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9 Y.O. Won’t Call Dad’s GF ‘Mom’, She Refuses To Drive Until The Kid Does, Bio Mom Loses It
Unfortunately, life is a damn unfair thing, and instead of “living happily ever after until death do us part,” many couples break up just a few years after the altar. Some last longer, some less, but the statistics are inevitable like Thanos – up to half of marriages end in divorce…
And where there are divorces, there are also stepparents for children. It’s good when stepmoms and stepdads can fully replace their biological ones with kids – but what if these moms and dads are not at all eager to be replaced? As, for example, happened in this story from the user u/amiacrazymum on Reddit.
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The author of the post has 3 kids with her now-ex husband, 4, 6 and 9 years old
Image credits: Eric Lewis (not the actual photo)
A few years ago, the author’s husband cheated on her and it all ended in divorce
Image credits: u/amiacrazymum
Now the guy lives with that 24 Y.O. woman, and he has custody over their kids as well
Image credits: Karolina Grabowska (not the actual photo)
Image credits: u/amiacrazymum
What do you think ?
Tabitha 1 year ago (edited)
Thing is, the ex and his girlfriend aren’t married and their relationship could end at any time. 24 year old girlfriend can potentially get real tired of being tied to an “old man” of 40, and disappear with some hot 25 year old guy at any time. The ex also cheated WITH this girl, so he could potentially cheat ON her with someone else, which would put her out of the picture too. TBH, the only real stable person in this mix is OP herself.
Trillian 1 year ago
A relationship can end wven if they are married. Even if it lasts for all time, she isn't the mother and no one should force the kids to call her that unless they want to.
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Brainmas 1 year ago
Could she have handled it better? Sure. Would I have handled it better? Nope. I would never recommend having a confrontation in front of your kids, but this situation was crazy. I would have taken my kids out of her car and called their father to come get them instead of releasing them to her, then filed for mediation to make some ammendments to the custody agreement. A friend of mine went through something similar with her daughter and it's been a really rough 10 years. Turns out you can actually put it in court documents that children are not required to address a step parent as "mom."
Shelli Aderman 1 year ago
Wow! I read all of the updates on Reditt, and the mom is suing for custody. Turns out the ex’s GF is not a healthy person for her children. At all! Way to go, mom! 💕
Petra 1 year ago
Could you please tell us the original title of the post? Or share the link so we can copy/paste it?
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Janelle Collard 1 year ago
If GF needs a "title" she can be "the XXX who cheated on my mom with my dad."
Steve Hall 1 year ago
I give you credit for not dragging GF out of the car and stomping her into the pavement, I would have.
Nils Skirnir 1 year ago
OP is NTA. Stepparents can be good or cruel (and gf is not even SP). In my case, after my mom died, SM demanded we call her Mother, not her name or mom. We were severely disciplined if we didn’t. My POS father did nothing to stop it. Plus it gets worse as he adopted her kids, but she never adopted us. Meaning that when father died intestate, we received nothing. And then she died and even family artifacts from 16th century were given to stepkids and naught to us. Every natural parent should ensure that natural kids are legally protected in case of stepparents. We were not.
V 1 year ago
A step parent being called mum or dad is only something that the children can make the decision on. It is something that is earned, and should never be demanded or expected. It is a privilege that comes with a lot of responsibility.
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Hakunamawhatnow 1 year ago
For ANYONE saying ANYTHING about the co parenting: you would never mention it if it was the other way around.
Sherri Harvey 1 year ago
She needs to document, and video all interactions with the girlfriend. Yeah, it's time to get at least 50% custody. The kids are still young and it's great that they have the strength to stand up to the girlfriend when she's trying to make power moves. Ex husband will cheat on her most likely.
Petra 1 year ago
I hope she gets security cameras with audio set up around her home. And a car dashcam that records both front and back. This will probably help her a lot as far as documentation goes. I think that there are also apps that automatically save text messages as they come in, so even if GF deletes them, OP will still have a record. There's probably also apps for recording phone calls and in-person conversations. Although OP will need to look into the legality of that for her state. Still, anything she can do to record their interactions will likely prove useful in the future.
Load More Replies... Tabitha 1 year ago (edited)
Thing is, the ex and his girlfriend aren’t married and their relationship could end at any time. 24 year old girlfriend can potentially get real tired of being tied to an “old man” of 40, and disappear with some hot 25 year old guy at any time. The ex also cheated WITH this girl, so he could potentially cheat ON her with someone else, which would put her out of the picture too. TBH, the only real stable person in this mix is OP herself.
Trillian 1 year ago
A relationship can end wven if they are married. Even if it lasts for all time, she isn't the mother and no one should force the kids to call her that unless they want to.
Load More Replies... Brainmas 1 year ago
Could she have handled it better? Sure. Would I have handled it better? Nope. I would never recommend having a confrontation in front of your kids, but this situation was crazy. I would have taken my kids out of her car and called their father to come get them instead of releasing them to her, then filed for mediation to make some ammendments to the custody agreement. A friend of mine went through something similar with her daughter and it's been a really rough 10 years. Turns out you can actually put it in court documents that children are not required to address a step parent as "mom."
Shelli Aderman 1 year ago
Wow! I read all of the updates on Reditt, and the mom is suing for custody. Turns out the ex’s GF is not a healthy person for her children. At all! Way to go, mom! 💕
Petra 1 year ago
Could you please tell us the original title of the post? Or share the link so we can copy/paste it?
Load More Replies... Janelle Collard 1 year ago
If GF needs a "title" she can be "the XXX who cheated on my mom with my dad."
Steve Hall 1 year ago
I give you credit for not dragging GF out of the car and stomping her into the pavement, I would have.
Nils Skirnir 1 year ago
OP is NTA. Stepparents can be good or cruel (and gf is not even SP). In my case, after my mom died, SM demanded we call her Mother, not her name or mom. We were severely disciplined if we didn’t. My POS father did nothing to stop it. Plus it gets worse as he adopted her kids, but she never adopted us. Meaning that when father died intestate, we received nothing. And then she died and even family artifacts from 16th century were given to stepkids and naught to us. Every natural parent should ensure that natural kids are legally protected in case of stepparents. We were not.
V 1 year ago
A step parent being called mum or dad is only something that the children can make the decision on. It is something that is earned, and should never be demanded or expected. It is a privilege that comes with a lot of responsibility.
Load More Replies... Hakunamawhatnow 1 year ago
For ANYONE saying ANYTHING about the co parenting: you would never mention it if it was the other way around.
Sherri Harvey 1 year ago
She needs to document, and video all interactions with the girlfriend. Yeah, it's time to get at least 50% custody. The kids are still young and it's great that they have the strength to stand up to the girlfriend when she's trying to make power moves. Ex husband will cheat on her most likely.
Petra 1 year ago
I hope she gets security cameras with audio set up around her home. And a car dashcam that records both front and back. This will probably help her a lot as far as documentation goes. I think that there are also apps that automatically save text messages as they come in, so even if GF deletes them, OP will still have a record. There's probably also apps for recording phone calls and in-person conversations. Although OP will need to look into the legality of that for her state. Still, anything she can do to record their interactions will likely prove useful in the future.
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