Wife Leaves Husband Red-Faced After He Demands She Lose Weight For His Company Event And She Maliciously Complies
Revenge is a dish best served cold, but karma doesn’t have to be instant. It can wait a bit. It can be subtle. Gradual. And it only makes victory taste that much sweeter when your plan finally comes together.
Redditor u/ShepherdsWeShallB shared a story about how her sister, ‘Jen,’ got back at her husband ‘Chris,’ who had demanded that she lose weight so that they could attend his company’s black-tie dinner in a year’s time. Jen was barely overweight, but Chris was nearly clinically obese. Oh, she promised to lose weight all right, but she had a secret twist ready for him. You’ll find the full story, as told by the woman’s sister, below.
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A husband told his wife that she should lose a lot of weight so that they could attend an important event in a year’s time
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The woman’s sister shared how she handled the entire situation in the best possible way
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The husband ended up being completely taken aback by how everything developed
According to u/ShepherdsWeShallB, for her sister, her husband’s comments about losing weight “was the straw that broke the camel’s back.” He had also refused the idea of going to marriage counseling, accused his spouse of cheating on him, and joked to lots of people about her being ‘stuck’ with him.
So, the OP’s sister decided to follow her husband’s advice and get in shape for his employer’s big event. But not in the way that he expected. She got great results and within just six months, she was incredibly fit. But the moment that she reached her goals, she filed for divorce. And she did show up to the black-tie event… with a long-time friend who also worked at her (now ex) husband’s company.
This was malicious compliance at its best. And most readers thought that the revenge was well-deserved. It seemed like ‘Chris’ wasn’t prepared to put in the same effort into his marriage as his then-wife, ‘Jen,’ the mother to his five children, did.
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The man was obese himself while the woman had only been a few pounds overweight
Marriage and healthy long-term relationships rely on teamwork and communication. But they also demand a certain level of self-awareness. Nobody likes a hypocrite. Redditor u/ShepherdsWeShallB explained that her sister had been “6 pounds [2.7 kg] overweight,” and was told to lose 30 to 40 pounds (13.6 to 18.1 kg). Meanwhile, ‘Chris’ was “bordering on clinically obese.” It’s more or less clear that if anyone needed to worry about their weight, it was him.
A quick way to check if you’re at a more or less healthy weight is to do a quick BMI calculation. According to the CDC, you’re considered to be underweight if your BMI is less than 18.5. If your score is above 25, you are overweight. And if your BMI is 30 or higher, you are technically obese.
Of course, living a healthy and happy life is about more than just someone’s weight: a lot depends on the person’s lifestyle and quality of social life, too. However, being obese does have an incredibly negative effect on a person’s life.
The CDC warns that obesity increases the risks of serious diseases and health conditions like high blood pressure, diabetes, coronary heart disease, stroke, gallbladder disease, cancer, clinical depression, and, overall, leads to a much lower quality of life. The effects go beyond just the individual, though.
In 2019, obesity-related medical care costs were estimated to have been nearly 173 billion dollars. Productivity costs due to “obesity-related absenteeism” were calculated to fall between 3.38 billion dollars to 6.38 billion dollars.
Both partners need to respect each other. The relationship won’t work otherwise
Respect, love, and mutual attraction make up the foundations of a marriage. If only one person in the relationship has feelings and respect for the other, you’ll end up with lots of problems that can, eventually, lead to divorce.
It’s vital that spouses don’t treat marriage as ‘just’ dating. Both partners genuinely need to want the best for each other, have to care about one another, and shouldn’t ever take the other person for granted.
You’re in it for the long-run (possibly until the end of your life), so the idea is that you treat the love of your life like, well, the love of your life. Being supportive, actively listening to your partner, taking the time to talk issues out, putting in the effort to work through issues and look for compromises—that’s what helps a marriage stay healthy, not dominating the other person.
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Many internet users loved the story. Here’s how some of them reacted to it
I was sitting here, reading the story like: "Oh no. Nonono. NO!... Wait what?... YES! YESYESYESYES!!!" For a second I really believed she would stay with him and continue letting him treat her like sh*t.
Same! I was so worried she was losing weight just for him
Load More Replies... I just loved the word "Twatwaffle". I really need to work it into everyday conversation.
That's exactly what I was thinking. Only I just had to write it all down so I could remember it: "Try to use 'twatwaffle' in a sentence to describe an AH guy."
