Men Are Sharing Their Vasectomy Experiences Online And Bringing Awareness To How Much Easier It Is For Them To Access Birth Control Than Women
InterviewIn light of the Supreme Court’s recent decision to overturn Roe v. Wade, limiting or restricting access to abortion in a number of US states, many couples have felt the need to find more foolproof methods of birth control. And while women are often expected to saddle the burden of birth control, some couples have decided it’s time for men to take initiative in preventing unwanted pregnancies.
One 23-year-old TikToker, Keith Laue, recently shared a video discussing his experience getting a vasectomy. His video has raised awareness for how shockingly easy it is for men to access birth control, especially compared to the complications many women encounter, and sparked a discussion online. Below, you’ll find Keith’s full explanation, as well as some of the comments his video has received, and even an interview between Bored Panda and Keith discussing the whole experience. Then if you’re interested in hearing more about the complications associated with female birth control pills, check out this story next.
TikToker Keith Laue recently shared a video detailing his experience getting a vasectomy
Image credits: keith_laue
Image credits: keith_laue
Image credits: keith_laue
We got in touch with Keith via email to hear a little bit more about what inspired him to get this procedure done and share about it online. “We live in Texas where women’s healthcare has been threatened for the past year. My partner had been on birth control since she was 13, tried a bunch of different kinds, and had a range of pretty bad side effects with each one,” Keith explained. “After the Heartbeat Bill got passed in Texas and then the Supreme Court picked up Roe V Wade, she started talking to me about getting a vasectomy and I had to think about it for a couple of months. I don’t think any guy enjoys thinking about getting his balls cut, but it seemed to be the easiest long-term option for birth control.”
Keith went on to note that him and his partner already have one daughter and if they ever are in a place to have more kids they would happily foster. He also has insurance, while his partner does not, which made it easier for him to access birth control. “The Supreme Court has made women’s healthcare unsafe and unreliable, and it’s better for my partner not to be anxious about it,” Keith says.
We also asked Keith if he thinks this topic is still considered taboo. “I do think it’s a little taboo. Before I got the procedure I was nervous because I did not know what to expect, and one of the biggest things that brought me comfort was talking to other men who had vasectomies,” he shared. “So, I made the video to 1) talk about how men can step up to support their partners through birth control and 2) show that the process is not that scary and is pretty simple for men especially compared to some of the things women have to go through.”
You can hear Keith tell the story right here
@keith_laue This isnt a normal post but i thought it was relevant given the news today #vasectomy#roevwade♬ Shapes (feat. Roshin) – Shaun Frank & Hunter Siegel
We also asked Keith why he thinks it is so much easier for men to get a vasectomy than it is for many females to access birth control or abortions. “There is no doubt that there is inequality in healthcare, and if you need proof you can look in my comment section,” he told Bored Panda. “There are thousands of women saying how they were refused local anesthesia for IUDs or they were denied tubal ligation for years because they were not married, and the doctor thought their future husband might want kids. It’s not fair, but all we can do is try to help where we can.”
Finally, we asked the big question: would he recommend it? “Absolutely,” Keith said. He then went on to address some of the most common questions he received about the whole procedure. “Mine was $600, and it was covered through my insurance, because it is preventative care, but all insurance is different.” He also noted that it is not intended to be reversible, but it is possible. “Another great option is freezing your sperm if you think you might want kids later,” he noted. In terms of what the doctors wanted to know about his personal life, Keith says they asked nothing more than if he was married, if he has kids, and if he wants any more kids.
And he’s not the only one participating in the vasectomy trend, here’s another man who did the same
@karahmatanic not the paper bag and limp 🤧 #roevwade#prochoice♬ Vegas (From the Original Motion Picture Soundtrack ELVIS) – Doja Cat
When it comes to the medication he was given, Keith explained, “I got local anesthesia to numb the area and anxiety medication beforehand. Many women commented how unfair that is because many women do not get that for IUD placement when they have to puncture the cervix. This is another reason I got it instead of my partner getting an IUD.” He also noted that the procedure itself was not painful, but it was tender afterwards. “Nothing that Ibuprofen did not fix,” he added.
Another common question Keith has gotten is if anyone tried to talk him out of the procedure. “My parents tried to talk me out of it a little bit, but really they just wanted to make sure I was sure about what I was doing,” he said. Lastly, Keith addressed some of the common misconceptions he has heard about vasectomies. “I have heard of some doctors refusing a vasectomy based on age, but I got my doctor recommendation from Planned Parenthood and it wasn’t a problem.” He also noted that contrary to what some people might think, it does not lower testosterone nor does it greatly affect your sex life. “You still produce sperm and semen but they never meet,” he explained. “Everything about sex is pretty much the same, just less anxiety.”
