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I Accidentally Came Out To My Parents Out Of Anger
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I always have heated discussions with my mom that usually ends with both of us furious. In spite of having opposite views on lots of things, we definitely have one thing in common – we both are very strong in our beliefs. And yet I never thought that one of our arguments would provoke me to come out to my parents as bisexual.
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since i cant reply to those calling bisexuality a 'trend'.. it isn't. yes, now people are more aware of what bisexuality is, and that's causing people to realize that they identify with it. bisexuality isn't something cool, or something that people go out of their way to be. identifying as bisexual comes with many hardships, like dealing with bigoted relatives like the girl in the post had to.
Yes. Thanks to better acceptance and awareness of the LGBTQ+ community, I didn't have to spend many years wondering who I was, like many people have had to do - I already knew that being bi was a thing, and so when I first caught feelings for a girl, I knew what that was. I am lucky that my parents are very accepting, but there is so much casual (and not so casual) homophobia out there that nobody would 'choose' to be gay, or bi, or whatever. Besides, it's not a choice, it's who you are. Anyway, sorry for the long reply, but yeah - nobody is LGBTQ+ because it's 'trendy'.
Do they even know what a trend is? Following trends should make you feel included, popular, somewhat of a conformist. Coming out often has the opposite effect: it can alienate you from the family, friends, even damaging your reputation in some places. It can cost you so much and it angers me when someone argues "they do it for the attention". Losing people around you is the opposite of getting attention.
Thank you! Your comment means a lot!
to me it seems like a trend bc now everyone i know says they are bisexual.
That is absolutely true and very well said.
I always knew I was BI since being 9 years old. But I never had the need to tell that to my parents, since I had a boyfriend, then husband, for 11 years. After our divorce, I started dating a girl, so I knew I had to come out to my mom. It was hell, but after 6 months she's finally accepting me. So, it takes time, but if your parent loves you, he'll love you no matter if you're gay, bi or pan :))
Yes. My parents don't love me.
I hate that parents can doubt their children word on such important things and doubt the fact that they really are bi. People should start to believe people when they talk about what they feel and not start with the "you don't know what you say" etc...Mostly parents should support their kids. Being LGBTQI+ is already hard, we definitly need the support of our families and not hatred and despising from them!
@Marie-Louise Chenois When I brought up LGBTQ+ in my family as I was thinking about coming out they were all like well I believe that children don't fully know if they are until your older which is shitty because if I came out as straight they would be like fine with it and no second guesses!
@Ben Smith I came out as Bi at my school like a couple of weeks ago and I litterally know NO ONE who is doing it to be trendy! I am scared to death of my parents finding out and I have been bullyed for being bi and people have told me I'm doing it for attention because of comments like yours! While I imagine some people do it for attention your comment is a waste of time and wrong! Cause seriously are you saying everyone that comes out now is doing it for the trend what does now even mean?
I totally agree with you Marie. I was lucky enough to have (mostly) supportive parents (my mother thought I would change my mind, etc, but she is over that now) when I came out, and I’m sad that not everyone has that. Thank you for your post!
Hey Ben. I’m a (mostly) out bi person, and honestly your words hurt. I did not come out because it is trendy, but because I could no longer lie to others and myself about who I am. Being offensive is not just “understanding the obvious”. To be honest, this seems rude, ignorant, and hurtful.
well some people i know are WAAAAAYYy to yong to know if they are LGBT.
I haven't to my told anyone that I am bi. The worst part is that my siblings always joke and call me gay like its some hilarious insult. Like I have come so close to telling them that was bi amd to f-off,but I am scared what my parents will think
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Correction, it’s “trendy.”
wtf dude how do you come to that conclusion! or are you just a troll begging for down votes
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Do you really not understand how it’s trendy to be “out” right now? I’m not a troll...i just understand the obvious and don’t waste time sugar coating things
since i cant reply to those calling bisexuality a 'trend'.. it isn't. yes, now people are more aware of what bisexuality is, and that's causing people to realize that they identify with it. bisexuality isn't something cool, or something that people go out of their way to be. identifying as bisexual comes with many hardships, like dealing with bigoted relatives like the girl in the post had to.
Yes. Thanks to better acceptance and awareness of the LGBTQ+ community, I didn't have to spend many years wondering who I was, like many people have had to do - I already knew that being bi was a thing, and so when I first caught feelings for a girl, I knew what that was. I am lucky that my parents are very accepting, but there is so much casual (and not so casual) homophobia out there that nobody would 'choose' to be gay, or bi, or whatever. Besides, it's not a choice, it's who you are. Anyway, sorry for the long reply, but yeah - nobody is LGBTQ+ because it's 'trendy'.
Do they even know what a trend is? Following trends should make you feel included, popular, somewhat of a conformist. Coming out often has the opposite effect: it can alienate you from the family, friends, even damaging your reputation in some places. It can cost you so much and it angers me when someone argues "they do it for the attention". Losing people around you is the opposite of getting attention.
Thank you! Your comment means a lot!
to me it seems like a trend bc now everyone i know says they are bisexual.
That is absolutely true and very well said.
I always knew I was BI since being 9 years old. But I never had the need to tell that to my parents, since I had a boyfriend, then husband, for 11 years. After our divorce, I started dating a girl, so I knew I had to come out to my mom. It was hell, but after 6 months she's finally accepting me. So, it takes time, but if your parent loves you, he'll love you no matter if you're gay, bi or pan :))
Yes. My parents don't love me.
I hate that parents can doubt their children word on such important things and doubt the fact that they really are bi. People should start to believe people when they talk about what they feel and not start with the "you don't know what you say" etc...Mostly parents should support their kids. Being LGBTQI+ is already hard, we definitly need the support of our families and not hatred and despising from them!
@Marie-Louise Chenois When I brought up LGBTQ+ in my family as I was thinking about coming out they were all like well I believe that children don't fully know if they are until your older which is shitty because if I came out as straight they would be like fine with it and no second guesses!
@Ben Smith I came out as Bi at my school like a couple of weeks ago and I litterally know NO ONE who is doing it to be trendy! I am scared to death of my parents finding out and I have been bullyed for being bi and people have told me I'm doing it for attention because of comments like yours! While I imagine some people do it for attention your comment is a waste of time and wrong! Cause seriously are you saying everyone that comes out now is doing it for the trend what does now even mean?
I totally agree with you Marie. I was lucky enough to have (mostly) supportive parents (my mother thought I would change my mind, etc, but she is over that now) when I came out, and I’m sad that not everyone has that. Thank you for your post!
Hey Ben. I’m a (mostly) out bi person, and honestly your words hurt. I did not come out because it is trendy, but because I could no longer lie to others and myself about who I am. Being offensive is not just “understanding the obvious”. To be honest, this seems rude, ignorant, and hurtful.
well some people i know are WAAAAAYYy to yong to know if they are LGBT.
I haven't to my told anyone that I am bi. The worst part is that my siblings always joke and call me gay like its some hilarious insult. Like I have come so close to telling them that was bi amd to f-off,but I am scared what my parents will think
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Correction, it’s “trendy.”
wtf dude how do you come to that conclusion! or are you just a troll begging for down votes
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Do you really not understand how it’s trendy to be “out” right now? I’m not a troll...i just understand the obvious and don’t waste time sugar coating things