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My husband is loving and supportive, and I'm going to do my best to raise our sons the same. Good on this woman, honestly don't understand where these men come from
They come from families with a long history of deliberately disempowering women. He was groomed to treat his partner like this in a relationship, and I bet he was grooming his kids to treat/be treated in the same way. It's hard to grasp in 2022, but some people really do think women should have less autonomy and be kept subservient to men as obedient housewives. I didn't believe it until I met a woman whose ex did exactly that. His whole family was like that.
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I felt sick reading about Chris insisting that she couldn't have a job outside the home and sure enough, he actually admits the motivation behind that demand was to ensure her entrapment! What a pos. I do wonder if she thought he was cheating on her all those years when he went to the company's BTEs, but considering that she ended up going with someone else who worked there tells me she is a beauty inside and out and Chris might have felt threatened. I have a friend who's husband sabatoges her diet on purpose to keep her "plump" so she's less desirable to others. Same issue, different tactic. This is one of the best stories of revenge I've read here!
Might want to show what you commented on to your friend.
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Twat waffle and snogglegoster... Now I have two favorite new names to call horrible people
Me and my sisters have said twatwaffles for years. It’s nice to know people are bringing it back!
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My ex told me "Lose 30 lbs and i will knock you up," when we talked about kids - I lost 165 lbs that day. Good on the wife for doing the same.
Thank God you woke up that day and walked away.
Load More Replies... About 6 years ago, my BF was married to an abusive gaslighting narcissist who cheated on him on their one-year anniversary. He lost 80lbs during the last 4 months with her because he had just been diagnosed as a type-1 diabetic and she was using his money to buy a Switch, or get her hair done ($450) and he couldn't afford buy his insulin. When he sees people who knew him when he was overweight, he likes to tell them that he dropped 350lbs: 80lbs and his ex-wife LOL
I think he attended the black tie event alone because it's an abusive tactic to keep the wife at home and severely restrict where she can go, to program her into believing she's only capable of being home and going to a couple limited locations like the grocery store. I know this sounds extreme; I couldn't believe this really happens until I met someone whose husband did exactly this to her.
Also the fact that he accused her every time she got a haircut or ran errands of cheating... It has the same results. It restricts her movements for fear of being accused of something she clearly wasn't doing.
Load More Replies... The guy was a real AH. I hope the "friend" she dated, who works with her ex, turns out to be a winner. Wouldn't THAT just roast her ex's b*lls.
So glad she got out. I remember some years ago listening to a friend of my cousin talking about how she was struggling to lose the weight she gained while pregnant. Maybe 10 pounds or so, she looked great. Her motivation was that her BF refused to sleep with her until she did. The baby was less then 6 months old.
That’s disgusting. I hope she eventually got out of that relationship.
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What a great story! I love a happy ending for Jen. However, I think I want pictures with great descriptive words like "borderline morbidly obese twatwaffle". Twatwaffle, a punk band that plays at Waffle House after dark?
I liked the story until the very end because the worth of a woman, no matter how old or skilled she is, does NOT depend on which man wants her or not. FFS.
I see how it could be read that way but I didn't read it like that. I read it more as she got the situations she wanted once she realized she was actually being abused. I think I also tend to think the best of people that have been in a difficult situation so I might be looking at it idealistically
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UUUUUUGGHHHHH I DON’T GET IT. Double standers are so annoying. Apart from the verbal abuse, this is just downright awful. I don’t even know what to say. Good on her for leaving that price of s**t
"So, how do you like me now douchebag?" Quickest weight loss program is called divorce. Get back is such a b***h...haha. Perfect way to call him out..in public with all those coworkers. WBTW all probably expected he was a dickwad, but she just confirmed it.🤣😈😼🐲
I've seen a few divorced men hit the gym and get "back into shape" after they got divorced. It's creepy if it is only so they can get laid.
I've never felt more appreciative to have a husband who likes my body however it is than reading this tonight. He was into me when I was way too thin and later when I filled out a bit, pregnant, sick, pregnant fat, athletic & fit, thin but not toned, fit fat, and my latest old fat, he's into all of it, likes to show me off like a trophy no matter how awful I think I look. We've been together just over 30 years now...I kinda think he's in love with my hair - no matter, he likes my natural grey highlights. Luckiest woman in the world. Still, I'm working on losing weight for me and he loves that too.
"Jen politely declined my offer to castrate Chris." Its the thought that counts. Sounds like he's a good brother that knows emotional abuse when he sees it. Everyone should have supportive siblings like him. Takes a real a*****e to leave his wife at home with the kids while he goes to a black tie party year after year. Its likely he was cheating on her as well. Smh.
