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“AITA For Threatening To Make My In-Laws Homeless If They Cannot Understand What Working From Home Means?”
Helping people and being kind to others is an amazing thing that any human being can do. Supporting family members when they need it is something that many of us do without hesitation. Whether it’s offering emotional support, lending a hand with chores or financial assistance, we do it because we love our family and want to see them happy and living a fulfilling life. However, it can be hurtful when we put in effort to help our loved ones, only to receive complaints or criticism in return and understand that they would never do the same for us.
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Help and support – that’s what families are all about, right? Well, not always
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Woman asked the community if she was wrong for giving her in-laws options after living at her family house rent-free with no contribution
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The argument occurred after OP asked her SIL to look after her daughter, but instead she gave this task to her 13-year-old son
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The author was called a jerk for making them sign a lease agreement, because, according to the in-laws, she intended to evict them
The Reddit user “Decent-Reputation231” shared her story to one of Reddit’s communities to ask its members whether she’s wrong for threatening to make her in-laws homeless if they don’t contribute in any way. The post went viral immediately – after 2 days it got 17K upvotes and 1.4K members were engaged in the discussion in the comment section.
The OP starts the story with a brief overview regarding dynamics in her family. The woman shares how she is the main source for her household income and her husband took over all the duties at home. Under unknown circumstances, the husband’s family (sister, her husband and teen kid) had lost their home; the author’s family welcomed them into their rental suite in the basement. The woman added that because of the stories which she has heard when people state that they are tenants, she had them sign a lease.
Recently, the author and her spouse needed someone to watch their daughter as they were both quite busy and there wasn’t much notice in advance. She asked her sister-in-law to watch the baby. And surprise surprise, the woman gave this task to her 13-year-old son, and in the meantime she took a nap.
After figuring out this whole new agenda, the author discussed the situation with her husband and agreed that his family needs to start paying the rent, leave or help with the household duties. After presenting these options to the in-laws, the OP was named a jerk for making them sign a lease and not collecting so she could easily evict them.
The author added more information soon after sharing the post that her in-laws don’t have a job at the moment. There is no information which decision was made, but I am guessing that they stayed in the house.
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The members of this online community justified the poster and gave her a “Not the A-hole” badge. Well, after deeper investigation in the comment section, it is safe to say that the in-laws were wrong in this situation and the author solved the problem the right way. Folks even joked about why the sister-in-law was napping, knowing that she has no job or even no small kid to look after. “I guess running from responsibility can wear you out?” Some people also shared their stories and how they would solve this situation.
For context, according to Linda Nguyen, the finance topic is one of the most frequent sources of conflict in families. The family can experience a great deal of stress as a result of financial uncertainty. A frequent example of this is when a person loses their job or experiences chronic sickness or disability. However, even when finances are stable, fights can start from discussing spending, savings or investments. Another topic that causes the most arguments is parenting style.Jeremy Pollack, who is the CEO of Pollack Peacebuilding Systems, also states that money is the first and foremost reason for family fights.
Additionally, one of the most common conflict types is in-law-related. Well, that is no surprise, because when adding a new set of parents or another adult to the household, personality conflicts are common. And of course, family events conflict. Planning an event is already stressful enough and having family members constantly arguing about minor issues or responsibilities can lead to a heated conversation.
So, how would you have solved this situation? What’s your take on this story?
The majority of community members agreed – the author of the story was not a jerk in this situation
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Mad McQueen 2 years ago
Good thing that her nap was more important than the baby or looking for work while sitting with the baby. I mean come on. Adults who mooch are so entitled these days when people go out of the way to help out. Wow. I'd say sorry you got one month to contribute or be gone. Either cash or cleaning or bye.
Royal Stray 2 years ago
Well she got proven right to have them sign a lease quickly. Although I'm not sure I'd completely trust them after something like that, they sound like the kind of people who would try to get more out of the situation as revenge or start making false claims
Daffydillz~ 2 years ago
NTA. It's irresponsible to hand off the care of someone else's child to a 13 year old. SIL likely fully intended to hand her off as she took on the responsibility, only for her to take a nap. She is just a sad person, if you can't manage your responsibilities for a few hours and want to blame someone else when you get caught being shady and lazy. She may even blame her son as well for taking the child to their mother for a diaper change. I wouldn't put it past someone who behaves the way SIL does. They need to abide by the rules or get out and stop blaming others for their inactions..
