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“AITA For Walking Out When My Sister-In-Law Tried To Put A $400 Surprise Cake On My Card?”
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“AITA For Walking Out When My Sister-In-Law Tried To Put A $400 Surprise Cake On My Card?”

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There are people who love to go all out on birthdays: we’re talking grand entrances, endless cocktails, and cakes that look straight out of a royal banquet. But what happens when that “go big” energy comes with a price tag you never agreed to pay? 

One British man thought he was simply booking a nice restaurant for his brother’s 40th. Instead, he was blindsided when the manager handed him a $400 bill for a lavish cake his sister-in-law secretly ordered in his name. Keep reading to see how the drama unfolded…

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    One man shared how his thoughtful gesture to help plan his brother’s 40th birthday was unexpectedly taken advantage of

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    He also opened up about how his wife reacted to the entire situation

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    People are often spoiled for choice when it comes to picking a cake for celebrations

    Finding the perfect cake for a celebration is no small task. Some people swear by the timeless appeal of chocolate, while others lean towards fruity flavors or light, airy whipped cream. And then there are those who crave something entirely different, a trendy new design or an unexpected flavor combo. Well, the options today can leave you deliciously confused. After all, a cake isn’t just about taste, it’s about the memory it creates.

    To explore this yummy world of cakes, we spoke with Akshita Agarwal, a baker who delivers premium artisanal desserts across Kolkata, India. She smiles as she talks about the evolution of cakes: “There are so many new ones now…the variety and selection is vast.” Think 3D cakes, piñata smash cakes, pull-me-up cakes dripping with chocolate, and even illusion cakes that look like anything but dessert. From Instagram-worthy designs to quirky personalized creations, Akshita says the market has exploded with creativity. “People don’t just want cake anymore,” she adds. “They want an experience.”

    For Akshita, baking was never just a hobby, it was love at first whisk. “I started baking when I was 8,” she recalls. “I loved seeing the smile on my loved ones’ faces when they got cake.” That joy, she says, was addictive. “Somewhere, I just knew, this is what I want to do. I want to deliver happiness.” Today, she believes no celebration is truly complete without dessert. A birthday, wedding, or anniversary without cake? Unthinkable. “Special occasions,” she says, “deserve something sweet that makes people’s eyes light up.”

    What makes Akshita’s work stand out is her belief in customization. “Why should anyone not get to enjoy cake?” she asks. “If you’re allergic to gluten, I’ll bake you a gluten-free cake. If you’re diabetic, we can use jaggery instead of sugar. On keto? We’ll make it low-carb.” For her, inclusivity in desserts is non-negotiable. Every person, she insists, deserves to enjoy a slice without worry. 

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    It’s unfair to haggle with bakers, especially when they put in so much time and effort

    Of course, perfect cakes don’t just happen. “It takes bakers years of practice,” Akshita explains. From the right texture to detailed decoration, every cake requires precision, patience, and creativity. “People see a finished cake and think, oh it just took a few hours,” she says. “But behind those few hours are years of learning, trial and error, and sleepless nights.” Bakers, she adds, pour heart and soul into every creation. “It’s not just food, it’s art.”

    Naturally, that artistry comes with a price tag. “Custom cakes cost money because you’re not just paying for flour and sugar,” Akshita emphasizes. “You’re paying for expertise, creativity, and skill.” Every swirl of frosting, every delicate sugar flower, every clean fondant edge requires training. “People don’t realize,” she says, “but the value isn’t just in ingredients, it’s in the baker’s craft.”

    But not everyone understands that. Akshita laughs as she recalls unrealistic requests: “Some people expect me to make a princess-themed cake for less than 500 rupees.” She shakes her head. “That’s just not possible. Even the labor alone takes hours, not to mention quality ingredients.” For her, baking is as much about respecting the process as it is about serving delicious results. “When someone haggles,” she says, “they’re not just questioning the price, they’re questioning the work that went into it.”

    And then, of course, there are the bargain hunters. “Don’t even get me started on people who say, ‘But someone else will do it cheaper,’” Akshita says. She chuckles but adds seriously, “Well, sure but then your Harry Potter cake might end up looking like a melted blob. And let’s not even talk about the questionable quality of chocolate.” For Akshita, custom cakes are investments in both beauty and taste. “It might only take me three hours to bake, but those three hours are built on years of experience. Paying bakers fairly isn’t optional, it’s respect.”

    In this case, it really seemed like the author’s sister-in-law wanted to go big with the cake but clearly didn’t want to foot the bill herself. Isn’t that unfair? What do you think, was he right to refuse to pay, or should he have just let it go for the sake of the celebration.

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    Online, many people felt the sister-in-law had acted sneakily, and agreed that the man was not at fault

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    Nikita Manot

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    Zoe Vokes
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Curious about how unnecessarily big the cake was. I assume a small one tier cake would have been enough and SIL ordered a three tier cake because she wasn’t planning to pay. Was there a huge amount of cake left over for SIL to take home (free cake if her plan worked)?

    KatSaidThat
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Hey guys, there appears to be an unauthorised charge on my card of $400 for a cake - anyone know about it before I report it as fraud?"... Also $400 for a cake?!?!!? Don't put your card down on a reservation for them again.

    Bette
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Givers have to set limits because takers rarely do. In this case the writer is entirely justified since his sister-in-law basically committed credit card fraud. She stole $400 worth of cake on HIS credit card about which he had no knowledge, order or authorize. Not only is he not wrong, but also he behaved with class.

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    Zoe Vokes
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Curious about how unnecessarily big the cake was. I assume a small one tier cake would have been enough and SIL ordered a three tier cake because she wasn’t planning to pay. Was there a huge amount of cake left over for SIL to take home (free cake if her plan worked)?

    KatSaidThat
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Hey guys, there appears to be an unauthorised charge on my card of $400 for a cake - anyone know about it before I report it as fraud?"... Also $400 for a cake?!?!!? Don't put your card down on a reservation for them again.

    Bette
    Community Member
    2 weeks ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Givers have to set limits because takers rarely do. In this case the writer is entirely justified since his sister-in-law basically committed credit card fraud. She stole $400 worth of cake on HIS credit card about which he had no knowledge, order or authorize. Not only is he not wrong, but also he behaved with class.

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