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#1
i live close to an abortion clinic. i'm a christian, and it makes me so mad to see other christians yelling at women going in to get an abortion, telling them they are murderers and that they are going to hell. they scream at them relentlessly. it should be illegal to harass then like that. that's not how jesus dealt with sinners. i also don't believe all abortions are wrong. and christians should not be out there judging people without knowing their circumstances.
Final score:
57points
Martin Kaine 2 years ago
You're telling us is you're a good Christian- literally doing what Jesus would do. Well done.
LoyalHufflepuff07 2 years ago
You sound like a beautiful person. Thank you for showing us what a true Christian is.
Lauren S 2 years ago
Typically places that provide abortions for their patients also provide other female medical care. It’s been over a decade, but I got screamed at by some random guy in front of Planned Parenthood, who apparently knows better than meI just turned to him and said, “I’m getting a pap and a mammogram, no one is dying from that, but I risk a miserable and prolonged death if I follow your directions.” Guess he wasn’t used to anyone saying anything but curse words to him, he was gone when I left.
David 2 years ago
Agree and upvote. Same idea for Westboro Baptist Church screaming at gays how much God hates them. The message is wrong and the way it is delivered is wrong.
A gay cat man 2 years ago
as an atheist, i love christians like you. you're not judgy to strangers living their lives. you're judgy to people who deserve it! that's the best type of judgy
Everest the bookworm 2 years ago
you are one of the good Christians good, the others that are "pro-lifers" is pretty much Pro R@pe, and Pro boys will be boys, ugh. good on you
Mandie Zimmer 2 years ago
I totally agree with you. When I was younger, I was raised to hate abortion and homosexuality. But, then, I found myself in a bad relationship and had a pregnancy scare out of wedlock. At that point, I would rather have run away and changed my identity than have that man raise my child and have to deal with my family. Abortions and abortion clinics should be legal. I don't think they should be used as birth control (something that many Christians seem to think that it is all women get abortions for), but believe that they should be legal. Honestly, the extreme Christians who have hijacked and weaponized their faith to do such hateful things like this to women as well as the gay community are no better than the f*cktards that used the Christian religion to buy and sell slaves and commit the inhumane atrocities afflicted upon the black people.
Elizabeth VanDyke 2 years ago
"Christians" that I know personally are the most judgmental people that I know. They look down on anyone who does not agree with their way of thinking. If you disagree with them on any level you are a sinner and you are going straight to H3ll.
3 Trash Pandas in a Trenchcoat 2 years ago
Saying this as a christian myself, but those people are not real Christians. Real Christians try our best to love everyone no matter what, even when its hard and even when we fail.
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#2
I hate Bored Panda censoring. I hate Bored Panda copying TikTok.
Final score:
45points
The Original Bruno 2 years ago
The censoring is silly but mostly harmless. The Tiktok c**p... OMG PLEASE STOP!!!
ƒιѕн 2 years ago
Once upon a time Bored Panda was an art, design, and photography community for creative people. Now to get a viewer base they just scavenge the same old c**p from everywhere else (including tiktok) and paste it here. No longer does BP have original content.
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Mary Peace 2 years ago
I don't understand why you would stay on BP, if there are 2 basic things on here that you hate so much. But then what do I know? I don't do Tiktok (or anything similar) and I really dislike bad language.
Matt MacFarlane 2 years ago (edited)
BP moderators are censorship zealots. Can't have their ideology challenged by truth, logic or reason now, can we? Proves we live in crazy times where the intelligent are silenced so the stupid aren't offended. And no, this is not a "safe place" for everyone.
#3
STRICT PARENTS DONT MAKE OBEDIENT CHILDREN!! THEY MAKE KIDS WHO KNOW HOW TO LIE AND GO BEHIND THEIR BACKS!!! I’m so sick of hiding things from my parents and i feel so trapped. I’m not even technically allowed to be on this site.
Final score:
42points
Susan Abbott 2 years ago
me four, i’m hiding my account using advanced security systems called being the youngest child who could never DO such a THING!! *gasp*
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freakingbee (they/them) 2 years ago
oh same like if my parents saw what i do on my school laptop i'd be dead
Rocky 2 years ago
You guys!!! Now l do feel very old lol. I seem to be the only parent here!! I totally agree with that! My parents taught me right from wrong. They taught me a lot and never said:"you can't do this or you can't do that. " They said:" we trust you to do the right thing". And that helped for us. I taught my kids the same way. Teaching them and telling them why something is wrong, helps more than don't do this, don't do that. And it starts when they are little!!!
frogfrog 2 years ago
ong same!!! My mom has monitoring on my phone, laptop, etc. I feel you, it judt teaches us to sneak around and find out how oe to hide stuff.
Susan Green 2 years ago
As a parent, I never did believe in being overly strict, because that will result in your kids doing things behind your back and lying to you. frogfrog, although I don’t know your mom, she could be monitoring your phone and laptop to keep you safe from online bullying or online predators.
Load More Replies... David 2 years ago
Overly strict parenting frequently results in kids who act out more as they approach adulthood. Hence the slang term "PK syndrome" because preacher's kids are often in that category. I've watched that play out more than once with people I know. Try to remember childhood is a relatively short period of your life and when you become an adult be a good person for you.
DustTea (Submission author) 2 years ago
this is almost funny bc I am in fact a preachers kid
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Hope Cows&Chickens 2 years ago
My mother was ridiculously strict and now I'm almost 50 and have talked to her only once, I think, since the start of the pandemic. For some people, having power over another person seems to be the only thing that really interests them. I too learned hownto be sneaky and how to become a really good liar. Love is not having control over someone else and abusing one's authority towards their children is a surefire way to destroy what could have been a decent lifelong relationship.
Sarcastic person they/them 2 years ago
Me too my mom blocked it and I got her phone and unblocked it
Cheeky chicken 2 years ago
No one on this site will ever let your parents know you are on here, we got your back fellow panda x
#4
My mother is dying from Stage 4 cancer, and does not have much more time left. We don't know exactly when she will die, but each day is heavy with the possible expectation. Locally, my wife had shoulder surgery a week ago, and we are still figuring out the new routine, since she has to keep her arm immobilized for another 5 weeks. No one is sleeping very well, including our 4 children. My normal methods of getting stress off my chest (video games, writing, music, and eating) are not helping like usual. Yesterday, I kept vaguely hoping that a car would hit me on my bike so that I could rest. I am seeing 2 therapists regularly, and they help alleviate some of the negative energy, but it doesn't last like it used to. Finally, I am beginning my search for my birth family in earnest, and it is going to be a doozy! It is a long road to finding answers and resolution (if any). Phew! Thanks for lending a panda-sized ear for a minute, yo!
Final score:
36points
Auntriarch 2 years ago
That's an awful lot going on there my dear. Hold on the best you can, hugs and best wishes to you
David 2 years ago
My condolences on your mother's situation. My best friend was fortunate enough to survive stage 4 about six years ago but in asking blunt questions to her doctor found out all his other patients who went through chemo around the same time as her have passed and they are surprised she hasn't. And she is currently failing from alzheimer's. It is hard losing parents. I lost my mom in 2007 and my grandmother about a year later. So now all parents / grandparents / aunts / anyone above me have passed.
Hope Cows&Chickens 2 years ago (edited)
Wow! You've got a lot on your plate! Is there anyone that could take the kids for a weekend or even just 1 night? A big long heavy sleep sometimes helps reset me mentally. Maybe some of the older kids could have a sleep over at a friends house? Esp if you explain to the friends' parents how much it would help you. I wish you luck! Hang in there! Oh, and find out the local crisis line phone number. They can be really helpful, and if you tell them you really need to vent, they are very nice, having someone listen non-judmentally can be su h a relief!
Sharon Kapon 2 years ago
Im sorry to hear about all you are going through. I would suggest going to boxing classes or these room where you can break things. Dont take you life from us....your family needs you. Your life matters and appreciated
Frappuchino the hedgehog 2 years ago
I hope so very much you mom gets better (so does my hedgie!)
Cheeky chicken 2 years ago
Lots of love to you, it sounds like you are experiencing some of the most stressful things a person can go through at the same time with no chance to heal, rebuild and rest in between. There are no magic words to fix this, I'm sorry I truly wish there were, but without wanting to sound trite or corney this site is a place you can come on and vent if you feel you just have to get something off your chest and your fellow pandas will listen without prejudice if you just need to scream into the void of the internet and if you want advice will offer it to you. You will get through this, you will be changed on the other side of it, but it always helps me to know (in some circumstances) nothing stays the same forever, one day this will be your past. Lots of love x
#5
I am not ok. Even though I keep telling people that I am.
Final score:
36points
Mary Peace 2 years ago
It is good to vent on here, but I think you should find someone to talk to. Find out what is troubling you, deep down, and see what you can do about it. (I was married to a man who constantly undermined my confidence, until I really disliked myself. It took a while, but I'm gradually getting better.) Please take care of yourself.
Susan Green 2 years ago
No one should be telling you that you’re okay. There are times where many of us aren’t okay.
Angela Allen Simms 2 years ago
it's ok to not be okay just hit that RESET button when you're ready to be okay!
#6
I treated my mother so poorly during the last months of her life. She was in a nursing home and I got so impatient with her. Looking back, I want to slap myself. Sorry, Mom. You deserved better than me.
Final score:
32points
MaryHadaLittleLamb 2 years ago
It is very hard dealing with a loved one's end-of-life care, and that stress sometimes manifests itself in unpleasant ways. Forgive yourself, because I'm sure your mom has.
Sharon Kapon 2 years ago
Sometimes in life we do things we are not grateful for. Everyone makes mistakes, but you apologized you are regretful. You are a good human
Holly The cat 2 years ago
I just thought I should mention it: I think your mom forgives you. I think she loves you and understands that it was a hard time for both of you.
#7
my ex-friend was never respectful towards me, threatened to even kill me, gaslit me, would try to do ANYTHING to keep me away from other people, and was absolutely horrible to me. today marks day 15 that I've been away from them and starting a new life with friends who really care for me :)
Final score:
30points
LemonHead 2 years ago
im so happy for you. im still trapped in a toxic friend group and totally respect you for getting out and starting a new begninning
Ashlyn 2 years ago
I was in a toxic friendship last year but grew away and now have amazing friends who support me through anything
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Phyllis Turbin 2 years ago
Sounds like getting away from Facebook. Enjoy your freedom from that person!
LeviTheUselessFrog 2 years ago
how do you find friends after that? im still struggling after a, not so pleasant abusive "friendship**/Being romantic Partners with someone and im glad im away from them, but its been really hard to find actual friends after that.
JustSittingandScroling 2 years ago
Good for You! Keep being strong, you did a hard step in leaving them, it's even harder to stay away. I believe in you!
Sharon Kapon 2 years ago
I respect you! it's very hard to leave a place that you already got used too
Muff_Fluff 2 years ago
That is amazing for you. Good job! I hope things continue to get better.
El is so weird (s)t(he)y 2 years ago
Aww Im so happy for you. I totally get what your talking about and hope everything goes great for you!
#8
So I found out yesterday I need surgery in 2 weeks, and that my hubby needed it 2 weeks ago but no doc caught the *compression fracture in his vertebra*. I was begging them to do X-rays, but what do I know... It was that or a slipped disk, and I tried so hard but I've been dealing with a grapefruit-sized grwoth on my reproductive organs after bacterial pneumonia, and I am *tired of being the problem-solver in these situations*. Someone else do it! I need to heal! And that's my rant. Thank you for letting me vent that.
Final score:
28points
Sabra Faire 2 years ago
You have to take care of yourself first (without feeling guilty). I hope your surgery goes well for you and your husband's as well.
David 2 years ago
Ouch. Sounds painful. As a teen I had a golf ball sized cyst in my abdomen and it hurt a lot until it was removed. So, much bigger sounds worse. I wish you well with getting it taken care of.
Leo Domitrix (Submission author) 2 years ago
Thanks. It hurts like a (profanity insert).
Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix (Submission author) 2 years ago
See, these replies are why Bored Panda is still worth it. :-) Thank you.
Caro Caro 2 years ago
You know we love you... I will be thinking of you and sending positive vibes your way and some extra for your husband.
