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“The Damage Was Done”: Woman Dreads Every Interaction With MIL, Her Wedding Proves Why
Weddings are already stressful, and a difficult mother-in-law can turn the day into a full-blown drama. Imagine trying to enjoy your big day while someone keeps pushing their own agenda.
This was exactly what happened to one woman. She shared how her mother-in-law tried to pressure her into changing the no-kids policy and even orchestrated relatives to wear white in protest. Keep reading to see just how the chaos unfolded.
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One woman shared how her mother-in-law tried to sabotage the big day and even yelled at the groom
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She even kept readers in the loop about what family holidays looked like, giving a glimpse into the chaos
Many couples find wedding planning to be an overwhelming and stressful experience, juggling countless details and expectations
For many couples, deciding to get married feels like the easy part, almost romantic in comparison to what follows. Because once the ring is on the finger, the real marathon begins. Suddenly, there are venues to tour, color palettes to pick, and meetings you didn’t even know existed. And just like that, wedding planning becomes a full-time side job. Sometimes, the to-do list grows longer than the guest list. And slowly, the excitement mixes with a very real kind of stress.
And that stress? It’s not just in your head; couples everywhere feel it. A massive 2023 survey by Zola found that more than half of the 4,000 engaged couples they spoke to described planning as “stressful.” Another 59 percent said it felt downright “overwhelming.” That’s a pretty strong sign that the pressure is universal. Between deadlines, expectations, and decision fatigue, it’s no wonder people start to feel burnt out. Planning a wedding is beautiful, yes, but it’s also a lot.
One of the biggest stress points is the guest list. It sounds simple until you actually start writing names down. Tend Task reports that nearly 45% of brides said the guest list was the most stressful part of the entire process. Who gets a plus-one? Who sits where? Who absolutely cannot sit next to each other? The politics of seating charts could be its own Olympic sport. Add in family pressure about who “must” be invited, and the stress multiplies quickly.
Then comes the timeless debate: kids or no kids? For some couples, having children at the wedding means joy, spontaneity, and adorable photos. For others, it means noise, unpredictability, and parents leaving early. Both choices are valid, but reaching that choice can be tricky. Every decision triggers an opinion from someone. In the end, couples just want a day that feels right for them, even if that means stepping on a few toes.
And let’s not forget the venue hunt. This part can be exciting, but it can also drain your energy quicker than a dead phone battery. You imagine the perfect backdrop, the perfect lighting, the perfect atmosphere, until you realize how many places don’t match the vision or the budget. Then you have to pick caterers, sample menus, and hope your dream food doesn’t cost the same as a small car. It’s a balancing act between preference and practicality.
Couples should openly communicate and collaborate, discussing every decision together to reduce stress and ensure their vision aligns
And of course, the dress. For many brides, finding the right one is a magical moment, that instant when you look in the mirror and just know. But reaching that moment takes time, fittings, alterations, second opinions, and sometimes tears. It’s emotional work. It’s physical work. And it’s still somehow squeezed between everything else on the list. When it finally fits perfectly, though, it feels worth it.
Then there’s the budgeting: everyone’s favorite part (not). Weddings can quickly turn into one of the biggest expenses of a couple’s life. It doesn’t take much for costs to snowball. Suddenly, every vendor has a “wedding” price. Couples find themselves constantly adjusting numbers, cutting things, or compromising. Budget stress is real, and it can weigh heavily on the fun of the process.
That’s why it’s incredibly important to pace yourself. Talk to your partner often and honestly. Start planning early, take breaks when needed, and remember that the purpose of the day is to celebrate love, not drive you into burnout. Enjoying the journey matters just as much as enjoying the day itself. A clear mind and good communication can make the whole experience much smoother.
But in today’s post, the couple’s planning journey was moving smoothly until the mother-in-law stepped in. Instead of supporting the bride, she created unnecessary drama, tension, and stress. And that’s tough, because the big day is ultimately about the couple. This situation raises questions about boundaries and respect. What do you think? How was your own wedding-planning experience: smooth, stressful, or somewhere in between?
Online readers rallied behind the bride, calling out her mother-in-law’s behavior as truly awful
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Mike F 23 hours ago
Boundaries my @ss, either cut contact with the old biddy or put her in a burlap sack and toss her in a river.
Lee Gilliland 1 day ago
The thing is, MIL thinks everything 's just fine and people "admire her stand against injustice". With due respect, Ma'am, you're an a*shole.