It is great to hear men talking more openly about the options available for birth control, especially when the US government seems to take every opportunity it can to regulate women’s bodies. If you’d like to keep up with Keith, you can follow him on TikTok right here or Instagram right here. Then let us know what you think of all of this in the comments. Has he convinced you to get a vasectomy or to discuss the possibility with your partner?
The comments are full of support for Keith and frustration for how much simpler this process is for men than women
I bet none of them were asked about current or future partners potentially wanting children and being told they can't have the procedure unless their partner agreed to it.
My experience was somewhere in between this guy and what you describe. I was asked if I have kids, and the doctor talked to me about the possibility of wanting more kids in the future. I remember he even brought up the possibility of divorce, and getting remarried and my future second wife wanting kids. I was also asked if my wife was aware I was getting the procedure and how she felt about it. Though they didn't talk to her directly, and I don't think they required her to sign anything. Also, I didn't get Valium for the anxiety. The worst part of the experience was when they injected the local anesthetic.
Load More Replies...When Mrs. Kusotare and I decided we were done having kids, we weighed the options. Since a vasectomy is an outpatient procedure done with local anesthetic vs tubal ligation requiring a general anesthetic and overnight stay, it was an easy decision. My boys felt a little achy for a couple of days, but it didn't require any aftercare other an ice pack for a few hours and changing the dressing regularly. No regrets.
Overnight stay? I was sent home not long after I woke up after the operation - i was in a horrific state, pain was horrid, i was throwing up and still left to hobble to the waiting room clinging the wall to go meet my husband in the waiting room- the drive home was awful. It was one of the worst experiences of my life
Load More Replies...I wonder by how much hysterectomy or vasectomy will increase in the USA since every contraceptive can fail, or you know a rape could leave you with even more trauma, stigma and burden if you got pregnant. You can get your face f****d up with a tattoo or nose job but don't you dare be a woman who wants to prevent hypothetical children AND abortions.
A hysterectomy isn't really comparable to a vasectomy.
Load More Replies...I've been sterilised. Was ridiculously painful and took ages to recover from but was sent home about an hour after the operation barely able to stand, throwing up and wobbled my way to meet my husband in the waiting room. I'm glad I did it but I'm still a tad bitter that he refused the easier option of him getting it done instead- my body has been through 4 pregnancies, 4 births, I have a chronic health condition that makes recovering from any illness/injury/medical procedure very long and drawn out. I'm completely scunnered with always having to be the one who takes the physical toll for our familys best interest. I'm exhausted, my body needs a break
Oh sweetie, that's horrible. But at least now you know you're done with the pregnancies. Did your husband feel bad at least, when he saw in how much pain you were? I know I would never let it him forget that. Every cold he has, every stubbed toe, I would say: remember how terrible I was feeling after I got my tubes tied? Don't complain! 😅
Load More Replies...I was told to take a motrin before my IUD procedure. I now have a crippling phobia of the lady-doctor, because that was the most excruciating pain I've ever been in, and I've broken bones before.
I was told to take Motrin before an endometrial biopsy. I wish I would have been knocked out.
Load More Replies...Hubby and I are going back to abstinence because I'm not a candidate for a hysterectomy and we can't afford his snippy snip
I don’t know if you know this, but there’re actually quite a few things you can do that don’t involve penetrative sex…..
Load More Replies...On the original day of, took the valium at home as instructed and off to Dr. Snip Snip. When I got there, there were two release forms I had not signed - normally taken care of in the pre-op. Since I had taken the valium, I was legally under the influence and was not allowed to sign the forms. Also couldn't go back to work. Got an extra day off!
The Valium they gave you on the day of your procedure wasn't for your anxiety. It was for your balls ... so they don't retreat into your body cavity
My husband had it done too, after our son was born I was in ICU with Post Eclampsia and nearly died, Dr said another child could kill me, I tried the coil but got heavy periods so husband decided to have a vascectomy, said its safer than anything else and he hated seeing me suffer when he could do something about it. The Dr asked him questions like what if he wanted more children, he said not at the risk of my wife's health, 2 is plenty for anyone. DR said fair enough. But what if you divorce, He said Ill still have 2 kids and thats enough on this crowded planet. Due to my complications and family history of cancer I tried to get a historectomy, despite the fact I am high risk for cancer and any pregnancy could kill me the DR still refused because I was in my late 20's When will women be allowed to make decisions? Going to a different DR soon to push the issue
I have an aunt in her 50s who hasn't hit menopause yet, which is odd in itself, but this woman is STILL on BC because her pig of a husband will not get one. He has said plain as plain that he doesn't want a man that near his stuff and doesn't think a woman can "do it right". HE IS THE PROBLEM!
