What do you want the straights to know about LGBTQ+?

#1

When I come out to you, I don't want you to start telling me about how you totally accept me and you're glad i trusted you enough to tell you and how im still a human and blah blah blah, i would much rather you just say "that's cool" and move on. I don't need you to make a big deal about it, just accept it (make sure I know you heard me and understand, so I don't repeat myself when you already heard me) and move on.

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Legend
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4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes exactly! Some of my friends did that, it was actually quite annoying.

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    #2

    I really think that the Bisexuals want you to know that we are not greedy, or confused, or indecisive, or more likely to cheat. It is NOT just a phase. We are not half gay, half straight, we are 100% bisexual. Thank you for coming to my TED talk. Yours truly, a fellow bisexual panda

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    #3

    This goes for some lgbtq+ people as well.BISEXUALS AREN'T SLUTS OR WHORES.I'm bisexual and I'm still a virgin.Some of us are horny, and you know what?That's alright.We all have urges.And sometimes, we want to get laid.So yeah.Also, non binary is a very real gender.

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    Dark Pearl
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    EXACTLY! I get horny all the time, and I'm a pancake.

    GaeFrog
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Non binary is real but the point of it is to not be a gender XD

    Eden
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think you're thinking of agender. Nonbinary is an umbrella term for anyone outside the male-female gender binary, and doesn't necessarily mean an absence of gender :)

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    #4

    Being pan is real and different then bi. You can be asexual and pan-romantic. Just cuz I like all genders does not mean I like all people I am actully quite picky

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    HooowlAtTheMoon
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. Pansexual/panromantic people have types and preferences just like straights. I don't get whats so hard to understand about that.

    Alyssa Sweat
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Have you ever have someone tell you your racesist just because you are a white person whos attracted to a white girl/boy?

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    #6

    Our personality is more than just our gender or sexuality so please don't make a big show of it and pretend that is everything that anyone ever needs to know about us.

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    HooowlAtTheMoon
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yessss, like I'm more than a lesbian but nobody else seems to think so.

    Alyssa Sweat
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yah, a problem that you might face is once you tell people you are apart of the LGBTQ+ community, they might not see you the same way. Ever since a rainbow became the LGBTQ+ comuniy sign, I have never seen it the same way. Of course not everyone sees you differently once ou ell them. People can act differently.

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    Donkey boi
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm straight, but when I hear the cursed, 'This is my friend [name]... he's/she's/they're gay!' introduction pisses me off every time! It's like, do you do that with your straight friends?

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, I have some friends who do this so I introduce them as "This is my friend [name]... he's/she's/they're strait!"

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    DogPerson7
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! It is literally only who you like/don't like/who you are! (That's a lot. Moving on.) There are so many other parts of us!

    #7

    It's not a *curse word* choice!

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    the Me_greatest
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My straight friends ( I’m bi) think that it is a choice. It is not. UHHGH

    Dark Pearl
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because if it was a choice, I'd be more pan and more non-binary.

    soniacccccccccc
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m sorry but I don’t get it. Again I don’t wanna offend you but I never heard of this srry

    #8

    We cant just change our sexuality or romanticity. Its not a phase

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    #9

    That gay marriage doesn’t mean all marriages have to be gay. Trust me, people think that way.

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    #10

    That 1) lgb people like everyone they meet. Do straight people? Nope. 2) we are (or at least I am) probably already under a lot of stress due to this, please at least try to understand what is happening to us instead of writing us off as weird right away 3) I'm cool if you want to talk about it, but do you need to know every little detail about how I figured out I was a lesbian? Do I ask you for every little detail about how you figured out you were straight? Please stop asking, even if you are trying to be nice. And finally, 4) I DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT "DOING THAT" WITH YOU! NOPE! The number of times I have been asked.... (sorry if this is offensive to anyone. I didn't mean it to be, and all sexualities are great. I'm just kinda blowing off some steam.)

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    Ash Trash
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    These questions are so much more annoying when you're asexual (and nonbinary in my case). Like why do you care about whats in my pants, you never gonna see 'em

    the Me_greatest
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Woah woah woah. Not lgb. Use quiltbag+, queer unsure intersex lesbian trans bi ace gay

    #11

    Some bi people (like me) like girls more than guys. but if the opportunity presents itself, we might date them! liking guys and girls is cool! and liking guys more is cool! liking girls more is cool! BI PRIDE.

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    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just because you've only seen me date girls doesn't mean I'm lesbian! I like dudes too!

    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    lesbians are cool too! ALL SEXUALITIES ARE COOL! sorry!