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#9
I am struggling with my mood, been on a relative high for a good few months, now just starting to feel numb to it all. I feel like my depression is hiding in the background, and is wanting me to crash.
Final score:
27points
Headless Roach 2 years ago
Keep strong there, N. I know it may sound meaningless from an internet stranger, but I do care about you.
crowspectre (he/they) 2 years ago
I experience a similar thing of ups and downs and I'm actually getting tested for bipolar soon. You should look into that to maybe get meds that could help you. Good luck
PolymathNecromancer 2 years ago
I may be able to offer something I have learned: since choice is fragile, whenever it is present, I always try to choose anything or anyone that will, when my power of choice wanes, specifically feed the currents of life to be carrying me away from, or at least not toward, the swirling maelstrom of yuck, so I may bridge the gap until the ability to choose reemerges.
#10
well i'm not even trying to be funny but my chest itself. i want a binder so bad, my dysphoria has been awful lately.
Final score:
26points
mysterious 2 years ago
If the weather's too hot for hoodies, try slightly oversized button downs. The material is pretty light weight, and it helps hide your shape. Getting them oversized means it's not going to fit funny over your chest, and that it's going to help hide things better. I wish you the best, and hope that you have less dysphoria in the days to come.
freakingbee (they/them) (Submission author) 2 years ago
that's good, i can probably find a few at my local thrift store. thank you, i'll try this.
Load More Replies... frogfrog 2 years ago
This moght work for ya, take a tanktop and fold it in half while you have it on under a shirt. It worked for me for a bit!
freakingbee (they/them) (Submission author) 2 years ago
i saw that trick on yt shorts last night actually, i was considering trying it and i will
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Grammarly 2 years ago
There's a forum website for young queer ppl called TrevorSpace where you might be able to get a free binder, remind me to paste the link later c:
freakingbee (they/them) (Submission author) 2 years ago
it's unfortunately blocked on my school laptop
Load More Replies... crowspectre (he/they) 2 years ago
If you wear sports bras backwards that can help, especially multiple sports bras plus an oversized hoodie
freakingbee (they/them) (Submission author) 2 years ago
today was like the one day i didn't wear a hoodie and i can't look at myself without wanting to cry
Load More Replies... Everest the bookworm 2 years ago
i wear black t-shirts that are sometimes oversized but i don't have dysphoria I'm just a tomboy i wear just all black which helps i think but its hot in Texas, I'm up here in new england so i don't have to deal with it as much
#11
There is no justice in this world and the crooks who shuffle large amounts of money win all the time. It makes me sick. Go watch the "gold mafia" series by Al Jazeera on youtube and realise that this is just ONE case in africa, never mind the crooks in other continents/countries. People innocently go to work each day to make ends meet and barely do so, yet crooks get away with this and are not prosecuted, or if they are, they have stashed their cash all over the place so when they get out of jail they can just carry on as normal. Makes me sick.
Final score:
23points
Hope Cows&Chickens 2 years ago
The world is such an unfair place! It seems, especially the last few years, that the crooks and swindlers get away with so much immoral crapola, yet if I were to jaywalk I'd probably get a ticket!
#12
i hate anime and ticktock
Final score:
22points
Olive Harper 2 years ago
Me too. I can't stand it. (please don't down vote. It's just my opinion.)
Rinso the Red 2 years ago
"Anime" is a pretty broad brush to paint with. Like anything else, there's a ton of c**p, but that doesn't mean they're all worthy of hatred. That being said, my wife doesn't understand cartoons that aren't for kids, so here we are lol
#13
You can skip it’s a long and depressing one. Don’t bother yourself with my problems. I hate everything about myself, and I want to die bc of my toxic manipulative and emotionally abusive friend. I can’t stand her but I feel bad bc she’s sensitive and I’m her only friend. I just came out as genderfluid to some of my friends and one is super transphobic. I always have some sort of dysphoria and also dysmorphia I hate my body. I’m still cutting and I just want to end it all. I just can’t imagine what that would do to my little sister, she’s the only one I care about anymore. I don’t wanna traumatize her, bc it sucks i never want her to have nightmares and panic attacks to the extent I do. I just don’t even know what to do. Therapy doesn’t work for cr@p and I can’t ask for medication bc my parents think I’m better and then I won’t have any privacy or freedom. I’m sick of being controlled and yelled at and gaslit and manipulated and I’m just sick of life. I can’t believe my friend was so mean after I came out not even a “wow that was really brave of you” I’ve looked up to her for forever and my whole world is just falling apart for so many reasons.
Final score:
22points
Kevin the Manager 2 years ago
I am certain that you will find new, accepting, refreshing friendship circles later in your life. Right now, I can see that your friendship/relationship options are limited, but they expand as you get older. Stick it out and when you can, surround yourself with those who accept and care about you as you are. Easier said than done, but I "hate[d] everything about myself" at one point too, and I'm glad I am still here. (((HUGS))) from your new friend, Kevin!
Tamra 2 years ago
This "friend" you're talking about is not a friend. A true friend is NOT abusive in any way, and you are not obligated to keep people like that in your life. In fact, it's better if you don't, especially if you're already struggling with other problems. About therapy: sometimes it can take awhile to work through things, so don't give up on it just yet. Don't give up on yourself. It is absolutely possible to get through all of this stuff and come out the other side, but sometimes it takes time, work, patience...and a lot of self-love.
El is so weird (s)t(he)y (Submission author) 2 years ago
Yeah I know I’m working on cutting her out. I’ve been in therapy for more than a year and all we ever do is play games. Thanks you so much for having confidence in me it means a lot
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Silpi Purple 2 years ago
I just want to thank you for your bravery. Even if we are internet strangers it's not easy to share such stuff, thank you for doing it. Sometimes life is cruel and hard, but you specifically you make this world a better place, even if you can't always see it in the present. Toxic relationships are difficult but you need to remind yourself you don't deserve those who treat you poorly. I, with all my heart believe that at the right time, the people you deserve will come in your life. Your personal journey is a treasure and it isn't easy, but it cannot be wasted. This is my discord if you ever wanna talk to a stranger that cares about you silpi#0861. ❤️
El is so weird (s)t(he)y (Submission author) 2 years ago
This really means so much but unfortunately I don’t have discord but thank you so so much
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LadyJaye 2 years ago
I know what it feels like to be sick of life and want to die, but keep your head up, you CAN get through this! Life is really sucky, but just hang on! You will find new friends eventually, and even if you can't get anyone in person right now, there are nice people online. I love you and I believe in you!
Mandie Zimmer 2 years ago (edited)
Life can be very hard. When I was younger, I too hated myself. I wanted to kill myself when I was 12 because of how much I was bullied. I felt like I couldn't tell my parents because that never changed anything in the past and depression was viewed as either a fake illness or something only crazy people get. Christians weren't supposed to be depressed or suicidal. I am in my 30's now. It was hard back when I was a child being bullied, and I can't even imagine the pain you are going through right now after coming out. But I can tell you this, you have to hang on and fight. This life does get better. As you get older, you will have the ability to leave your family and friends and take agency of your own life. The friends you have now will change in time as well and you will find friends who love you for the brilliant, sweet, caring person that you are and accept you for you. I know that it is hard to wait through the pain. It can hurt so much and is so overwhelming and suffocating.
Mandie Zimmer 2 years ago
But I promise you, it gets better. When I was at my low point when I was 12, everyday I would repeat to myself 'tomorrow is another day. Things are going to get better'. You are brave, you are loved, and you are amazing. Never forget that.
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Vermonta 2 years ago
That sounds like a nightmare. It would absolutely traumatize your little sister. If you are gone who does she have? Medication actually rewires the brain to make it better. My big sister wasn't happy at home for the usual reasons so she stayed in her room studying so she could go to college far away. Not saying go to college but "I'm studying" is a great excuse to be left alone in your room with the door shut
El is so weird (s)t(he)y (Submission author) 2 years ago
The problem with that is I’m in middle school and yeah she’s the only reason I haven’t attempted suicide again
Load More Replies... Everest the bookworm 2 years ago
i just read your in middle school too PLEASE STAY WITH US EVEN IF YOUR SISTER DOSENT UNDERSTAND PLEASE STAY HERE
Everest the bookworm 2 years ago
please call 1 800 448 3000 this is not meant to be rude but everything is just gonna keep going down and your gonna drown in sadness and depression without something or someone to keep you afloat and maybe get a pet that might help but if your sister needs to understand if she is old enough and is able to be trusted
El is so weird (s)t(he)y (Submission author) 2 years ago
She’s 9 and she wants a pet but my mom is allergic to like, every kind of animal
Load More Replies... Percabeth Forever 2 years ago
Hey, I understand how you feel, and whoever this "friend" is, she isn't your friend. I know it can be hard when people don't accept you for you, but don't let the people who don't get it take away your happiness. You are loved, and even if I don't know you well, I know that no one deserves to go through what you are going through, especially you. Please don't give up, you are strong, and everything will work out in the end. Try to cut that "friend" out of your life before it gets worse.
Lene 2 years ago
I am sorry you feel so bad. I hope it's OK if I give you some advice? 1) instead of cutting, I strongly recommend that you put your hand in ice water. It is painful but it will not leave scars. 2) if your friends are not good for you, ditch them. Don't worry about how they will react. It's not your responsibility to keep them afloat. It's your responsibility to keep yourself afloat. 3) take up journaling. Write whenever anxiety and negative thoughts are coming. Write down what triggered it -you may eventually see a pattern that you can act on to make it all a little bit better every day. 4) remember: you have survived 100% of your worst days! You are actually doing great! (Seriously, though, I know you can get through this! Self-therapy and letting toxic people out of your life will do wonders for you. I'm sure of it! I send you a big warm hug all the way from Denmark).
Genderless void (they/them) (Submission author) 2 years ago
1. I’ve tried the ice water thing and it doesn’t work I do the snappy rubber band thing but sometimes my arms puff up 2 it’s really just the one specific friend, and I have. 3. I’ve tried it so many times and it helped a little, but my handwriting and wording sucks and I’m always scared my parents will find it but I’ll give it a shot 4. Huh I never thought about it that way that really helped, thank you so much!
Load More Replies... #14
I wish Americans would quit arguing about which party is better and start working together to fix things.
Final score:
20points
#15
uh hi i just wanted to say that ilysm keep going hon, your doing amazing :) please don't give up. your going so far!!! i'm so proud of all you've done! i love you so very much and please keep going, you've got this :)
Final score:
19points
#16
I like a boy in my science class which is weird for me cause I haven't had a crush on a boy since elementary school but I really like him and I get butterflies any time I see him or talk to him and sometimes he'll just say my name and just that makes me smile for the rest of the day
Final score:
18points
#17
i dont know if its trust issues or what but whenever someone says something nice about me i never think its true. anything, i just think its because they are a nice person and they are saying it to be nice but really, im used to people telling me the bad stuff. im used to the truth and not people saying this stuff maybe to cheer me up or all that. i know im a problem and i can be annoying and if i am then you can tell me because i know it and i want you to tell me.
Final score:
16points
David 2 years ago
Just say thank you and accept it. There is no gain in arguing with them that (compliment) is not true. If they are being false you are just giving them what they want. If they are being sincere you just complicate a sincere compliment. I try to do this but I wish I had started practicing it many years ago. I'm in my 60s and I'm still not good at accepting compliments. Even when it is something I know to be true it still makes me feel sort of awkward.
Cheeky chicken 2 years ago
Insulting someone is easy, to compliment a person means they have noticed something they like or admire then thought of how to word that then plucked up the courage to pass that on to recipient. So if someone gives you a compliment take it as it is given and know it is genuine, why else would they put in the time to tell you? Just make sure to say thank you x
Phyllis Turbin 2 years ago
God this hits home. Especially when my hubby compliments me and after I've gained so much weight over the years. Is he blind??? No, just a very good man.
