Woman Shares The Invisible Struggles Of Motherhood, And They Will Make You Think
Mothers are the pillar on which the whole world rests. They are like the invisible guardians that take care of everything, from tiniest little things to events of great importance. And while they have accepted the role of a silent benefactor, sometimes it all builds up and they have a thing or two to share. We owe it to them to listen.
Last year, Erin Pepler shared a lengthy, but honest story, detailing all the things that mothers go through, that are often unnoticed by everyone else. “No particular event provoked the article – just a build up of feelings and comments. It’s an important topic and I meant every word” Erin told Bored Panda. However, there are some things she said she’d word differently right now. “The one thing I regret about the article is that a lot of people interpreted it to mean that my husband is sort of useless” the mother revealed.
While the general reception of the post was positive, there were some people who weren’t too happy about it. “A bunch of people also mocked me and called me a whiner/martyr/idiot. I try to ignore those people” Erin shared her experiences. From remembering all the names and dates, to making sure that everyone is fed and clothed, Pepler’s account not only offers a unique look into a mother’s routine, but also serves as a reminder that mothers, truly, are the modern day wonder women. Scroll down below to read the full story.
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Erin Pepler is a 33-year-old writer and mother from Toronto, Canada
Last year she wrote a lengthy piece about the invisible workload that she, as other mothers, goes through
“No particular event provoked the article – just a build up of feelings and comments,” Erin told Bored Panda
Erin Pepler discussed the invisible workload that comes with being a mother
“It’s an important topic and I meant every word,” Erin said
She discussed the aspects of motherhood that are usually expected, but often overlooked
“The one thing I regret about the article is that a lot of people interpreted it to mean that my husband is sort of useless” Pepler confessed
She also says that the feedback she received was very positive
But there were some who didn’t like what she was saying
“A bunch of people also mocked me and called me a whiner/martyr/idiot. I try to ignore those people” Erin added
The woman said that she enjoys writing about the many aspects of parenting
And is even working on a book focusing on the pressures of modern parenthood and the ridiculous expectations that mothers face
“I’m writing about how as a mother/parent, you can’t please everyone and also, everyone’s “normal” is different” she explained
Erin wants the world to see that every parent is different, and as long as it works and doesn’t hurt anybody, they should try to ignore the pressure that society puts on them
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believe it or not, men, husbands, fathers, we do this too, I do this too. some don't, some do other things that they feel might be more important (some of which are) and I guess some women, mothers, wives also don't do this. I guess the only way it works is when everyone is pulling in the right direction, coz if you aren't, you'll eventually come apart at the seams.
I guess most relationships have one person who is more obsessive with getting things tidy. The other might be more looking for cleanliness. Or to have all forms done as soon as possible...you name it. Couples need to figure out how to let each other know that how arduous they are is noticed. However, this has absolutely nothing to do with motherhood, unless you believe in very classical role models and accept nothing else. It may fall together with motherhood, if the mother stays home with a small child, but whoever stays home with a small child, does the household chores, and probably even manages to get some sport or remote work done, should pat theirself on the shoulder.
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I woke up and put my feet on the floor this morning, walked into the bathroom, sat on the pot to pee, and then brushed my teeth. I started with the left molar and worked my way forward to the incisors. Each tooth took approx. 32 seconds and by the time a continued to the right incisor I was exhausted and had to continue for the good of the world.... no one understands my stress and exhaustion by this point in the day, but I must go on! (sheesh)
Parenthood is hard work. It has ALWAYS been hard, unsung work. In fact, I dare say, in some years and some ways, it was it was harder than it is now. This is not new or earth shattering, and it's definitely not a secret. I hear her, but I have to admit, I found it grating and only made it about half way through before I was over it.
And I'm a mother! I guess maybe I just find it annoying when people pat themselves on the back for things they claim to do selflessly......
Load More Replies... believe it or not, men, husbands, fathers, we do this too, I do this too. some don't, some do other things that they feel might be more important (some of which are) and I guess some women, mothers, wives also don't do this. I guess the only way it works is when everyone is pulling in the right direction, coz if you aren't, you'll eventually come apart at the seams.
I guess most relationships have one person who is more obsessive with getting things tidy. The other might be more looking for cleanliness. Or to have all forms done as soon as possible...you name it. Couples need to figure out how to let each other know that how arduous they are is noticed. However, this has absolutely nothing to do with motherhood, unless you believe in very classical role models and accept nothing else. It may fall together with motherhood, if the mother stays home with a small child, but whoever stays home with a small child, does the household chores, and probably even manages to get some sport or remote work done, should pat theirself on the shoulder.
Load More Replies... I woke up and put my feet on the floor this morning, walked into the bathroom, sat on the pot to pee, and then brushed my teeth. I started with the left molar and worked my way forward to the incisors. Each tooth took approx. 32 seconds and by the time a continued to the right incisor I was exhausted and had to continue for the good of the world.... no one understands my stress and exhaustion by this point in the day, but I must go on! (sheesh)
Parenthood is hard work. It has ALWAYS been hard, unsung work. In fact, I dare say, in some years and some ways, it was it was harder than it is now. This is not new or earth shattering, and it's definitely not a secret. I hear her, but I have to admit, I found it grating and only made it about half way through before I was over it.
And I'm a mother! I guess maybe I just find it annoying when people pat themselves on the back for things they claim to do selflessly......
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