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    Nezuko_Chan
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m bi and I like boys more than girls but that doesn’t mean I’m straight

    #12

    It is not ‘preffered pronouns’, it is CORRECT pronouns No, Margaret, I didn’t ‘used to be a girl’, because I am AFAB does not mean I was/am a girl You cannot laugh off misgendering/deadnaming someone on purpose It is NOT him/her, (s)he, or anything like that. Is it THEY We are not confused, or going through a phase It is not a damn choice! Thank you for coming to my TED talk. - A trans and queer Panda

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    HooowlAtTheMoon
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Very nice ted talk, i completely agree

    Bisexual Bi Myself (she/her)
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Me *accidentally deadnames trans friend who recently came out* Also me *apoligizes profusely and in misery feeling like an ahole the rest of the day*

    Dark Pearl
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    4 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    WHY THE F**K DO WE ALL STILL HAVE TO DEAL WITH THIS BULLSHIT?! I AM NON-BINARY, DAD, AND MY PRONOUNS ARE THEY/THEM AND MY NAME IS F*****G BAILEY!

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    #13

    When we come out to you, you do not need to say “just don’t crush on me” I just think it’s rude

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    HooowlAtTheMoon
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And it makes everything weird. Like we can't control if we crush on you, we won't tell you if you don't want us to, but don't say not to crush on you.

    labaguette🥖️‍🥖️‍
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For some reason people think they because I’m a lesbian, I must like every girl to ever exist. NAME ONE REASON I WOULD HAVE A CRUSH ON YOU AMANDA BECAUSE I’M STRUGGLING TO TOLERATE YOU.

    Dark Pearl
    Community Member
    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Me- I'm pan. Straight bitch- Don't get a crush on me though lol. Me- You aren't my type. Straight bitch- *insert shocked Pikachu meme*.

    #14

    1. We’re trying to take over the world 2. My sexuality does not concern you 3. I can’t change that I’m gay and if I could I wouldn’t 4. If trans peoples pronouns are what’s in their pants then my pronouns are Your/Dad 5. Don’t tell me to go kill myself maybe I will that would kinda make you a murderer right? 6. Dont assume anyone’s pronouns 7. Bisexuals are not whores or sluts 8. Don’t ask how gays f**k each other, ok? I wouldn’t ask you what your favorite sex position was randomly! 9. No I don’t hate straights 10. Super straight is not a sexuality

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    Dark Pearl
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Riley, you may not be my friend, but I wish to be yours. This is impeccably amazing.

    Donkey boi
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm hoping 1 is supposed to say 'We're NOT trying to take over the world'. I don't think I could cope with the competition.

    #15

    Dont go "OMG IVE ALWAYS WANTED A GAY BEST FRIEND" just accept it and move on. its reaaaaaally weird and uncomfotable

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    #16

    1 its not a phase 2 I WAS BORN LIKE THIS IT WASNT A CHOICE(not like its a bad thing.) 3 no matter my sexuality I’m still human.

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    the Me_greatest
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ahh it’s so annoying when straight ppl thing being quiltbag is a choice.

    #17

    Please don't question me about my past because don't know how confusing it is to figure out that you aren't just into guys and girls but also into neither.

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    #18

    MY👏 SEXUALITY 👏 DOESN'T 👏DEFINE👏ME👏AS👏A👏PERSON👏 Honestly, my sexuality isn't even that big of a deal, and I don't want you to treat me different just because I'm bi! Um- hello?? I STILL HAVE AN ENTIRE PERSONALITY

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    #19

    Asexual does not mean we don't have feelings and we can't care about people. We can still love people, just not sexually. We can still have romantic relationships if we want and platonic ones. We still have emotions. Also, asexuality is a spectrum. A very large spectrum, everyone is different.

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    HooowlAtTheMoon
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, it's definitely a spectrum some ace people don't want ANYTHING, no cuddles, no kisses, no sex (duh), some are fine with cuddles/kisses, but still aren't interested in sex (that's where I am on the spectrum) and some ENJOY sex, they just do not feel sexual attraction.

    Ash Trash
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm grey-asexual-ish, the best way i can explain it is, i still want sex i still enjoy sex. I just don't see someone and go "damn they look good" i don't have celebrity crushes. I don't value my interest in someone based on "how hot they are". i do find people to look good, it just doesn't affect my interest in them

    Ash Trash
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Disclaimer, this is not everyone, just showing a part of the diversity on the asexual spectrum.

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    #20

    Me: *comes out as bisexual* Friend: wait ew does that mean you like me?! Me: oh, no, you're just one of my best friends! Friend: so I'm ugly then? Me: well, frick JUST BECAUSE I'M BI DOES NOT MEAN I LIKE YOU!!! Like seriously, do straight people like everyone they meet? No? Didn't think so.

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    HooowlAtTheMoon
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    LGBTQ+ people have preferences just like straights. I don't know how thats hard to understand.

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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ikr it's just simple logic. Most people don't fall in love with everyone they see (not judging those who might) and we're still human, so they should at least be able to listen to us. "YoU DoN't EVen TrY To ExPLaiN!" Cause you won't bloody listen!

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    #21

    Coming out is hard. Way harder than you'd think. Be kind, accept, and move on.

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    HooowlAtTheMoon
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    4 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, it's not like theres a "the worst thing" they can say when we come out, some parents literally kick people out and disown them, and we don't want to lose friends who will start to ignore us when we come out, we don't know how people will react so we put it off.