Sharon Kapon 2 years ago
I can assure you that in time you will believe them. just open your mind....trust yourself
Sharon Kapon 2 years ago
Im not sure how old are you, but yes you probably have trust issues and as well you dont believe in yourself. If you believe in you, you would know that these compliments will be true. you just have to find these compliments without them telling you
MaryHadaLittleLamb 2 years ago
Just know that if I compliment someone, I'm saying it because that's what I honestly think. If someone tells you that your hair looks good, it's because your hair looks good. Really! Sending you hugs, and I hope you can get to the point where you can allow yourself to believe the good things people think about you. ❤️
Susan Green 2 years ago
This sounds like a self esteem issue and no, it might not just go away as you get older. If you are underage and this continues into adulthood, you might want to consider counselling.
Rocky 2 years ago
Maybe go to a psychologist. Mine helps me a lot with some tools l have to try. Thinking differently, acting differently, and most of all loving yourself. People do say things good about you to be nice, but have you ever considered that they actually might see you better than you think? You can't be annoying all the time. Everyone has good things in them. I think it's good that you wrote this! Lots of people will maybe learn something about your post and the answers. And this is a true compliment. Don't think it's not, you hear me!!
#18
i've had serious thoughts of ending my life and i don't know what to do. i feel like I'm slowly going insane and i just want it to end.
Final score:
16points
Leo Domitrix 2 years ago
Been there, didn't do that, it's worth it to hold on, it really is, life is worth it. Call a help line, whatever it needs to help you walk away from the abyss, okay?
Martin Kaine 2 years ago
It sounds like you're in a lot of pain, or drowning in stress (or both), and I'm sorry you're at that point. I'm no trained medical professional, but you should identify whatever it is that is keeping you from talking to someone. Is it what you have to say, or you can't find the person to to say it to? Some one in your life who truly cares would rather you talk to them than to lose you, regardless of what you have to say. If there's no one in your life you trust, for whatever reason, I would suggest confidential help lines with those trained professionals (I think 988 is one). I wish you luck and a speedy turnaround in your life, my friend.
David 2 years ago
The following is a thought process that helped me through some particularly dark times. Everyone has opinions so if what I'm saying is not a good fit for you, apologies in advance. I made a list of some things that would remove me from an existence I was sick of. One of those was suicide. Another was moving to another country with warmer climate and cheaper cost of living and becoming an expat. Also possibly moving to another state (USA). I reasoned that if I chose suicide I could not try any of the other options after that. Some of the options (like expat) were kind of scary for me because there were pros and cons. But of course if one of those options went horribly wrong, I could still end me. So I promised myself that if it got to where I couldn't take it I would try at least one other option before ending myself. In the end I didn't do any of them but it kept me focused on not doing anything permanent on a really bad day.
Hope Cows&Chickens 2 years ago
There are crisis lines that you can call 24/7 and they have folks that are good at listening and can possibly help you find some free or close to free therapy. If you really think you might do something permanent, you can go to any emergency department and tell them that you think you might kill yourself. They have professional doctors and social workers and their job is to help people in your situation. I hope you reach out to someone either on phone or in person and that they an help you!
Lil Miss Hobbit 2 years ago
Keep fighting. You are worth it. There are people out there who want you and who care about you...even if they are just strangers on BP. I have been there, and now I am free from it and I have a job and a dog and great friends. There is hope.
Cheeky chicken 2 years ago
Yup, been where you are and where so many more of us have been. If you can't walk back from the edge, STAND STILL, the fact that you have spoken out shows on some level you want help. So please stand still, speak to whoever you can, friends, parents, a helpline, a therapist, anyone. Then when you see a glimpse of something that is vaguely positive crawl towards it, rest when you have to, then crawl some more. I hope eventually you find that you are walking towards it, then running and then one day you find that you are smack bang in the middle of that positive thing and you realise that you are the positive thing someone else can see and walk towards. Lots of love x
#19
My degenerative disease has come to the point that I could only imagine was close to worst case scenario. I am scared and lonely. I have people who love me but I feel like I have to entertain to keep them around
Final score:
14points
#20
also, i would like to get my two you-know-whats off of my chest - a trans guy
Final score:
13points
#21
My life is just really sucky. My parents are fundemntelist christians and have no resect for me. I have no way to escape from my life they are really picky about who I hang out with. They also don't think any mental health disorders are real or take them seriously, because if anything happens to you it's your fault for sinning or not "following Jesus" closely
Final score:
11points
Sabra Faire 2 years ago (edited)
Look forward to when you can be out on your own and create the life you want. Your situation is unfortunate but you can get through it! Stay strong.
A gay cat man 2 years ago
your mental health disorders are (unfortunately) real and your parents need to accept that.
Mandie Zimmer 2 years ago
Easier said than done. Trust me, my parents were the same way. This way of thinking is ingrained into them. Mental health disorders are real, but so are people who think the world is flat. What this person needs is a person in authority who can advocate for them. If they can, they should speak to their doctor, or even a teacher they trust (hoping that they aren't homeschooled and their family actually uses a doctor). Their parents won't change their viewpoint, unfortunately.
Load More Replies... Everest the bookworm 2 years ago
are you old enough to move out? maybe you could soon and cut conact
LadyJaye (Submission author) 2 years ago
Unfortunately, I'm not, just waiting to turn 18 and not a minute later am i going to leave
Load More Replies... Lil Miss Hobbit 2 years ago
I am sorry. One thing that helps me when my parents seem like they are putting me in a box is to remember that nobody's opinion except God's matters. And your parents cannot put Him in a box. Mental health is important and real. I struggled with thinking it was just my lack of "following Jesus" when I had really bad depression, but it turns out that He's not worried about you being a "perfect" follower. It's the broken people He died for. Between that and the realization that Jesus also went through mental agony, I was able to break free from that thought pattern and get professional help. And now I am doing great.
Lene 2 years ago
I am so sorry your life is so hard. I am 38 years old and a mother of 3 girls and I just hate to see/hear about kids of any age that don't feel happy and safe with their parents. I would so love to adopt all unhappy kids in the world if that would help them be happy and safe (incl. You). But that's not an option, really. Instead, I strongly recommend that you try and do some research if there are any organisations in your area that could help you in any way. Do some (secret from your parents) journaling about what goes on in your mind and your heart and write down all your plans for when you move out from your parents' home. Perhaps you can start to make small baby steps towards reaching those goals now? Even if it is just figuring out what kitchen wares you want and then starting to buy them. Lol. You are NOT alone and trust me: grown-ups are just as confused about life as you, they just pretend not to be because they think they have to act "adult-like" (whatever that is).
Holly The cat 2 years ago
Well clearly your parents didn't get the whole "Jesus meets you where you are" memo.
LadyJaye(she/they) (Submission author) 2 years ago
It's great to hear that from Jesus
Load More Replies... Mandie Zimmer 2 years ago
I wonder if they have read the book of Job lately... By their logic, the Roman would have never crucified Jesus. Bad things happen to amazing people all the time, and coming from someone who grew up in a similar circumstance to you, sheltering you and this way of thinking they have too will only make things harder for you going forward. I mean, you could always remind them that Jesus hung out with prostitutes, the degenerates of society and the drunkards and rebuked the 'holier than thous' for their lifestyle everytime their patches crossed. My siblings and I grew up as pastor's kids. My older sisters weren't allowed to dress up for Halloween, and saying 'dang', 'fart', 'burp', was akin to dropping the f bomb. My brother and I had less stricter rules, but movies like the Da Vinci Code or checking out the open house of the new Mormon Temple were forbidden. I even think my mom banned Disney from the house when we were growing up.
Mandie Zimmer 2 years ago
We are all grown now. My oldest sister married her high school sweetheart and they have kids of their own who are amazing. My second sister also married young and also has amazing kids, but had a pregnancy scare just before she got married. My brother and I live together. We have both been in abusive relationships and have fallen very disenchanted with the church. I often call out my mom's hypocrisy as well as the church to her face and my brother and I rarely attend. My sisters raise their kids nothing like my parents did and, their kids are amazing for it. I firmly believe that had my parents not been so strict, I would not have fallen for a man child that lead to and extended abusive relationship that lasted for ten years (my mom would 'intervene' and tell him where I was because we were supposed to get married, ironically, she now tells me how happy she is that I didn't marry him).
Load More Replies... #22
I have been experiencing some really dark thoughts lately about cutting myself and starving myself to the brink of death. It’s honestly a miracle that I haven’t actually tried to kill myself yet, but give it time and it’ll happen.
Final score:
11points
IDidntChooseReality 2 years ago
Trust me that was me about two months ago and I almost did, so DONT DO IT. It will hurt people even if you know it won't I promise
Charlie Spring Fan (Submission author) 2 years ago
I found the song peaches by Jack Black and I think it's hilarious. I haven't laughed so hard at a song in a while.
El is so weird (s)t(he)y 2 years ago
No please don’t. I totally understand what you are going through. I know it seems so hard and maybe you don’t wanna end your liking fe, just those thoughts. There are better ways. Just please come talk to me if you ever need anything
ACE PIRATES 4 THE WIN 2 years ago
Please don’t I know it can seem impossible to keep going but we are here to support you. Please don’t let those thoughts take over your brain, take a deep breath, and maybe if there’s some calm activity you love to do you could take a break and do that because I really don’t want you to harm yourself. Your safety is most important
blue 2 years ago
Please don't do that. It seems impossible now but if you give it time and like people suggested to do something you like or try to calm down. And istg by the time you might have recovered you will realize how short life is and how you don't want to waste a moment more of it on these thoughts. Same thing happened to me just not nearly as severe.
Charlie Spring Fan (Submission author) 2 years ago
Him and I are going to wait until we're older to get married, it makes sense. And we're both young and have to think about the future.
Load More Replies... Psychosaint 2 years ago
I completely understand that feeling but just remember 1 thing, it doesn't stop the pain, it just passes it onto other people
#23
Multiple things :) 1. I’ve never had a crush before so for all I know I have a crush on my friends 2. I had my first suicidal thought 4 years ago, when I was in grade 3 3. I’ve no idea what my religion is, my whole family is christian 4. I keep looking for sharpener blades and I don’t realise that I’m looking for them until I find them or until after around 2 mins Thanks for reading (or not) to my nonsense
Final score:
11points
Hope Cows&Chickens 2 years ago (edited)
I was in 7th grade when everything seemed to go wrong too. I hope there is a counselor or teacher you can talk to or even a crisis help line. I understand not wanting, not being able to talk to one's parents. Are there any friends' parents that you'd be comfortable talking to? They were all young and overwhelmed with teenage/ preteen feelings too, so unless they're really old then they remember what it was like around your age. I ended up being a confidant for a girl down the street a couple years older than my own daughter, so maybe you can find someone too. I wish you luck! And just ignore the haters in the comments. Anyone who says f'ed up comments to someone who just admitted they were having trouble definitely has problems of their own. Otherwise they wouldn't be making such comments. I hope you find someone you can talk to!
§~ Rainbow Panda ~§ (Submission author) 2 years ago
Thank you for your concern, I really appreciate it. I have told my mom and I have a therapy session booked for May 4th as it was the earliest my mom could have booked for me
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oddly_informed_raven 2 years ago
Middle school sucks a$$, just remember you're not alone. Saw in another comment that you have a therapy session booked, so I hope that goes well for you.
Lene 2 years ago
You do not have to know what your religion is. Even if everybody around you expects you to and/or knows what religion they believe in. Religion may just not mean as much to you as other aspects in life. So let me tell you this: you do not need to think about it anymore. I give you that permission (in case you need that). I was nearly 30 years old when I surprisingly found out that I was religious. Trust me, it is NOT important to figure out what sort of religion you belong to. It's important to figure out what sort of person you are, what morals and values do you have in you. Be your own god or whatever. And, may I add: you have survived 100% of your worst days. You are doing great!
§~ Rainbow Panda ~§ (Submission author) 2 years ago
Just realised I shouldn’t have put the “to” in the last sentence 😶
§~ Rainbow Panda ~§ (Submission author) 2 years ago
Is that a mental disorder or smth?
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Grudge-holding Treefrog 2 years ago
They are a 7th grader, ages 12-13, and people can be suicidal or depressed at any age, I’ve been suicidal since age 11 and I didn’t have social media until last year.
Load More Replies... #24
ive never really had interactions with my granpa but about a year or two ago he died yet its only now starting to click that i wont be able to see him again
Final score:
10points
A gay cat man 2 years ago
off topic but your name is my deadname and it gave me simultaneous dysphoria and euphoria lol...
