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“I Broke Her”: Man Destroys Wife’s Confidence With One Sentence, She Checks Out From Relationship
If you’ve ever spent time with a couple that sees no wrong in belittling or nagging one another in public, you know how uncomfortable these situations can get for everyone involved.
A few days ago, Reddit user TemppThrowawa submitted a story to the platform’s ‘True Off My Chest‘ community about inadvertently becoming one of these people.
The man said he was drinking and the alcohol pulled on his tongue, releasing the words “you don’t fall in love with looks” from his mouth. The phrase instantly made his wife feel ugly and his damage control isn’t working.
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How you treat your spouse in public often reflects the dynamics of your relationship
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So when this man said a hurtful remark about his wife, she began thinking about bigger underlying issues at play
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Does alcohol make you tell the truth?
Belisa Vranich, a clinical psychologist specializing in alcohol addiction, says that there’s usually some version of one’s true feelings that come out when they’re drunk.
“People dredge up feelings and sentiments from somewhere deep in their brains, so what one says or does certainly reflects what’s going on deep down,” she explained.
Alcohol affects the cerebral cortex, which is what makes a person more likely to act and speak in ways they may not when sober.
“There’s a lot of truth to that ancient Latin saying, ‘in vino, veritas.’ Alcohol can most definitely act as a truth serum — something that allows people to say what is truly on their mind.”
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“I was drunk” may not be a good way to avoid responsibility for your behavior
According to research published in the Journal of Abnormal Psychology, a publication of the American Psychological Association, people under the influence of alcohol are simply less bothered by, and oftentimes do not care about the repercussions.
The 67 participants in the study, aged 21-35, were split into three groups. The first two groups received a placebo alcohol while the third group got the real thing. The participants in the third group drank until their blood alcohol content was at about .09 percent – just over the legal driving limit.
Participants then completed a computer task, in which they were asked to identify flashing pictures of tools and guns. The researchers found that all groups made mistakes. Afterward, each participant was asked if they answered the previous question correctly, incorrectly, or were unsure.
“People who were drunk were just as likely to admit their mistake as those who were sober,” said Bruce Bartholow, author of the study and associate professor at the University of Missouri, adding that sober participants adjusted their behaviors and would slow down on the next trial after making an error, while intoxicated participants continued to make errors without adjustment.
“People need to be aware of where they are drinking and who they are with to understand the implications of their possible actions,” Bartholow explained.
He said because people are aware of their behavior while intoxicated, they should be liable for their actions.
After sharing the story, the man soon reiterated how he attempted to damage control
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Couples need to be on each other’s side while in public
In the Redditor’s defense, you could argue that our inner resources aren’t infinite and when our batteries are drained, there’s less vigilance and self-monitoring even when you actively cultivate love.
But as husband, father, and author of Friends, Partners, and Lovers Kevin A. Thompson points out, healthy marriages consist of two people who can discern the difference between public and private things.
“I never want to embarrass my wife because of my actions,” he writes in his blog. “At times this isn’t avoidable–because of my own ignorance–but in most situations, if I make wise decisions she will not be embarrassed by me.”
“The most common way I see husbands embarrassing their wives is by losing control of themselves–either because of alcohol or anger.”
Thompson says that oftentimes when men lose control, they aren’t aware enough to feel embarrassed for themselves so their wives are embarrassed for them.
“In accidental embarrassments, my wife must be gracious but also willing to tell me what I have done. In all situations, I must ensure that I don’t make her ashamed to be associated with me.”
People think there’s more to this particular situation than meets the eye
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MR 1 year ago (edited)
Her reaction doesn't fit his words. Drunk or not, any rational person can understand what he was trying to say and that it wasn't insulting at all. In a healthy relationship, at worst you get some minor ribbing for your inarticulation. This is likely not the first time or your memory of what you actually said is so far from the truth you don't actually know what really happened. Either way, waiting 6 months to figure that out is insane. This relationship is very clearly over.
JLo 1 year ago
I agree. What he said wasn't that bad. He didn't say she was ugly, only that looks wasn't the only thing important thing that mattered to him in finding a partner. Why is this woman's self-esteem linked to one off-hand comment? She knows that she is attractive apparently. He misspoke. There must be more to his behavior than this. Either her issues with him are much bigger than he knows/admits to, or she has very low self-esteem. What is she going to do when her looks do fade?
