Guy Gets Annoyed At A Toddler At A Café Because He Wants To Use It As His Office, The Kid’s Mom Calls Him Out
InterviewRecently, a mom of a toddler turned to Mumsnet, a popular UK forum for parents, to ask if she was being unreasonable in a recent incident at a cafe.
According to the frustrated mom, she was having breakfast with her toddler when a man was taking a teams call at a nearby table.
“Toddler was being good as gold in my opinion,” mom explained, adding that the child was babbling and singing but it wasn’t loud. The guy in a video meeting was clearly not happy, rolling his eyes and huffing at them, so the mom did what she thought was reasonable in the situation.
A mom wonders if she went too far by confronting a man who kept huffing and eye-rolling at her and her toddler in a coffee shop
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Remote work in cafes has been getting more and more popular, but not every establishment welcomes remote workers
In the post-pandemic world, remote work has become a norm. And while coffeehouses have always offered remote workers a great alternative to their tiny apartments, away from roommates, family members, pets and kids, recently, the trend has been soaring.
However, not every establishment that sells coffee is well-suited for remote work, experts warn. Luka Sanchez, the owner of Common Grounds Lounge Cafe in Jefferson Valley, New York toldInsider that in order to see if remote workers are welcome in a particular cafe, you need to look for a strong WiFi connection and plenty of power outlets. Plenty of seating is another important factor that doesn’t limit people for how long they want to stay.
The mom added this comment explaining her point of view
“The key is to be considerate of other customers,” an expert says about remote work in cafes
Bored Panda reached out to Beth Collier, a communication, creativity, & leadership consultant, to find out what an expert has to say about working remotely in cafes. Beth believes that when it comes to calls in cafes, courtesy is key.
“If a cafe isn’t crowded, it can be OK to have a call, but the key is to be considerate of other customers,” she said. Moreover, Beth suggests “wearing headphones at a minimum, and be mindful of your volume when you are speaking.”
Another point of consideration, Beth added, is to “remember you’re taking a table from other customers, so don’t nurse one coffee and sit in a cafe for hours!”
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“It’s unreasonable to expect other customers to be silent if you’re on a video call in the cafe”
Beth argues that it’s unreasonable to expect other customers to be silent if you’re on a video call in the cafe.
“A cafe is primarily a place to eat/drink, though many may use it as an extended office,” she said. It’s wise to remember that a cafe is not a library, or an office, and as with so many situations, consideration is key, Beth told us.
When asked about this particular incident, Beth commented: “Based on what I read, the mother was not unreasonable. Children can be noisy – but they aren’t intentionally trying to disturb someone’s call or work.”
Moreover, according to the communication and leadership consultant, in a cafe, loud kids (and adults!) are always a risk. “If you need a quiet place to make/take a call, a cafe may not be the best option. The key in any of these situations is consideration – and kindness!” Beth concluded.
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Many people expressed their support for the author
Some coffee house owners are annoyed at remote workers who get too comfortable and don’t care about their products
Some coffee house owners, however, have been annoyed by remote workers who feel too comfortable with bringing their office to a cafe. “We have people come in and without even looking at the menu, ask us if our WiFi works and is it strong and stable,” Katrin Möller from Kat’s Coffee, in Thalpe, Sri Lanka says.
“It doesn’t feel good, when you put all your energy and love into your product and it is very clear that your product is more or less a nuisance, because they have to order something so they can stay, right?”
Moreover, some remote workers may annoy coffee house owners and staff by trying to not spend money while getting a table at their establishment. However, experts say that if you are unable to afford products or want to save money, it’s better to pick public libraries and parks as spaces for remote work.
Others had different views about the whole situation
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Share on FacebookI hate when people take extended calls in coffee shops. It’s very distracting to my work! :p
Go to the F*****G office to WORK! Restaurants/Coffeeshops are gathering places, not work environments. Rude as hell to have phone conversations and take up tables for extended times in these places. If you’re going to Work from home….then GO HOME! No one wants to hear your business!!!
To me, it's a matter of degree. Personally, I prefer working from home because I want the quiet and lack of distraction. Working in a café does not suit my work at all. I don't mind people working in a café as long as they are not parking at a table when things are busy, or being more distracting than is normal for any other customer. Having a quiet conversation is fine, but people tend to talk more loudly than normal on calls without realizing it. I have some meetings where I barely talk and some meetings where I talk a lot. I can't imagine taking one of the latter in a café, but taking one where I'm listening almost all the time would probably fine. I wear good noise cancelling headphones. They do well at not leaking sound, so no one would hear the meeting. I feel the same about people with children. They're not going to be silent, just as people having a normal conversation are not silent. If they get loud, take them outside. Like the meeting, it's just a matter of degree.
Load More Replies...Attending a Teams/Zoom meeting from a cafe is unprofessional. The others in the meeting surely saw him rolling his eyes and huffing puffing, which is also grossly unprofessional. GTFO.
