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Actress Alyssa Milano has started the #MeToo social media campaign, showing women they aren't the only individuals facing sexual assault and harassment. The campaign went viral, generating thousands of responses, retweets, likes, giving a supreme sense of magnitude to the problem.

Australian journalist and screenwriter Benjamin Law has created the hashtag #HowIWillChange in response to Milano's effort. He used it as a tool to publicly announce his support and to commit to change against the culture of sexual violence.

The act of sharing devastating #MeToo stories on social media shook the public, highlighting how many women have had similar experiences. Eventually, as the flood of these messages continued, women started asking men what are they going to do to address the situation. Law's #HowIWillChange is just what everyone needed. It will give voice to all who want to stand up. "I will never blame a victim," one guy wrote. "I will keep showing my 3 sons and one grandson how to honor and respect women," said the other. Scroll down to read how men are getting involved and upvote your favorite pledges.

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Frank Wijers
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8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

# METOO Lieve mensen ,...ik heb dit nooit durven vertellen uit schaamte , maar nu wil ik het toch met u delen . Het was ongeveer 30 jaar geleden , ik reed s,avonds ongeveer 11 uur met de auto op een donkere bos weg ,...de ruitenwissers van de auto konden de regen op de voorruit amper wegwerken ineens kwam de auto schokkend tot stilstand. Ook na meerdere pogingen wilde hij niet meer starten ,..In die tijd had je nog geen mobieltje ,dus er zat niets anders op dan dat ik ergens hulp ging zoeken ,ik liep dus door de stromende regen over die pikdonkere bosweg ,...ik zal misschien een kwartiertje gelopen hebben ,toen ik plots een lichtje zag tussen de bomen ,...naderbij gekomen kwam ik bij een groot ijzeren hek met een poort. Er stond een bord ,in het schijnsel van de maan kon ik lezen Bommelstein !! De poort stond een beetje open, dus ik liep naar binnen ,het was een oprijlaan in de verte zag ik de contouren van een kasteel opdoemen, ik liep tot voor het kasteel er hing een grote huisbel ik

Hatem Shaltoot
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8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Treat men with respect for women equal to attend

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    Grace Barclay
    Community Member
    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    On Sunday I asked my father when was the last time he catcalled a woman. He looked me dead in the eye and said never. I asked him why. He told me his father had told him to not do that to a woman. My father is just short of his 88th birthday. He has always been a beacon of integrity, honour and honesty and calling a spade a spade. He is not and was not perfect. He is one of the finest human beings I know. I love you dad. I thank you for being a father to this crazy daughter.

    evil morty
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    great actor! everyone should watch begin again.

    Meowton Mewsk
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m so against cat calling, I physically and literally hate it. People who do it are disgusting. I’m a woman, it’s happened to be hundreds if not thousands of times. But, how do you cat call your girlfriend? I thought catcalling was when random men shout inappropriate sexual comments to women walking down the street.

    Wanda Queen
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I already loved Mark Ruffalo but this just makes me admire him even more!

    christina murray
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i wish more men would acknowledge this and make an effort to change. its such a simple thing.

    NoAssumedName
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't even know what cat call is.

    Wezbie
    Community Member
    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When (generally) men whistle or say inappropriate things to women walking down the street. This is probably the best example as to the type of things they say... https://www.boredpanda.com/catcalling-selfies-project-dearcatcallers/

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    Hatem Shaltoot
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good handling leads to broad concepts

    Lynn Jenkinson
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mark Ruffalo, I have long enjoyed watching your performances, and have respect for your humane activities. Thank you.

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    Mama Panda
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have taught my son how to respect women. He is only 15 and I am so proud of how he steps up daily to tell other teens to knock it off when they are cat calling, touching, teasing the young girls.

    Mary Waisanen
    Community Member
    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    same for both of my boys! I'm a single mom and it's hard at times. But the EASIEST thing I can do is teach them how to respect women and elders. I have NEVER heard them talk back to anyone.

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    Dora Larson
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The fact that he teaches his son. Unload the bullets instead of shooting at a bulletproof vest.

    Lillian Chesak
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I respect this guy a lot, especially because of his profile pic

    Hatem Shaltoot
    Community Member
    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good handling leads to broad concepts

    Aoki
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How about teaching both of your kids to respect EVERYONE, regardless of their gender, race, social status, etc.??

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    varwenea
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes please!! Call it out loud in your mic and collectively get help from the crowd.

