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Woman Is Spiraling After Mom Assumed She’s Getting Daughter’s Kidney After Hers Started Failing
It’s not unusual for parents to need help from their adult children. That might mean financial support during tough times or caregiving as they get older.
This mom, however, took family obligation to an insane new level when she expected her daughter to donate a kidney and save her from a life-threatening illness. This was despite a lifetime of doling out mistreatment, gaslighting, and pure entitlement.
Unfortunately for her, she is about to get a rude awakening. Scroll through to see how this bizarre and infuriating story unfolds.
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Parents may seek help from their adult children from time to time
This ailing woman, however, took things to an extraordinary level
She expected the daughter she mistreated to donate a kidney and save her life
Narcissistic parents are less likely to filter their behavior as they age
The manipulation of the mom in the story is a typical scenario one may hear about narcissistic parents. And her blatant toxicity may come with age, according to experts like licensed counselor Suzanne Degges-White.
As she explains, filters diminish in older narcissists, which makes them more likely to let their “shadow sides” take over.
“Narcissists do not prioritize parenting their children or maintaining healthy relationships. Their sense of entitlement leads them to disregard social contracts, responsibility for their behavior, or concern about others’ feelings,” Degges-White wrote, adding that the older they get, the more hurtful and demanding they are towards family members.
Informed consent is also required before kidney donations. This essentially means that the donor must be giving out their organ voluntarily without the threat of punishment or coercion through reward. The National Kidney Foundation notes that people have the right to refuse donation.
And when it comes to helping a parent, especially one with narcissistic tendencies, Degges-White advises proceeding with caution. She also emphasized that you don’t owe a parent anything just because they raised you.
“Caring from a distance or caring for them via a paid caregiver may be all you can give, or depending on the circumstances, caring about them, not just for them, may be impossible,” she stated.
The daughter is within her rights to refuse to donate a kidney to her mother, who, by all accounts, was neglectful her entire life. However, it may also help her maintain their distance and prioritize her peace.
The daughter provided more information in the comments
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Marno C. 14 hours ago
Yeah, the commenters are right; the doctors will never give this non-medically compliant mom a kidney, any kidney. She would waste it with blown appointments, dr*g a***e, and not taking her meds. But OP has to get her kids away from this or else they will grow at greater risk for @ddiction and other struggles too. Plus, whether you've got kids or an @ddict in the house, lockbox your own meds.
StumblingThroughLife 9 hours ago (edited)
I remember back in the day, when a famous UK alcoholic footballer who had a life-saving liver transplant (NHS), and he'd promised not to continue to drink afterwards - but he did. It made me so angry that he was pushed to the top of the list. There was outrage att, because 200-plus Ulster people were already on the waiting list for organ transplants, and he jumped the queue.
Googoo Gaga 2 hours ago
George was a d****e. His lack of committment to a healthy lifestyle should have had him taken off the list. A wasted transplant.
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Kate Johnson 14 hours ago
Mom needs to just accept that she'll be dying soon and it was her own choice. No one should give up a kidney for someone like this.
Crystalwitch60 5 hours ago
Op isn’t healthy either . So no doc worth their salt would allow her to give a kidney while alive x
Load More Replies... Marno C. 14 hours ago
Yeah, the commenters are right; the doctors will never give this non-medically compliant mom a kidney, any kidney. She would waste it with blown appointments, dr*g a***e, and not taking her meds. But OP has to get her kids away from this or else they will grow at greater risk for @ddiction and other struggles too. Plus, whether you've got kids or an @ddict in the house, lockbox your own meds.
StumblingThroughLife 9 hours ago (edited)
I remember back in the day, when a famous UK alcoholic footballer who had a life-saving liver transplant (NHS), and he'd promised not to continue to drink afterwards - but he did. It made me so angry that he was pushed to the top of the list. There was outrage att, because 200-plus Ulster people were already on the waiting list for organ transplants, and he jumped the queue.
Googoo Gaga 2 hours ago
George was a d****e. His lack of committment to a healthy lifestyle should have had him taken off the list. A wasted transplant.
Load More Replies... Kate Johnson 14 hours ago
Mom needs to just accept that she'll be dying soon and it was her own choice. No one should give up a kidney for someone like this.
Crystalwitch60 5 hours ago
Op isn’t healthy either . So no doc worth their salt would allow her to give a kidney while alive x
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