We've all been asked insensitive and invasive questions before. Share your story and tell us what NOT to ask people. Also, this is my first post, so I probably didn't do very well. Have fun answering!
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"Are you just faking your stutter for attention?"
Jared, would I be faking my stutter because I want to have a hard time existing in a society?
Never, ever, ever, under ANY circumstances ask a woman if she is pregnant, even if she looks to be. There are many illnesses that cause abdominal swelling that resembles a pregnant belly and a lot of times, those illness are accompanied by infertility. (Think uterine/ovarian cancer, for example.) It is incredibly painful when you want to have a baby but can't and then people ask you if you are pregnant or when your due date is or ask to rub your belly.
Why aernt you married yet? Why dont you have any kids?... Because I f****n dont want to okay! Jesus Murphy!
i’ve been asked abt my genitals OVER and OVER again. i’m a trans man, so it makes me really uncomfortable T-T
my fellow pandas, please never ask about other peoples pants things whether they are trans or not it’s SO creepy
Yeah when someone asks me what's in my pants I usually just tell them that it's their mom and then they shut up
I'm half-Indian.
I've been asked if I "speak Indian" WHICH ISN'T EVEN A LANGUAGE!
And apparently when I was really little, my mom (who is White) was asked "Aw, she's so cute, where did you get her from?" Like what the heck!?
As a blind woman I have been asked many rude questions. One of the most rude things that people do to me is to speak to whoever I am with as though I am not capable of speaking for myself. For instance, if I am at a restaurant with my mom, sometimes the server may ask her what I would like to eat, instead of asking me directly. People also tend to ask me stupid questions like how many fingers they are holding up or whether or not, I know sign language.
One of our pastors had a pastor in training and was giving premarital courses to couples who wanted to get married. One of these couple had both parties blind. The PIT asked how they were going to do it if they couldn't see anything!!! How stupid can you be? BTW, when I was young, we had a neighbor's uncle who was blind and went skiing every winter (he had a caller with him).
Not that I've had to hear it for a long time but, as I'm asexual, I've always had lots of very close female friends, and so I have always had to put up with the whole " you must be gay", thing from pretty well every fkn guy I meet..... Cause, for some stupid reason, if a female friend comes up to me and gives me a kiss and a hug, or sits in my lap,and it's not sexual,somehow that means I must be gay!! Used to drive me nuts.....so, the rudest question I've had to tolerate is " Are you gay?" ( or more offensive variations!!!)
It's really strange that people keep asking about weather someone's gay or not... It's none of their business. People called me a lesbian, then bi or fake because I "switched camps again" I always told them I'm capable of loving both men and women, nothing to put a label on. You just do you and be happy, what other people think about you is so important.
"Are you a Devil Worshiper?" This was asked when a friend of mine and I were discussing a weekly role playing game we play with other friends when our mutual boss decided to be snarky. I replied with "Yes we are and we're having a little get together on Saturday night. You're welcome to come. You are a virgin, right?"
All of the 'oh so you're a girl who thinks she's a boy' or 'you're actually a girl tho right' like no. Just cause I don't have a d**k doesn't mean I'm not more of a man than you could ever be
The last sentence tho. Also, that's exactly how my parents describe trans people, it's super annoying.
As a lesbian, I got asked asked how I had s*x often, like the mechanics of it. Even once by a doctor who was a family friend during a doctor's appt. I explained to him it was the same stuff as hetero s*x without the male organ (usually) and he seemed very confused. I had to explain to a middle aged married man whom I'd known since I was a fetus that sex didn't entirely revolve around the D. He was embarrassed and I was embarrassed for him. Never went back to him.
I was the first girl in my class to need a bra, about 5th grade. I used to get asked/accused of stuffing my bra. One kid said he knew I did because sometime they looked bigger. I asked him to tell me which shirts made them look smaller and I would wear them more. I also asked him why I would do something that got me teased. He didn't have an answer, and did back off teasing me after that.
He was really obsessed with your bosom, good thing you didn't cower down.
