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Pets are family members. They are equally important and loved and deserve to be treated nicely. Of course, there are owners who sometimes go above and beyond for their pets that sometimes may seem a little bit too much in every aspect. But in any case, every dog and every cat and every pet in general deserves to feel safe, loved and cared for, especially in their home.
Speaking about that, one Reddit user asked people online if she was in the wrong after she didn’t allow her homeless friend to stay with her because she was being mean to her puppy. While she was called a monster for choosing a dog, she highlighted that she won’t make her dog feel uncomfortable in his own home.
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If you are staying at your friend’s and are making her puppy feel scared, don’t be surprised if next time you won’t be allowed to stay
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A woman shares that one time she let her friend stay with her because she got into a fight with her roommate
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However, she noticed that the guest was being rude to her puppy and would do things such as push him off the couch or shove him with her foot
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Well, time came when she called woman again, saying she has been evicted and asked if she could stay with her
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To her surprise, the woman said no, because she had been rude to her dog and the owner doesn’t want to make her dog feel scared in his own house
A few days ago, one Reddit user shared her story to one of its communities asking folks if she was being a jerk for not letting her homeless friend stay at her house because she had been rude to her puppy every time she visited. The post received quite a lot of attention and collected over 3K upvotes and 835 comments.
She starts by explaining that she has a friend, Casey, who has become homeless for the 2nd time already due to not paying her rent and getting evicted. OP adds that last month, Casey got into a fight with her roommate and she stayed with her for a week. However, she noticed that she was being rude to her puppy.
She would push him off the sofa, shove him with her foot or move his food onto the counter so he couldn’t get it. OP adds that they have talked about that, but that’s it. However, after a month, she received a call from Casey asking to come stay with OP as she had been evicted. Well, to Casey’s surprise, the woman didn’t agree due to the reason that she had been rude to her puppy.
Obviously, Casey lost it and started calling OP a monster for choosing her dog over a homeless woman, posting online rambling rants about her. However, the author decided that she won’t let her puppy be uncomfortable and terrorized, especially in his own home.
Community members backed up the author and discussed that by abusing animals, Casey did it to herself. “I’d do the same. I’m a dog owner and I have cut contact with ppl who weren’t being respectful about my dogs and their RIGHT to feel safe and comfortable in their HOME,” one user wrote. “Her friends should allow Casey to come stay with them if they’re calling you insensitive for not giving her a place to stay,” another added.
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Now, let’s talk a bit about dogs. I have always wondered, how is it possible to not love them? Why do some people dislike dogs and avoid them? Well, according to Holiday Barn, sometimes people simply mistakenly believe they dislike animals because they haven’t experienced the joys of having a pet.
Another thing, and I think it’s one of the most common reasons – the belief that cats or dogs are dirty and should be left outside. So if a person has no life associations with their pet, it’s easy to understand how they might never form any sort of relationship with them. And another reason – dogs smell. Okay, this one is actually fair enough; however, if you take care of your pet and bathe them regularly, they don’t stink, or at least you simply get used to this smell.
And now let’s look at the contrary – reasons why dogs don’t like certain people. I Heart Dogs notes that the first reason is the tone of the voice. To be more specific, in the study, it was published that when a person spoke in a high-pitched, joyful voice, the dogs’ reward areas in their brains lit up. The dogs were eager to see the cheerful person, but when someone spoke in a deep, furious voice, they either ignored them or reacted badly.
Another reason is that dogs don’t tolerate inappropriate body language. For example, bending over them, making wide arm gestures, moving wildly, or shoving them into a hug are all movements dogs don’t like. And finally, of course – the smell. If their interaction goes well and they like what they smell, they immediately become best friends. However, if they detect any unpleasant or frightening scents, they will follow their noses to another direction.
So, anyway, guys, what do you think about this story? Was the woman being too harsh by not allowing the homeless woman to stay with her? Or did she have every right to choose the dog’s safety and forbid her from her house? Share your thoughts below!
Redditors backed up the woman in this situation
What do you think ?
