Former Jewelry Salesperson Explains Why People Shouldn’t Buy Diamonds

i couldn'T care less. tbh my boyfriend and i plan on getting married within the next 2 years and i told him we share the costs for the rings and : no Diamonds, no Gold and all that other overpriced c**p. we want some simple, silver rings with some runes on it. that's it. as long as it comes from him it could also be a plastic ring from a 5 cent bubblegum machine.

Engagement ring and wedding ring - no diamonds at all. HAPPY ME! I have a sterling silver band with *gasp* sapphires and emeralds - our birthstones :) Custom made for less than $250 and no one has an identical ring :)

I was fine with the ring i was given, it was a diamond solitaire with a band of diamonds underneath it along band, but husband really wanted to give me something more impressive once we both had well paying jobs. He ended up surprising me with a huge solitaire diamond ring, I would rather of had that money in the bank! But it is very pretty and I get lots of compliments on it :)

I really don't like the fact that I really wanted an engagement ring. I'm a very practical person and yet this was so deeply ingrained I positively couldn't ignore it. I do have a diamond - it's a lab created diamond and I adore it. I like that no one had to mine it, and that all of our amazing science as a civilization has culminated in this pretty shiny thing. It makes me smile. I found how many diamond alternatives there are - moissanite is a very popular one and it sparkles like nothing else. I don't think I would be upset if my ring was a different stone than a diamond, I think I would be upset if my fiance (now husband) had either lied or felt the need to lie. He could have handed me a ring from walmart that cost $200, I still would have said yes - but don't start your marriage with a lie, no matter what that lie is.

Not at all My fiancé and I are in the process of getting a ring at the moment, it will be a pink lab sapphire, surrounded by lab mossinate. No diamonds if here, still sparkley as hell

No. But I'm gonna admit one thing - one day I'd like a ring out of something durable (so artificial sapphires - sure). I know that all the "keychain ring" and "grass ring" stories are very romantic but I wish to have a ring that will last 'forever' and that I don't have to worry to drop it etc.

I personally want a sapphire.

I wouldn't. But weddings seem to bring the worst out in some women because they just want to brag. Definite red flag if you loved someone enough to propose and they said no because they didn't like how it looked.

I think it's really about whether ur fiancée/husband lies to you and told you that your ring was a diamond when it's really not. As in all things in a relationship, if you're lying about something (other than a surprise gift or party) you're doing something wrong. If ur on the same page about diamonds being nonsense, there's no need to hide it. If ur not on the same page, then the answer is to talk through your differing opinions, what ring you can afford, an alternate compromise etc. But lying about something is never the answer.

I won't be upset, it really doesn't matter. If a preference was given, a silver ring with no gems is just fine. Regardless the ring is a memento of the starting of commitment as a soul-bound couple or whatever you perceive marriage.

Depends on the woman doesn't it? I told my husband if he ever spent money on a rock I'd beat him to death with it. My engagement ring was a little copper band with a knot in it. It cost £3.50. I am not sure what some women think having an expensive ring means to them? Im just not sure why its some see it as a reflection of THEIR value.

I would love whatever he picked out and would prefer something inexpensive. It's about life with him, not jewelry.

I would prefer it wasn't expensive, all that money spent on it could be saved for a holiday together which i would appreciate way more. He can give me a key ring link and i would be ok with that XD

I wouldn't. I don't even like the look of diamonds- too glitzy.

Where's the rule that an engagement ring even has to have stones at all? A beautifully designed gold ring would be good as far as I am concerned. Plus - no worries about losing the 10K rock stuck to it.

Not for me. We have wedding plans and the same ideas about it. We wil wed on monday (it is free on monday) for the official registration in just normal clothes. All the money we will spend will go to beer for guests on our two-day-bring-your-own-tent party in a rural patch from a friend we can use for free. Oh and dixi's. The bands will be friends and their bands. No ceremonies or restrictions. Our long-lasting memory of this day will not be a ring/tattoo/etc. but the pictures of our friends having a good time. And the knowledge that we said to each other 'I choose for you'. Oh; we do have one restriction to annoy our friends (and we really hate these vague mandatory dress codes on weddings...'Purple, but not too purple or too less purple (?)'...'tenue de ville' (I have to bring a baguette?) ; the MANDATORY dresscode to attent this free-beer-fest will be 'clown'.

If my bf got me a real diamond I would be upset. He should know me better than that (and does, we are millenials who are def not going diamond route).

Yes I would, created stones DO look different, and most do not age very well, and sterling silver will most definitely wear out quickly as it is much softer than even 18k gold. I've worn my wedding ring for 30 years and it is still just as beautiful today as it was the day we got married - it's definitely aged better than I have. That said, I would have been upset if my husband-to-be had purchased a ring that was out of his budget. If he could have only afforded a gold band at the time, I would have been very happy with it.

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I agree- there's a big difference in the light refractions- and Lab grown are great options as well

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