    Frank Wijers
    Community Member
    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    # METOO Lieve mensen ,...ik heb dit nooit durven vertellen uit schaamte , maar nu wil ik het toch met u delen . Het was ongeveer 30 jaar geleden , ik reed s,avonds ongeveer 11 uur met de auto op een donkere bos weg ,...de ruitenwissers van de auto konden de regen op de voorruit amper wegwerken ineens kwam de auto schokkend tot stilstand. Ook na meerdere pogingen wilde hij niet meer starten ,..In die tijd had je nog geen mobieltje ,dus er zat niets anders op dan dat ik ergens hulp ging zoeken ,ik liep dus door de stromende regen over die pikdonkere bosweg ,...ik zal misschien een kwartiertje gelopen hebben ,toen ik plots een lichtje zag tussen de bomen ,...naderbij gekomen kwam ik bij een groot ijzeren hek met een poort. Er stond een bord ,in het schijnsel van de maan kon ik lezen Bommelstein !! De poort stond een beetje open, dus ik liep naar binnen ,het was een oprijlaan in de verte zag ik de contouren van een kasteel opdoemen, ik liep tot voor het kasteel er hing een grote huisbel ik

    Hatem Shaltoot
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Treat men with respect for women equal to attend

    Hatem Shaltoot
    Community Member
    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good handling leads to broad concepts

    cyberbird
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    8 years ago

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    Do it but don't expect any consideration or reward from the female, nor accept it, that would only put you in a higher hierarchy than the drunken male.

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    Mama Panda
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Change needs to start at home

    cyberbird
    Community Member
    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    First, teach them how to respect themselves.

    Hatem Shaltoot
    Community Member
    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The floor can accommodate both men and women

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    Gayle Bynum Cardosa
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I give them props. They're recognizing and trying. I say Good for Them.

    Linda Riebel
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, I'd like to thank you anyway. I'm 71 and have been waiting all my life for decent men to corral the other ones.

    Mama Panda
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    8 years ago

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    Then why did Mr. Benjamin post it to twitter?

    CelSlade
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly - I don't care if they do it for the praise, as long as they do it. This is how social movements and paradigm shifts happen.

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    An Ambitious Lemon
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And this is where the problem lies Mr. George Hall..men like you.

    Mama Panda
    Community Member
    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just curious... but what does knowing the amount of women executives do during an interview? I hope you aren't referring to using affirmative action for women if you don't see a lot of executive women in the jobs you are in the process of interviewing.

    Greg Hoggarth
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    More relevant to ask how many women will be in the department you join, and if a woman doing the job you are applying for would be paid the same as you would be.

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    Hatem Shaltoot
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We can assess the role of women in society

    TheMsLollidella
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Does it really matter if there's more females or males :/ long as u get a job

    John Smith
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ben keeps his balls in his purse.

    Full Name
    Community Member
    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Know what executives love more than keeping women down? Money, and paying low wages. If they could save a boatload by hiring women, the men would be in line at the soup kitchen. This isn't rocket science, people. This garbage is touted as fact even though it doesn't stand up to even the slightest amount of logical scrutiny. Why on earth would a corporation hire men over women if they cost more money?

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    Shari H
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How about stop using "pussy" as an insult? It is really stupid.

    Lexi Howard
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ya know what's funny? "pussy" is a actually a word in greek that is described as someone who is timid or scared. It confuses me that people start getting it mixed up with the female anatomy.

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    Bette Donaldson
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    but he uses "pussy"in a derogatory and demeaning way

    Maggie Collins
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ALRIGHT!! And...finally! You guys are the real gentlemen! And you should feel good for that. Not embarrassed!

    Hatem Shaltoot
    Community Member
    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The floor can accommodate both men and women

    cyberbird
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    8 years ago

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    My God, rape culture?

    Full Name
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    8 years ago

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    You didn't know that it's part of the culture and it totally acceptable? I know this because SJW's keep telling me it's true. It's part of the culture in America, the same America where rapists are at the bottom of the social hierarchy in federal prison and are treated like garbage. Wait....

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    Daria B
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please, do. I don't seem to be taken seriously, or even heard, by those who make such statements.

    Hatem Shaltoot
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Any society that respects respect for mother, sister, son and wife

    Full Name
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    8 years ago

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    Then you better not go to a comedy club and laugh at anything. Pretty much all humour is at the expense of someone or something. You can't laugh at everybody else, then get all cranky and call someone out when it comes to your personal pet issue. That's as phoney as it gets and won't get you laid. Sorry, hypocrite. I absolutely guarantee you think some things are funny that are at the expense of people.

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    cyberbird
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not blaming the victim is so important.

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    Hatem Shaltoot
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Any society that respects respect for mother, sister, son and wife

    Morgan Schetzle
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is so much better than the honor and respect platitude.

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    8 years ago

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    What were you teaching him before today?