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Ash 1 year ago
The way it's worded in this post, I can see how he didn't mean to say that she was ugly. I wonder if that's how he actually worded it at the time? I agree that there must have been more going on in the marriage. The way he wrote it almost sounds more like a slip of the tongue than a divorceable action.
Aurora 7 months ago
He wrote another post, talking about them going to counseling together. She straight up asked if he found her attractive when they met, and he couldn't bring himself to say yes. Then when she told him she wanted a divorce, he lied to both families and made them all turn on her.
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Deborah B 1 year ago
From the reaction, I'm guessing the way he actually worded it was a lot worse than he's presenting it. My bet is that he not only implied or outright stated that she was less attractive than his ex, he also implied that her appearance had gotten worse after marriage/pregnancy/aging, and that he married her because he valued her for her potential to be "a good wife and mother." or something similar that linked her value to his comfort, rather than her personality, intellect, mind, etc. There's a big difference between "Looks don't last, marry someone who's a good cook and housekeeper, look at me and wife" and "Don't chose someone just for looks. Ex was beautiful, but that was all she had to offer, so it wasn't enough. Wife is beautiful, and she's so much more than just beautiful - She's kind, funny, smart, loving, etc etc, those are the things that made me fall in love with her, and the things that mean she'll still be the most beautiful woman in the world to mewhen we're 80."
Zedrapazia 1 year ago
Would make sense as the way it sounds now, it's not even insulting
Load More Replies... Christine 1 year ago
Yeah, something isn't right. I think he said a lot more than he thinks he said; I think we are hearing a very airbrushed version of that particular event, and what led up to it. There's a long story here, but whatever it is, she is done.
madbakes 1 year ago
If I was her, I'd also be disconnecting since he didn't seem to take any real steps to mend the marriage.
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Pyla 1 year ago
I think saying something like that out loud is enough to really make a person rethink the relationship. If this was the 50's or 60's a woman would be pressured into improving herself. Now she's taken a blow of betrayal from the one person she believed thought she was beautiful. I don't know why people need more information. She's processing it her way. He screwed up. And even saying "you are beautiful" is going to feel false with the elephant in the room of what he said to a friend. I don't blame her.
Auntriarch 1 year ago
He doesn't need to talk to her, he needs to listen to her. This won't be the first thing he's done or said, nobody goes from 0-60 like that unless they're doolally. Sad she couldn't see it as it was meant though (speaking as a not particularly physically attractive second chance)
Papa 1 year ago
I can understand her taking what he said the wrong way. I don't understand her staying mad long after he explained what he really meant. Either there have been other things he's done and this just put the finishing touches on it, or she overreacted. I will not speculate on which one it is.
Zedrapazia 1 year ago
I have an honest question regarding that, because either I'm not understanding something or I'm just a bit off the rails. If I got it right, he said that looks aren't everything and he loves his wife more than the ex, because the ex was just looks and nothing beyond that (but the wife is). I ... don't see how that's an insult in all honesty. I've been telling similar things to my fiance and vice versa, that I love him for who he is and don't give a duck about what could be if he was better looking, and it was always seen as a compliment for us. But given the story here, the OPs wife took it as an insult. I'd like to know why, because to me, I don't understand how everyone sees this as so s****y.
Rebecca Sherwood 1 year ago
He admits he was drunk so it likely came out worse than what he posted and doesn’t remember it clearly. But there’s obviously more going on there. One drunken insult doesn’t usually break a 7 year marriage. Also he doesn’t mention trying to woo her back in the 6 months since. Simply saying I love you and not making any changes to try to fix the relationship isn’t good enough. It requires some action. Flowers or favorite sweets or momentos, ask her out on nice dates, work hard on that hubby do list that’s been sitting untouched, have the kids picked up from school by grandma and turn the house into a romantic getaway with all the things you knew she loved, literally anything and everything to get her to open up again. Once she opens the door find out what can be done to fix it in the long term and do it. If you’ve tried every bit of wooing and “I’m sorry” possible and she won’t open up then it’s over and he should ask her if a divorce is what she wants. If not, then what does she want.