Sparky Hughes 11 hours ago
My BFF, ride or die, had a doozy for a MIL. During her wedding, she had a head table with her, hubby and the wedding party. Our flowers as bridesmaids were put on the table to display as decor so she spent extra since they were doing double duty. Well while dancing, they disappeared and we thought someone removed them. Later everyone was baffled. Then they had a party a few months later where they showed the final video. Keep in mind, this was the early 90s and video editing was much more involved. Welp, the groom’s good friend did the video. We’re watching it and at the end, there was a montage of guests wishing them well. Right in the middle it cuts to a different scene. In the background is the pink panther music and it shows MIL stealing our bouquets while everyone is dancing. She was literally doing that exaggerated tip toe movement. Haha, we all died laughing. 25 years later, my BFF says it is the one thing she remembers and we still crack up.
haileetessa 4 hours ago
I ɢᴇᴛ ᴘᴀɪᴅ ᴏᴠᴇʀ $120 ᴘᴇʀ ʜᴏᴜʀ ᴡᴏʀᴋɪɴɢ ғʀᴏᴍ ʜᴏᴍᴇ. I ɴᴇᴠᴇʀ ᴛʜᴏᴜɢʜᴛ ɪ'ᴅ ʙᴇ ᴀʙʟᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴅᴏ ɪᴛ ʙᴜᴛ ᴍʏ ʙᴜᴅᴅʏ ᴍᴀᴋᴇs ᴏᴠᴇʀ $13,453 ᴀ ᴍᴏɴᴛʜ ᴅᴏɪɴɢ ᴛʜɪs ᴀɴᴅ sʜᴇ ᴄᴏɴᴠɪɴᴄᴇᴅ ᴍᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴛʀʏ. sᴛᴀʀᴛ ᴇᴀʀɴɪɴɢ ᴍᴏʀᴇ ᴄᴀsʜ ɪɴ ᴘᴀʀᴛ ᴛɪᴍᴇ. ᴄʜᴀɴɢᴇᴅ ᴍʏ ʟɪғᴇ.....➤➤ 𝗟𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗝𝗼𝗯𝟭.𝗰𝗼𝗺
Load More Replies... Mike F 23 hours ago
Boundaries my @ss, either cut contact with the old biddy or put her in a burlap sack and toss her in a river.
Lee Gilliland 1 day ago
The thing is, MIL thinks everything 's just fine and people "admire her stand against injustice". With due respect, Ma'am, you're an a*shole.
Sparky Hughes 11 hours ago
My BFF, ride or die, had a doozy for a MIL. During her wedding, she had a head table with her, hubby and the wedding party. Our flowers as bridesmaids were put on the table to display as decor so she spent extra since they were doing double duty. Well while dancing, they disappeared and we thought someone removed them. Later everyone was baffled. Then they had a party a few months later where they showed the final video. Keep in mind, this was the early 90s and video editing was much more involved. Welp, the groom’s good friend did the video. We’re watching it and at the end, there was a montage of guests wishing them well. Right in the middle it cuts to a different scene. In the background is the pink panther music and it shows MIL stealing our bouquets while everyone is dancing. She was literally doing that exaggerated tip toe movement. Haha, we all died laughing. 25 years later, my BFF says it is the one thing she remembers and we still crack up.
haileetessa 4 hours ago
I ɢᴇᴛ ᴘᴀɪᴅ ᴏᴠᴇʀ $120 ᴘᴇʀ ʜᴏᴜʀ ᴡᴏʀᴋɪɴɢ ғʀᴏᴍ ʜᴏᴍᴇ. I ɴᴇᴠᴇʀ ᴛʜᴏᴜɢʜᴛ ɪ'ᴅ ʙᴇ ᴀʙʟᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴅᴏ ɪᴛ ʙᴜᴛ ᴍʏ ʙᴜᴅᴅʏ ᴍᴀᴋᴇs ᴏᴠᴇʀ $13,453 ᴀ ᴍᴏɴᴛʜ ᴅᴏɪɴɢ ᴛʜɪs ᴀɴᴅ sʜᴇ ᴄᴏɴᴠɪɴᴄᴇᴅ ᴍᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴛʀʏ. sᴛᴀʀᴛ ᴇᴀʀɴɪɴɢ ᴍᴏʀᴇ ᴄᴀsʜ ɪɴ ᴘᴀʀᴛ ᴛɪᴍᴇ. ᴄʜᴀɴɢᴇᴅ ᴍʏ ʟɪғᴇ.....➤➤ 𝗟𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗝𝗼𝗯𝟭.𝗰𝗼𝗺
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