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Delaney Campbell 2 years ago
A few months after my grandpa passed I actually realized that he was gone forever
Diseased Hat 2 years ago
When my grandfather was dying I didn’t go see him because I was in denial and was scared that I could comfortably for anyone make the trip due to health problems
#25
I just asked a girl I really like to a dance and she said yes. However she never actually said if she likes me back and I don't know how the hell to ask her now unless I ask her out but that'll be weird now
Final score:
10points
DustTea 2 years ago
be real with her. Say how you’re not really sure what to say, make a little joke about how people can be hard to read. be human. it’ll put her at ease and also be able to relate a bit
IDidntChooseReality (Submission author) 2 years ago
Alright sounds good thanks I'll ask rn
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A gay cat man 2 years ago
Yay for you (on the dance part) I think she likes you romantically (b/c why the hell else would she go to a dance. on a date. with you.) (I'm excited for you)
IDidntChooseReality (Submission author) 2 years ago
Thankssss I hope you're right
Load More Replies... #26
1. Due to past and recent bad experiences in my life, I have a tremendous repulsion towards men, yet, I can still feel sexually attracted to them. I feel, a lot of the time, when reading on lists of things men wish women did or knew about them, they are very hypocritical. For example, men constantly state they cannot read a woman's mind. Fair. Agreed. Yet they wonder why women don't automatically understand how to do things they(men) like. We can't read your minds any better. They say women should lead more and be assertive, yet they feel "emasculated" if a woman is in a high leadership position or makes more money or does not blindly let them lead. They say they are more logical and less emotional but will not admit they are quick to anger and, usually, some form of violence or aggression. I also do not believe I need men in my life on a personal level. Anything (within reason and as an adult woman) I want in life, I have procured myself. A car, a house, material possessions. I did not and do not need a man to pay for me to enjoy life. I certainly don't need them for any emotional needs I can think of. Every time someone tries to give me a reason I would even remotely desire a relationship with a man of any caliber, I can easily replace him in my mind with a beautiful, eternally faithful and loyal dog. Better yet, 10. Yet I find myself attracted to men to a certain degree. I am also attracted to women. I don't completely or remotely hate men, just the thought of trying to share my uncomplicated and comfortably peaceful life with one. I am thoroughly confused, and I don't know how to handle it or be at peace with it. I am polite and kind to the male patrons at my work, as is required, to a certain degree, but that is it. A therapist could not be of any help because I feel on the surface I am protecting myself from further harm. 2. In relation to and not in relation to 1, for the past six months, I have had no desire to further connections with my friends. Aside from wishing them a happy birthday and sending a gift, I have canceled many plans to go out and meet. An anxious feeling grows the closer I get to the date, and I cancel a day or two before. I don't know what is wrong with me, and I feel like c**p every time but also great relief after canceling. I canceled on seeing my coworker's new house and having a lunch date, I canceled on going to a movie with my other coworker. We are pleasant with each other, but the thought of going out makes me feel anxious and panicked. I thought it was just my usual winter depression, but even with the sunny weather this week, I am compelled to cancel or adjust another meeting I made with a woman I am tentative friends with. She is barely 18 whereas I will be 21 in a few months. She is also interested in men and can be almost giddy about them in a way I am not. Otherwise, I like her, but for some reason don't want to get too involved. 3. I don't know what to do about my thoughts, feelings, or anything internally right now. But it does feel a bit better to put them out somewhere. Thanks, to anyone who is somewhat interested.
Final score:
9points
Lil Miss Hobbit 2 years ago
Hey, I actually find this relatable. As a young woman, I find it weird that girls my age are all "boy crazy" and want men all the time. I've been asked out, and I've said no. It's not because I don't have crushes on men, it's because I don't need "romance" or whatever else. I've found that I am happy on my own (with my dog, of course🤩). They make things more complicated, and trying to mash my life with someone else's seems like a scudding lot of work when I already have family and friends. I don't know if it helps, but when people pressure me to date, I have two things I tell them. First, I don't feel mentally ready and it's not a good time in my life (which is true) and secondly, I am not fishing. I tell them that if, someday, a man comes along who manages to convince me without a doubt that my life will be better and more comfortable and more of an adventure with him in it, then I will consider dating. Until then, I'm good. Single life actually rocks.
Jeya Mackelle (Submission author) 2 years ago
Thank you! Gosh, if I could show your response to my parents and grandmother, I would.
Load More Replies... Lene 2 years ago
Perhsps you could benefit from journaling? It doesn't have to be anything fancy. Just a cheap notebook and a pen and you just write away whatever is on your mind. Make sure nobody reads it (unless you let them) so that you can write as freely and honestly as possible. When you have filled out a notebook with your words and feelings you can decide whether you want to keep it so you can read it later in life or if you want to throw it away and/or burn it. Might be cleansing for your emotional and mental well being. I wish you the best of luck 😊
Rocky 2 years ago
No one has to have a boy or girlfriend. Maybe you just like to be alone a lot. Maybe that will change in a few years. You are only 21! One day you might meet that one person that makes you comfortable enough to go out with. You will find your way. Don't stress about it. Live your life and do what you feel makes you comfortable. Be happy!!
Jeya Mackelle (Submission author) 2 years ago
I greatly appreciate your support and kind words! I am working on ignoring or even politely yet firmly responding to people who think it is their business and personal mission to convince me otherwise. When people tell me I'l change my mind or meet Mr. Right—nevermind me being bisexual— I want to tell them to not act like they are my life counselor, but I don't like being looked at like I just insulted their family. So I am glad there are people who understand. Not that I ever thought I was alone, but 99% of the people around me seem to think I'll be some lonely spinster or something once I hit my 30s and 40s. It's frustrating.
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#27
i hate being in my college! i just wanna take a break from my monotonous suffocating life!!
Final score:
8points
Rocky 2 years ago
Try to enjoy the smaller things in life. Go out for a walk, smell the air, hear the birds. Or go running? And trying to aim for a goal. Like maybe a competition. It depends on if you love your job or not. And how your family has formed (getting married ,having kids.) All those things make a life interesting and fun and some ups and downs of course. But try to see the glass halffull.
#28
I'm at a point where I just want to scream. My life has never been easy, but somehow I always managed to pull myself together and stay strong, and in the years before the pandemic it looked like a few things were going to work out: New place to live, job, therapy (OCD, GAD, depression). It seemed to get better. I had to fight really hard, but I was motivated. Then I developed a "Frozen Shoulder", an infection that takes a lot of time to heal and comes with immense pain. I was hardly able to do anything at all for months. Just when my shoulder got better and I wanted to be active again, Covid came along. Everything came to a halt. There was no way to fight my most important issues anymore (my post would get too long if I explained). I also lost my job and couldn't even see my therapist anymore. Then my aunt (who was also one of my best friends) died. Then my most beloved cat died. To shorten this a bit: Two more cats and all of my four sheep died within 18 months. When I managed to get back into "fight mode" after having a really hard time I just HAD to catch Covid. That was four weeks ago and it's still not over! I still feel bad. I'm tired and exhausted all the time, still coughing, too. My motivation is completely gone. I need to get going again, and I know I'll find the strength eventually, but right now I just feel like everything sucks. (Sorry for whining, it's usually something I don't do.)
Final score:
8points
Lene 2 years ago
I know that feeling. What I did was to just sit around and accept that this was how I felt. I let myself sort of embrace feeling sh!tty. Because I just knew that eventually my "stubbornness of being alive" would return. So I basically just sat in my home for a few weeks feeling all my bad feelings and then eventually I felt that anger and stubbornness coming back to me: I was not having this anymore. I wanted to start living again. I started to make plans of what I wanted to do in the near future and I began to work on those goals. And today I am glad that I just let myself accept how awful I felt about everything for a while. Because now I know that even if I feel that low again, I will get out of it and start living again when my system is ready for it.
Birgit M (Submission author) 2 years ago
Thank you for your comment! I know this stubbornness too. "You (whoever or whatever that "you" may be) will not see me defeated!" And I think you're right: I should give myself time and allow myself to feel bad, it's just very, very hard for me to turn off all the negative thoughts and the self-loathing that comes with them.
Load More Replies... Elizabeth VanDyke 2 years ago
My only advice is Hang in there, Baby. The bad times will pass and you will be stronger. I know, because I've been there and thought it would go on forever, but I was wrong and things have worked out. Don't give up!
Birgit M (Submission author) 2 years ago
Thank you, Elizabeth, I'll keep your "Hang in there, Baby" in mind! I'm also happy for you that everything worked out!
Load More Replies... Rocky 2 years ago
It's not whining. It's telling us how you feel. I have had a lot of emotional pain in recent years as well. I thought it would never get better. I would never get over it. But now I have good days. Still bad days as well, but gradually I am feeling better. You can get through this. I wish you lots of strenght. One step at a time it will get better.
Birgit M (Submission author) 2 years ago
Thank you so much for saying this!
Load More Replies... #29
my best friend has been treating me like sh!t ever since I started prozac a few weeks ago. They keep expecting me to be perfect and I hate them for it.
Final score:
7points
DustTea 2 years ago
You should tell them. Don’t be mean about it but communicate. Straight up tell ‘em how it works, what you’re feeling, and your thoughts. if they don’t respond well, you need to start finding new friends
A gay cat man (Submission author) 2 years ago
ty! i've tried this but they still don't wanna talk about it or stop hanging out. I've started spending more time with two of my other friends instead of them though so I'm kinda improving :)
Load More Replies... Hope Cows&Chickens 2 years ago
I'd tell them with a very strong, frustrated sounding voice, 'did you know it takes 6-8 weeks for antidepressants to build up to therapeutic levels in one's body? I still have ___ more weeks before I even know if it's going to help!' Its antidepressants, not amoxicillin for a sore throat. Ot takes time and even then it might not be the right medication. Which means after a couple months of it not working, doctors will try a different antidepressant. Theres a reason why there are so many different ones on the market; what works for one person doesnt work for everybody and it can take a lot of time to get your prescription right. I would tell your friend that. They aren't miracle pills; they dont make anybody all better. It's more like having training wheels when your learning to ride a bike... you can do it but having a little extra support to stay upright and not crash is what they're for. It sounds like your friend doesn't understand how they work and wont know until they are told.
A gay cat man (Submission author) 2 years ago
... i just told them about the mood swings and panick attack side effects but ty!
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Sydney Kelley 2 years ago
I'm on Prozac but I don't tell anyone bit if I did and you did they shouldn't treat you like sh!t
A gay cat man (Submission author) 2 years ago
it's not BECAUSE of it. i think I just started noticing it now that I'm not a shell of a person (yay!)
Load More Replies... A gay cat man (Submission author) 2 years ago
i told everyone in my friend group cuz i was worried I might act weird while adjusting
Load More Replies... Mandie Zimmer 2 years ago
Medication is not a bandage that fixes everything. Some medications will fix some problems. Others will fix a different one. Some medications will not fix anything. I am not saying that to support your friend. I'm explaining that this belief that medications make all things better is ridiculous. There are some who are medication that have to go through several different types to find the right thing that helps them the most for their situations. In fact, most people have a trial and error process when they're on medication. It can be a very long and very frustrating process. You can try to approach them and tell them When you say (insert comment they have directed to you), It makes me feel horrible/like s**t. It makes me feel like you expect me to be perfect and and I am constantly disappointing you.' From there the ball is in their courts and they can better explain why they have set their expectations and you can go from there. I also agree with DustTea.