Load More Replies... BoredPangolin 1 year ago
Weird, there must be more than that. I mean, he said he loved his wife better than his ex, whom he dated just for the look. Isn't it a bit snowflakes to be hurt because your husband, under influence, blurt out that he dated someone prettier before??? After having 3 kids with the guy? They are no teens! I'm sure there is more to it. In a stable relationship, you know full well your strengtht and your flaws and you're realistic. I ain't the prettiest, smartest, easiest person on the planet, but my man doesn't seem to go anywhere 🤔 I would tease him to death till I die about that one tho.
Stacy Jones 1 year ago
I once claimed while drunk that I was a "linguistics expert," and that a certain derogatory slur about women was the oldest word in the English language. (I quit drinking not too long after.) I understand the compulsion to assign "in vino veritas" to drunk utterances, but I don't think it's quite that cut and dry.
Featherking 1 year ago (edited)
I’d say you’re right. Which studies also show, but I can’t remember where I read that article so I can’t prove it. As a matter of fact, alcohol tends to make people lie their heads off, on purpose or because of intoxication and confusion on facts. Which is also backed up a bit by my personal experience.
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Callie Ge 1 year ago
With those few words , You made your wife feel Ugly, unattractive, not sexy, you may not have “ meant it that way” but what you conveyed was that you “Settled” that you chose second best & she was not your first choice as a wife, that her entire marriage is a lie & that if you find someone “better” you will leave her. I cannot impress on you how deeply you have hurt her with your ill chosen words, what ever love & trust she had for you died in those few minutes. IF you genuinely want to save your marriage YOU Must arrange marriage counselling. YOU, Need to get off the booze. YOU need to plead with your wife to attend the counselling with you, go alone if she won’t go, maybe if she sees you making a real effort she may join you. You need to WRITE HER A LETTER, Expressing how you really feel about her & for goodness sake don’t mention past girl friends.
Charles McChristy 1 year ago
Dude, she's already gone. I guarantee she is already talking to other men. You f***** up bad.
Bored something 1 year ago
I wonder of what he said was actually worse than how he said it here. He's had 6 months to misremember t and he was drunk at the time. It may have been along the lines of he went for looks last time and it went bad and so he didn't make that mistake this time. Leaving it 6 months is a long time for her to stew and move on.
Jon Steensen 6 months ago
People need to get real. Are you the most beautiful person in the world? Probably not, as there can only be one to hold that title. You can't get everything, and every relationship is a compromise, where you have live with there being room for improvement when it comes to some parameters, but that being more than mae up for in other areas. Going from "he thinks that there is someone out there that is more beautiful than me" to "he thinks I am ugly" is on her. Sure he might have settled a bit on the looks side, but so does everyone in the real world, and she should know that. It doesn't mean that she is completely unattractive.
Petra brown 7 months ago
He did not break her. He woke her up to who he is. Dollars to peanuts it did not go down the way he told it. Most likely this was not the first time he disparaged her in front of others. She is much better off looking at this guy in the rearview mirror.
Monica G 9 months ago (edited)
UPDATE: She is divorcing OP after he told her he doesn't find her attractive. https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/1bhq3sz/update_i_broke_my_wife_and_i_dont_think_it_is/ I think it is insulting how he is saying "I broke her". He mostly broke her trust in them.
Dashaun Snipes 1 year ago
You | Poem: Once upon a time, I thought I knew you. It's just amazing the new you. Life has been good and on your side to keep you. Who are you to me love? I've been going down, way down, and when I look up to see your hands stretching out for me, how is it I don't recognize you. You stopped by disgrace to see if you could find yourself within me. No, it's only you, all about you, from you, because of you outlying the standard. You never know about your own unless you fall asleep and then wake up beside nobody else to comfort you and your mind, how you can do so high, and have the whole wide world to be paralyzed by the thought of you, you're Omni anarchy, it's just like you are taking over the Stars, the moon, the places that be, and the state we're in, but everyone is not afraid of you, but envy you. You have left a stain, yet everyday the universe will know your name as a Reigning King, so if you are real, come save me from the edge of a sword. Save me from the barrel of a firearm, and show me that you are in control. Stop the blood from oozing over my spirit, and maybe make it like it was you. Unlikely, like you to work and want to be known as nameless Jay. Are you too a blue Jay of the mornings glory? Singing sweet Melodies of memories about the heaven, for heavens sake, why don't you respond to the empty room for me, I might catch the echo and rhythm vibrate through the ears of the night wind before your knowing. You. You. Only you. Authorship by Mr. Dashaun Rashod Snipes ©Mr. Dashaun Rashod Snipes ® You
Caroline Yates 1 year ago
Look, I’m maybe trying to translate what was said…. But I agree with him you fall in lust with just looks, and looks only. You fall in LOVE with the person beneath those looks. My hubby and are absolute polar opposites of what we’re generally attracted to, but he is my absolute world, and you couldn’t pay me enough to leave him! I think OP meant well, but just delivered his thoughts carelessly…. Old mate alcohol will do that! I hope you can reconcile, a passing comment like that shouldn’t give reason enough to make a marriage break down
weatherwitch 1 year ago
There are so many different types of attraction and not that many people realise that. Sexual attraction, physical attraction, asthestic attraction, emotional attraction etc etc I assume that's what he was drawn to but didn't word things well. However he's done little to explain it and he's knocked her confidence Completely. There is something else going on that he's utterly oblivious too. She struggling too. Marriage counselling or something is urgently needed here.
