Guy Shares His Reasoning Behind Refusing To Give A Pregnant Lady His Bus Seat, People Are Not Convinced

He was the closest to the door, apparently. He clearly said "but he can deal". He was tired, not disabled or injured or AT RISK OF FALLING.

I kinda was iffy until he mentioned "her life choices". His " life choices" (where he lives, his job) got him where he is at that moment in life. (Was the wreck because of a choice he made?) We could go those routes all day. But the point is, right there right then someone should have had compassion and given her a seat. I've been pregnant 4x. Pregnancy is miserable, but worth it. Now I have back problems and stuff but would jump up in a heartbeat to anyone that needs a seat more than me. Pregnant woman, elderly person...anyone. I don't care if I worked on my feet 12 hours (which I did when I was in my 20's). And because of his"life choice" of not getting up, a pregnant woman fell and an elderly man fell. Hope he is proud of himself. (and every other able bodied person that didn't get up.) Edit: he wants to blame breeding? So is it his moms fault for having him?

While you are right, he decided to take it to the internet rather than accepting his family‘s opinion on the matter. Not to mention writing things like the woman should have had an abortion of she can’t afford a car. Everyone should have offered her a seat, absolutely, but he went above and beyond to be an asshole.

I think it wasn't polite to not offer her the seat. I'd say YTA for the abortion comment. That set it off the edge I'd say.

I see your point on him not being the only one on the bus. Singling him out like that sounds strange, that's why I believe this story is made up. But then again, I'm only speaking of my experience, I've yet to meet a bussfull of complete dickheads who deny a pregnant woman a seat.

You know what he should do instead of rant about abortions and sh*t? Get up and sit somewhere else. Problem solved. And if there was no seat available, at the moment, then I bet next stop it would be.

and obviously this dude was in the younger catagory... living at home where your sister goes and tells your Mom??? pfffft... he sounds like a spoiled f*****g child. I also work 10 hour shifts- i literally walk between 8-10 miles a day... and I would never be so f*****g ridiculous. Its called morals doosh bag.

We’re not singling this person out. They happened to be chewed out by their family and went online to find people to back them or absolve them of the “asshole” label.

He's the one that was asked. Had any other able bodied person been asked and refused for the same atrocious reasons, then they would be the asshole.

Although I semi agree @CarolEmory I will say this, he IS the asshole because he totes on and on about BC and abortions and how it was HER choice to get pregnant blah blah blah, but it was also HIS choice to work that shitty job that he's on his feet all day. HIS choice to buy shitty shoes. Had I been there he would've gotten an earful from me too and the lady would've had a seat. I've been there. Maybe she WAS in a relationship and dude split recently? and I've said it once I'll say it again, abortion is not f*****g birth control. He's a douche.

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Thank you, you are taking the words out of my mouth

Does it say anywhere they're a guy? It could have been a woman writing the post.

He asked. AITA. The answer is yes.

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Yeah, well, he was close and it's his reasoning that makes him an asshole.

Irrelevant information. She asked him for his seat, and he said no. And that makes him a colossal asshole.

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He snapped back when asked politely because of his spot. We don't know about other problems or conditions others might have had, we just know this guy was being crabby and unwilling to be a decent person which is why he stood out as the biggest asshole. And he judged her for being a single mom, when it might not have been her fault. She may have planned that baby with a partner but they died, or left because they’re also an asshole. Or maybe she’s a lesbian and had a sperm donor, but she was the only fertile partner. There’s always a story behind what people say, so listen, and maybe don’t be a jerk about it next time.

I’m betting this guy would refuse to get out of the way of an ambulance as well.

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Carol, no one is trying to put the responsibility squarely on men's shoulders. The pregnant woman asked him if she could have his seat and he became a total jerk about. He told this woman that abortions are free and talked about how her being pregnant wasn't his problem.

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It is simple, the young now have no honour and are weak individuals.

We have the same seats plus pregnancy only seats in Korea. Younger people are afraid to sit in the elderly section, old people get violent. While I was pregnant, watching people STARING at my large belly while sitting in the pregnancy only seat was very common. I was afraid to ask people over 50yo to give up the seat because it isn't uncommon for them to snap. Plus being publicly drunk is perfectly acceptable. I only asked younger people to move if I felt like I actually needed to sit down. People were WAY more considerate on the bus. The average Korean person is super nice, but the assholes always stand out

See, they have seats for people who need it more, like pregnant people. Every bus should have that because apparently we can't count on others to be decent, compassionate people.

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I am not trying to COMPLETELY defend the guy, but I'm a single adult living with my husband, we dont have kids, and we own a restaurant working 65 hrs a week on our feet. Especially during this pandemic, its really hard. All of our friends AND our few employees have kids therefore need alot of weekends, all holidays, vacation times, sick days, sports practices and games all accommodated by US. The ones who chose to wait on kids and pursue their career now have to make up for ALL OF THAT. It isnt fair at all to HAVE to accommodate the endless favors for people with kids when you dont have them. Its just this expectation that parents have for non parents. "Oh they're not doing anything anyway". ITS NOT FAIR TIMES A THOUSAND. AGAIN he should have gotten up for a pregnant woman but NON PARENTS ARE PEOPLE TOO and I think that could be what he was getting at.

It’s interesting you mention Japan and its culture. It is perhaps a correlation that in a country that focuses more on old people that birth rates are so low and population is in decline. Whereas countries like Israel that have a baby obsessed culture have high birth rates. In the long run, not much will be left of a culture where there are few children...

So if no one is at fault it's first come first serve.

It isn't his fault either. A whole bus full of people and you are telling non of them could give a seat to the woman but the obe who was exhausted from work.

Right. We established all of that. You’re being dumb AF for not connecting the rest of the dots. It’s not her fault he’s broke, it’s not his fault she’s broke. Now with all things equal and him finding his seat and her showing up later, there’s no reason for her to demand anything from anyone else. Dumbass.

Maybe it's the African in me, I've seen heavily pregnant women balance a 25 litre bucket of water on their head and walk a couple of kilometres through uneven paths. I honestly think standing up for a couple of minutes is nothing.

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Not his fault that this idiot decided to have a children when she can’t even afford a car.

She should have f****d a guy with a car then. I'm not giving up my seat after 12 hours of physical labour just because you were creampied.

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Correct. And he wasn't asking for her seat.

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You are totally off base with this comment. I suppose you would have words for him regardless of the situation.

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It is not HIS problem that she didn't use a condom...

I agree. Every able bodied person around her is the AH. At least ONE of them should have let her have the seat. I bet those same people that do not care if she falls and loses the baby are pro life people that say no to women's choice of having an abortion, but could care less about them once they are born.

There may not have been plenty of seats because he did say there was social distancing.

Or maybe her car met the same fate as his...

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Explain then. You’re upset but you haven’t sounded out why. Once you do, you’ll see why it doesn’t follow.