He can huff and puff all he wants but he ain’t blowing no house down.
Load More Replies...The guy is a moron. I'm a remote worker. The last place is go to is a cafe. You want peace and quiet. That's what libraries are for dummy.
Not for meetings or telephone calls! No one wants to hear that S**T!
Load More Replies...If he was annoyed by the noise, that means he wasn't using headphones... meaning he was making everyone in eh café listen to his meeting! He is an absolute jerk.
Yes and the fact she says the world seems to be "anti kid" makes me think shes the problem. That others have not thought little Jonny was "as good as gold" like she thinks
Load More Replies...I am definitely not with the mom on this one. He has as much a right to be at the shop as the mom. And let's be honest, someone rolling their eyes and sighing should not be taken as an attack. There are a multitude of reasons why he could have been sighing that have nothing to do with her. At the end of the day she started the conflict.
I have no problem with people working wherever they can. But they need to come prepared. Three simple words: Noise Cancelling Headphones. Get one with a built-in microphone, and you are all set, my dude.
God there are so few of you. Your comment makes sense, and it makes you look like you actually think things through. Lol Appreciate you.
Load More Replies...Time to play animal noise games with the kid. Lots of clapping & cheering when the child gets it right. I have been known for creating all kinds of noises in public restrooms when I know the guy in the next stall is hogging it up while on the phone with his significant other.
Why no one wants to hear that...NO ONE. Also he never said anything just moved. She say the world is anti kid, maybe she has a annoying child she doesn't parent because hes "good as gold " in her opinion. Probably not everyone elses.
Load More Replies...Generally people do have to buy things, but it is up to the shop policy. We let homeless people or teenagers come in to use our Wi-Fi as long as they don't disrupt the other customers and it's not super busy. But generally our policy as you do have to buy something.
Load More Replies...I hate when people take extended calls in coffee shops. It’s very distracting to my work! :p
Go to the F*****G office to WORK! Restaurants/Coffeeshops are gathering places, not work environments. Rude as hell to have phone conversations and take up tables for extended times in these places. If you’re going to Work from home….then GO HOME! No one wants to hear your business!!!
To me, it's a matter of degree. Personally, I prefer working from home because I want the quiet and lack of distraction. Working in a café does not suit my work at all. I don't mind people working in a café as long as they are not parking at a table when things are busy, or being more distracting than is normal for any other customer. Having a quiet conversation is fine, but people tend to talk more loudly than normal on calls without realizing it. I have some meetings where I barely talk and some meetings where I talk a lot. I can't imagine taking one of the latter in a café, but taking one where I'm listening almost all the time would probably fine. I wear good noise cancelling headphones. They do well at not leaking sound, so no one would hear the meeting. I feel the same about people with children. They're not going to be silent, just as people having a normal conversation are not silent. If they get loud, take them outside. Like the meeting, it's just a matter of degree.
Load More Replies...Attending a Teams/Zoom meeting from a cafe is unprofessional. The others in the meeting surely saw him rolling his eyes and huffing puffing, which is also grossly unprofessional. GTFO.
He can huff and puff all he wants but he ain’t blowing no house down.
Load More Replies...The guy is a moron. I'm a remote worker. The last place is go to is a cafe. You want peace and quiet. That's what libraries are for dummy.
Not for meetings or telephone calls! No one wants to hear that S**T!
Load More Replies...If he was annoyed by the noise, that means he wasn't using headphones... meaning he was making everyone in eh café listen to his meeting! He is an absolute jerk.
Yes and the fact she says the world seems to be "anti kid" makes me think shes the problem. That others have not thought little Jonny was "as good as gold" like she thinks
Load More Replies...I am definitely not with the mom on this one. He has as much a right to be at the shop as the mom. And let's be honest, someone rolling their eyes and sighing should not be taken as an attack. There are a multitude of reasons why he could have been sighing that have nothing to do with her. At the end of the day she started the conflict.
I have no problem with people working wherever they can. But they need to come prepared. Three simple words: Noise Cancelling Headphones. Get one with a built-in microphone, and you are all set, my dude.
God there are so few of you. Your comment makes sense, and it makes you look like you actually think things through. Lol Appreciate you.
Load More Replies...Time to play animal noise games with the kid. Lots of clapping & cheering when the child gets it right. I have been known for creating all kinds of noises in public restrooms when I know the guy in the next stall is hogging it up while on the phone with his significant other.
Why no one wants to hear that...NO ONE. Also he never said anything just moved. She say the world is anti kid, maybe she has a annoying child she doesn't parent because hes "good as gold " in her opinion. Probably not everyone elses.
Load More Replies...Generally people do have to buy things, but it is up to the shop policy. We let homeless people or teenagers come in to use our Wi-Fi as long as they don't disrupt the other customers and it's not super busy. But generally our policy as you do have to buy something.
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