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    Hatem Shaltoot
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can not live without women, so you have to respect them

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    Nilloni Chophy
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Applause. Seeing some real men here.

    Biana Weatherford
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not just saying something about others...but addressing the issue of himself. Awesome!

    Elaine Van Zon
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's very brave to admit your own need to change .Good foe you

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    Jeanna
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    women have to do this all the time

    Maggie Collins
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I disagree, John. But there will always be a******s.

    Hatem Shaltoot
    Community Member
    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am amazed at the contempt of women in society

    John Smith
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Plot spoiler: he's jobless.

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    Jeanna
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    we are tired of explaining

    cyberbird
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Many women don't even have a clue.

    Jeanna
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Women don't have a clue about their own lives? No, YOU don't have an f-ing clue. Take your head out of your a*s.

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    Nilloni Chophy
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "No more going along to get along"... So many men could do so much for this issue just by following that last sentence. Bless you ,sir

    John Smith
    Community Member
    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Call out toxic femininity. That'll keep you busy.

    Hatem Shaltoot
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The female sister of the man shares the tasks

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    Jeanna
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    especially what's shrugged off as "locker room talk" when it's about assaulting women.

    cyberbird
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Now a days girls "guy talk", and that's just a wrong view to gender equality.

    Full Name
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    8 years ago

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    Ever been around on a "girls night"? I grew up friends with tons of girls, and their talk was WAY crazier. Guys would just high 5 and puff their chest out for getting some, whereas girls get into the minute details about people's anatomy, their behaviour, everything. If you think girls don't have their "guy talk" equivalent (and always have) then you need to hang out with a group of girls for awhile. They'll make ya blush, I'm telling you.

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    MistyCat
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To all the dudes commenting with #HowIWillChange: Thank you. So, so much. Really. #HumansUnited #StopTheRapists #MeToo #MeandYou

    cyberbird
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    8 years ago

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    Peter Pan complex

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    Mama Panda
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow and she is still with you?

    CelSlade
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    1) Good thing you are changing. 2) WTF?!

    Elaine Van Zon
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He's trying to change so good on him. Most of us have done things we regret.

    Ssss
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not always easy to stand up to someone. It's good that you recognise change.

    Sandy Gilliland
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What he did wasn't cool, BUT I commend him for realizing and changing.

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    Nilloni Chophy
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thanks for doing your bit. U have no idea how many women are touched by this amazing response from men.

    Full Name
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    "female"? How about stop interrupting human beings? What does sex have to do with it? It's rare that a person is a really good, supporting listener with one sex but a constantly interrupting jerk to the other.

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    Mama Panda
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would hope that you will learn to be a better friend too in being supportive.

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    But you'll still think it. If someone is honestly whining about nothing it's just as important to call them out then as it is to be supportive when the charge is legit. It's allowed to be a 2 way street.

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    8 years ago

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    New year's commitments that don't last

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    Oforka Glory
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hope most of these promises aren't just made to enable us use the hashtags only. We really need to mean them and keep them #howIwillchange

    Morgan Schetzle
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes this sentiment, thought meant well... bothers me. The answer is not to put women on pedestals. You cherish your family. You don't cherish strangers. But you should treat your coworkers, acquaintances and the random woman on the bus or that you pass on the street like a real living human being who might be having the best or the worst day of her life. Act accordingly and don't intrude on her life unless invited, often that means not doing things like going out of your way to be nice.

    Shari H
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed, I think if he said he would treat women the same way he'd treat a man in the same situation that would be better.

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    Once again if you were already doing it it's not change.

    Christina Waide
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is this really all you're taking from this? Is this your 'contribution' to the solution-getting lost in semantics?

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    Mama Panda
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you screwed up and you were actually listening to women and not just hearing them, then you have no right to get butthurt. If you continue to do so, may I suggest therapy to work through the reasons your feelings get crushed when someone tells you that you sexually assaulted someone.

    cyberbird
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you're butthurted, your containtion is faked and mostly useless.

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    CelSlade
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Listen to what she says - reading through all of these I kept thinking you guys are missing out on the most important part. And this is it. No more: 'Well at least it wasn't a stranger'. No more: 'At least he didn't beat you'. No more: 'Oh well, you were drunk, so really it was your fault'. And to hell with: 'Yeah, well, if you dress like that...'

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    Why should believing people or not have to do with sex? How about trusting your gut and believing people when they seem believable? That's messed up that you should believe someone because of their sex. That's literally sexist because you are saying women should get preferential treatment (unless you believe that all men should be believed too, and if so, then you're denying that humans lie). Which is it?

    CelSlade
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well done on completely missing the issue and making it all about men. Again.