It's the woman's sister telling the story, not a brother.
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i'm making a note of the word "twatwaffle" ... i want to use it more often in conversation :) and this guy definitely seems to fit that description
This is what angers me about traditional gender roles: it winds up being an excuse for the dad to be an absolute piece of s**t, 8/10 times.
This has nothing to do with "gender roles", traditional or not. It is about martial abuse. Why is it necessary to drag in labels and boxes, especially when you are, perhaps unwittingly, denigrating about 50% of women in America who chose to not work outside the home, but rather be a *FULL TIME* financial planner, accountant, family counselor, career guidance counselor, dietitian, chef, interior decorator, tutor chauffer, ETC and, yes, maid service ... But most importantly, a MOM.
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I was reading this first thinking, "honey, throw the whole husband away!" And then I was grinning when she DID!!! I love these stories!!!
Why are these people having so many kids? Leave some planet for the rest of us! I don't want to fight a militia of people in genetic uniform just to get a job or a drink of water in 2040.
Okay, wonderful! You're child free great! Don't be a d bag just because there are those of us who are glad we have children. We are not using up all of the world's resources...
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She carried your children for about 9 months at a time for each child. And you repay her for mocking her weight and body changes from it. You don't deserve to have a family or kids with that attitude. Let someone who treats her better take over. Some men are just complete tools. The men who are great, we do appreciate you.
Here I'm thinking it's either one of those a*s-backwards states that doesn't typically give 50/50 custody... Or "Chris" is just an exceptionally bad father.
There is a line in a 1987 Game Theory song - "'hubby red-faced after bizarre weight-loss ritual '" - the song is 'The Waist and the Knees' from the 'Lolita Nation' LP - that's a hell of a coincidence!
My mom's second husband was a whale. 600 pounds, and diabetes that eventually killed him. I've always been fat, but not obese...untill now at 46, and working on it. That hateful, abusive man hurt me physically & mentally for about 15 years. He'd play the Elephant Walk sound when I was moving & call me a piggy in the mud when not moving. I was made to start dieting at 9 years old, and so began my eating disorders. I'm better now, but I'm still mad for my child self.
I'm curious how people would react if he had tried to get both her and himself involved with more exercise activities to lower both of their weights. While this guy seems like a jerk, there is the legitimate case of a someone feeling less attracted to their partner because they gain a lot of weight. How do you work on improving your partner's health without insulting them?
I remember my husband saying, “Why don’t you look more like Amy Adams?” after we watched American Hustle. Never forgot that though he doesn’t remember saying it of course. Yes, if I did, I’d be a movie star too. I had gained some weight and tried to get healthier a few times over the years but nothing worked. He’d always say when I embarked on a new plan (and I do have health, nutrition and fitness knowledge from university), “Why do you think this time will work, when it didn’t before?” So encouraging. Well, I started having terrible stomach issues and other symptoms and was diagnosed with a digestive disorder called Sibo by my naturopath (an allopathic Dr. didn’t really help - only gave me pills to reduce stomach acid). I followed a special restrictive diet protocol to relieve my symptoms which included nausea, vomiting and chronic fatigue, then reset my gut flora. As a side effect I lost all the extra weight I had been carrying for a dozen years (since I think I had antibiotics).
I went from a size 12 to a 4/6 - at age 52, and now have a collection of bikinis. I’ll be 54 soon and was told recently I still look 35. He never said anything positive about my transformation. He doesn’t look after himself and was recently diagnosed with diabetes and needs extensive dental work to repair his teeth since he only brushes once a day. Won’t let me help him when my diet would possibly reverse his diabetes. Now I have to go back out there and find a job after looking after his father who battled a bone cancer for several years. I did leave him at one point during the pandemic but he talked me into coming back when the dad’s health got worse and he and his mother couldn’t cope. I do regret not breaking free at times but I know I was meant to care for my FIL to make his life a little better as we had some fun times when I took him out for his appts. We’d bring the dog, go shopping, have little adventures. It is hard to feel confident when you live with someone negative.
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If your company would punish you based on the "image" of someone who doesn't even work there, then you are working for the wrong employer.
Load More Replies... I was sitting here, reading the story like: "Oh no. Nonono. NO!... Wait what?... YES! YESYESYESYES!!!" For a second I really believed she would stay with him and continue letting him treat her like sh*t.
Same! I was so worried she was losing weight just for him
Load More Replies... I just loved the word "Twatwaffle". I really need to work it into everyday conversation.