LH25 2 years ago
Huge Nope. If that's what she did when you were there, I'd be worried about what she might do later. And if ever alone with the pup. I've found animals are pretty good judges of character. The dog I had when I was single took to some dates, not others. The man I married she took to right away, and he took to her.
LonelyLittleLeafSheep 2 years ago
I have a Tater too (and a Biscuit)! When it comes to my babies, f**k around and find out. I will go John Wick on your a*s if you mess with my pups.
BlitheSpirit 2 years ago
If she’s the type of miserable person who is disrespectful to your dog, you can bet everything you own she’s not gonna respect anything else in your household. Although her being a b***h to your dog is alone more than enough reason not to let her live with you.
PeakyBlinder 2 years ago
How come you did not immidiately kick the c..t out the Moment xou noticed how she treats your puppy. I might callyou an AH for that, but definitely not for not letting her stay again. Personally i would cut contact with her completely, i want nothing to do do woth peopke mistreating animals, .
Tabitha 2 years ago
Cruelty to animals is a huge red flag for cruelty toward people. Nope. Ex-“friend” needs to grow TF up, and learn how to pay her rent, or just keep heading for that homeless rock bottom. Most people experience one, maybe two, setbacks in their lives. Help them a little and they run with it and are on the upswing in nothing flat. But some other people just never do anything but take all the help people are willing to give them and s**t on it. Then they expect people do keep doing it and they keep s******g on it. Eventually, no one wants to help them. Even their most generous and gullible friends catch on eventually, and stop helping. Maybe if everybody stops helping the woman OP is done with, and lets her hit bottom, she’ll grow a pair nd start helping herself. Probably not, but it’s worth a try.
Andrew Arons 2 years ago
If someone in my house kicked my dog, I wouldn't bother opening the door before I threw them out.
Catlady6000 2 years ago
Even if you don't like animals or only view them as property, this is still grossly disrespectful. It takes very little extra energy to ignore someone's pet and just don't interact with it. To actually try to cause harm really shows the kind of person she is
Jared Robinson 2 years ago
NTA You f**k around with my dog like that I'd have thrown her a*s out immediately. You are a saint.
brandyy17 2 years ago
i dated a guy once who was really nice wen it came time to meet my parents well i broke up with him before we sat down. wen we walked in the door my 12 year old dog at the time came running up to welcome me back home and before he got to my the guy kicked my dog telling it to stay away from me. i broke up with him immediately. he started yelling at me about having a stray in my house. so i told him thats my dog and bc he never leaves the property we only put his collar on wen we walk him. he said he didnt care he didnt want my dog near me while he was there. both me and my parents told him to leave and if he refused wed call the cops. we ended up calling anyways bc wen had a $2000 vet bill bc of wen he kicked my dog. he was ordered to pay the whole vet bill. which may i add is a whole pay check for him. if he didnt pay hed b arrested for animal abuse. aside from all of that he knew i had a dog and wat he looked like. he clearly lied wen he said he thought my dog was a stray. my dog saw the groomer that morning and clearly not a stray. he even heard my parents say "brandy look whos home". he did it completely on purpose. the next guy i dated my dog absolutely loved. he liked my dog alot even tho he was 15 and elderly at that point. he helped me give my dog his meds, make sure he was comfy and even helped feed him. he had a dog of his own and it happened to have the same name as my dog. that man is now my husband. unfortunately wen i moved in with my husband my dog did not move with me bc he passed before i got married but at least brandy got to see me happy and meet the amazing man who makes me happy before he passed. my husbands dog is now 10 and her name is also brandy. my ex bothered me for a few years cuz he saw a pic of mine on facebook with both brandys and my husband.
Sheena Leversedge Wood 2 years ago
that's awful! and he should have both had to pay the vet bill AND been charged. imagine behaving like that! I can only imagine he was jealous that you would give the dog attention when he's there. definitely dodged a bullet.
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Christine Caluori 2 years ago
People who abuse animals are particularly nasty individuals and she doesn't deserve your help, your friends who call you are are NOT your friends either, you have a responsibility to protect your dog and it sounds like your doing a good job
Brett Layton 2 years ago
The dog lives here, you're the visitor. Rude to my dog, don't expect an invite back. Cruel to my dog , expect to be physically thrown the f**k out without any care for your well being or possessions.