I was off work due to a terrible accident. Since it was an unusual one, it took the work insurance ~6 months to decide to start paying me so they owed me a lot. By that time, I had maximized my credit card to replace my salary. When I went to the bank to cash the payment, it's a new cashier and she's really young but my favorite was not too far. I sign and give the cheque to the new one and asked if the money will be frozen because I need the money right away. It was close to $10K CAD and she asked me why I needed all that money. OMG. I got red in the face; I was furious. I was sputtering stuff like it wasn't any of her business when my favorite cashier came over and asked what was wrong. After I explained she took over and told the girl to just go sit in the lunchroom and wait for her. She apologized and that was that. PS My cheque wasn't frozen so I was able to put the money on my credit card.
That girl still had a lot to learn, it's none of her business...
Two things:
Firstly I have agoraphobia and I really, really don’t like loud noises. When I say this, I don’t mean it just annoys me when I’m in crowds or experiencing loud noises. My head starts to hurt, I start to feel dizzy, and occasionally I have vomited from the stress. Fortunately, I have a friend who understands me so well, that she will always help me in these kind of situations and look after me and calm me down. But every so often, I come across an absolute git who asks me if I’m faking it, or if me and that friend are in a relationship. 😤 Firstly, mind your own business. Secondly, why the hell would I be faking it?? To get attention?? Because, believe me, I am the kind of person who doesn’t want any attention at all.
Second thing: I’m Asexual, and every so often I get some troglodyte who asks rude questions about it. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m always happy to answer questions about anyone who’s confused about my sexuality, because some people may find it confusing. But here’s a tip: ask NICELY. Some people ask: are you sure you’re asexual?! Do you seriously never want to be in a relationship?? That’s just weird. Is that a mental illness? 😑 and I once told one friend, I’m asexual, and he’s just like, ‘OMG, shut up!! We’re in public…’ like r u kidding me?!
AYE SLAY STAND UP FOR YOURSELF QUEEN ILYSM BTW IM THE AMAZING FRIEND😻😻
A few days ago a colleague, who has absolutely zero filter or empathy, and knows I have a degenerative condition affecting my nervous system, asked me out of the random blue, “So, think you will you be able to still walk in 15 years?” I said “No, because chances are I’ll die before that.” What an utter twat. Said coworker also asks about my finances and why I’m so poor and can’t travel or buy a house (they’re privileged: parents pay for everything!) and I want to scream, “It’s called living with an expensive disability and having to pay for everything since I was 15, you f***ing a*s!”
I sorry you have to deal with dimwitted people like they. He doesn't mean any harm, but he's too thick to understand he's being hurtful. He likely won't get it until something catastrophic happens to him, then he'll be all "why don't you understand?!???".
I have been asked more than once by complete strangers if I have children. When I say "no" the follow up question is always "Is that by choice?" I got sick of it and once responded "Why? Are you writing my f**#ing biography?" The woman looked shocked and told me I didn't need to be so rude. I told her she started the rude rodeo by asking such a personal question of a complete stranger. That shut her up.
Why the actual hell would you ask a total stranger if they have kids?? Like seriously you can't talk about the weather or the latest sports thing?
Do you really want this baby? I was pregnant after ten years of infertility and treatmens. Had severe Hyperemesis Gravidarum and was admitted for IV as I vomited until I was close a kidney failure. Nurse was totally convinced I puked to be obnoxious beacuse if you vomit as pregnant it is because you dont want the baby. I reported her and transfered to another hospital.
What the actual hell?? So glad you reported that twit. She was definitely in the wrong business.
When I had my fifth child I was asked if they all had the same father.....from a lady behind a counter who only ever served me groceries.
My reply "does it matter?"
No it does not.
(But for the sake of this post - they do have the same father).
I would have told her that the oldest childs father is her husband (or insert other appropriate family member)
My fiance passed away very tragically one year ago, just a month before our wedding. We were building a house and planning a family. I had his friends wife ask me last week, genuinely, whether I have been dating recently.
TRIGGER WARNING
"how deep are ur s-h scars?"
dearest person,
1- it's none of your business
2- how am i supposed to know
3-why do you care so much
idk if it's suitable for this post, but it just pissed me off a LOT
mind your business, please.