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    Hilliary Smith
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Since many harassers and abusers have gotten stealthy about it, a lot of us are stunned and slow to react, even the targets many times. I wonder if role playing would help us recognize and react more in the moment?

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    8 years ago

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    I would love to see you really do this in real life *grabs popcorn and lawn chair*.

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    anarkzie
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    8 years ago

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    This is getting ridicules, don't allow anyone to talk down to someone you do not need to bring gender into this.

    Out of chocolate
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I assumed that maybe his person had stood up for male coworkers in the past but not female. Perhaps it's an expansion of action rather than division

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    How else would he signal those virtues? Apparently this guy believes jokes validate the behaviour of people who want to actually do the things that are joked about. If they were normal, validated behaviours, then they wouldn't be jokes. That's how jokes work. *palmface*

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    Biana Weatherford
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That one hurts, doesn't it? Someone you know DID that.

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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm actually fully on board with this one. Nothing wrong with passing down hard learned wisdom. This tweet should be #appliestoeverything

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    Nothing to do with gender

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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Never understood cat calling. What's the goal? I'm serious, I literally don't understand the purpose. Is it to hopefully make the person suddenly become attracted to you? Is it to give a compliment? Neither of these make any sense, but I can't think of any other motivation.

    Bettina Jansen
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I presume it's to attract their attention, compliment them and come off as "swag" at the same time (from the type of men you see doing this).

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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This one is not bad, actually.

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    "Tolerating something is accepting it". Uh.....that's a broad brush, sir. You best be calling out absolutely all behaviour you don't like lest ye be a hypocrite. You can't cherry pick after making a statement like that.

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    Melina Hall
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe start with changing your twitter handle? KneelB4Chris, c'mon!

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    Mama Panda
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is a great idea but please don't just put women in your organization leadership because they are just women. Please make sure they are qualified for the position. Affirmative Action is not the answer nor the solution.

    Shari H
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And, when capable qualified women are promoted, respect that change. Do not treat female mangers or executives as secretaries or lunch ladies. Make your own copies, file your own documents, and get your own coffee. Respect their knowledge and ability.

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    CelSlade
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like point 2. This is a very concrete, useful and necessary offer. I hope you follow through on it.

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    Mama Panda
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    the phrase boys will be boys is outdated and not true.

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    8 years ago

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    Oh man, I've love for you to have tried that back in my heyday when talking s**t with the fellas. That would've been hilarious. Perhaps you've never heard the female version. It's just as vile, and that's totally okay. "Boys will be boys" is not an excuse for sexual harassment or anything, but it's totally acceptable for when guys are just talking amongst themselves because it hurts nobody (and no, it doesn't "normalize" sexual harassment or anything like that at all. It doesn't change behaviour. It's s**t-talking and that's all. It's harmless)

    Mama Panda
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Seriously? Well back in my heyday, it wasn't acceptable then either! And no, I have never heard the female version. I am not sure which rock you were living under but since the 70s, it has been an excuse for any type of deviant behavior caused by boys including sexual harassment and the like. Maybe it's time for you to realize that you probably were told what you believe to cover up something that shouldn't have happened but it did. Btw, I remember rotary phones, black and white TVs, and only cartoons on Saturdays growing up. Don't assume... you know the rest since you seem so knowledgeable as to what these old sayings are and what they mean.....

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    Jeanna
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER is extremely important, guys.

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    8 years ago

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    Wait so he does not already take no for an answer?

    sunnyrei82
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I tend to be optimistic most of the time, maybe naive. So, I think that maybe what he means is "being less pushy". You know, sometimes someone hits on you, wants to buy you a drink or ask you for a dance, and you say "no". And this person keeps saying "come on, please" over and over again. Probably thinking "I'm just trying to convince her to give me an opportunity", but now he's thinking "maybe I made uncomfortable all those ladies I insisted on". Not necessarily talking about rape. Just respect a woman's decision and personal space.

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    Biana Weatherford
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I adore these concrete answers. It does help to call out toxic behavior, it does more to actively empower those downtrodden. Kudo Benjamin!

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    CelSlade
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you! Finally! Most rape victims feel that not being believed (the very first reaction in just about everyone you tell) is like a second violation.

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    I get what you are saying, but a blanket statement that says "You possess a vagina so you cannot tell a lie" is insane. Absolutely listen and take the complaint seriously, but just blindly believing based on gender is bonkers.

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    Eric Cox
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not losing sight is not changing you fail at this exercise.