theoneandonlynoira 1 year ago
Tbh I think she overreacted. However this was not the only thing that messed up their relationship. He should prep for the divorce or instigate it, hanging around for years just isn't beneficial to either person.
Mikey Kliss 1 year ago
If she's not divorcing him immediately then she's looking for an affair that'll hopefully take her away
Rebecca Sherwood 1 year ago
Not necessarily. Some women will stay in a loveless marriage for security. Or for the wellbeing of the kids until they are grown. And many of them will stay faithful during that time because they see it has part of the marriage contract. Intimacy is not actually a requirement of marriage but usually by societal standards fidelity is.
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Spittnimage 1 year ago
He didn't break her self confidence, if he had she wouldn't be posting pictures of herself on social media.
MR 1 year ago (edited)
Her reaction doesn't fit his words. Drunk or not, any rational person can understand what he was trying to say and that it wasn't insulting at all. In a healthy relationship, at worst you get some minor ribbing for your inarticulation. This is likely not the first time or your memory of what you actually said is so far from the truth you don't actually know what really happened. Either way, waiting 6 months to figure that out is insane. This relationship is very clearly over.
JLo 1 year ago
I agree. What he said wasn't that bad. He didn't say she was ugly, only that looks wasn't the only thing important thing that mattered to him in finding a partner. Why is this woman's self-esteem linked to one off-hand comment? She knows that she is attractive apparently. He misspoke. There must be more to his behavior than this. Either her issues with him are much bigger than he knows/admits to, or she has very low self-esteem. What is she going to do when her looks do fade?
Load More Replies... Ash 1 year ago
The way it's worded in this post, I can see how he didn't mean to say that she was ugly. I wonder if that's how he actually worded it at the time? I agree that there must have been more going on in the marriage. The way he wrote it almost sounds more like a slip of the tongue than a divorceable action.
Aurora 7 months ago
He wrote another post, talking about them going to counseling together. She straight up asked if he found her attractive when they met, and he couldn't bring himself to say yes. Then when she told him she wanted a divorce, he lied to both families and made them all turn on her.
Load More Replies... Deborah B 1 year ago
From the reaction, I'm guessing the way he actually worded it was a lot worse than he's presenting it. My bet is that he not only implied or outright stated that she was less attractive than his ex, he also implied that her appearance had gotten worse after marriage/pregnancy/aging, and that he married her because he valued her for her potential to be "a good wife and mother." or something similar that linked her value to his comfort, rather than her personality, intellect, mind, etc. There's a big difference between "Looks don't last, marry someone who's a good cook and housekeeper, look at me and wife" and "Don't chose someone just for looks. Ex was beautiful, but that was all she had to offer, so it wasn't enough. Wife is beautiful, and she's so much more than just beautiful - She's kind, funny, smart, loving, etc etc, those are the things that made me fall in love with her, and the things that mean she'll still be the most beautiful woman in the world to mewhen we're 80."
Zedrapazia 1 year ago
Would make sense as the way it sounds now, it's not even insulting
Load More Replies... Christine 1 year ago
Yeah, something isn't right. I think he said a lot more than he thinks he said; I think we are hearing a very airbrushed version of that particular event, and what led up to it. There's a long story here, but whatever it is, she is done.
madbakes 1 year ago
If I was her, I'd also be disconnecting since he didn't seem to take any real steps to mend the marriage.