I bet none of them were asked about current or future partners potentially wanting children and being told they can't have the procedure unless their partner agreed to it.
My experience was somewhere in between this guy and what you describe. I was asked if I have kids, and the doctor talked to me about the possibility of wanting more kids in the future. I remember he even brought up the possibility of divorce, and getting remarried and my future second wife wanting kids. I was also asked if my wife was aware I was getting the procedure and how she felt about it. Though they didn't talk to her directly, and I don't think they required her to sign anything. Also, I didn't get Valium for the anxiety. The worst part of the experience was when they injected the local anesthetic.
Load More Replies...When Mrs. Kusotare and I decided we were done having kids, we weighed the options. Since a vasectomy is an outpatient procedure done with local anesthetic vs tubal ligation requiring a general anesthetic and overnight stay, it was an easy decision. My boys felt a little achy for a couple of days, but it didn't require any aftercare other an ice pack for a few hours and changing the dressing regularly. No regrets.
Overnight stay? I was sent home not long after I woke up after the operation - i was in a horrific state, pain was horrid, i was throwing up and still left to hobble to the waiting room clinging the wall to go meet my husband in the waiting room- the drive home was awful. It was one of the worst experiences of my life
Load More Replies...I wonder by how much hysterectomy or vasectomy will increase in the USA since every contraceptive can fail, or you know a rape could leave you with even more trauma, stigma and burden if you got pregnant. You can get your face f****d up with a tattoo or nose job but don't you dare be a woman who wants to prevent hypothetical children AND abortions.
A hysterectomy isn't really comparable to a vasectomy.
Load More Replies...I've been sterilised. Was ridiculously painful and took ages to recover from but was sent home about an hour after the operation barely able to stand, throwing up and wobbled my way to meet my husband in the waiting room. I'm glad I did it but I'm still a tad bitter that he refused the easier option of him getting it done instead- my body has been through 4 pregnancies, 4 births, I have a chronic health condition that makes recovering from any illness/injury/medical procedure very long and drawn out. I'm completely scunnered with always having to be the one who takes the physical toll for our familys best interest. I'm exhausted, my body needs a break
Oh sweetie, that's horrible. But at least now you know you're done with the pregnancies. Did your husband feel bad at least, when he saw in how much pain you were? I know I would never let it him forget that. Every cold he has, every stubbed toe, I would say: remember how terrible I was feeling after I got my tubes tied? Don't complain! 😅
Load More Replies...I was told to take a motrin before my IUD procedure. I now have a crippling phobia of the lady-doctor, because that was the most excruciating pain I've ever been in, and I've broken bones before.
I was told to take Motrin before an endometrial biopsy. I wish I would have been knocked out.
Load More Replies...Hubby and I are going back to abstinence because I'm not a candidate for a hysterectomy and we can't afford his snippy snip
I don’t know if you know this, but there’re actually quite a few things you can do that don’t involve penetrative sex…..
Load More Replies...On the original day of, took the valium at home as instructed and off to Dr. Snip Snip. When I got there, there were two release forms I had not signed - normally taken care of in the pre-op. Since I had taken the valium, I was legally under the influence and was not allowed to sign the forms. Also couldn't go back to work. Got an extra day off!
The Valium they gave you on the day of your procedure wasn't for your anxiety. It was for your balls ... so they don't retreat into your body cavity
My husband had it done too, after our son was born I was in ICU with Post Eclampsia and nearly died, Dr said another child could kill me, I tried the coil but got heavy periods so husband decided to have a vascectomy, said its safer than anything else and he hated seeing me suffer when he could do something about it. The Dr asked him questions like what if he wanted more children, he said not at the risk of my wife's health, 2 is plenty for anyone. DR said fair enough. But what if you divorce, He said Ill still have 2 kids and thats enough on this crowded planet. Due to my complications and family history of cancer I tried to get a historectomy, despite the fact I am high risk for cancer and any pregnancy could kill me the DR still refused because I was in my late 20's When will women be allowed to make decisions? Going to a different DR soon to push the issue
I have an aunt in her 50s who hasn't hit menopause yet, which is odd in itself, but this woman is STILL on BC because her pig of a husband will not get one. He has said plain as plain that he doesn't want a man that near his stuff and doesn't think a woman can "do it right". HE IS THE PROBLEM!























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