A gay cat man (Submission author) 2 years ago
i know that and prozac is working for me :) and the side effects are still kinda f!cking with me though
Load More Replies... #30
I got out of an abusive relationship about 4 years ago. It destroyed me completely. But then I moved to a new place where I didn't know anyone, got lots of help and back on meds for ADHD that also helped with my anxiety. I also returned to college last Fall and for the first time in my life made the Dean's List. I made many great and supportive friends. I moved across the state to another new place in January. It has taken me a little bit longer to find a job, but now I have two. The people here have been amazing as well. Woke up yesterday morning and discover I have a package arriving at my old address. In fact, several have arrived over the last week, and more are coming. After checking with my family, I arrived at the conclusion that these packages are from my abusive, stalker ex (one package was a dead give away when I saw what store it was purchased from). At first, my anxiety hit the roof. I was panicking. I dropped all contact with everyone when I left that city behind and no one knew him in my last city. I rarely spoke of him and never gave his name or went in to details about him. And I rarely use social media, and keep all my profiles private. And then I thought about it more. He still doesn't know where I live and still doesn't remember my birthday. Whoever lives at my new address will probably be getting some really questionable items from him. It's been four years and he still can't take a uint. And that made me laugh and more okay, but, it still makes me uneasy that he was able to track my last address. I can only wonder how long it will take him to find my new place. I know I am safe here, but... Without fail, everytime I start to let down my guard and do well, he seems to pop out of the woodwork. If any of you have an ex that you aren't over (and it ended terribly, and even if it didn't) and think that a romantic gesture like this will win them back... Don't. Just don't. It is not romantic, it is fricken creepy as hell. This was literally the last thing I wanted or needed in my life. Get help or therapy instead to help you move on and work through why they left you.
Final score:
7points
#31
Some good news to counteract the bad: I haven't sh in probably months now (but unfortunately I'm not counting) and I haven't had the urge in forever, it gets easier to quit dw :)
Final score:
7points
ОльхаКинг(AlderKing) 2 years ago
hey good for you! i’m almost on two years now, and i can confirm it just gets easier and easier
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) (Submission author) 2 years ago
That's actually really good, congrats!
Load More Replies... Aroace tiger (she/they/he) (Submission author) 2 years ago
For me personally I have a really close support group that r my friends which help a lot but there's probably lots of suggestions on Google that can help and it might take some time to work out what's right for u but keep on going and take it 1 day at a time
Load More Replies... Aroace tiger (she/they/he) (Submission author) 2 years ago
Thanks a lot <3
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Aroace tiger (she/they/he) (Submission author) 2 years ago
Thanks a lot I appreciate it, I especially don't feel great rn and am having thoughts, ones I'm not planning on acting on rn tho, so this comment means even more rn
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My br3asts ._.
Final score:
7points
#33
Can’t comment and it makes me sad. I have to post to reply to a comment its garbage. Also I’m sad that Leading The Banned got banned. Also DP. But he could just make another account. And so could LTB..Guess I’m mostly sad about me!
Final score:
6points
Take me to dinner first 2 years ago (edited)
Upvote for dp and commenting to let you comment whatever you want lol
#34
I’m a hopeless romantic. I have a crush on my second best friend (my age with a boyfriend), her older sister who’s 17, her ex, and a guy in college. And another guy in 2 of my classes. I’m ace but I’m panromantic and even tho I know I’m not, I feel like such a slüt. I also really like approximately 10 fictional characters. I’m only romantically attracted but I think there’s something wrong with me. It’s not even like “oh so and so is cute” like making eye contact (which I hate) makes my day. I have 5 classes with my friends ex, and he knows I like him, we’re still sorta friends. I have 1 class with my friend but she’s coming to my birthday party. Her older sister I don’t see super often. The college guy I’ll probably never see again until next dress week next April. I just don’t know what to do I feel like such a slüt.
Final score:
6points
Huddo's sister 2 years ago
Don't worry, it's completely normal to have these sort of feelings at your age. Damn hormones.
Lil Miss Hobbit 2 years ago
No worries at all. People talk about "oh my crush" like they only have one, or one at a time. I've had a crush on multiple brothers in the same family all at once. It's not weird as long as you don't make it weird (like flirting with all the brothers at once🤣). And I totally get the eye-contact thing. As a shy person, if you make eye contact with me, I will totally fall for you over the handsome guy that ignores me.
Everest the bookworm 2 years ago
oh thank god someone else going through the same thing (i am much younger but still)
Cheeky chicken 2 years ago
Absolutely not a s[ut (which is a word we need to make extinct asap imho), just a human, moving through life and figuring things out, while your body is going through normal chemical processes. Feels very weird and a bit terrifying at times and also at times unwanted but There. Is. Nothing. Wrong. With. You. I can't say that enough. This is a very strange and confusing time in your life but it is all part of the journey in discovering who you are and it will pass x
#35
JESUS LOVES YOU!!!! it does not matter who you are or what your going through he is with you and wants to help you he loves you sooooooooooo much and i am praying for you because i love you to ( well not specifically you because i don't know you if you want me to pray for you just comment it i will upvote you to know i saw it because im blocked from commenting because of how many down votes i get from people) he loved you so much he died for you and wants to walk with you forever have a good day!!
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6points
A gay cat man 2 years ago
im atheist; i send general vibes of good to you (also I read it as Jesus (the name) for sec lol)
Sharon Kapon 2 years ago
I wish somehow that people would understand that there is no one sitting up there above the clouds. No kidding im not joking. Guys be real now....no magic exists and no one is sitting on the clouds looking for you....we- humans just want to relay on something to help or hear us I dont know....just relay on yourself cause you are the only ones responsible for your lives
Cosmologist wannabe 2 years ago
I am sorry, but a dead jew does not love me. He did not die for me. He died of horrible anti-judaism (using anti-judaism bc it was more against the religion and not the people.) Yeshu just wanted to be a jewish priest, and he would be horrified of how people worship him I am not against christianity, or what it stands for.
#36
I'm not getting better. I went into wilderness therapy exactly a year ago and for a few months afterward, I was doing so so great. I felt like I could talk to my parents about how I was doing, and I didn't feel like hiding anything. and then about three months later, I self-harmed for the first time since getting out. After that, it was all downhill. I relapsed into regular self-harm and my eating disorder came back in full force. My depression is back, pressing on my chest, and my anxiety makes it hard to breath. My dysphoria and dysmorphia is making me hate everything about my physical form. I just am miserable in life and want to end it. I feel like I cant tell anyone, because my parents would send me back to the woods, and my friends would tell my parents. I'm so scared
Final score:
6points
Lil Miss Hobbit 2 years ago
Go for help. Not because you want it, but because you are worth it. It is okay to relapse, and it is okay to ask for help multiple times. It's part of being human. I know that it is depressing and scary to feel the darkness grabbing at you again, but please keep hoping. You are worth it, and you are loved. There will be a time when the darkness rolls back and the sunshine can get in, but you have to not give in. I believe in you.
#37
Sometimes I don’t know if I really want to be a mother, I mean I do, but like, aren’t moms supposed to be elated they’re pregnant? I’m 36 and this would be my first, had a miscarriage before, so I haven’t gotten my hopes up yet but yeah. I’m just like, coasting I guess? What if this feeling never changes?
Final score:
6points
Lauren S 2 years ago
I’m just shy of 32 and have never had a biological urge to have a human child. Everyone told me it would change when I hit 30, nope, didn’t change. When I was a kid and I played “family” with my friends, never once was I a mom, just a grownup, it never felt right at 7 and doesn’t feel right in my 30s with my dwindling eggs.
Lene 2 years ago
I had my first kid at the age of 33 and now, 6 years later, I have 3 kids. I love them with every fiber in my body but they also drive me crazy on an almost daily basis. I think about stuff I miss from before I had kids and wonder how my life would be without them. But the actual thought of life without my kids? It's heartbreaking to me. Parenthood is a mess in many many ways. But all in all it is wonderful. And remember: just aim at being the okayest mom you can be. No need to strive for perfection. :)
#38
Disabled Air Force veteran here. I'm sick of people "thanking me for my service." At best it's smarmy... at worst, it comes off insincere and patronizing. I get it moms... you're thankful someone else volunteered so your child wasn't drafted as cannon fodder. But I say, if you're truly thankful you'll help bring back the draft so the load of defending our nation is distributed more evenly. Otherwise, just move on. That's it. Let it rain down.
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Ann Dennis 2 years ago
It is smarmy. I don't think most of them mean it to be, but...yeah. I date back to Viet Nam, and I'd rather not see the draft return, but I definitely think 2 yrs of compulsory ,national/military service like some other countries have would be a real good idea.
#39
I'm in so much more pain than I admit to
Final score:
6points
#40
Compared to some of the posts I've read on here my rant may seem trivial and believe me I feel for all those that are feeling lost, hopeless and scared in this world. That being said however this is my rant please be kind. The other day I read on my news feed an article about a young man named Sam I believe who took to social media to explain and justify his reasoning why his personal goal is to steal around $30 worth of groceries every time he goes shopping. Yes times are tough money is scarce and the future is not as shiny bright as it once was but in no way imaginable can this be justified. Apparently according to Sam there are various TikTok videos on how to successfully stretch your food budget by stealing food. Moral implications aside this is not a victimless crime. He did mention his concern on what this would teach his children but he had to put food on the table. At no point did he even seem to consider getting a second job to aid in that. My husband and I both had fairly low wage jobs. He would work 12-14 hour days and I at one point had a full time job and two part-time jobs so we could pay our bills and put food on the table. We went 20 years without a vacation. Our kids wore second hand clothes. Not all baby boomers made out well ( but that's another rant lol ) Sam and so many others like him fail to realize that much like when you have a fender bender big stores do not run their theft losses thru their insurance. The big wigs still get their bonuses but the losses are offset by raising their prices for the honest folk who pay for their purchases. They also cut staff and/or hours so now people who are also trying to put food on their tables will have a harder time. The big one is if the company has a profit sharing program the theft losses are offset on that and now hard working staff will have less money in their pocket. So Sam and company don't try to justify your criminal and thoughtless activities to me. I'm 68 and still working part time as is my 75 year old husband. We don't work because we like it but because we have to. Times are tough for almost everybody so you get no sympathy from me. And Sam I work in retail and should you ever try stuffing some sandwich meat or granola bars down your shirt in my store be warned that unlike some store employees I will not look the other way or give you that secret club smile.. Thanks for letting me rant Bored Panda
Final score:
6points
The Cuckoo 2 years ago
Hear hear! It’s so sad that people have come to this, food banks exist for a reason, and honestly the time spent worrying about stealing and actually stealing could be spent working if you absolutely have too.
#41
I had cancer several months ago I have finished chemo and scans are clear but the side effects I got are I can't have sugar it will spike then drop (Hypoglycemia) and really weird I can't have milk, ice cream, or whipped cream but I can have any other milk product I have gastroporesis. I came to school after and my science teacher made me have a panic attack first day I got iss because of her lying a*s(I have a different science teacher now) This year alone I have attempted to eat so much sugar I die but it didn't work I have tried 2 times I'm scared of hurting myself I don't get why my life has been so bad I know others are going through stuff but my brother has gotten sick twice this year and nothing else just a cold. I am seeing a physiologist and a therapist. I have been called gay because I have a gf and she's a little younger so people also call me a pedifile I just want it to stop.
Final score:
6points
The Cuckoo 2 years ago
Hey! I see you! I hear you! Middle school/high school is rough. Kids are a******s and you are going through a lot, the world will need you when you are older so you can be the person you wish you had when your were growing up. Don’t give up, be the light you want to see in the world and talk to your therapists, if they don’t click with you try someone else, get someone younger who you can relate too and take it one day at a time. Remember to breath and the world is a better place because YOU ARE IN IT. Sending you love and good vibes from Canada. 🌈🦄🦾
#42
This is going to get buried, but I might as well. *trigger warning: mentions of suicide ideation* When I was twelve, I used to frequent a website that my parents didn't like me going on. It wasn't inappropriate or anything, they just didn't approve of me going on it. Well, I went on it anyway. I continued to go on it for multiple months behind their backs before they found out. I recognize that was wrong, and I betrayed their trust, but that's not the point. I made a friend that had mental health issues on that site, and they confided into me about it. We would talk a lot about video games, obsess over LOZ and Nintendo releases, and just overall have fun. I didn't think of them as an uber-close friend, but they were there for me and I was there for them, and they did matter a lot to me. They helped me through some of my mom's health problems and some of my issues with coming out, and I helped them with some mental health things that they were working through, encouraging them to get some help or tell someone. Right before I left the site for good, they told me that I was one of the reasons that they were still alive, that my kindness was one of the reasons they didn't commit suicide. I do not understand the full extent of what I did for them, nor do I think I ever will, but I can't confide in anyone about it. I can't bring it up with my parents, nor my friends. The person doesn't go on the website anymore, nor do I, but they have since gotten psychiatric help, and are doing much better. I've only ever told my sister, and I can't really talk openly about because there's honestly nothing more I can do. I can't contact the person, aside from on the website, but they don't go there anymore (aside from occasional check-ins every few months). If I were to mention it to my parents, they would freak out, and it wouldn't accomplish anything. I know that I meant a lot to that person, and they meant a lot to me. This is something that I honestly haven't told really anyone else, but I needed to say it. TLDR, I went on a website my parents didn't approve of behind their backs, made a friend, and that friendship helped to prevent them from killing themselves.