When it once came up (I don't remember the context, but everyone was fine so far, I'm general fine telling about my condition) that I have a genetic illness that causes painful & tiring symptoms, one of my colleagues grimaced, leaned way away from me, and asked if it was contagious. And I had literally JUST used the word 'genetic'!
Alternatively, I once got asked by a little kid, with great confusion, if I was a boy or a girl. I'm nonbinary and tend to present like your average butch lesbian. I asked in return why it mattered. Kid's eyes got real big and looked like I'd just blown their mind, lol
Yeah I'm glad that I don't have to deal with the boy/girl stuff from kids (i volunteer at a summer camp, but luckily I pass as a cis dude) but it happens a lot with classmates which sucks. It's only because they aren't sure if I'm trans or not but seriously teach ur kids to be polite
My old jerk of a boss questioned my hygiene... On a hot summer day where I was hired as basically the muscle of the store. And visibly sweating, by the way.
He said "You stink. Do you even shower?"
Was literally about to walk out of the store and never come back. Luckily, said store closed down after I left.
Reminds me of the one time I had to take stupid "job integration lessons" when I was out of work. 8 hours of garden work with 30+ degree celcius outside and the arrogant hag leading it has the balls to tell me "I think we need hygiene lessons here". Good thing for her that I'm a polite person
I was genuinely asked this by a dude in tattered clothes and a custom made TRENCH COAT during an urban explorarion activity with my Boy Scouts. First he went over to the leader, who looked up ad said hi. The sus dude asked something and the leader told him to go away... So the dude went to me. He smelled like stale beer. He went up, (he was clearly NOT drunk), and asked if he could touch my balls. Just asked it. The other kids near me heard it too. Then he went over to a nice old lady and asked if she had meth. We made sure he didn't hurt anybody, and she called the police.
I am Malaysian Chinese. Does not have an accent, one time a gut doctor (refered to buy the hospital I was discharged from days prior, I was recovering from bacterial colitis), asked me on the first (and last) visit looking at the board on his hand: "Are you Thai? How do you pronounce your name again?"
"It's Wyatt Tan."
"..."
"As in WYATT Earp's WYATT..."
"..."
"Amy TAN's TAN??"
Somehow I felt as if someone kicked my gut after that first (and last) visit.
Also my first day of postgrad class at Parsons The New School of Design I was asked by a Foucault fanatic classmate incredulously: "Do you guys, like, live on, like, coconut trees?"
Apologies for giving both incidents as answers, in my mind, they tie.
I’m Chinese and I was once asked if I could speak Chinese. I can. But then they said ‘ok since you’re really Chinese then why don’t you give your snacks to us since you’re in our country and we have the right to your snacks’ Geez. That’s some logic.
At a funeral for a friend's daughter: "you don't have children, you wouldn't understand ".
A gut punch on so many levels.
Wow. I'm hopeful that wasn't the parent/ friend saying that. If so, I'm not sure I could forgive that very easily. Grief does funny things to people but that's a low blow.
If I was going to change my style anytime soon. I'm a 16(f) and I wear ripped jeans crop tops stuff like that never anything to cropped of ripped either and someone tapped on the solder and asked me straight to my face "are you gonna change your style anytime soon you don't look good" I replied with "sir with respect I have my own opinion in your clothes but I won't say them and keep them to myself like you should" .
Everyone coming up to me like:"Do you feel like a boy?" (But with some pretty words added).... just ask about gender NICELY and don't make fun of it, it's just uncomfortable. If I say yes, stop being like "oh you f****** gay s*** get away I don't want to get sick of you". If I say no (I am forced to), do not respond: "then why the f*** do you cut your hair and dress like that you c**t?!" It's just rude so PLEASE JUST RESPECT US
I have a list:
1. Do you speak Pakistani?
2.You don't? Oh so you speak Indian then!
Who I voted for. It's none of your business Sharon, regardless of what you and your Facebook friends think. Some people prefer to keep that private, and not ruin perfect friendships over who you voted for.
actually it's a way to find out which of your friends are anti-poor and anti-human rights. Then you can dump them.
When I will "stop being gay" or something like. I'm a 16 year old lesbian who has known it since I was 10. I won't, a******s.
