As the man explained on r/AITAH, the female tenant who came along with the house he inherited wasn’t willing to leave or share the property with him, suggesting the only option was for the new owner himself to find another place.
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But that doesn’t mean they can just bully the owners
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As the man’s story went viral, he provided more details about what’s been going on
Millions of Millennials will soon have to face similar choices
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With a projected $18.3 trillion in wealth to be transferred globally by 2030, the “great wealth transfer” is expected to be the largest intergenerational transfer of assets in history.
But as we just saw, this opportunity comes with its own set of burdens.
By the time we actually inherit a property from our parents, it’s often too late to figure out what to do with it. After all, we need to balance paying for its upkeep, a mortgage (if there is one), property taxes…
Without money set aside for these things, along with a clear game plan for what to do with the house, the situation can easily devolve into chaos. Unprepared inheritors may end up with their hands tied.
Because of this, it shouldn’t be a surprise that approximately 70% of wealthy families will lose their wealth by the second generation, and 90% will lose it by the third. Factors that contribute to these figures include:
- People are taught not to talk about money
- The prior generations worry that the next generation will become lazy and entitled
- Many have no clue about the value of money or how to handle it
Hopefully, the author of the post will find a solution.
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Most of the people who read about what happened here believe the man should take matters into his own hands
But some support the woman
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Becky Samuel 7 months ago
The advice that this man needs cameras in all shared areas is spot on. Either this woman is genuinely very traumatised or very manipulative. Either way, she could make allegations at any time and cause him a world of trouble.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
Yeah, this woman is only paying $150 a MONTH to basically live in a house (presumably with full access to the kitchen/bathrooms.) Of course she doesn't want to lose out on this - she'd never find a deal like that again. I'm honestly not even sure she's telling the truth about her past trauma. It's sad that my knee-jerk reaction is that she's simply lying, but here we are :( I agree that OP needs to get cameras in the common areas/his grandmother's portion of the house.
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Littlemiss 7 months ago
So grandma left the house to OP in the will and the tenant wants OP to move because she's uncomfortable? Something doesn't sound right here. I understand her being uncomfortable and she has a past - but she would rather move back in with the ex than try the new situation and actually speak to OP? Cameras, keep notes and document everything just in case she tries something and tries to claim its her house. What would stop her from magically subletting all the rooms and claiming the extra income if OP did move out?
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
I think this woman is using the "we'd have to move back in with my horrible ex!" thing as leverage/trying to play OP with the pity card. I obviously don't know the actual situation, but something about this says that the woman is lying and just doesn't want to lose her cushy $150-a-MONTH rental home.
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Onan Hag All 7 months ago
So she thinks she can avoid contact with half the population of the w,world?
Beth Wheeler 7 months ago
I can understand her being scared of living in the same house with a strange man with her kid. I'm 63 and wouldn't want to do it. It would probably be a good idea to put up security cameras in the kitchen, living room & laundry room if there is one just in case she decided to accuse him of something. Maybe think about giving her access to be able to watch the cameras if she wanted to. Somebody mentioned squatters rights. SCREW THAT! Squatting is trespassing and should be kicked out!!! He needs to try and have a conversation with her.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
Plus (from what I'm gathering) is that she HAS a lease, which is up in a number of months. She's not a squatter so she wouldn't have squatter's rights. OP mentioned in other comments that he lives in California (the state where I live) and I am VERY familiar with landlord crud, since my mom owns a few houses and often throws the responsibilities to me (AND my ex is a lawyer, so...) Landlords CAN move into a home they own/inherit. It's a no-fault, just-cause eviction in CA. OP needs to give her notice (60 days IIRC) to move out and she'll HAVE to. She can try "squatting"/refusing to leave, but then he can get legal/law involved.
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Gayl Belfor 6 months ago
She's planning on filing a DV complaint. Get cameras, have an attorney send her a letter informing her that either her lease will not be renewed OR (if in California) that she must exit property at the end of month as you, the legal owner, are moving in.
K Barnes 7 months ago
The woman needs to decide what's easier for her... trying to overcome her discomfort and give OP a chance so that she can continue on the gravy train, or move out and figure out how to pay market rent like most people have to do. She has been extremely lucky to have the opportunity to live for 150$ a month and now that luck has run out. Threatening that she'll go back to the a*****e EX who supposedly caused her issues reeks of manipulation to me.
Janelle Collard 7 months ago (edited)
Hope OP tells her NOW that her lease will not be renewed + to start looking for another place. If he can have her served the "Lease Will Not Be Renewed" papers, so much the better. Maybe his lawyer can help with that. And absolutely he needs cameras in all common areas.