Load More Replies... Pyla 1 year ago
I think saying something like that out loud is enough to really make a person rethink the relationship. If this was the 50's or 60's a woman would be pressured into improving herself. Now she's taken a blow of betrayal from the one person she believed thought she was beautiful. I don't know why people need more information. She's processing it her way. He screwed up. And even saying "you are beautiful" is going to feel false with the elephant in the room of what he said to a friend. I don't blame her.
Auntriarch 1 year ago
He doesn't need to talk to her, he needs to listen to her. This won't be the first thing he's done or said, nobody goes from 0-60 like that unless they're doolally. Sad she couldn't see it as it was meant though (speaking as a not particularly physically attractive second chance)
Papa 1 year ago
I can understand her taking what he said the wrong way. I don't understand her staying mad long after he explained what he really meant. Either there have been other things he's done and this just put the finishing touches on it, or she overreacted. I will not speculate on which one it is.
Zedrapazia 1 year ago
I have an honest question regarding that, because either I'm not understanding something or I'm just a bit off the rails. If I got it right, he said that looks aren't everything and he loves his wife more than the ex, because the ex was just looks and nothing beyond that (but the wife is). I ... don't see how that's an insult in all honesty. I've been telling similar things to my fiance and vice versa, that I love him for who he is and don't give a duck about what could be if he was better looking, and it was always seen as a compliment for us. But given the story here, the OPs wife took it as an insult. I'd like to know why, because to me, I don't understand how everyone sees this as so s****y.
Rebecca Sherwood 1 year ago
He admits he was drunk so it likely came out worse than what he posted and doesn’t remember it clearly. But there’s obviously more going on there. One drunken insult doesn’t usually break a 7 year marriage. Also he doesn’t mention trying to woo her back in the 6 months since. Simply saying I love you and not making any changes to try to fix the relationship isn’t good enough. It requires some action. Flowers or favorite sweets or momentos, ask her out on nice dates, work hard on that hubby do list that’s been sitting untouched, have the kids picked up from school by grandma and turn the house into a romantic getaway with all the things you knew she loved, literally anything and everything to get her to open up again. Once she opens the door find out what can be done to fix it in the long term and do it. If you’ve tried every bit of wooing and “I’m sorry” possible and she won’t open up then it’s over and he should ask her if a divorce is what she wants. If not, then what does she want.
Load More Replies... BoredPangolin 1 year ago
Weird, there must be more than that. I mean, he said he loved his wife better than his ex, whom he dated just for the look. Isn't it a bit snowflakes to be hurt because your husband, under influence, blurt out that he dated someone prettier before??? After having 3 kids with the guy? They are no teens! I'm sure there is more to it. In a stable relationship, you know full well your strengtht and your flaws and you're realistic. I ain't the prettiest, smartest, easiest person on the planet, but my man doesn't seem to go anywhere 🤔 I would tease him to death till I die about that one tho.
Stacy Jones 1 year ago
I once claimed while drunk that I was a "linguistics expert," and that a certain derogatory slur about women was the oldest word in the English language. (I quit drinking not too long after.) I understand the compulsion to assign "in vino veritas" to drunk utterances, but I don't think it's quite that cut and dry.
Featherking 1 year ago (edited)
I’d say you’re right. Which studies also show, but I can’t remember where I read that article so I can’t prove it. As a matter of fact, alcohol tends to make people lie their heads off, on purpose or because of intoxication and confusion on facts. Which is also backed up a bit by my personal experience.
Load More Replies... Callie Ge 1 year ago
With those few words , You made your wife feel Ugly, unattractive, not sexy, you may not have “ meant it that way” but what you conveyed was that you “Settled” that you chose second best & she was not your first choice as a wife, that her entire marriage is a lie & that if you find someone “better” you will leave her. I cannot impress on you how deeply you have hurt her with your ill chosen words, what ever love & trust she had for you died in those few minutes. IF you genuinely want to save your marriage YOU Must arrange marriage counselling. YOU, Need to get off the booze. YOU need to plead with your wife to attend the counselling with you, go alone if she won’t go, maybe if she sees you making a real effort she may join you. You need to WRITE HER A LETTER, Expressing how you really feel about her & for goodness sake don’t mention past girl friends.
Charles McChristy 1 year ago
Dude, she's already gone. I guarantee she is already talking to other men. You f***** up bad.