Never ever ask a wheelchair user why they are in a wheelchair. A lot of the time it’s complicated and we start to explain but you get bored and lose interest and make us feel bad that you don’t really care. Or sometimes it’s personal and we don’t want to explain so you make it awkward by asking.
Also please don’t ask questions about how our love life works, it’s intrusive and rude. Rest assured if we can’t do it the ‘normal’ way (not that there really is a normal way) we find a way to enjoy time alone/ with partners that works for us, and it’s none of your business what that way is. You wouldn’t like it if we asked how you do things in bed, so why is it any different if we’re disabled? When people ask me how I make love in a wheelchair, I reply that I don’t, I get out of the chair first!
(On the same topic, please don’t call us ‘wheelchair bound’! We are not bound to the chair, we don’t sleep in it etc, we use the chair- making us wheelchair users. Either full time or part time!)
Thanks for the info. I think a lot of people just ask dumbass questions as an attempt to get to know you better, but they have poor social skills so they reach for the only thing they can see. Stupid, I know, but so many of us are.
I was 16. Missed a vaccination at school. Was scheduled to go during the summer break, It was a sunny day, the clinic was on the way to town, I was gong with my mum to town to help with shopping, so popped in on the way. The nurse knew my mum, so I was okay with my mum coming into the room, having a natter, its just a vaccination right? The nurse goes through red tape, checking my address blah blah blah.
Then, with my mum in the room, the nurse asks me "Do you fell yourself?" Erm, how do I answer that? Could hear my mum giggling away behind me.
The nurse explained, it was about testicular cancer, all us guys should be checking regular. Just wish she said that first. Rather asking a teenage boy if he feels himself up. (All teenage boys do btw).
FEEL, not fell, typo above. Was asked if I feel myself at age 16.
my MIL asked me (after my husband andI were married )if I intended to fight her for him? I thought I heard wrong and asked her to repeat it. She seriously spatit at me in a hissing whisper while my husband was out of the room.
I never answered her I was so stunned. I didn't even know the discussion was on the table. ( If I had fought her I think I could have taken her.)
Unless she was drunk, you should have told your hubby, just in case she makes trouble for you. Hell, if she was drunk I still would have told him. Alcohol just shows the person you really are.
When I was in my twenties, a neighbor, a man old enough to be my grandfather and a retired M.D. who was a friend of my grandmother’s, asked me whether I was still a virgin. His adult daughter heard the question and was totally embarrassed, told him, he couldn’t ask people that. I answered, “Yes and I always will be.” He frowned and I added, “I was born in September.” Of course, this only worked because we were speaking German: The words for “virgin” and “virgo” are the same in German (“Jungfrau”). The guy’s daughter laughed amd added, “Dad, that was the answer you deserved!”
I am Hispanic and time and time again I have been asked if I was Mexican, or Indian, If I spoke "Cuban" etc. It's ridiculous the assumptions people make just because of the color of my skin.
Here, where I live, we have a lot of mixed people and it's common to ask "what's your cultural background?". It's not seen as rude or anything like that. I get asked too and I'm whiter than white. I can see how it would bother you though. There's a huge difference between all three. Here people from Trinidad get mixed up with Indians and Jamaicans.
Me: I’m not getting married
Them: “Why?!”
Me: Because I’m aromantic and asexual. Marriage would be a stupid choice for me to make.
Them: Oh, you’ll fall in love someday.
My mom and I had this type of convo. I said I didn't want to be married or have children and she was like, "Oh, don't worry, you'll find a good and kind guy and have children with him." No, Mom, I'm not interested.
My first name has 2 pronunciations, both masculine, I am female. I hate it. When I tell people my name they almost always call me by the other pronunciation which I hate even more, or they just flat out can't say it (it's 3 letters ffs). Once had an older man tell me, after I introduced myself, that I meant to say the other pronunciation. Like, old man, are trying to teach me how to say my own name?!?
This reminds me of a time when I met a friend's mom in high school that told me my family is Scottish because my last name starts with "Mc". I tried to tell her that I've researched my lineage and it's definitely Irish, but she just kept on insisting...