That's exactly what I was thinking. Only I just had to write it all down so I could remember it: "Try to use 'twatwaffle' in a sentence to describe an AH guy."
Load More Replies... My husband is loving and supportive, and I'm going to do my best to raise our sons the same. Good on this woman, honestly don't understand where these men come from
They come from families with a long history of deliberately disempowering women. He was groomed to treat his partner like this in a relationship, and I bet he was grooming his kids to treat/be treated in the same way. It's hard to grasp in 2022, but some people really do think women should have less autonomy and be kept subservient to men as obedient housewives. I didn't believe it until I met a woman whose ex did exactly that. His whole family was like that.
Load More Replies... I felt sick reading about Chris insisting that she couldn't have a job outside the home and sure enough, he actually admits the motivation behind that demand was to ensure her entrapment! What a pos. I do wonder if she thought he was cheating on her all those years when he went to the company's BTEs, but considering that she ended up going with someone else who worked there tells me she is a beauty inside and out and Chris might have felt threatened. I have a friend who's husband sabatoges her diet on purpose to keep her "plump" so she's less desirable to others. Same issue, different tactic. This is one of the best stories of revenge I've read here!
Might want to show what you commented on to your friend.
Load More Replies... Twat waffle and snogglegoster... Now I have two favorite new names to call horrible people
Me and my sisters have said twatwaffles for years. It’s nice to know people are bringing it back!
Load More Replies... My ex told me "Lose 30 lbs and i will knock you up," when we talked about kids - I lost 165 lbs that day. Good on the wife for doing the same.
Thank God you woke up that day and walked away.
Load More Replies... About 6 years ago, my BF was married to an abusive gaslighting narcissist who cheated on him on their one-year anniversary. He lost 80lbs during the last 4 months with her because he had just been diagnosed as a type-1 diabetic and she was using his money to buy a Switch, or get her hair done ($450) and he couldn't afford buy his insulin. When he sees people who knew him when he was overweight, he likes to tell them that he dropped 350lbs: 80lbs and his ex-wife LOL
I think he attended the black tie event alone because it's an abusive tactic to keep the wife at home and severely restrict where she can go, to program her into believing she's only capable of being home and going to a couple limited locations like the grocery store. I know this sounds extreme; I couldn't believe this really happens until I met someone whose husband did exactly this to her.
Also the fact that he accused her every time she got a haircut or ran errands of cheating... It has the same results. It restricts her movements for fear of being accused of something she clearly wasn't doing.
Load More Replies... The guy was a real AH. I hope the "friend" she dated, who works with her ex, turns out to be a winner. Wouldn't THAT just roast her ex's b*lls.
So glad she got out. I remember some years ago listening to a friend of my cousin talking about how she was struggling to lose the weight she gained while pregnant. Maybe 10 pounds or so, she looked great. Her motivation was that her BF refused to sleep with her until she did. The baby was less then 6 months old.
That’s disgusting. I hope she eventually got out of that relationship.
Load More Replies... What a great story! I love a happy ending for Jen. However, I think I want pictures with great descriptive words like "borderline morbidly obese twatwaffle". Twatwaffle, a punk band that plays at Waffle House after dark?
I liked the story until the very end because the worth of a woman, no matter how old or skilled she is, does NOT depend on which man wants her or not. FFS.
I see how it could be read that way but I didn't read it like that. I read it more as she got the situations she wanted once she realized she was actually being abused. I think I also tend to think the best of people that have been in a difficult situation so I might be looking at it idealistically
Load More Replies... UUUUUUGGHHHHH I DON’T GET IT. Double standers are so annoying. Apart from the verbal abuse, this is just downright awful. I don’t even know what to say. Good on her for leaving that price of s**t
"So, how do you like me now douchebag?" Quickest weight loss program is called divorce. Get back is such a b***h...haha. Perfect way to call him out..in public with all those coworkers. WBTW all probably expected he was a dickwad, but she just confirmed it.🤣😈😼🐲
I've seen a few divorced men hit the gym and get "back into shape" after they got divorced. It's creepy if it is only so they can get laid.
I've never felt more appreciative to have a husband who likes my body however it is than reading this tonight. He was into me when I was way too thin and later when I filled out a bit, pregnant, sick, pregnant fat, athletic & fit, thin but not toned, fit fat, and my latest old fat, he's into all of it, likes to show me off like a trophy no matter how awful I think I look. We've been together just over 30 years now...I kinda think he's in love with my hair - no matter, he likes my natural grey highlights. Luckiest woman in the world. Still, I'm working on losing weight for me and he loves that too.