Barrygirl1943 2 years ago
Absolutely NTA. Staying in your house is a privilege- not a right. She needs to abide by all of your rules. The fact that we are talking about a living creature just makes it more important. Go no contact. Honestly, if you let her in, you may never get rid of her
Manny 2 years ago
What a POS. She made herself homeless by not paying her rent and this has happened 3 times already?? Why is this lady still friends with her? Cut her off ASAP. And as for the mutual friends saying she is cruel for taking the puppy over the friend, cut them loose too. If they care so much why isn't she staying with them then?
dremetrius 2 years ago
Just when you think that at the VERY least, one could depend on people to agree that "kicks puppies" is *absolutely* an instant GTFO... I would be judging any friends pressuring me to take her in again, HARD.
Barbara Kayton 2 years ago
Abusing animals is a red flag. It’s not about “elevating” the pet over the human, it’s about the human revealing who they are. Abuse is never ok.
Pamela Blue 2 years ago
It sounds to me like your "friends" are just angry because now the onus will be on them to decide what to do. You have already made your decision. And if your "friends" continue to call you an AH for this decision, you need to reconsider who your friends are, and whether you really need them as friends.
Elemcie 2 years ago
My former SIL visited our home without my brother. In the space of 4 hours, she kicked my dog and kissed on my husband (on the cheek, but she was constantly hugging and smacking on him). I told her "you'd have been a lot better off kicking my husband and kissing the dog." Never invited her back. They were divorced within the year anyway.
Daniela Lavanza 2 years ago
"I don't trust a man who doesn't like dogs but I trust a dog who doesn't trust a man." Bill Murray
Courtney Christelle 2 years ago
Watch how fast I slap the sass out of someone’s mouth for mistreating my pets. If it’s wrong to do to a child, it’s wrong to do to an animal.
Don Adams 2 years ago
Saw a sign for sale, it was for people visiting dog (and cat) homes. One of the sayings was "To you, I am just a dog. To them, I am family". If you don't like dogs (or in our case, our 14 cats (13 are rescues or feral kittens we bottle fed and took in), you are free to pass on by the house. We'll even wave as you go by. Friend takes in someone in need, person in need torments the puppy. AMF!
Kraneia The Dancing Dryad 2 years ago
"why thank you for offering to take care of her, since I in good conscience cannot". 😉 Repeat until mutual friends shut up.
Janelle Collard 2 years ago
She's lucky I'm not Tater! There would've been consequences, some of them a yellow liquid. :)
Rosalba Cureton 2 years ago
Dogs are our smaller brothers. They need to be looked after and valued
Sheena Leversedge Wood 2 years ago
not only would they not stay with me, they wouldn't stay my friend.
Featherking 2 years ago (edited)
What an understanding and tolerant person OP must be, I commend them. Personally I’d have dropkicked the cat abυsing (because I have cats) bítch out my door hard enough to make her āss strike sparks on the blacktop the first time she touched my cats with anything but love. Not only would our friendship be stone dead in an instant, I’d make sure to warn anyone I knew who also knew her - I mean, not warning people of an animal abυser is like criminal neglect, morally speaking. Might sound a bit excessive, all this, but being abυsive to an innocent is like an instant display of one’s personality and I won’t waste my time on a person who’s prepared to overstep that boundary. That boundary is the outer limit of human ethics, the base line that mustn’t be crossed. Ever. “Hello, my name is Betty Bυtthole, and I’m comfortable hurting animals and/or children for no other reason than me just feeling like it. Want to be friends?” No, Betty. No, I don’t want to be friends.
Sheena Leversedge Wood 2 years ago
right. a cat loving friend of mine wouldn't even stroke my cat when I picked him up so she could. she said "no, he'll come to me if he wants to meet me." which I thought was very respectful of him, and I liked that. and after a while, he did (he's extremely affectionate, but aloof with new people for quite a while) last time she visited, he came to her for lots of fusses. I can accept visitors ignoring him just fine. but I could never accept them treating him badly.
