This might be shocking to hear, but I’m going to let you in on a little secret: mothers have problems too. Yes, I know many of them appear to be superheroes immune to the hassles of us mere mortals, but being a mom is a full-time (and often thankless) job that can present countless struggles, no matter how great moms are at putting on a brave face. Because of the nature of the job, it’s vital for mamas to have a community for support and a safe space to go when they just need to rant. 

Luckily for them, the Modern Mom Probs Instagram account is the perfect place to go. With 788k followers, Modern Mom Probs has become a haven for mothers seeking advice, funny stories or just fellow moms who can relate to their experiences. We’ve gathered some of our favorite posts from the page that you might find painfully relatable if you’re a parent, and if you don't have any kids, maybe these pics will inspire you to appreciate all the mothers in your life a little bit more. Below you'll also find interviews with Tara Clark, the woman behind Modern Mom Probs, and Chelsy Thériault, creator of the blog Motherhood & Mayhem. Be sure to upvote all of your favorite posts, and feel free to share your own mom stories in the comments. Then if you’re looking for another Bored Panda piece highlighting mothers after finishing this list, check out this wholesome story next.

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Maddymoocow
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2 months ago

*cries bc emotions*

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We reached out to the creator of Modern Mom Probs, Tara Clark, to hear what inspired her to launch this brand. She told us, “While I was a stay-at-home mom in 2017 living in NYC, I created the Instagram account as a way to connect with other mothers and have a creative outlet to make jokes about motherhood. The account evolved over time to be uplifting and normalizing the tough conversations surrounding modern motherhood. Modern Mom Probs can be first world problems, like planning elaborate first birthday parties ranging to postpartum depression. They can be humorous or serious, and I like to shed light on them all.” 

We also asked Tara if she could tell us about the best parts and the hardest parts of being a mother. “The best parts of being a mom are the snuggles and ‘I love you, Mommy’s,” she said. “Also, it's incredible to be an integral part of a child's development into a capable, kind, good human being. When you sit back and think about it, it works. Parenting works. Like we model kindness at home, and they act kindly to their friends. We show them how to brush their teeth and they brush their teeth independently. The work we do matters.”

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Brendan Roberts
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2 months ago

Power to the people and their curves!

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What Tara finds the most challenging part of being a mother is seeing her children struggle. “It's hard to see your children experience pain or sadness, but you know they have to. It's a part of life,” she told us.

We also asked Tara how the Modern Mom Probs community has benefitted her, and she told us that it inspires her everyday. “From the community, I’ve learned that although we may be in different parts of the world and we may all experience motherhood differently, we still share common experiences, which unite us. Plus I've made some of my best friends through this account.”

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Bittersweetie
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2 months ago

5) imaginary showers that you dream about but don't happen

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Today, Modern Mom Probs has a powerful online presence consisting of a website, blog, Instagram account, Facebook page, Twitter account and podcast. Tara even published a book in 2021 for fellow moms titled Modern Mom Probs: A Survival Guide for 21st Century Mothers. The book tackles managing screen time with children, navigating “playground geopolitics”, overcoming information overload, educating children about inclusivity, how to find and keep mom friends, and more. The book has received rave reviews from readers, including fellow mommy blogger Deb Biondolillo. 

“Tara at ModernMomProbs is a relatable, authentic, hilarious mother who brings a sigh of relief to today's mom,” says Deb. “Visiting her page makes any mother feel like she's not alone in this wonderfully chaotic adventure of parenthood. Like a virtual hug, ModernMomProbs lifts you up in moments of mom despair whether it be through inspirational, funny, or heartwarming posts. Tara is a true delight; one I may not have met if it weren't for this amazing community she's built, and I'm so lucky I can call her a friend. Quite simply, the powerful message Tara brilliantly conveys through ModernMomProbs is, 'You got this, Mama'."

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QueenRhye
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2 months ago

SCORE!

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Tara’s Modern Mom Probs podcast is the most recent addition to her empire, but it’s also been taking off. Started in April 2022, the show currently has eight episodes tackling topics such as “Co-Parenting Effectively”, “The State of Working Mothers”, “Breaking Generational Cycles”, “Social Media Tweens” and “Teaching Children to Think About the World Beyond Themselves”. Each episode features insight from an expert on the topic, including child development experts, comedians, authors and parents. Listeners are also loving the show, with one reviewer on Apple podcasts saying, “Tara asked all the questions that were on the tip of my tongue. I love how she jumps right into the meat of the issue without a lot of idle chit chat and respects my time. Great guest choices, respectful and caring… Checks all the boxes and then some.”

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Bittersweetie
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2 months ago (edited)

My son's dresser has a round glass door and is front loading. 😑

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Teampandas GF
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2 months ago

That's such a clever answer.