Downhomesunset 2 years ago
The fact that the 13 year old would rather come to you than wake up the person who forced this responsibility upon him-his own mother-speaks volumes. Did his mother say “don’t wake me up no matter what!”? Is he afraid of his mom? Is there a possible case of abuse? Mental, physical or sexual; it doesn’t matter. OP might have more things to worry about. Please don’t say I’m being paranoid or reading too much into this. Abuse is no joke……
Kina Mathis 2 years ago
I also found that odd. Lazy, neglectful parents are usually pretty abusive when disturbed. I never heard of a lazy parent that was a good one lol
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Stenhart 71 2 years ago
Out of curiosity.... why don't they have atleast one job, or atleast looking for one? The morality of some people is confusing. No job, not helping, and gets pissed when asked to help out. IMO... when they signed the lease, they became renters, bound by the same laws as any renter. Would you tolerate this from someone else? Would she, in your situation tolerate it?
Jericho Kilmister 2 years ago
Kick 'em out, like, yesterday. The whining about being 'tricked into eviction' is a giant red flag. Keep the kid tho, he seems decent
michele mbennett1010@att.net 2 years ago
Are these mooching a******s doing anything to find jobs? Taking naps during the day while you work to support them, WTF? What are they doing with the unemployment benefits? Maybe kicking them to the curb will get a fire under their asses and they will start looking for a way to take care of themselves. It's your husband's sister and her family, she and her husband are responsible for their lives, not you!
Matt Mosher 2 years ago
The fact they have kids but neither is working is a major red flag. Getting employment should be the most important thing they should be doing other than taking care of their kids. Sounds like they are to comfortable living off unemployment while paying no rent. Having them pay will be a wake-up call. If its not about the money then they could even take the rent they pay and hold it so they have first and last months rent when they decide to find their own place. Either way paying rent will be a wakeup call they need.
Mad McQueen 2 years ago
Good thing that her nap was more important than the baby or looking for work while sitting with the baby. I mean come on. Adults who mooch are so entitled these days when people go out of the way to help out. Wow. I'd say sorry you got one month to contribute or be gone. Either cash or cleaning or bye.
Royal Stray 2 years ago
Well she got proven right to have them sign a lease quickly. Although I'm not sure I'd completely trust them after something like that, they sound like the kind of people who would try to get more out of the situation as revenge or start making false claims
Daffydillz~ 2 years ago
NTA. It's irresponsible to hand off the care of someone else's child to a 13 year old. SIL likely fully intended to hand her off as she took on the responsibility, only for her to take a nap. She is just a sad person, if you can't manage your responsibilities for a few hours and want to blame someone else when you get caught being shady and lazy. She may even blame her son as well for taking the child to their mother for a diaper change. I wouldn't put it past someone who behaves the way SIL does. They need to abide by the rules or get out and stop blaming others for their inactions..
Downhomesunset 2 years ago
The fact that the 13 year old would rather come to you than wake up the person who forced this responsibility upon him-his own mother-speaks volumes. Did his mother say “don’t wake me up no matter what!”? Is he afraid of his mom? Is there a possible case of abuse? Mental, physical or sexual; it doesn’t matter. OP might have more things to worry about. Please don’t say I’m being paranoid or reading too much into this. Abuse is no joke……
Kina Mathis 2 years ago
I also found that odd. Lazy, neglectful parents are usually pretty abusive when disturbed. I never heard of a lazy parent that was a good one lol
Load More Replies... Stenhart 71 2 years ago
Out of curiosity.... why don't they have atleast one job, or atleast looking for one? The morality of some people is confusing. No job, not helping, and gets pissed when asked to help out. IMO... when they signed the lease, they became renters, bound by the same laws as any renter. Would you tolerate this from someone else? Would she, in your situation tolerate it?
Jericho Kilmister 2 years ago
Kick 'em out, like, yesterday. The whining about being 'tricked into eviction' is a giant red flag. Keep the kid tho, he seems decent
michele mbennett1010@att.net 2 years ago
Are these mooching a******s doing anything to find jobs? Taking naps during the day while you work to support them, WTF? What are they doing with the unemployment benefits? Maybe kicking them to the curb will get a fire under their asses and they will start looking for a way to take care of themselves. It's your husband's sister and her family, she and her husband are responsible for their lives, not you!
Matt Mosher 2 years ago
The fact they have kids but neither is working is a major red flag. Getting employment should be the most important thing they should be doing other than taking care of their kids. Sounds like they are to comfortable living off unemployment while paying no rent. Having them pay will be a wake-up call. If its not about the money then they could even take the rent they pay and hold it so they have first and last months rent when they decide to find their own place. Either way paying rent will be a wakeup call they need.
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