Freshman year of college, I had wrist surgery over winter break. First day back, a group of about 60 of us were crowded together waiting to go into class when an older girl asked ,very loudly, if I had tried to commit suicide over break. She was training to be a teacher, BTW
If my Dad's partner asks me one more time about having grandchildren, I'm going to tattoo "non-breeder" on my forehead
Okay, this is going back a ways. I was around 19 or 20. My girlfriend's date ask me if I ever thought of becoming a stripper. Totally shocked, (I didn't have the best self image) I asked why would I ever think of doing such a thing. He said I had the body for it. I have to admit, I didn't know at the time if I should take his question as a compliment or an insult.
I am a single mom of 4. I get asked way too often “do they all have the same dad?” I find it completely inappropriate. They do, my soon to be ex husband, but why people think it’s any of their business is beyond me.
“Are you sure about that?” for a bit of context, I had told my friend that this joke was not funny. This was two months ago. Now it’s all she says to me.
“Are your parents disappointed that you were the one who survived?”
Context. I was discussing with a co-worker family histories one day and my friend commented on the fact that she had had a miscarriage early in her married life. This led to me revealing that my Mum had four miscarriages before she had me (all were late term) and that as an only child I often wondered what it would be like to have siblings.
Another co-worker, whom I wasn’t exactly a fan of to start with, pipes up from their desk “Are your parents disappointed you were the one that survived?”
My friend and I stopped… dumbfounded. I didn’t know what to say. I made my excuses and went back to work… after my brain caught up with me, I realised just how angry I was.
I put in a formal complaint and the co-worker was moved to another section two days later (my friend had also apparently made a complaint)
LMAO the rudest huh? welp prolly someone (jokeingly) asking me if I’m a man bc I have a moustashe
I was s summer volunteer (to satisfy community service requirements at school) throughout high school. The first year there, a male resident asked me how old I was, and I responded "15", as I was at the time. His next (rhetorical) question (read in the voice of Dale from King of the Hill): "that's about when yeh start growin' yer bewbies, right?"
“How much did that cost you?” Pointing to my (adopted in China baby) “Did ya get a deal cuz she came from China?” Adoption is a valid method of building a family. After bunches of local fosters were not ultimately adoptable (reunification is always the goal) we decided to adopt in China. The socio-political situation made it about more than just give the family money to raise their own child. We decided that adoption was our choice… I knew we could love any child not just bio so 3 children later…. But the intrusive questions never end. I particularly like “Are you going to tell them they’re adopted?” Well for one me and DH are white and all three children are Chinese, 2. Two of them were old enough to “consent” ages 4 and 6 so yea… they know! Our first child was an infant but she’s known since day one… of her birth and subsequent adoption. Honestly there are so many great reasons to adopt… we just didn’t consider conception and birth!!!
I tried to adopt out of foster care, foster care pretty much just gave me the run around because i'm a single woman who didn't want to actually foster, just adopt. I can't take the heart ache of loving a kid that may have to go back to a sketchy situation. I'd go private adoption, but I can't afford it, and chances are I still wouldn't be chosen because I'm a single woman. I always knew marriage would be nice to have, but not a necessity to my life, but that I'd always want to have kids, and I've always wanted to adopt. Who knew that being stable and fantastic with kids wasn't enough?
When's the baby due?
Nope...no baby. Just my fat gut. Although I did put on the weight the last time I was pregnant.
I think people assume I'm pregnant because, even though I'm overweight, I inherited my mothers skinny legs. Sometimes I feel like a camel...except the hump shifted....
\] Say, "No," (just "No") with facial expression of your choice. (You have a delightful sense of humor)
You're an atheist? So you worship satan? What do you worship? Are there churches for that around here?
Apparently not believing in any deity is impossible to wrap your mind around for some.
You're still single? No ex husband? No kids? Aw I'm so sorry for you, I'm sure it'll happen.
You know what? I've seen all of you get married straight out of high school or college, I've seen how many are divorced or miserable by your late 20's. I want kids, but that hasn't worked out, so thank you for the salt in that wound.
And of course all of the rude questions related to just being a woman.
