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“It Was So Awkward”: Woman Leaves Friend’s Wedding Dress Shopping Trip Early After Public Humiliation
As we go through life, we get to see friends come and go. At that point, we realize which ones are worth sticking with and which ones are better off kept at a distance.
But sometimes, we also misinterpret what we thought was a close relationship. And when that happens, it can be a very awkward situation that may even escalate into resentment.
This is precisely what a woman went through when she was invited by a childhood friend to fly out and go wedding dress shopping. The harsh reality hit her hard as she was forced to cut her trip short.
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A woman had a rude awakening while helping her childhood friend shop for a wedding dress
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She found out in a rather awkward manner that she won’t be part of the bridal party
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Things had since turned cold between the two friends
The woman further explained her side of the story
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She clarified why she felt hurt by what happened, while admitting where she may have been wrong
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Half of the people you consider friends may not feel the exact same way about your relationship
The author is not alone in feeling the sting of realizing her actual value with her childhood friend. According to a study by researchers from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology and Tel Aviv University, only half of friendships are reciprocal.
“These findings suggest a profound inability of people to perceive friendship reciprocity, perhaps because the possibility of non-reciprocal friendship challenges one’s self-image,” an excerpt from the research paper reads.
This sad truth can only lead to negative emotions, which never benefit anyone. It can even worsen physical health, particularly an increase in blood pressure in women, according to this study.
On the mental side, research found that detrimental friendships not only lead to more conflict but also compromise one’s self-esteem.
That then raises an essential question: should you end a friendship that goes back to your middle school years, as the author did with the bride-to-be? One sign, according to clinical psychologist Dr. Roxy Zarrabi, is if only one person is making an effort to maintain the relationship.
“There needs to be reciprocation in order for a friendship to survive,” Dr. Zarrabi wrote, noting that this is a critical deciding factor to cut ties with a supposed friend.
While it may be a heartbreaking decision, the author may benefit in the long run by ending the friendship, or at the very least, distancing herself. At this point, she must prioritize her peace of mind.
The author provided more information in the comments
Many people in the comments sided with her and gave it to her straight
However, some thought she may have blown things out of proportion
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Tabitha 17 hours ago (edited)
Fran is the classic jealous friend who never left her home town where she was a big deal. She was “friends” with OP when OP was an unpopular hot mess, so Fran could feel superior. But when OP graduated college and got a d**n good corporate job where she excelled AND she finally found her personal stride after a bad breakup that helped her get herself together and glowed up, she was suddenly not someone Fran could feel superior to, and that’s when the jealousy started. OP stayed her genuine good hearted self, so when Fran cooked up the humiliation of asking OP to come help her pick out her wedding gown, a task generally done by bridesmaids, only Fran never intended for OP to be a bridesmaid, OP came because she has counted Fran as a friend for years. It was a setup by a jealous loser—-Fran—-who never left home to embarrass a winner who left home and is a success—-OP—-because Fran the Loser wants to feel superior again by making OP the Winner feel bad. OP needs to dump Fran, quit looking backward at bad hometown loser “friends” and turn her head forward to her bright future with her fellow winner friends. Let Fran stew in her misery and sour grapes. She’s a big fat loser who’s going to have a big fat loser life. Leave her to it. You are way better off without her trying to pull you down to her low level. Forget her and continue to move onward and upward and have yourself the best life possible.
Binky Melnik 5 hours ago
I dunno about you, but I’m just *dying* to see an “AITA?” post from Fran’s brother asking “AITA for revealing to my sister’s friend, who spent a lotta money, time, and effort to go wedding dress shopping with my sister, what her part in the wedding was when I suspected my sister was using her?” I have a feeling that Fran absolutely lit Frank up later that night for letting the cat out of the bag so she was unable to keep using OP.
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Littlemiss 1 day ago
Only time I was in a wedding party, I ended up shoved aside because the bride to be found a rich friend who she had spread lies to, about me. I was MOH, and the other bridesmaid. It was a complete shiteshow, I laugh now because its hilarious how entitled the person was. Everything was a farse and really showed her true colours. I'm glad I eloped.
Michelle C 18 hours ago
Am I the only one who doesn't get offended when friends don't ask me to be part of their wedding party? Friends, family...I don't care, want no part of it. Just send me an invite.
Binky Melnik 4 hours ago
You need to read the article again, as that wasn’t what OP felt was wrong. You’ll notice she explained about six different ways how she wasn’t offended about that,
Load More Replies... Tabitha 17 hours ago (edited)
Fran is the classic jealous friend who never left her home town where she was a big deal. She was “friends” with OP when OP was an unpopular hot mess, so Fran could feel superior. But when OP graduated college and got a d**n good corporate job where she excelled AND she finally found her personal stride after a bad breakup that helped her get herself together and glowed up, she was suddenly not someone Fran could feel superior to, and that’s when the jealousy started. OP stayed her genuine good hearted self, so when Fran cooked up the humiliation of asking OP to come help her pick out her wedding gown, a task generally done by bridesmaids, only Fran never intended for OP to be a bridesmaid, OP came because she has counted Fran as a friend for years. It was a setup by a jealous loser—-Fran—-who never left home to embarrass a winner who left home and is a success—-OP—-because Fran the Loser wants to feel superior again by making OP the Winner feel bad. OP needs to dump Fran, quit looking backward at bad hometown loser “friends” and turn her head forward to her bright future with her fellow winner friends. Let Fran stew in her misery and sour grapes. She’s a big fat loser who’s going to have a big fat loser life. Leave her to it. You are way better off without her trying to pull you down to her low level. Forget her and continue to move onward and upward and have yourself the best life possible.
Binky Melnik 5 hours ago
I dunno about you, but I’m just *dying* to see an “AITA?” post from Fran’s brother asking “AITA for revealing to my sister’s friend, who spent a lotta money, time, and effort to go wedding dress shopping with my sister, what her part in the wedding was when I suspected my sister was using her?” I have a feeling that Fran absolutely lit Frank up later that night for letting the cat out of the bag so she was unable to keep using OP.
Load More Replies... Littlemiss 1 day ago
Only time I was in a wedding party, I ended up shoved aside because the bride to be found a rich friend who she had spread lies to, about me. I was MOH, and the other bridesmaid. It was a complete shiteshow, I laugh now because its hilarious how entitled the person was. Everything was a farse and really showed her true colours. I'm glad I eloped.
Michelle C 18 hours ago
Am I the only one who doesn't get offended when friends don't ask me to be part of their wedding party? Friends, family...I don't care, want no part of it. Just send me an invite.
Binky Melnik 4 hours ago
You need to read the article again, as that wasn’t what OP felt was wrong. You’ll notice she explained about six different ways how she wasn’t offended about that,
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