Final score:
6points
The Cuckoo 2 years ago
I’m 36 and I had friends like that I met in a sonic the hedgehog RP chat about 15 years ago. I know where you’re coming from and you did well. I don’t speak to many of them anymore but I think of them sometimes and it makes me smile.
#43
I’m fed up of the earning/tax situation. Yearly tax calculations
Final score:
5points
Phil Clarke 2 years ago
i hate the fact you earn money through out the year and pay a stupid amount of tax jus to, at the end of financial year, pay tax on your tax and if you are lucky to have a good paying job...pay more money to the greedy a******s
#44
My boyfriend is in pain management for Degenerative disc disease. He's in constant pain. This past week he over did it and his back is messed up. But he's been such an a*****e. I get he's in pain, he's always in pain but f**k give me a break!! I worked 6 double shifts I a row and my body is jacked. It was crazy busy at work. I need one God damn day to rest. I'm fried, sore, and my back is killing me. And while I'm not exactly enthusiastic, I'm being calm, polite. But since this guy can't move I have to until he's better. Should be about a week. I know he's frustrated, but f**k so am I! But what about me? I've been serving people all day for a week and I have to go home and help him. It's my only day off until I'm working 4 more doubles shifts since we need the money. I'm tired. I know he can't move, he's falling over, and maybe it's selfish, but just let me have a day!!!!
Final score:
5points
frogfrog 2 years ago
Honey, you do need to take a day for yourself. Even if its just a day in watching movies you need it to rest. You arent being selfish, your just over worked and over tired. I give e you full permission to be quote on quote swlfosh for a day or two <3
Bonesko (Submission author) 2 years ago
That made me smile thanks for the permission.😁 I spent the morning hiking alone and it was great!
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Merilyn Horton 2 years ago
My husband has been in pain for 30 years after crushing some spinal nerves. It does not get better, so if you cant imagine the life of an unappreciated carer, leave now.
Bonesko (Submission author) 2 years ago
We've been together 11 years, and I knew the deal. Usually he's pretty positive and helps. I do most of the physical work like shopping, shoveling, lawn, and he he cooks, tends to the cats and we split cleaning. The past couple of weeks he's pain as been intense where he can't move and he's frustrated and lashing out. We did talk and he apologized. I'm in for the long haul, but there are times it gets to me, especially when stressed or busy. I don't like seeing him in pain.
Load More Replies... Hope Cows&Chickens 2 years ago
Have you pointed out to him just how much your doing? Have you told him, I know you're in pain but I need you to not take it out on me because I can't handle it and I don't deserved to be treated this way. Maybe he hasn't even thought about how much of the load you're carrying as well as working doubles! Does he have no friend of family member that can come play nurse so you can at least get some decent sleep?
#45
I like chocolate.
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5points
Everest the bookworm 2 years ago
grabs milk choco banner puts it in the ground MILK CHOCOLATE FOREVER!!
Load More Replies... Mandie Zimmer 2 years ago
Me too. Though I love a good dark chocolate covered honeycomb treat. Cadbury makes the best chocolate bars, imo. What's your favorite chocolate treat?
Jozefien (Submission author) 2 years ago
Actually I just like milk chocolate.
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I’ve been really close to a mental breakdown for the last few days. My family refuses to listen to me, and my sister is trying to pit my mother against me because I ate some of her candy. I’ve been forgetting things more than usual, and because of this, I’ve been grounded. I don’t have anyone to talk too, and I’m trying really hard to hold on, but I don’t know how much longer I can.
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5points
Lil Miss Hobbit 2 years ago
Just so you know, it's okay to break. And it's okay to ask for help. And then after that, it's okay to pick yourself back up and go on.
#47
My narcissistic sister/monster who abused me for most of my childhood just had a baby. Every time I see a photo of her, I can't help but feel pity for that little girl. I know what her fate will be and I can't bear the idea of another child going through what I did, and there is absolutely nothing I can do about it.
Final score:
5points
frogfrog 2 years ago
Call cps on your sister, even if they dont have proof of her hurting the little girl she just had, she is CLEARLY not fit to be a mother.
frogfrog 2 years ago
It moght be hard, seeing its your sister n all but it will help save that little girl from the same traums you went thru
Load More Replies... Hope Cows&Chickens 2 years ago
I hope you become the bestest aunt and confidant for your little niece. Then, when sh¡t hits the fan, she'll have you to talk to or come to for advice.
#48
I've been on thus website for the past 9 hours.
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#49
i have weird almost-panic attacks. my legs will literally stop working and it'll be hard for me to breathe. i had three in one day last week. It feels like everything kind of...idk. it feels like the world keeps spinning but I spin faster and faster until I can't think anymore. i hate it, but I have really kind friends who recognize them and offer to carry my stuff — or me — when they happen.
Final score:
5points
C.O. Shea 2 years ago
Deep breathing helps. Breathing is the simplest thing, but also the easiest to forget when I tense up. Breathe in... two, three, four... hold, two, three, four... out, two, three, four. Repeat three times.
Skater Chick (Submission author) 2 years ago
Thanks. This really helped me out. Simple, you were right, but it really helped.
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#50
My boobs, I'm getting top surgery in five days!!!!🎉🎉🎉 I'm super excited I will be able to go swimming in just swimming trunks witout a binder🥳🥳🥳
Final score:
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A gay cat man 2 years ago
yay for you! i'm getting a binder for this summer and a stand to p**s thingy :)
#51
I have a girlfriend. I'm not supposed to have a girlfriend until I'm 15. I have extreme anxiety, stress, and adhd. I'm worried about my friends because their relationships with their parents are worsening. etc.
Final score:
5points
LeviTheUselessFrog 2 years ago
i gwt hiw you feel. its not fun, and i wish i had some tips to help you, but i really dont. If you'd like i can give you a hug :)
that one ace lesbian demigirl (Submission author) 2 years ago
oh yeah we broke up bc i wasnt ready for a relationship lmao. we're still great friends tho
Load More Replies... #52
I have feelings for one of my close friends but recently he has started talking and acting in rude manners towards me and me only and a few days ago he’s started to completely ghost me I’ve liked him for so long and it really hurts and I don’t know how to move on.
Final score:
4points
Hope Cows&Chickens 2 years ago
You said he's a close friend, ya? Have you talked to him and asked him why he's suddenly treating you differently? Do you guys have a mutual friend that you could ask if your guy friend is not willing to talk to you?
#53
The “Ken” of the dog park, he is probably mid-50s. I go just about every Saturday to a big and bougie, but dope AF dog park, this isn’t the first time his dog, Scooby, has caused issues and he has blatantly ignored said issues. Last Saturday was a bundle of problems and self entitlement. Scooby starts humping every dog in the park, my dog included. Everyone gets Scooby off their dog. Scooby’s human’s response, “it’s okay, he is fixed”. My response, “no, it isn’t okay, no one here wants their dog humped, fixed or not”. He goes off on a rant about how the dogs can’t get pregnant and dogs hump. Somehow I managed to not respond with a snarky comment about how I don’t want random guys, vasectomy or not, humping me, it is natural for humans too after all. I was proud of myself for keeping my mouth shut. Insert a bunch of sexist, racist, and all around douchey comments from Scooby’s human. I put my earbuds in, making sure he noticed. Don’t worry, he yelled louder so I could hear. So kind. We are hitting about two hours of Scooby and his human at the park and the chaos continues. A new dog, Felix, enters the park and Scooby humps Felix, then decides nope, I’m just going to get of top of Felix and Scooby puts his mouth around Felix’s face. Granted, I know Scooby and his human, Scooby is just dominating and has no off switch, not aggressive, nor vicious (we are regulars), Scooby’s human simply states, “Scooby will never hurt another dog”. Felix is a very submissive dog, he was whining and trying his best to let Scooby know to get the F off him and let him be. Felix’s human used basic commands and a slight push to get Scooby off his dog, no luck. Felix’s human yelled to Scooby’s human multiple times to get control of Scooby. Finally, Felix’s human grabs Scooby’s collar and pulls Scooby off his dog, as anyone would. Well he had it, Scooby’s human was livid, got up and ran over there while yelling at Felix’s human, “get your hands off my dog, don’t touch my dog! You can’t just go around and grab other people’s dogs, he is like my son and you can’t treat him like that!” Felix’s human calmly and politely stated this isn’t the first time there have been problems caused by Scooby and he can’t keep Scooby under control, he is going to ensure the safety of Felix, which he did so with as little force as possible. Scooby’s human had enough and was just yelling sexist and racist comments to Felix’s human. Both Felix and Scooby’s humans are white males. Some people! Let’s see what goes down at the park this Saturday.
Final score:
4points
Hope Cows&Chickens 2 years ago
Keep your phone out, recording. When Scoob's dad starts arguing with others about allowing the dog to hump everybody, I'd remind him that rape is rape even if you've had vasectomy so keep your rapey dog away from others or you'll have to call the police. Or go to the dog park at another time when sir humpsalot and his lousy owner aren't there
#54
*ahah, here we go. might be long or might not be* I'm so, so sick of people blowing me off, or getting yelled at for stuff i shouldnt of been yelled at for. my mom HATES short hair on girls. I had hated my long hair for awhile,.and she let me get.it cut to my shoulder. Well, like a month ago, my dismorphia and such reached the roof and i wound up cutting my hair about to mt chin and LOVED HOW IT LOOKED. Well, she flips the absolute F**K out, telling me i broke her trust (we will get tmback to that later) and such. Continuing in comments :)
Final score:
4points
Hope Cows&Chickens 2 years ago
Is she not aware that hair grows back? I suggest telling her you are aware that prefers long hair but you don't like having long hair and even if you aren't an adult, you should still have bodily autonomy. I would also ask her if could please explain how getting ones hair cut broke her trust. Sometimes us parents screw up, esp if we're angry, and we don't say what we really meant. Luke, maybe she's shocked and disappointed that you cut your hair with talking to her about it first, and that's not the same as breaking one's trust. It's a haircut, not cocaine for heaven's sake!
frogfrog (Submission author) 2 years ago
Thats what i mean, like, its not like i buzzcutted it or anything either.