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Hakitosama 2 years ago
Any freeloader who so much as look at my baby the wrong way will leave my house without their kneecaps!
Sonja 2 years ago
So this woman disrespects her friend by misbehaving in their home and now whines she's not welcomed back? Because that's what this is. It's not about dog vs. Human, it's about being a guest in someone elses home and behave rudely against their house rules and antagonising their pet. That's just not okay. I don't like dogs. But if a dog owner would open their house to me, when I'm in a bad situation, you could bet that this is not how I would behave. That's just ungrateful. I think the reason why the 'friends' try to shame OP is because they know that woman is bad news and want to make sure she's not trying to ask them for help. I'd use this opportunity to weed out my friend list and block them all
Mike Fitzpatrick 2 years ago
I am NOT a violent man, however, if you mistreat my dog, you will have your @ss handed to you. No negotiations, you are screwed.
Appalachian Panda 2 years ago
Yeah, if you're going to stay at my house, you've got to accept the fact that my pets live here, too. If you don't like it, GTFO. They were here first.
AnimalLovingGirl 1 year ago
Above all else, even if my BFF mistreated my dog or loving pet, I’d sue and evict them.
R De Backer 2 years ago (edited)
OP won.t see this but NTA at all. She was much more patient than I would have been. It’s the pups home and OPs rules go. If she doesn’t like it the abuser can sleep under a bridge in the freezing cold. Don’t care about the well being if evil people. They deserve to suffer.
Steve Hall 2 years ago
No person is ever responsible for another grown adult (with some parental exceptions), don't feel bad about saying no, unfriend and move on with your life.
Papa 2 years ago
When I was growing up we had pets, but they stayed outside. I still prefer them outside, but my wife was raised different, and her dog stays inside. I said that to make the point that I can understand the guest not wanting the puppy beside her on the couch. However, her behavior was still inexcusable.
LooseSeal's $10 Banana 2 years ago
Somebody who doesn't respect my property doesn't get to stay with me. Period.
LH25 2 years ago
Huge Nope. If that's what she did when you were there, I'd be worried about what she might do later. And if ever alone with the pup. I've found animals are pretty good judges of character. The dog I had when I was single took to some dates, not others. The man I married she took to right away, and he took to her.
LonelyLittleLeafSheep 2 years ago
I have a Tater too (and a Biscuit)! When it comes to my babies, f**k around and find out. I will go John Wick on your a*s if you mess with my pups.
BlitheSpirit 2 years ago
If she’s the type of miserable person who is disrespectful to your dog, you can bet everything you own she’s not gonna respect anything else in your household. Although her being a b***h to your dog is alone more than enough reason not to let her live with you.
PeakyBlinder 2 years ago
How come you did not immidiately kick the c..t out the Moment xou noticed how she treats your puppy. I might callyou an AH for that, but definitely not for not letting her stay again. Personally i would cut contact with her completely, i want nothing to do do woth peopke mistreating animals, .
Tabitha 2 years ago
Cruelty to animals is a huge red flag for cruelty toward people. Nope. Ex-“friend” needs to grow TF up, and learn how to pay her rent, or just keep heading for that homeless rock bottom. Most people experience one, maybe two, setbacks in their lives. Help them a little and they run with it and are on the upswing in nothing flat. But some other people just never do anything but take all the help people are willing to give them and s**t on it. Then they expect people do keep doing it and they keep s******g on it. Eventually, no one wants to help them. Even their most generous and gullible friends catch on eventually, and stop helping. Maybe if everybody stops helping the woman OP is done with, and lets her hit bottom, she’ll grow a pair nd start helping herself. Probably not, but it’s worth a try.
Andrew Arons 2 years ago
If someone in my house kicked my dog, I wouldn't bother opening the door before I threw them out.