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We also reached out to Chelsy Thériault, author and creator of the blog Motherhood & Mayhem, to hear what sorts of pressures she finds that moms face today that previous generations didn’t. One issue Chelsy has discussed on her blog before is the idea of “mom shaming” and how much easier it has become due to social media. Chelsy says moms online commonly shame others about their choices surrounding breastfeeding, baby milestones, working, their bodies, birth choices, self care, and more. “Not only do we have all of these expectations piled upon us as mothers, but we also have people telling us how we’re doing it wrong,” Chelsy says. “This can cause moms to question their parenting skills and feel guilty for ‘doing it wrong’. It sucks because science has shown that mom shame can affect our brain chemistry, making the feeling of shame stronger and emotionally deeper – especially when the cultural expectations of motherhood are so high.”

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Bittersweetie
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2 months ago

But if I do it perfectly I NEED to see someone see it! 😆

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We also asked Chelsy what advice she has for new mothers feeling pressured to be perfect. “The ‘Mom Comparison Trap’ is a terrible rabbit hole to fall down,” Chelsy told us. “To avoid the pressure to be a ‘perfect’ mom by comparing yourself to others you see online, remember to be realistic about what you see on social media. What goes on behind closed doors is often vastly different that what is posted on Instagram. If you were to compare yourself to the realities that other moms face on a regular basis, you would be at par!”

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Jackie Burnham
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2 months ago

Sameeeee. Or the remote. Laziness at its finest.

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N G
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2 months ago

parents just lion there whilst their children run wild

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Being a mother has never been easy, but as our world evolves rapidly, new difficulties emerge that previous generations never needed to worry about. According to Mary Hermann, a professor of counseling, being a mother today is much harder than it was 30 years ago. She wrote a piece for Thrive explaining that life was simpler in the 80s and 90s because the cost of living was much lower, so unpaid maternity leave was not as likely to cause stress on families. Even mothers who had careers did not feel as much pressure to return to work as quickly as possible for fear of going into debt. Mary also said that when she had newborns and returned to her office, it was easier to establish a healthy work-life balance because “there was little technology to extend [her] workday”. It’s a bit trickier to avoid work communication after hours when your laptop and cell phone are constant reminders of your job.

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A Miller
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2 months ago

It seems you have a small human infestation, call a babysitter.

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A Miller
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2 months ago

You seem to have found a clone of yourself disguised as a small child.

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Bittersweetie
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2 months ago

The alwaysness of dinner is tough on the human psyche.

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Mary goes on to explain that “motherhood norms have radically changed” over the past few decades. She notes that when her children were young, it was perfectly fine to let them play outside unsupervised, and nobody judged mothers who made use of conveniences like frozen dinners and the occasional fast food to make their lives a little easier. Today, however, moms are expected to keep a close eye on everything their children do. From where and how they play outside to every piece of candy they eat to exactly how many minutes of screentime they’re allotted, kids are monitored much closer than they were in previous generations. As Mary writes, “Current cultural expectations include meeting these extreme motherhood standards and working outside of the home, and doing it all perfectly while appearing as though their balancing act is effortless.”

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Ever Roux
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2 months ago

"Her brother does not count" LOL :D

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N G
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2 months ago

your fridge door is only so big

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Raven Sheridan
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2 months ago

I think your boss needs a time out.

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Among the list of unrealistic expectations placed on mothers nowadays, Mary notes that there is a trend pressuring mothers to breastfeed. (And making those who can’t or opt not to feel guilty for using formula.) According to Courtney Jung’s book Lactivism: How Feminists and Fundamentalists, Hippies and Yuppies, and Physicians and Politicians Made Breastfeeding Big Business and Bad Policy, there has been a huge rise in the number of mothers who breastfeed since the 1970’s, growing from 24% in 1971 to 79% in 2014. However, the physical act of breastfeeding has not gotten any easier on mothers, with many having to navigate returning to full-time jobs while finding time to pump and being the sole parent in charge of feeding their young children. Mothers should be able to choose the method of nourishment that works best for themselves and their babies, rather than feeling pressured into one route that can significantly disrupt their daily lives.

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Bittersweetie
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2 months ago

Yes quite sussy

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Bittersweetie
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2 months ago

This is the one we delegated to grandparents. Son is 21 now and cakes STILL on the level of photo #1. 😆

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LuckyL
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2 months ago

And I thought this post would lead to "yeah, me neither" instead of "10 seconds"

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While modern women are expected to take on more prominent roles outside of the home, somehow their responsibilities inside the home never seem to lessen. Studies have shown that even when both parents work full-time, mothers still take on the lion’s share of housework and childcare responsibilities. On top of all of that, women are simultaneously judged for their appearances more than ever. Of course, the expectation to be beautiful and thin does not just relate to mothers, but they are still targeted, with no sympathy for the fact that their bodies have been through incredible stress from carrying and birthing a child.  Plastic surgeons now offer “mommy makeovers”, and the internet is full of suggestions of ways mothers can “bounce back” post pregnancy. The last thing moms should be worrying about when bonding with a newborn is how flat their stomachs are, but unfortunately we can’t take maternity leave from our appearance-obsessed society.  

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Brendan Roberts
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2 months ago

Ten? Are you mad?! I've already had a full night's sleep by then.