Load More Replies... LeviTheUselessFrog (Submission author) 2 years ago
*continuation* admittedly in the past i jave done some stupdi things, that at the time i didnt see how they were bad. This is gonna be a doozy, here we go. I met this person, lets call them Kai, on a roblox server. I immediately became friends with them, and after awhile caught feelings. (I still cant tell whats a platonic relationship or whats romantic lol) they wanted to send me pcitures of their outfit so i was like sure ill give you my ohone number (MISTAKE ONE LOL) so, i wind up b3coming really close to this 17 year old (at this point in 12) and my mom keeps asking wuestions. I had somewhat become romantically invovled (not s3xually, i would NEVER. Send nudes or anything over the internet) to kai. But, it turns out im just a stupid f*****g 12 year old who needed a friend. They were, uhm, emotionally manipulating me, trying to get me to visiy them in Wisconsin or where their located, at this point my mom took my phone and blocked thwir nunber, and i was distraught. Still am, (pt
LeviTheUselessFrog (Submission author) 2 years ago
Woth that, i GET why she has stuff on my laptop and phone, cause apparently im more stupid than i thought. Then again I DONT EVEN KNOW IF WHAT THEY WERE SUPPOSEDLY DOING WAS EVEN REAL! I had photo evidence that they were who they said they were, and. I xant exactly say on here what i heard they did to themselves, but i got all the blame put on me, and i believe it. Elliot, if somehow your still alive and reading this, imso, so sorry. Thanks for listening to my endless rambling, have a great week ❤️
Load More Replies... #55
Uh, well… let’s give this a go… First thing: growing up gives me shivers, and I dunno (might sound weird) pulls at my soul a little bit? So does thinking of Heaven and forever. I mean, I wouldn’t my beliefs, but thinking of endless something, I just get anxious. I’d rather not classify which anxious though, or else it may turn into a phobia or panic attack. I think of this often at night, and it keeps me from sleeping well. Second: I recently discovered that I am prone to being infatuated to my crushes if I am close to them, and I learned the symptoms and am very disappointed/sorry for my dear friends. I may have a crush regardless, but I am trying to keep my distance because A) he is an online friend (never seen him in person) and B) I do not want to become obsessed again. Some symptoms I had that make me certain it was not healthy are: he told me his favorite flower was a sunflower (he didn’t know until I asked him that specific question tho) and I began to love sunflowers myself, admiring them for every little thing, growing some myself, and constantly listening to Sunflower by Post-Malone saying it was my favorite song at the time (I still love it, but not obsessed). That’s just one example. I also thought of him every day many times, and tho it wasn’t based on looks I loved his spirit for scripture and kind, socially relaxed attitude. I know, it’s dangerous meeting people on the internet, but another friend I met separately now talks with him on messenger, so I assume he’s who he is. Also, he’s never asked for private information (I was just stupid and volunteered it after he did) and he’s never been weird, just respectful and supportive and patient with all my ramblings about life. I dunno, for me, I’d rather die and meet him in Heaven and see him then, or never see him there but not mind as much. My parents said “you are NOT talking to boys on your own” and they already disapprove of talking to people on the internet, so I figured better not get caught on double and just say goodbye (until) forever. Uhhh, last one: I’m having a hard time not getting sucked into believing bad things. I don’t want to put any of you down or tell you you’re going to Hell, I’m not sure or clear on that myself, but I don’t want to let these doubts of who I am run me. It already ran me with MBTI personality types, “oh, that person is an ESTP, my friend is an ENTP” none of that junk. It makes me self-centered and narcissistic (though my online friend told me he didn’t observe that from me) in my opinion, and I start blurring through life with these labels in my head. I mean, yeah, I lean more on introversion and thinking rather than feeling, but the more I think on it, how rare my type is or who shares my type or who died on my birthday (three famous people, very famous jsyk) I start going into this box I made for myself and say “yep, this is all I am, no room for liking something different. You are a girl who loves purple and foxes, for eternity, and you are a rare mythical creature that must wait for her soulmate to appear, extroversion and all, and run the race with you until you both reach Heaven.” There it is again, that anxiety of getting old and dying. On the humorous side, I accidentally first typed “when he told me his favorite flower was orange” instead of sunflower lol. I’m tired. This was all I could think of. Bored Panda, internet, roblox, why would I need social media if I have you causing enough brain melting and drama as it is? How do you find Will Smith in the snow? Just follow the fresh prints 😌
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#56
i am pretty much afraid of every invertebrate . EVERY. You see, when I was in 1st grade, I got stung by a wasp and cried like hell due to the pain. Since then, I've had an irrational fear of literally every animal that doesn't have a spine. There are , however, certain conditions where even the presence of some of these guys will not scare me, eg: an open field where a Butterfly/Bee/Wasp/Hornet is definitely not hovering to and fro me. Oh yes, i am afraid of Butterflies as well. Dragonflies and damselflies? Small ones sitting far off from me are ok. Bees? Small ones and stingless ones are ok. Moths? Only the tiny ones are ok. Houseflies? Mostly annoying, but there's the occasionally large specimen that takes a liking to me and scares me. Same with Mosquitoes. Snails and Slugs? idk, maybe not yet( I have never seen a wild slug ). Millipedes? I've only encountered small ones yet, so no idea.Centipedes? oh yeah. Arachnids? Well, if a Jumping Spider in my line of sight suddenly jumps and disappears, I will start rubbing my self all over reflexively. Other than that, I have actually let a Daddy Longlegs walk over my hand, although I could've moved it away. I have tried to win over this irrational fear in multiple ways, but so far, I haven't had much success.
Final score:
4points
Ann Dennis 2 years ago
I'd call the Daddy Longlegs a success. You start with those you're least afraid of, and work up as you experience success. Don't push too hard, and don't feel hopeless if you fail some. These are also the sort of thing a psychologist can help with. There are several affective desensitization techniques to try. Sounds to me like you're making some pretty decent progress on your own, too.
#57
Bouche. I want to get Bouche off my chest, as she's standing on it. Ouch!
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4points
MaryHadaLittleLamb 2 years ago
It's amazing how heavy a cat can feel when their weight is concentrated into those 4 little paw points!
#58
I was to the point of almost killing myself because I was tired of everything and couldn't take it anymore. I was crying but it didn't happen - obviously- and I was just crying and crying for like 4 1/2 hours straight.
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#59
There’s quite a bit of stuff going on up in my head that’s not exactly positive but I don’t know what it means or how to interpret it. I don’t want to talk about it irl because a) I don’t want to bother ppl and b) I can’t explain it well because I don’t know how to explain it without making it seem confusing or over exaggerating it. I don’t think anyone’s on this thread anymore so I guess I’m just typing into empty space pointlessly, but what’s the harm I guess. If anyone does see this then know that you deserve to have a good day, and remember to treat other people well.
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4points
frogfrog 2 years ago
i relat wto you more than i want to. im so, so sorry you have to go through this
Shifty McFlea (Submission author) 2 years ago
Thank you, though it sometimes doesn’t feel like I’m going through anything so saying that I am feels a bit unwarranted. I was worrying about sharing this because I don’t want to make it seem like a bigger deal than it actually is. Anyway hope that your life gets better!
Load More Replies... 3 Trash Pandas in a Trenchcoat 2 years ago
I've been going through a similar thing, it happened to me around this time last year and the year before. It never really seems serious enough to tell my therapist though
#60
The chest binder and the Jackson-Pratt drainage bottle. Had a right-side mastectomy a few days ago (breast cancer) and I hate the way the elastic binder feels when it constantly scrunches up. I have to empty the J-P bottle every 6 to 8 hours and it's gross. I just want to be healed up and able to go about life again.
Final score:
4points
Ann Dennis 2 years ago
You've got my total sympathy, and you're on your way back to your life, even if it doesn't feel like things are moving right now. One f&%$#g day at a time...you've got it.
ЛеснойКороль(Forest King)️ 2 years ago (edited)
that sucks and i hope you heal soon, but i can’t help but make a joke about “literally getting that off your chest 😅”
#61
I feel that I am being pressured into caring... about almost anything and everything.... ask me about land rights for gay whales or some such inanity and I have to be honest ... I don't care ..... some minority feels aggrieved and is outraged .... don't care .... some corporation destroys the planet at the behest of shareholders..... somewhat depressively ... I don't care. My question is .... must I care ?
Final score:
4points
ЛеснойКороль(Forest King)️ 2 years ago
i know it’s really hard to care about things nowadays because everything is bad and it’s been so desensitizing! but push on, there’s always something to fight for, i think!
#62
my dog has intestional cancer and we dont know if he will make it, ive already lost 2 pets these pas 2 years, i dont think i can handle losing another
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4points
the_harbringer_of_doom[s/t/h] (Submission author) 2 years ago
edit: he just had surgery, he ate a bunch of rocks smh
#63
All the posters that are feeling some kind of way, I’d like to share my pray with you. It not preachy or long. Use as needed at anytime. Help! Forgive Me! I’m Sorry! I Love You! All of these are Prayers. P.S. You are allowed to use them on yourself…it’s called compassion.
Final score:
4points
#64
Im quite Suicidal, when I was like 7 I tried hanging myself off a bunk bed with a jump rope multiple times and still to this day I have serious thoughts about doing it for hours day after day, but it has gotten a bit better than it was before.
Final score:
4points
ЛеснойКороль(Forest King)️ 2 years ago
oh no, that sounds awful! i’m so sorry my friend. i have been in that place multiple times, but if you keep pushing on i can confirm it gets better! find someone who will comfort you when this happens and will help you get through it. i love you all and i hope it gets better for you my friend
#65
So this is to get what is botherin us...ok so I have been deling with this. i am completely afraid of the dentist. Funny though giving birth is hard and painful yet I cannot come to terms of going to the dentist. I am afraid of what may happen if I go, and afraid if i do not go. I have been dealing with losing my gums. I do take my dental hygiene serious. I brush regularly 2-3 times use mouthwash. However as the days go by it seems as if my gum line is receding more and more causing my teeth to become loose.
Final score:
4points
ЛеснойКороль(Forest King)️ 2 years ago
i hate the dentist! i totally agree the dentist is very scary, but what helps is i listen to music while they do my teeth and i watch a movie on my phone or something. it keeps my focus away, and even though i can still feel it, it makes it more bearable.
#66
on the side note my spouse is losing his hair we are not sure what is the cause. I am totally freaking out as I am trying to keep things calm yet I am screaming for help on the inside, FYI both us are in our early 30s......
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4points
LeviTheUselessFrog 2 years ago
Sometimes people loose all or most of their hair in their late 20s, hopefully all is well with yall
CORGI QUEEN 2 years ago
my uncle had hair loss in 8th grade... he shaves his remainder of hair now because he looks like he is in his 50's, he is in his early 40's
#67
i feel basic for saying this, and i’m sorry, but life is so hard right now. i’m living in a country where no one speaks my language, i’m at a new school where i’m bullied because i can only speak broken Malay and english, and my brother Yuslav is fighting in a war for the side he doesn’t believe in. i’m so worried one day i will get a letter telling me my brother is dead. i have nightmares about this. but i find safety in my music, but even that has not been helping too much because i can’t find an orchestra who will accept a kid to play with them. i’m sorry for ranting about the same stuff but i love this community and i believe i can count on you guys to make me laugh when i am sad. i love you all
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4points
Proud Mommy 2 years ago
Awww dont feel bad. I know you may be going through tough times right now. You will need to stay positive. Your brother will be fine. He is good hands. Music is my gateway as well. When I am going through tough times I turn to music to help me stay calm and keep my sanity. We are here for you.
#68
I hate my life. Being @b^s3d, not having any friends, being legitimately locked out of society, my life revolving around keeping my dr^gg33, dip-chewing, v@p!ng, sneaky older brother out of juvie, never being good enough, always being a mistake, being unwanted, being the freak, the weirdo, the strange girl nobody likes that sits in the corner writing and drawing all the time, the only thing I have going for me is that my cat comes up to me every morning, sits on my shoulder, gives me a hug, then kisses my cheek and lays there a while.
Final score:
4points
3 Trash Pandas in a Trenchcoat 2 years ago
I love you, we all do. Really truly. I can't give you any more than that, but just keep going. One breath at a time. One step at a time. One day at a time. That's all anyone needs you to do.
#69
I am so close to committing that I cannot think about it without feeling the need to claw at my arms or face. The only thing that is causing me to not is that I hate pain and so many people depend on me to be there. I don't know what to do anymore, and most people I tell make it about them, or they don't know how to process it. I am just really fcking afraid of myself and what I could do to myself. I just feel like I am drowning and that I will fail everything, because I was a gifted child and now I am burnt out and my parents think that it will be fine but I am afraid that they might need me to pay for some of my college fund or start paying for a lot more things and I cannot do everything and there is so much I would need to do to have an income. Whenever I go to therapy I try not to lie but my parents are usually there and my therapist thinks that everything can be solved by breathing. It also feels like nobody is even taking me seriously because nobody did anything when I was SA'd at school and I am just panicking because he is on my bus and making rpe jokes and my classmates tell me to buy a chair and a rope. IDK if I can do this anymore.
Final score:
4points
LeviTheUselessFrog 2 years ago
First, it seems like you need to find a new therapsit THAT DOESNT ALLOW YOUR PARENTS IN THE ROOM WHILE THE SESSION IS GOING ON!! Two, i need to speak to these a*****e classmates of yours. I cant lwt anyone, much less someone in the same fandom as me, be treated like this. Your therapy sessions are somewhere where you should be able to tell them whats worrying you and such.
#70
I have been trying to figure out my gender for the longest time. I am afab (assigned female at birth), but recently came out as genderfluid. However, It has been a couple months, and I have never catered to male or female. In fact, I think that I may actually be agender, and start going by they/them pronouns. It's been so confusing, but saying that feels right to me. I also feel like I don't have a place in my life where I don't feel judged.