Bored something 1 year ago
I wonder of what he said was actually worse than how he said it here. He's had 6 months to misremember t and he was drunk at the time. It may have been along the lines of he went for looks last time and it went bad and so he didn't make that mistake this time. Leaving it 6 months is a long time for her to stew and move on.
Jon Steensen 6 months ago
People need to get real. Are you the most beautiful person in the world? Probably not, as there can only be one to hold that title. You can't get everything, and every relationship is a compromise, where you have live with there being room for improvement when it comes to some parameters, but that being more than mae up for in other areas. Going from "he thinks that there is someone out there that is more beautiful than me" to "he thinks I am ugly" is on her. Sure he might have settled a bit on the looks side, but so does everyone in the real world, and she should know that. It doesn't mean that she is completely unattractive.
Petra brown 7 months ago
He did not break her. He woke her up to who he is. Dollars to peanuts it did not go down the way he told it. Most likely this was not the first time he disparaged her in front of others. She is much better off looking at this guy in the rearview mirror.
Monica G 9 months ago (edited)
UPDATE: She is divorcing OP after he told her he doesn't find her attractive. https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/1bhq3sz/update_i_broke_my_wife_and_i_dont_think_it_is/ I think it is insulting how he is saying "I broke her". He mostly broke her trust in them.
Dashaun Snipes 1 year ago
You | Poem: Once upon a time, I thought I knew you. It's just amazing the new you. Life has been good and on your side to keep you. Who are you to me love? I've been going down, way down, and when I look up to see your hands stretching out for me, how is it I don't recognize you. You stopped by disgrace to see if you could find yourself within me. No, it's only you, all about you, from you, because of you outlying the standard. You never know about your own unless you fall asleep and then wake up beside nobody else to comfort you and your mind, how you can do so high, and have the whole wide world to be paralyzed by the thought of you, you're Omni anarchy, it's just like you are taking over the Stars, the moon, the places that be, and the state we're in, but everyone is not afraid of you, but envy you. You have left a stain, yet everyday the universe will know your name as a Reigning King, so if you are real, come save me from the edge of a sword. Save me from the barrel of a firearm, and show me that you are in control. Stop the blood from oozing over my spirit, and maybe make it like it was you. Unlikely, like you to work and want to be known as nameless Jay. Are you too a blue Jay of the mornings glory? Singing sweet Melodies of memories about the heaven, for heavens sake, why don't you respond to the empty room for me, I might catch the echo and rhythm vibrate through the ears of the night wind before your knowing. You. You. Only you. Authorship by Mr. Dashaun Rashod Snipes ©Mr. Dashaun Rashod Snipes ® You
Caroline Yates 1 year ago
Look, I’m maybe trying to translate what was said…. But I agree with him you fall in lust with just looks, and looks only. You fall in LOVE with the person beneath those looks. My hubby and are absolute polar opposites of what we’re generally attracted to, but he is my absolute world, and you couldn’t pay me enough to leave him! I think OP meant well, but just delivered his thoughts carelessly…. Old mate alcohol will do that! I hope you can reconcile, a passing comment like that shouldn’t give reason enough to make a marriage break down
weatherwitch 1 year ago
There are so many different types of attraction and not that many people realise that. Sexual attraction, physical attraction, asthestic attraction, emotional attraction etc etc I assume that's what he was drawn to but didn't word things well. However he's done little to explain it and he's knocked her confidence Completely. There is something else going on that he's utterly oblivious too. She struggling too. Marriage counselling or something is urgently needed here.
theoneandonlynoira 1 year ago
Tbh I think she overreacted. However this was not the only thing that messed up their relationship. He should prep for the divorce or instigate it, hanging around for years just isn't beneficial to either person.
Mikey Kliss 1 year ago
If she's not divorcing him immediately then she's looking for an affair that'll hopefully take her away
Rebecca Sherwood 1 year ago
Not necessarily. Some women will stay in a loveless marriage for security. Or for the wellbeing of the kids until they are grown. And many of them will stay faithful during that time because they see it has part of the marriage contract. Intimacy is not actually a requirement of marriage but usually by societal standards fidelity is.
Load More Replies... Spittnimage 1 year ago
He didn't break her self confidence, if he had she wouldn't be posting pictures of herself on social media.
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