You WILL change your mind/ regret not having children. No, I will not. I’ve had a baby sibling and nephews (including twins) and great nephew, since I was 12 (now 38). I have done plenty of child rearing in my time. Enough to know I never want my own.
As the youngest of three siblings, I was an aunt at the age of 9. I got the exact same thing as you over the years, and not just from strangers. Even good friends chimed in on this topic. I said" I'm not interested in being a parent." Friends: "Oh, I think that you'd be a good parent." Me: "You're not listening to me. I don't want children." Them: "Why not? Is there something wrong with you?"
Could you shave your mustache and grow some boobs? I was 14 at the time.
I don’t have the best health (mainly lung issues) and I get pneumonia a lot. One time I was out for a few weeks with pneumonia in fifth grade and a lot of people asked my twin sister if I had died. Not offensive for me, but probably scary for my sister
What caused my miscarriage
oh no, that’s such a rude thing to ask someone, and about such a sad subject. hope you feel better now <3
“What do you think IT is? Do you think IT is a boy or a girl?” Yes, they were talking specifically about me. And oh BOY did I make it everyone’s problem.
“Why would you pretend to have arthritis? Everyone knows only old people get that (for context, I spent a month completely unable to move without help, because of the pain. I woke up crying, went to sleep crying, couldn’t sit up, climb stairs, shower, or wipe my f*king a$$ by myself).”
“Do you wish you had friends?” Shortly followed by, “oh then you don’t have autism.”
Not a question, but got told once that the girls sexually harassing me ‘meant it in a good way.”
I took my daughter to a Father/Daughter dance (now they call them Sweetheart dances and it isn’t just for fathers and daughters.) I was one of about 5 women there, there were hundreds of men there w their daughters. I don’t think one person alive really needs to ask why but, her dad is a piece of s***. That being said…another woman was there intruding on her daughters time with her father…that I knew all through middle school and highschool but barely spoke to her after walked right up to us and asked both of us “So where’s Richie?” My daughter was embarrassed enough as it is that people were staring at me from the second we walked in. You’re really gonna poke that soft spot on a child!?
I remember one time I was asked if I had COVID at school, because I was coughing. Like dude, COVID would make you not go to school.
COVID doesn't always show severe symptoms. Although, I'm sure you know that by now, lol.
If I have a f*****g c**k. I don't! so stop asking! How many times do I have to say it?!
“Did you lose weight or something?” Needless to say that gave me an eating disorder that is slowly getting worse.
Different strokes for different folks, as someone whose wife prepares hearty meals, I am always proud when seome says "Did you lose weight or something?" It means that my halfhearted attempt to lose some weight is actually working. Just for educative purposes since I don't know much about the subject.... I thought eating disorders are normally associated with those who try to stay thin and the question that would normally trigger the eating a disorder is "Are you gaining weight or something?"
I am scared of dogs. It is a crippling fear that makes everyday a potential stressful situation. Its like being scared of pidgens, dogs are everywhere! I get these a lot;
"Why are you scared of dogs, they are so cute?"
"Its only a puppy!"
The anti-Christ is also a baby but i think i'd be pretty scared around him too.
I am also half spanish- half scottish. Browse these:
"Why are you so hairy?" Dude Im Hispanic.
"You arent really scottish, your name doesnt begin with Mc/You dont have an accent." MC Hammer isn't scottish, but look at his name.
I postscript on the dog thing; I know a lot of BP users adore dogs, but please be sensitive around dogphobics. We have to live our lives in constant fear, and people can make us feel pretty rubbish!!! Peace!
Over a phobia? Gosh! I adore dogs and hate the people who hate dogs, but there's a difference between fear and hate, and fear's pretty understandable.
I was asked if “Bertha” is my real name or just a nickname. I was named after my mother’s sister who died of leukemia at age 16. In 1936. My mom’s beloved big sister. “Bertha” is considered a weird and/or ugly name.
Guy at my lunch table asked me if I was gay…told him I was and that I was Pansexual Nonbianary.
He asked me what that meant and I told him that it meant that I loved someone regardless of their gender and I don’t have a gender…..told me immediately that I f***ed animals and p***s and asked if I liked pans.
