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Person Shares ‘Decade Review’ Vs. ‘Unedited Decade Review’ And People Adore The Honesty
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People, Social Issues2 years ago

Person Shares ‘Decade Review’ Vs. ‘Unedited Decade Review’ And People Adore The Honesty

The 2010s have come to a close, and if you’ve been on social media at all in the last month, you’ve probably seen post after post where people boast about their achievements over the past 10 years. Does comparing your life to what everyone else has done with theirs make you feel like you’ve missed out on all the luck this decade? Don’t feel sorry for yourself just yet—it’s well-established that the side that people show on social media is just a highlights reel, not what’s going on behind the scenes.

Christina Fattore, a professor and mother of two, decided to peel back the curtain when she posted her list of achievements of the decade. Yes, she has a lot to be proud of. But her career and family milestones, she reveals, didn’t come without a struggle, and the point she’s trying to make is that you never know what the people who you think have it all together are going through. People on Twitter are praising her for her openness, and for showing what the road to success can really look like.

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A professor and mother of 2 posted her decade in review with a twist

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Much has been written about the effect of social media on our self-esteem. Social psychologists point to envy, stoked by our impulse to compare ourselves to everyone else we see, as one of its major negative consequences. When everyone is boasting about the best things happening in their lives, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that your life, with all of its ugly moments, doesn’t compare. Some go so far as to speculate that boasting about your own highlights on social media can cause feelings of guilt that your real life doesn’t measure up to the one you present yourself as having.

Researchers say that people who “passively” use Facebook, that is, who spend most of their time lurking and reading other people’s posts, report feeling worse than people who actively post and comment. That doesn’t necessarily mean that running to social media with every bit of news is always healthy, but when we analyze our motives before posting, it can be used for good.

Taking advantage of the “social” side of social media that’s right there in the name and using it to connect with each other can actually bring feelings of social well-being. Personal posts also have the potential to draw attention to stigmatized subjects, letting followers know that they aren’t alone and giving more people the opportunity to share common experiences, as Fattore’s post has done.

People applauded her honesty and strength

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N G
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2 years ago

"Be kind to yourself and empathetic to others", that's a great philosophy.

Parmeisan
Community Member
2 years ago

I like that one too. I like it a LOT, because sometimes it's easy to forget to have the same empathy for yourself that you do for others. If a good friend of yours stood you up because oh say they were having crippling anxiety, you'd forgive them, right? If you knew someone who was upset because they'd slipped on their diet and gained 5 pounds, you'd tell them it's normal, everyone overeats over Christmas, you've still got this! So when you fail to meet your obligations, or you screw up in some way, you need to think about what you'd say to someone else who did the same, and then not beat yourself up over it.

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Carol Emory
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2 years ago

I've had former classmates that ask why I never come to the reunions. I reply that, much of my school years were spent fending off people that bullied and picked on me because I was too poor to wear the high fashion clothes or have my own car. I've never marched to the beat of someone else's drum and I wouldn't care to waste good money on an entire weekend reliving the most horrid memories of my life while hearing other people brag about how wonderful their life turned out. I'm happy and content spending all my time with friends and family that don't care about my past and love me for being me. I've never enjoyed people that boast or pat themselves on the back, but I've always appreciated people that live in the present and look towards the future.

John C
Community Member
2 years ago

Only briefly have I considered going to high school or grad school reunions when I get the invites, and I always get stuck when I ask myself "Why?". While I appreciate my past makes me who I am today, I choose to move forward. Wallowing in the past and measuring my own success against others' isn't something I consider worthwhile.

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Clavelle
Community Member
2 years ago

Wow. The unedited version paints a much deeper picture.

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N G
Community Member
2 years ago

"Be kind to yourself and empathetic to others", that's a great philosophy.

Parmeisan
Community Member
2 years ago

I like that one too. I like it a LOT, because sometimes it's easy to forget to have the same empathy for yourself that you do for others. If a good friend of yours stood you up because oh say they were having crippling anxiety, you'd forgive them, right? If you knew someone who was upset because they'd slipped on their diet and gained 5 pounds, you'd tell them it's normal, everyone overeats over Christmas, you've still got this! So when you fail to meet your obligations, or you screw up in some way, you need to think about what you'd say to someone else who did the same, and then not beat yourself up over it.

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Carol Emory
Community Member
2 years ago

I've had former classmates that ask why I never come to the reunions. I reply that, much of my school years were spent fending off people that bullied and picked on me because I was too poor to wear the high fashion clothes or have my own car. I've never marched to the beat of someone else's drum and I wouldn't care to waste good money on an entire weekend reliving the most horrid memories of my life while hearing other people brag about how wonderful their life turned out. I'm happy and content spending all my time with friends and family that don't care about my past and love me for being me. I've never enjoyed people that boast or pat themselves on the back, but I've always appreciated people that live in the present and look towards the future.

John C
Community Member
2 years ago

Only briefly have I considered going to high school or grad school reunions when I get the invites, and I always get stuck when I ask myself "Why?". While I appreciate my past makes me who I am today, I choose to move forward. Wallowing in the past and measuring my own success against others' isn't something I consider worthwhile.

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Clavelle
Community Member
2 years ago

Wow. The unedited version paints a much deeper picture.

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