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Firstname Lastname
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2 months ago

I google maps the parking situation before I go anywhere new. I've turned down restaurants to avoid parallel parking.

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Tigerpacingthecage
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2 months ago

Well... placebo is a powerful thing.

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While moms love to use social media as much as the next person, the culture for moms online is unique. Mommy bloggers and Facebook groups for mothers have dominated the internet, often making followers and members feel like their parenting skills are lacking if their homes aren’t always spotless and their children eat anything other than organic food. Kelsey Dallas wrote a piece for Deseret News last year describing an experience she had watching a popular “mom-fluencer” on Instagram comment on how messy her home was when there were only 2 bags on her countertop and a few baby bottles sitting in the sink. “Going into motherhood, I had vowed not to hold myself to other people’s standards,” Kelsey wrote. “Online, though, my guard was down, and photos and videos shared by lifestyle bloggers with kids regularly brought me to my knees. There must be something wrong, I thought, if I could barely handle a life they made look so easy.”

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Bittersweetie
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2 months ago

And a week to brace yourself for next week.

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Brendan Roberts
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2 months ago

That's so sweet.

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censor
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2 months ago

Just start singing YMCA, they join in at the chorus.

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Kelsey wrote that despite understanding that everyone’s experience as a mother is unique, she had a hard time not comparing herself to mommy influencers online. “The most successful Instagram influencers, the ones with hundreds of thousands of followers and dozens of marketing deals, know how to strike a balance between being approachable and enviable,” she says. “They don’t want their lives to seem perfect, but they also don’t want you to know about the weak spots in their marriage or the time their baby cried through a work call.” Kelsey went on to say that eventually she just had to unfollow the moms causing her the most grief. “To be honest, I’m embarrassed I had to take such drastic steps, but also thankful I figured out what was causing me pain. Now, when my son or husband is driving me crazy, there’s no image in my head of how perfect things could be. Instead, my mind calls up my own flawed but precious moments, and I feel grateful for the real life I get to lead.”

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Brendan Roberts
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2 months ago

"You can do what you want when you're grown up."

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The Redhead
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2 months ago

My daughter now 4 drew all over her bedroom wall with crayons.we told her as long as you don't draw on any walls outside your room it was fine.

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Cynner
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2 months ago

I have like ten friends, wishing I had only three. Life with a child is busy enough. I hate the feeling 'omg it has been 3/4 months again, i have to meet up again'. Love em to death though.

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There's no such thing as a perfect mother, and it's great that pages like Modern Mom Probs are shining a light on that. All moms just want the best for their littles ones, and it's nobody else's business how they decide to balance their lives. Enjoy checking out the rest of these posts from Modern Mom Probs, and don't forget to upvote all of your favorites. Then let us know in the comments if you have any "modern mom probs" you'd like to share; whatever they are, I'm sure you're not alone!

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Laura Mende (Human)
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2 months ago

It's our problem free philosophy! Don't mess up my life! For me, Hakuna Matata has been working since 1994!

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Scarlett Fox
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2 months ago

Fun fact: song lyrics are remembered by a different part of your brain than the part that remembers things that AREN'T song lyrics! People who have difficulty with memory, including those with cognitive impairments such as alzheimers, are encouraged to put important things they need to remember to a tune, so that the memory is processed in a different part if the brain and can be remembered easier.

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Brendan Roberts
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2 months ago

Every woman who has gone through pregnancy deserves more than a gold medal - they deserve nine months' rest.

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sanityisnotproven
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2 months ago

This is the best

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Tigerpacingthecage
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2 months ago

YES! This is absolutely true. People are often sad when their kids grow out of the "baby stage" but its a genuine joy in knowing your kids when they are a bit older. Caught me by surprise how much fun that is.

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Sue User
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2 months ago

I tried to explain this to my ex. The chores he did ( yard work, shopping, painting) were chores that made things better. But rhe chores i did ( cooking, dishes, vacuuming) were chores that brought things to where they " are supposed to be" and therefore less valued.

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Brendan Roberts
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2 months ago

No longer a baby, but so proud of every milestone they hit.

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Emma A
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2 months ago

This is so true. About 3 years ago we started a new tradition where we get the family (me SO 3 teens and bub) an experience like a helicopter ride or indoor sky diving instead of spending so much on gadgets and stuff. But they still get one or two items off their wish list and to see them experiencing new things and really enjoying themselves is the best feeling. Plus us adults get to try new thing too. We search for vouchers and deals and plan well in advance.

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Brendan Roberts
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2 months ago

Any time I leave the house without a pram and giant rucksack, I fell like I'm 21 again.

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Brendan Roberts
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Have cupboard/drawer bursting with Tupperware.

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Nikki Sevven
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2 months ago

Lay them out in a single layer on a baking sheet and freeze solid. Transfer frozen pancakes to zipper/vacuum bags. Have pancakes whenever you want by popping a couple in the toaster.

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Brendan Roberts
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2 months ago

Cold weather means it's time to swap your quilted toilet paper for 1 ply.

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A Miller
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2 months ago

Be who you are

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