Cronecast AtTheRisingMoon 7 months ago
Hopefully she is simply trying to recover vs trying to manipulate the c**p out of this man, but what she is asking is completely unfair to this man, who hasn’t done anything to her. And that rental arrangement was too good to last. She would be wise to save like crazy for the eight months she has left there and just be glad he’s a decent enough person to even consider her request. He’s very obviously not in the wrong here. I hope there’s an update. For the YTA person saying he’s a landlord now, nope, but he does have a boarder and she has less than a year to figure out what to do. The move back in with her ex thing is so blatantly unfair pressure on him, so she might simply have other issues.
Becky Samuel 7 months ago
The advice that this man needs cameras in all shared areas is spot on. Either this woman is genuinely very traumatised or very manipulative. Either way, she could make allegations at any time and cause him a world of trouble.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
Yeah, this woman is only paying $150 a MONTH to basically live in a house (presumably with full access to the kitchen/bathrooms.) Of course she doesn't want to lose out on this - she'd never find a deal like that again. I'm honestly not even sure she's telling the truth about her past trauma. It's sad that my knee-jerk reaction is that she's simply lying, but here we are :( I agree that OP needs to get cameras in the common areas/his grandmother's portion of the house.
Load More Replies... Littlemiss 7 months ago
So grandma left the house to OP in the will and the tenant wants OP to move because she's uncomfortable? Something doesn't sound right here. I understand her being uncomfortable and she has a past - but she would rather move back in with the ex than try the new situation and actually speak to OP? Cameras, keep notes and document everything just in case she tries something and tries to claim its her house. What would stop her from magically subletting all the rooms and claiming the extra income if OP did move out?
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
I think this woman is using the "we'd have to move back in with my horrible ex!" thing as leverage/trying to play OP with the pity card. I obviously don't know the actual situation, but something about this says that the woman is lying and just doesn't want to lose her cushy $150-a-MONTH rental home.
Load More Replies... Onan Hag All 7 months ago
So she thinks she can avoid contact with half the population of the w,world?
Beth Wheeler 7 months ago
I can understand her being scared of living in the same house with a strange man with her kid. I'm 63 and wouldn't want to do it. It would probably be a good idea to put up security cameras in the kitchen, living room & laundry room if there is one just in case she decided to accuse him of something. Maybe think about giving her access to be able to watch the cameras if she wanted to. Somebody mentioned squatters rights. SCREW THAT! Squatting is trespassing and should be kicked out!!! He needs to try and have a conversation with her.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
Plus (from what I'm gathering) is that she HAS a lease, which is up in a number of months. She's not a squatter so she wouldn't have squatter's rights. OP mentioned in other comments that he lives in California (the state where I live) and I am VERY familiar with landlord crud, since my mom owns a few houses and often throws the responsibilities to me (AND my ex is a lawyer, so...) Landlords CAN move into a home they own/inherit. It's a no-fault, just-cause eviction in CA. OP needs to give her notice (60 days IIRC) to move out and she'll HAVE to. She can try "squatting"/refusing to leave, but then he can get legal/law involved.
Load More Replies... Gayl Belfor 6 months ago
She's planning on filing a DV complaint. Get cameras, have an attorney send her a letter informing her that either her lease will not be renewed OR (if in California) that she must exit property at the end of month as you, the legal owner, are moving in.
K Barnes 7 months ago
The woman needs to decide what's easier for her... trying to overcome her discomfort and give OP a chance so that she can continue on the gravy train, or move out and figure out how to pay market rent like most people have to do. She has been extremely lucky to have the opportunity to live for 150$ a month and now that luck has run out. Threatening that she'll go back to the a*****e EX who supposedly caused her issues reeks of manipulation to me.
Janelle Collard 7 months ago (edited)
Hope OP tells her NOW that her lease will not be renewed + to start looking for another place. If he can have her served the "Lease Will Not Be Renewed" papers, so much the better. Maybe his lawyer can help with that. And absolutely he needs cameras in all common areas.
Cronecast AtTheRisingMoon 7 months ago
Hopefully she is simply trying to recover vs trying to manipulate the c**p out of this man, but what she is asking is completely unfair to this man, who hasn’t done anything to her. And that rental arrangement was too good to last. She would be wise to save like crazy for the eight months she has left there and just be glad he’s a decent enough person to even consider her request. He’s very obviously not in the wrong here. I hope there’s an update. For the YTA person saying he’s a landlord now, nope, but he does have a boarder and she has less than a year to figure out what to do. The move back in with her ex thing is so blatantly unfair pressure on him, so she might simply have other issues.
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