Catlady6000 2 years ago
Even if you don't like animals or only view them as property, this is still grossly disrespectful. It takes very little extra energy to ignore someone's pet and just don't interact with it. To actually try to cause harm really shows the kind of person she is
Jared Robinson 2 years ago
NTA You f**k around with my dog like that I'd have thrown her a*s out immediately. You are a saint.
brandyy17 2 years ago
i dated a guy once who was really nice wen it came time to meet my parents well i broke up with him before we sat down. wen we walked in the door my 12 year old dog at the time came running up to welcome me back home and before he got to my the guy kicked my dog telling it to stay away from me. i broke up with him immediately. he started yelling at me about having a stray in my house. so i told him thats my dog and bc he never leaves the property we only put his collar on wen we walk him. he said he didnt care he didnt want my dog near me while he was there. both me and my parents told him to leave and if he refused wed call the cops. we ended up calling anyways bc wen had a $2000 vet bill bc of wen he kicked my dog. he was ordered to pay the whole vet bill. which may i add is a whole pay check for him. if he didnt pay hed b arrested for animal abuse. aside from all of that he knew i had a dog and wat he looked like. he clearly lied wen he said he thought my dog was a stray. my dog saw the groomer that morning and clearly not a stray. he even heard my parents say "brandy look whos home". he did it completely on purpose. the next guy i dated my dog absolutely loved. he liked my dog alot even tho he was 15 and elderly at that point. he helped me give my dog his meds, make sure he was comfy and even helped feed him. he had a dog of his own and it happened to have the same name as my dog. that man is now my husband. unfortunately wen i moved in with my husband my dog did not move with me bc he passed before i got married but at least brandy got to see me happy and meet the amazing man who makes me happy before he passed. my husbands dog is now 10 and her name is also brandy. my ex bothered me for a few years cuz he saw a pic of mine on facebook with both brandys and my husband.
Sheena Leversedge Wood 2 years ago
that's awful! and he should have both had to pay the vet bill AND been charged. imagine behaving like that! I can only imagine he was jealous that you would give the dog attention when he's there. definitely dodged a bullet.
Load More Replies... Christine Caluori 2 years ago
People who abuse animals are particularly nasty individuals and she doesn't deserve your help, your friends who call you are are NOT your friends either, you have a responsibility to protect your dog and it sounds like your doing a good job
Brett Layton 2 years ago
The dog lives here, you're the visitor. Rude to my dog, don't expect an invite back. Cruel to my dog , expect to be physically thrown the f**k out without any care for your well being or possessions.
Barrygirl1943 2 years ago
Absolutely NTA. Staying in your house is a privilege- not a right. She needs to abide by all of your rules. The fact that we are talking about a living creature just makes it more important. Go no contact. Honestly, if you let her in, you may never get rid of her
Manny 2 years ago
What a POS. She made herself homeless by not paying her rent and this has happened 3 times already?? Why is this lady still friends with her? Cut her off ASAP. And as for the mutual friends saying she is cruel for taking the puppy over the friend, cut them loose too. If they care so much why isn't she staying with them then?
dremetrius 2 years ago
Just when you think that at the VERY least, one could depend on people to agree that "kicks puppies" is *absolutely* an instant GTFO... I would be judging any friends pressuring me to take her in again, HARD.
Barbara Kayton 2 years ago
Abusing animals is a red flag. It’s not about “elevating” the pet over the human, it’s about the human revealing who they are. Abuse is never ok.
Pamela Blue 2 years ago
It sounds to me like your "friends" are just angry because now the onus will be on them to decide what to do. You have already made your decision. And if your "friends" continue to call you an AH for this decision, you need to reconsider who your friends are, and whether you really need them as friends.
Elemcie 2 years ago
My former SIL visited our home without my brother. In the space of 4 hours, she kicked my dog and kissed on my husband (on the cheek, but she was constantly hugging and smacking on him). I told her "you'd have been a lot better off kicking my husband and kissing the dog." Never invited her back. They were divorced within the year anyway.
Daniela Lavanza 2 years ago
"I don't trust a man who doesn't like dogs but I trust a dog who doesn't trust a man." Bill Murray
Courtney Christelle 2 years ago
Watch how fast I slap the sass out of someone’s mouth for mistreating my pets. If it’s wrong to do to a child, it’s wrong to do to an animal.
