Dad Misses His Daughter’s Wedding Because He Wanted To Walk His Stepdaughter Down The Aisle, Now His Daughter Won’t Talk To Him
A man left his daughter disappointed and angry after he missed most of her wedding because he had attended his stepdaughter’s instead.
The man, Reddit user OddRip2252, posted his story on r/AITA, saying that he did everything in his power to please them both: his stepdaughter sent out a save-the-date for her wedding, and then his daughter sent out her own a week later.
But the problem was they both fell on the same weekend, with the stepdaughter’s wedding taking place a day before the daughter’s, and both had requested that the man walk them down the aisle.
Even though they were a 13-hour drive apart, the man thought he could attend both. However, he didn’t account for getting lost and spending so much of his precious time in traffic.
The man ultimately turned to Reddit to speak of his unimaginable dilemma, and ask if “he was the ***hole” in the situation or not.
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After the story went viral, people had many questions, so OddRip2252 decided to make a comment and address a few points.
“Yes, I didn’t know about dates until my stepdaughter announced hers,” he said. “My daughter was invited to stepdaughter’s wedding but obviously she couldn’t attend.”
“Now I am regretting not leaving earlier. But my close friend’s wife who helped plan my stepdaughter’s wedding told me it’s extremely rude for the father of the bride to leave early. It was a mistake listening to her,” the Redditor explained.
He did believe a 2-hour buffer would be enough. Especially since he took traffic into consideration. “I just didn’t expect to get lost and for traffic to be worse than normal.”
Quite a few people have also asked why didn’t he book a flight. After all, money didn’t seem to be an issue; he gave his daughter and her husband enough to go to Japan.
“A flight would’ve taken longer because of the drive to and from the airport,” he explained.
The majority of commenters said OddRip2252 was a jerk for handling the situation the way he did. What do you think? Let us know in the comments.
People, in fact, think he was the ***hole
My first reaction was "NTA" since he tried to be there for both his daughters. I don't think it's relevant that one daughter isn't his biological one. He has been her dad from age 2. And he tried to be there for both weddings. But after letting it sink in for a few moments, I think he could have done better. You always have to count in bad traffic (due to accidents, weather etc.). So he should at least have added some additional hours to his estimated time. Or he could have just booked a flight. Even if his biological daughter seemed a little crazy before, that is probably due to years and years of incidents where she felt her father chose the stepdaughter over her. Even if he says he didn't, it is very real and true for her. On a site note: It's never a good idea to deny someone's feelings. And then I remembered how my father didn't show up for my graduation from art school cause he decided his resentment for my mother was more important than being there for me.
I agree, the two daughters don't talk to each other so I'm not sure that dates were set like that on purpose. They also never even considered going to each other's weddings. He had the option to say to step daughter that once he's walked her down the aisle that he had to leave for his other daughters wedding. Whilst it may have upset SD that he could not stay he would've been there for both important parts of both weddings. This probably follows a pattern of behaviour since they were little, bigger better birthdays, holidays that were convenient for SD and not daughter meaning BD got left out etc etc
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This is about so much more than just a wedding: its just the representation of all of the daughters frustrations
kelya...if it gets so wet get an umbrella for your cat. Cats hate water. (Obviously kidding...I know what the bot means)
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Whether it was a test, deliberate or whatever, the dad could easily have left before 10pm. The actual wedding is the important part. Yeh, you want to be there for the meals, the party, the whole day but if you HAVE to be somewhere else, you gotta do that. I went to a wedding one day (which had a stupid breakfast the next day and had to drive 4 hours back home to go to another wedding reception - worked it out that as long as we left by 12, we had 6-7 hours before the reception started (and it was so informal people drifted in and out anyway). So Dad is the AH for not planning ahead - not a malicious AH but given the history, I'd had left plenty of time to avoid this situation
That was my thought too, why did he leave so late? With something as important as this I wouldn't have left it to chance.
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My first reaction was "NTA" since he tried to be there for both his daughters. I don't think it's relevant that one daughter isn't his biological one. He has been her dad from age 2. And he tried to be there for both weddings. But after letting it sink in for a few moments, I think he could have done better. You always have to count in bad traffic (due to accidents, weather etc.). So he should at least have added some additional hours to his estimated time. Or he could have just booked a flight. Even if his biological daughter seemed a little crazy before, that is probably due to years and years of incidents where she felt her father chose the stepdaughter over her. Even if he says he didn't, it is very real and true for her. On a site note: It's never a good idea to deny someone's feelings. And then I remembered how my father didn't show up for my graduation from art school cause he decided his resentment for my mother was more important than being there for me.
I agree, the two daughters don't talk to each other so I'm not sure that dates were set like that on purpose. They also never even considered going to each other's weddings. He had the option to say to step daughter that once he's walked her down the aisle that he had to leave for his other daughters wedding. Whilst it may have upset SD that he could not stay he would've been there for both important parts of both weddings. This probably follows a pattern of behaviour since they were little, bigger better birthdays, holidays that were convenient for SD and not daughter meaning BD got left out etc etc
Load More Replies... This is about so much more than just a wedding: its just the representation of all of the daughters frustrations
kelya...if it gets so wet get an umbrella for your cat. Cats hate water. (Obviously kidding...I know what the bot means)
Load More Replies... Whether it was a test, deliberate or whatever, the dad could easily have left before 10pm. The actual wedding is the important part. Yeh, you want to be there for the meals, the party, the whole day but if you HAVE to be somewhere else, you gotta do that. I went to a wedding one day (which had a stupid breakfast the next day and had to drive 4 hours back home to go to another wedding reception - worked it out that as long as we left by 12, we had 6-7 hours before the reception started (and it was so informal people drifted in and out anyway). So Dad is the AH for not planning ahead - not a malicious AH but given the history, I'd had left plenty of time to avoid this situation
That was my thought too, why did he leave so late? With something as important as this I wouldn't have left it to chance.
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