    George Hall
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No, not always. Women can harass too, it doesn't happen as often, but it does happen. And as a side note, men are more likely to be domestically abused than women are

    CelSlade
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OMG George Hall - even I have to comment on this #NotAllMen #SomeWomenToo. Come speak to me when 1 in 4 men have been sexually harassed or abused in some form. No-one is saying women are incapable of it or that no men have ever been raped or sexually harassed. It happens and needs to be addressed too - but this, right now, is NOT ABOUT YOU!

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    Hilliary Smith
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Should matter whether she is some man's relation. If she was a clone grown in a vat, she would be worthy of respect in her own right!

    Biana Weatherford
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can't possibly know how awesome this is. Thank you. Thank you.

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    Hilliary Smith
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How about respectful speech and behavior toward all women, nit just the ones you have a relationship with? How about respectful speech about girls and their abilities?

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    Hilliary Smith
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is good, but sometimes it's even better if you do say "Let's hear what he has to say", you hear it, then you tell both him and her that what he said was b******t, and explain why. But of course as in any emotional situation, sometimes it's hard to tell when this is appropriate and when it is not appropriate.

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    Biana Weatherford
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I"m not going to applaud you...seems like you are doing that yourself. Congrats on being raised by women. It's a fabulous accomplishment.

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    8 years ago

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    #I'mAFeminist? Get that smug look off your face.

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    8 years ago

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    hmmm... what about your purchases?

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    Mama Panda
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    micro aggressions? explain....

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    The meaning of micro aggressions is easy to find on the internet and has been out there in the world for years. Look it up yourself. We shouldn't have to educate men when it's easily available and will take up their time, and they shouldn't have to educate us when it's easily available and will take up their time.

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    I am a woman and I personally do not like the word ladies. If you are speaking respectfully, the words women and female are fine. It's frequently not the words, but the context.

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    8 years ago

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    acutely guilty? It's either guilty or not guilty, there is no acutely about it! that should be your first part of how will you change, learn to take full responsibility for your actions!!!

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    Honest question: why would you feel self-pressure to have to prove to somebody you are not following them? That's some serious man-guilt you got going on. Did you used to follow people like a sketchy creep and you've changed?

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    Anne O'Niemus
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How you could change: - Be supportive of men who want to change for the better! This tweet sounds like you hold them in contempt because you (think you) are way ahead of them. - Acknowledge your privilege! Maybe you had better parenting, and/or some other lucky circumstances that meant you didn't marinade in rape culture day in and day out. Thinking you are a better person because you don't have these faults is not helpful. The men who want to change are showing/learning compassion. Where's yours?

    Biana Weatherford
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can I applaud you Anne? There is ALWAYS something that can be done. Don't rest on your laurels Phil. Who DOESN'T abhor those things? What are you going to do to make sure they don't happen? Walk a woman to her car? Tell someone that they cat call is not flattering? Insist your female coworker get equal pay for equal work? Be an example? Come on, just make one change.

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    Mama Panda
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So there is nothing else you can do?

    Casandra Ladd
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you for being you! Keep setting that example!

    Full Name
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Finally, a guy who doesn't believe he's "toxic" and should atone for simply being a man. It's also a good thing you didn't use double quotes for the "already" part, haha.

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    Casandra Ladd
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you for having your eyes open.

    Mama Panda
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your privilege? to be an a*s hat? what?

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    Casandra Ladd
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you for understanding. Keep doing a good thing!

    Hilliary Smith
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    who gets to make the judgment of who is a "good" woman? That's a big part of the problem right there!

    Mama Panda
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    of a good woman? what the hell does that even mean?

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    Pixy Moondust
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is always something we can do, even as females to help change things. Denial and saying you're perfect and don't need to change not only is degrading to this protest but also your need to defend yourself making sure people don't think bad of you shows that to you this protest is more about glorifying yourself then anything else

    Pixy Moondust
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    May as well be saying ‘im not going to change because i’m a perfect male, btw girls im better than the others because i don’t need to change’

    Mama Panda
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So you posted this to get pats on the back? Wow... just wow!

    Casandra Ladd
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    These women are tough. I still see flirting as ok, as long as it's taken positively. I'm not blaming every man for being a man. Take steps in the right direction. Thank you!

    CelSlade
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    #NotAllMen - back of the line!

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    CelSlade
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ah ffs - please get off this thread and join your smug self-satisfied brethren on the #NotAllMen thread.

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    Mama Panda
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How do you know how much shame is justified?

    CelSlade
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would say 100% shame is the only appropriate response, surely?

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    Úna Walsh
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you are using autism as an excuse for bad behaviour or tolerating bad behaviour, then autism is the very least of your problems. Autistic people are not naturally abusive or passive of abuse!

    Zenozenobee
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    8 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah! fighting sexism with psychophobic comment!

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