Don Adams 2 years ago
Saw a sign for sale, it was for people visiting dog (and cat) homes. One of the sayings was "To you, I am just a dog. To them, I am family". If you don't like dogs (or in our case, our 14 cats (13 are rescues or feral kittens we bottle fed and took in), you are free to pass on by the house. We'll even wave as you go by. Friend takes in someone in need, person in need torments the puppy. AMF!
Kraneia The Dancing Dryad 2 years ago
"why thank you for offering to take care of her, since I in good conscience cannot". 😉 Repeat until mutual friends shut up.
Janelle Collard 2 years ago
She's lucky I'm not Tater! There would've been consequences, some of them a yellow liquid. :)
Rosalba Cureton 2 years ago
Dogs are our smaller brothers. They need to be looked after and valued
Sheena Leversedge Wood 2 years ago
not only would they not stay with me, they wouldn't stay my friend.
Featherking 2 years ago (edited)
What an understanding and tolerant person OP must be, I commend them. Personally I’d have dropkicked the cat abυsing (because I have cats) bítch out my door hard enough to make her āss strike sparks on the blacktop the first time she touched my cats with anything but love. Not only would our friendship be stone dead in an instant, I’d make sure to warn anyone I knew who also knew her - I mean, not warning people of an animal abυser is like criminal neglect, morally speaking. Might sound a bit excessive, all this, but being abυsive to an innocent is like an instant display of one’s personality and I won’t waste my time on a person who’s prepared to overstep that boundary. That boundary is the outer limit of human ethics, the base line that mustn’t be crossed. Ever. “Hello, my name is Betty Bυtthole, and I’m comfortable hurting animals and/or children for no other reason than me just feeling like it. Want to be friends?” No, Betty. No, I don’t want to be friends.
Sheena Leversedge Wood 2 years ago
right. a cat loving friend of mine wouldn't even stroke my cat when I picked him up so she could. she said "no, he'll come to me if he wants to meet me." which I thought was very respectful of him, and I liked that. and after a while, he did (he's extremely affectionate, but aloof with new people for quite a while) last time she visited, he came to her for lots of fusses. I can accept visitors ignoring him just fine. but I could never accept them treating him badly.
Load More Replies... Hakitosama 2 years ago
Any freeloader who so much as look at my baby the wrong way will leave my house without their kneecaps!
Sonja 2 years ago
So this woman disrespects her friend by misbehaving in their home and now whines she's not welcomed back? Because that's what this is. It's not about dog vs. Human, it's about being a guest in someone elses home and behave rudely against their house rules and antagonising their pet. That's just not okay. I don't like dogs. But if a dog owner would open their house to me, when I'm in a bad situation, you could bet that this is not how I would behave. That's just ungrateful. I think the reason why the 'friends' try to shame OP is because they know that woman is bad news and want to make sure she's not trying to ask them for help. I'd use this opportunity to weed out my friend list and block them all
Mike Fitzpatrick 2 years ago
I am NOT a violent man, however, if you mistreat my dog, you will have your @ss handed to you. No negotiations, you are screwed.
Appalachian Panda 2 years ago
Yeah, if you're going to stay at my house, you've got to accept the fact that my pets live here, too. If you don't like it, GTFO. They were here first.
AnimalLovingGirl 1 year ago
Above all else, even if my BFF mistreated my dog or loving pet, I’d sue and evict them.
R De Backer 2 years ago (edited)
OP won.t see this but NTA at all. She was much more patient than I would have been. It’s the pups home and OPs rules go. If she doesn’t like it the abuser can sleep under a bridge in the freezing cold. Don’t care about the well being if evil people. They deserve to suffer.
Steve Hall 2 years ago
No person is ever responsible for another grown adult (with some parental exceptions), don't feel bad about saying no, unfriend and move on with your life.
Papa 2 years ago
When I was growing up we had pets, but they stayed outside. I still prefer them outside, but my wife was raised different, and her dog stays inside. I said that to make the point that I can understand the guest not wanting the puppy beside her on the couch. However, her behavior was still inexcusable.
LooseSeal's $10 Banana 2 years ago
Somebody who doesn't respect my property doesn't get to stay with me. Period.
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