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Bridesmaids Are Suspicious Of How Expensive Bachelorette Was, Turns Out MOH Had A Plan All Along
Young woman in red blouse looking shocked at phone, reacting to MOH overcharged issue while sitting on couch at home.
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Bridesmaids Are Suspicious Of How Expensive Bachelorette Was, Turns Out MOH Had A Plan All Along

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Being duped is one of the most unpleasant experiences anyone can go through. It makes you feel stupid, knowing that another person fooled you into getting what they want

The feeling could be ten times worse if it involved someone you’ve known for a long time. This is what a bridesmaid went through when the maid of honor tricked the entire bridal party and profited off of them. 

To add insult to injury, the woman says she expected such behavior, but this one was a “whole new level.” 

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    Being scammed is one of the worst feelings anyone could ever experience

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    This was what a bridesmaid went through involving the maid of honor, whom she had known for a long time

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    She later realized that the entire bridal entourage had been duped into paying, which the MOH profited from 

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    Scammers leverage a person’s innate “optimism bias”

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    In the story, the woman knew that the maid of honor wasn’t a good person. Yet, she still ignored the red flags she noticed until it was too late. Experts refer to this as an optimism bias, where people aren’t always on the lookout for the worst-case scenarios. 

    According to Carolyn Misir, principal psychologist at the Singapore Police Psychological Services Division, scammers leverage these biases to get what they want without the person suspecting too much. 

    “Most people can’t go around thinking of all the worst-case scenarios,” Misir said in a 2022 interview. “So (when they encounter a scam) people don’t think ‘oh, this might be a scam’.”

    Winning someone’s trust is another common tactic scammers use. As Nanyang Technological University associate professor Joyce Pang explains, the person may go the extra mile to create a sense of intimacy before they strike. 

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    This is likely why the maid of honor made everyone believe she was doing an excellent job planning the bachelorette party, when in reality, she had her motives planned all along. 

    Falling for a scam may feel like an insult to our intelligence, especially in the story’s case, where everyone knew what to expect. Anyone can be a victim of deception, and experts like cybersecurity researcher Dr. KF Cheung emphasize that it isn’t an indication of weakness or naivety.

    If you do feel you’ve been deceived, Dr. Cheung advises focusing on reporting the scam, seeking support, and learning from the experience. 

    At this point, the bridesmaid would be better off exposing the MOH once they’ve gathered enough proof. They may (or may not) get their money back, but it may help prevent similar situations from happening again. 

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    Most readers unanimously called for exposing the scam, with some suggesting getting the authorities involved

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    Bookworm
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's an update added to the post now. Apparently B had to pay her mom back. She (B's mom) paid the bridesmaids back for the extra $50 and asked them not to tell A. They agreed. I hope at least one of them only meant for the wedding/honeymoon and will tell A later. A deserves to know what her sister tried to pull before she entrusts her with any other major life events. I have no sympathy since they couldn't find their spines long enough to ask for an itemized bill, which is very normal before paying any bill.

    Earonn -
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Her mother SAID that B paid her back. That might be just a lie to protect her daughter. Enablers are wild like that.

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    ॐBoyGanesh
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If this is in the USA, “embezzlement” is intent to deprive someone of an asset (in this case, money) under false pretenses. “Racketeering” is an organized scheme/plan to generate profit, often requiring proof of a pattern of such activities (the same process with several victims). Each bridesmaid can file a federal complaint online and also report it to the local authorities. The former will support the latter with investigation. The scope of proof is rather wide and the burden would be on the MOH to prove it was embezzlement and/or racketeering. These two crimes don’t have to be on a grand scale with grand amounts of assets stolen.

    Littlemiss
    Community Member
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    B is entitled and needs to swing for this. It won't be the first time she's pulled this stunt. Let everyone know, remembering that A, B, and MOB are all related and will back B before they back any of the bridal party.

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    Bookworm
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's an update added to the post now. Apparently B had to pay her mom back. She (B's mom) paid the bridesmaids back for the extra $50 and asked them not to tell A. They agreed. I hope at least one of them only meant for the wedding/honeymoon and will tell A later. A deserves to know what her sister tried to pull before she entrusts her with any other major life events. I have no sympathy since they couldn't find their spines long enough to ask for an itemized bill, which is very normal before paying any bill.

    Earonn -
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Her mother SAID that B paid her back. That might be just a lie to protect her daughter. Enablers are wild like that.

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    ॐBoyGanesh
    Community Member
    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If this is in the USA, “embezzlement” is intent to deprive someone of an asset (in this case, money) under false pretenses. “Racketeering” is an organized scheme/plan to generate profit, often requiring proof of a pattern of such activities (the same process with several victims). Each bridesmaid can file a federal complaint online and also report it to the local authorities. The former will support the latter with investigation. The scope of proof is rather wide and the burden would be on the MOH to prove it was embezzlement and/or racketeering. These two crimes don’t have to be on a grand scale with grand amounts of assets stolen.

    Littlemiss
    Community Member
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    8 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    B is entitled and needs to swing for this. It won't be the first time she's pulled this stunt. Let everyone know, remembering that A, B, and MOB are all related and will back B before they back any of the bridal party.

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