"Jen politely declined my offer to castrate Chris." Its the thought that counts. Sounds like he's a good brother that knows emotional abuse when he sees it. Everyone should have supportive siblings like him. Takes a real a*****e to leave his wife at home with the kids while he goes to a black tie party year after year. Its likely he was cheating on her as well. Smh.
It's the woman's sister telling the story, not a brother.
Load More Replies... i'm making a note of the word "twatwaffle" ... i want to use it more often in conversation :) and this guy definitely seems to fit that description
This is what angers me about traditional gender roles: it winds up being an excuse for the dad to be an absolute piece of s**t, 8/10 times.
This has nothing to do with "gender roles", traditional or not. It is about martial abuse. Why is it necessary to drag in labels and boxes, especially when you are, perhaps unwittingly, denigrating about 50% of women in America who chose to not work outside the home, but rather be a *FULL TIME* financial planner, accountant, family counselor, career guidance counselor, dietitian, chef, interior decorator, tutor chauffer, ETC and, yes, maid service ... But most importantly, a MOM.
Load More Replies... I was reading this first thinking, "honey, throw the whole husband away!" And then I was grinning when she DID!!! I love these stories!!!
Why are these people having so many kids? Leave some planet for the rest of us! I don't want to fight a militia of people in genetic uniform just to get a job or a drink of water in 2040.
Okay, wonderful! You're child free great! Don't be a d bag just because there are those of us who are glad we have children. We are not using up all of the world's resources...
Load More Replies... She carried your children for about 9 months at a time for each child. And you repay her for mocking her weight and body changes from it. You don't deserve to have a family or kids with that attitude. Let someone who treats her better take over. Some men are just complete tools. The men who are great, we do appreciate you.
Here I'm thinking it's either one of those a*s-backwards states that doesn't typically give 50/50 custody... Or "Chris" is just an exceptionally bad father.
There is a line in a 1987 Game Theory song - "'hubby red-faced after bizarre weight-loss ritual '" - the song is 'The Waist and the Knees' from the 'Lolita Nation' LP - that's a hell of a coincidence!
My mom's second husband was a whale. 600 pounds, and diabetes that eventually killed him. I've always been fat, but not obese...untill now at 46, and working on it. That hateful, abusive man hurt me physically & mentally for about 15 years. He'd play the Elephant Walk sound when I was moving & call me a piggy in the mud when not moving. I was made to start dieting at 9 years old, and so began my eating disorders. I'm better now, but I'm still mad for my child self.
I'm curious how people would react if he had tried to get both her and himself involved with more exercise activities to lower both of their weights. While this guy seems like a jerk, there is the legitimate case of a someone feeling less attracted to their partner because they gain a lot of weight. How do you work on improving your partner's health without insulting them?
I remember my husband saying, “Why don’t you look more like Amy Adams?” after we watched American Hustle. Never forgot that though he doesn’t remember saying it of course. Yes, if I did, I’d be a movie star too. I had gained some weight and tried to get healthier a few times over the years but nothing worked. He’d always say when I embarked on a new plan (and I do have health, nutrition and fitness knowledge from university), “Why do you think this time will work, when it didn’t before?” So encouraging. Well, I started having terrible stomach issues and other symptoms and was diagnosed with a digestive disorder called Sibo by my naturopath (an allopathic Dr. didn’t really help - only gave me pills to reduce stomach acid). I followed a special restrictive diet protocol to relieve my symptoms which included nausea, vomiting and chronic fatigue, then reset my gut flora. As a side effect I lost all the extra weight I had been carrying for a dozen years (since I think I had antibiotics).
I went from a size 12 to a 4/6 - at age 52, and now have a collection of bikinis. I’ll be 54 soon and was told recently I still look 35. He never said anything positive about my transformation. He doesn’t look after himself and was recently diagnosed with diabetes and needs extensive dental work to repair his teeth since he only brushes once a day. Won’t let me help him when my diet would possibly reverse his diabetes. Now I have to go back out there and find a job after looking after his father who battled a bone cancer for several years. I did leave him at one point during the pandemic but he talked me into coming back when the dad’s health got worse and he and his mother couldn’t cope. I do regret not breaking free at times but I know I was meant to care for my FIL to make his life a little better as we had some fun times when I took him out for his appts. We’d bring the dog, go shopping, have little adventures. It is hard to feel confident when you live with someone negative.
Load More Replies... If your company would punish you based on the "image" of someone who doesn't even work there, then you are working for the wrong employer.
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