He is just one of the MANY reasons I think I’m lesbian
Sorry not sorry that I’m gay :)
B********y and pansexuality (is that a word?) are different. What a dumbass. Of course you like humans. I have no idea where the pedos thing came from.
About boys. I HATE BOYS and i'm questioning, but my mum, as mums do, is always asking about boys and once she even said "Oh you and (some boy i was friends with) should GET MARRIED because he's so polite and mild-mannered and sweet" i was 10 or so at the time... I definitely do not like boys. I am questioning, but males are out of the question. I have a few friends who are male, but they can be pretty obnoxious sometimes, and i would NEVER date any of them. Gross. (Sorry Clayton and Hamish, but EW HELL NAW)
"Are you a prostitute ?"
NO!!!! WHAT THE CUPCAKE IS WRONG WITH YOU I'M LIKE 14!!!!!!!
‘Do you have a crush on me?’
No, Stacey, just because I’m lesbian doesn’t mean I want to date you.
Oh, and ‘Who’s your boyfriend?’
I was in Year 3.
"It start to be many of you guys don't you think?" Asked by a colleague (minority himself) after I recommend my friend to work in the same company in Stockholm, sweden. I'm Chinese and so is my friend. 3 of 100 are chinese.
My response..."yeah we start to be many...Me, Eva, John, Tom, Marie and Chan we all from Malmö."
"Are you struggling with that living arrangement?"
Super confused about the character limit on these posts and why I can't delete this
I am not a panda, I am a red panda COMPLETELY different species, people! Pandas are from the ailuridae family, red pandas are from the ursidae family, so technically we’re closer related to bears than pandas.
"So, you're marrying a J*p?" from my racist uncle.
Hopefully I can continue to make posts, hope that people liked the answers people gave
whoa, you're so cool, you're pronoun is potato. (i'm being serious i think that's awesome, please don't downvote)
Load More Replies... 10 years ago, I was about 30lbs over weight. At the time I was dating a guy who was a body builder and in great shape. We weren't serious, but we were dating and having a good time. One night, I ran into a friend at a bar, someone who was also in good shape and he asked, "Hey your boyfriend is hot. Is he a chubby chaser?" I was appalled. I wasn't happy with my weight gain and tried to hide it by the way I dressed. This guy destroyed my self-esteem. I lost the weight a few years ago and am in great shape now. I saw that guy at a benefit and I reminded him that even though I long since got over it, that words hurt and what he said to me was f*****g rude. He tried to put it back on me and say I was the rude one, but I just shook my head at him and walked away.
I've never been asked stupid questions by random people (just by my doctors but that's an entire rabbit hole I don't feel like going into). I feel like I could have heard a lot of the ones people mentioned and even have ready answers in case that ever happens, but one of the good sides of autism is that people won't ask you this sort of s**t. True, they won't because they don't see you as someone capable and they also won't talk to you in general but I still see it as a good thing to not have to deal with people bs.
Hopefully I can continue to make posts, hope that people liked the answers people gave
whoa, you're so cool, you're pronoun is potato. (i'm being serious i think that's awesome, please don't downvote)
Load More Replies... 10 years ago, I was about 30lbs over weight. At the time I was dating a guy who was a body builder and in great shape. We weren't serious, but we were dating and having a good time. One night, I ran into a friend at a bar, someone who was also in good shape and he asked, "Hey your boyfriend is hot. Is he a chubby chaser?" I was appalled. I wasn't happy with my weight gain and tried to hide it by the way I dressed. This guy destroyed my self-esteem. I lost the weight a few years ago and am in great shape now. I saw that guy at a benefit and I reminded him that even though I long since got over it, that words hurt and what he said to me was f*****g rude. He tried to put it back on me and say I was the rude one, but I just shook my head at him and walked away.
I've never been asked stupid questions by random people (just by my doctors but that's an entire rabbit hole I don't feel like going into). I feel like I could have heard a lot of the ones people mentioned and even have ready answers in case that ever happens, but one of the good sides of autism is that people won't ask you this sort of s**t. True, they won't because they don't see you as someone capable and they also won't talk to you in general but I still see it as a good thing to not have to deal with people bs.