Final score:
4points
#71
I dont trust my family half the time. They constantly threaten me and try to steal my money. I just cant deal with the stress, and dont feel safe venting to them. They also just force me to do whatever they say, im the eldest of four children btw.
Final score:
4points
#72
I’m a mother who travels a lot for work. My 8 yr old lives with her dad (49m) and his gf (23f). I get her on holidays or anytime I have enough time off to travel back to her. I feel like she’s being brainwashed to the fullest. Actually I know she is. He’s a flat earther mixed with radical Christian beliefs. He tells her all her teachers are liars and doesn’t support her in school at all. His young af gf is just as brainwashed and they are shoving these crazy beliefs down her throat. I had her for a week for Spring break and she is so different from the girl I saw for Christmas. I do my best to talk to her as often as I can but I’m not the constant influence in her life and I’m so afraid of the person she’s going to grow up to be. She has terrible social anxiety due to living on the outskirts of their town. The only kid interaction she has is at school. My boyfriend has given me the choice to quit my job and be a STAHM but I don’t know if she even wants to live with me due to how different I am from her norm. I feel stuck and helpless. It keeps me awake at night.
Final score:
3points
Rocky 2 years ago
You can try to be a stay at home mum.You won't know if you dont try. Your kid could surprise you and would love to stay with you. Don't wait too long. An 8 year old can still change a lot, without rebelling.
Hope Cows&Chickens 2 years ago
I dont see how her staying at home would change anything if the dad has custody and it sounds like he does. And how does one stay at home ? Without a job to pay for said home then there will be no home at all. I'm not trying to be argumentative, Rocky, but I dont logistically how she could stay at home even if did have custody. I think her best bet would be to talk to a lawyer that does custody cases and ask them if there is anything that could be done to change the situation.
Load More Replies... Mandie Zimmer 2 years ago
Talk to her and ask her what she would like. Let her know that you love her and want the best for her and that you will be there for her. If she wants to spend more time with you, go from there.
Fransesca Newman (Submission author) 2 years ago
I'm planning on taking half the summer off and having her stay with me. That way I've got more consistent one on one time with her.
Load More Replies... #73
I'm a voluntary age regressor!
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(っ◔◡◔)っ blush (Submission author) 2 years ago
Thank you so much for being supportive, but it's actually different from age play!
Load More Replies... #74
My soft can-opener pushed me off of her! Here I was, giving her my precious time, and crash!
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3points
#75
The way certain Europeans love to wag a finger at America for not accepting her horrific history, yet, of those countries that participated in the "Age of Exploitation"... I mean "Exploration", I don't see any of them teaching their kids in their schools about the shocking fückery they were up to over here between 1492 and 1620. Africa would also like a word with Europe. So would South East Asia...
Final score:
3points
#76
I’m not alive. I wish I was. But I can’t feel pain or love or joy Means I’m dead right?
Final score:
3points
Ann Dennis 2 years ago
Nope. In need of help, yes, but dead, no. Keep on breathing, that's the first step.
#77
Yah my brother and sister there anoying and I want a boyfriend but im not allowed to have on until im 18
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3points
#78
When my mom was pregnant with me my father left her for another woman so they got divorced. When I was five my mom got married again to my adoptive father. I was only a five so he became my father in my mind. They had two children together and tried to hold on to their marriage for me and my siblings. But it only lasted three years. I am now left with no father and a single mother who has to take care of two young kids. I want to get married to a decent man who doesn't do what my two *fathers* did to my mother. But it feels impossible, and I am stuck worried that I'll never get married and never have a family of my own.
Final score:
3points
#79
today i just ate an 2000ml ice cream and its strawberry and marshmallow, i was having a mental breakdown so i bought ice cream to make my self feel better but instead of only eating half of it i ate all of it the 2000ml ice cream tub all by myself and i am concerned. my heart feels like its pinching a little bit as i wrote this at 4/27/2023 at 19;53 pls tell me if im not going to die lol
Final score:
3points
#80
I live in the USA and I really wish I didn't. I don't want to live in a world where I make sure the last thing I say to my mom and dad before going to school is "I love you" because I might not make it to the end of the day. I don't want to live in the world where I have to ask my mom if we can get a bulletproof shield to put in my backpack because there was just a shooting at a local library and I'm so scared my school will be next. I don't want to live in a world where I watch the news carefully because before I know it, it might be illegal for my friends to be themselves. I don't want to live in a world where I have to be careful around men older than me, because I'm worried about what they might do to me. I don't want to live in a world where I hate my body and my face because it brings unwanted attention. I don't want to live in a world where I, a young girl, am so scared of being raped or kidnapped. I don't want to live in a world where, had my best friend gotten pregnant after being raped by her FATHER at the age of THIRTEEN, they would be forced to carry a baby, their own sibling, to term or die/get hurt trying not to because abortion is illegal where we live. I don't want to live in the world where I'm terrified of growing up because I see people struggling to keep themselves afloat despite all their hard work, even when my parents promise me a safety net. I don't want to live in a world where I read books and watch movies about WWII, and start to see history repeating itself. I don't want to have all these worries and even more at my age, and I shouldn't. I don't want to live in this kind of world, and I shouldn't have to. People say my generation has it easiest of anyone because of the development of technology, but they have no idea the emotional burden we all carry.
Final score:
3points
3 Trash Pandas in a Trenchcoat (Submission author) 2 years ago
So many things I didn't even think of. I hate this world and this country. Were things always this bad or was I just too little to know? Oh what I would give to live in my books.
CORGI QUEEN 2 years ago
i live in the us but in a "safer" part, last night i was biking home and boys who were older than me started biking behind me, following me. When I got to a busy road my anxiety was through the roof and a car swerved around me. the boys weren't following me btw, they were just going the same way. I was about to have a panic attack.
Load More Replies... LeviTheUselessFrog 2 years ago
I don't either. i dont know what to do anymore. tempted to leave and never return iykwim
3 Trash Pandas in a Trenchcoat (Submission author) 2 years ago
Same. As soon as I'm old enough I might just leave this place, or at least go some where that's not as urban
Load More Replies... #81
I don't know how to edit my submissions so YEAH😂 someone please tell me
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2points
#82
i hate a boy called jj cause he yelled out to my crush that i like him (nothing said yet) btw this boy and i use to be friends in grade 7-8 but now he's being a rat so...
Final score:
2points
#83
I wish somehow that people would understand that there is no one sitting up there above the clouds. No kidding, it's not a joke and im not here to offend or mistreat or disrespect, but come on guys, this some kind of so called 'god' he only put us here so humanity can continue forward....he didn't want you to pray for him like that, nor worship hims. Be real now, earth is a giant planet sorounded with atmospheric layer, people are. traveling space or seeing picture from space, there is no god over there. Yes your 'god' is probably an Elian from another planet like this that wanted to settle this planet we live on, but he didn't mean for you to live for him nor worship him, he isn't there to take care of you. He was trying to do that, though, while was here long time ago (what you all call bible is just an ancient history of this exact planet, it's not bible it's history!) and that's it for us, he lost faith of us ( I really understand him I lost it too). He really did thinks at first, that humans with the great mind and sophisticated brain he gave, will be smarter than just raying all day to him isn't even hear you....he is long long gone to his planet, Where do you really think he came from. Dudes, he is human like us, no magic no powers just a human that in order to keep us humans for long long time he just planted us here on earth and gone. No magic exist, we humans only want to relay on something just to keep us sane and maybe to have faith, you can't believe in something unseen! it's ok to have faith, have faith in you, in your family, friends. It's ok to be afraid go the unknown, from scary future, but guys come on, ghost god won't hep you. He was here before, when he lived, now he isn't. You are the only ones responsible for your lives and no one else. That's it
Final score:
2points
#84
My freshman year of highschool, one of my 4 dogs was stolen from the driveway. He was my favorite. I did not want another dog, and my Great Pyrenees became my favorite. Then we got my saint Bernard. I will never love her as much as my other 3 dogs. I unintentionally give myself a lot of anxiety about graduating from highschool in 2 years and I just want to stop time forever and just wallow in good memories and sadness because I don't want this to end. I don't want to be an adult because.... idk...just idk what to do next and it seems like the adult world will swallow me up and dissolve me into nothing. The lockdown destroyed my work ethic, I've lost all motivation to even hold conversations over text with my friends (including the ones that go to my sister highschool), I don't know if my personality is real, idk if my emotional are really there or if they're real, is my one-time loan for the cellphone bill going to turn into helping with all the bills, I don't want to be my absent bio dad, I don't want to hear anyone say "you're just like Jacob" ever again because don't want to be like that pos of a father. I want to be told " we accept you for who you are", but in reality it's "Nonbinary is not a thing. Trans, gay, bi, everything else except aromatic and asexual are real. You are a girl, that is what you were born as, you will not be called another name because the name I gave you is the only name you have, you are not in anyway autistic because I had you tested at a VERY young age and there was nothing wrong with you, nonbinary is a fad you got from school and your generation tries to find any box possible to fit themselves into just to get some sort of validation. I am your mother and I know you better than anyone else." THAT IS ALL LIES! I KNOW MYSELF AND NO ONE KNOWS ME BETTER THAN I DO. I CANNOT DEAL WITH IT ALL AND I CANNOT EVER TAKE A DAY FOR MYSELF BECAUSE MENTAL HEALTH DAYS AND SELF CARE DO NOT EXIST IN MY HOUSE! I feel burnt out from everything and everyone and I just want to sleep for the rest of eternity because that is the only time where I feel peace. I want to be left alone with music constantly surrounding me in my ears to even achieve anything close to peace without sleep. I feel like I need an extremely long break, even though I will never recover from the constant repression of my burnout, worries, emotions, and numbness.
Final score:
2points
#85
i think i have a crush on my best friend. but im gay and im almost %100 sure she’s straight. i love her so much and i would die for her. she’s one of my favorite people in the world. we’re even married on a minecraft server lol. but i don’t want to make her uncomfortable and mess up our relationship so i can’t tell her. idk what i should do :/
Final score:
1point
CORGI QUEEN 2 years ago
let her know and if she says sorry I am not into that stuff, say ok and cry in a corner but make sure they know that it is ok. Or say it was a joke, but that might not go well.
#86
I can imagine myselfin a nonsexual relationship with my best friend, and im going through an identity crisis aswell. I dont want to mess up our friendship, nor his relationship with his gf. what do i do
Final score:
1point
#87
I went to my wellness check up and they did that mental heath test and i got a score that meant mild depression. After the appointment my parents were like " I don't get it why should we go back you're fine." and "if it's really bad you'd tell us" but I just feel bad all the time. I feel like a failure and just want to stay home. My moods go up and down and when they do it hurts Thanks for reading
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1point
#88
I was a confused child and had too much trust in humanity, so a person took advantage of that and asked me to send noods... so you can guess what happened. I am still crippling with regret.
Final score:
1point
CORGI QUEEN (Submission author) 2 years ago
my parents found out and thought I was doing it volentarily. I couldn't explain that i did it for the attentio
#89
I really like a guy and I think he likes me but I'm not sure and I'm about to haul off and confess (I'm not into the whole subtle thing) and it's driving me crazy. I can be really mean and sarcastic but when I'm around him I basically melt and its super embarrassing lol. Don't know if it's real enough to pursue so...yeah super confused lol
Final score:
1point
#90
I...had a friend. We were playing video games, and then he raped me, it took me a couple of weeks to recover, I had an abortion. I told my mom that we stopped being friends because of a fight. I didn't call the police, or file a restraining order or anything, he's still out there...He's still out there...
Final score:
1point
#91
my bf told my friend that he had a low-key crush on her yesterday and now I'm in the Kubler-ross stages of grief
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0points
#92
i was SH at around kindergarten to 6th grade. it happened 6 times for me with different people, but the ones i cant actually forget was my grandmas female friends husband. He works at barangay, it means like a small office for the people who monitors or plans what they r going to do on the town etc im was in the philippines, anyways, he did it more than 1 time but i forgot how many times he did it. he tried to kiss me he tried to undress me a couple of times but i wouldnt let him because i would run a way. he would sometimes give me money to buy myself things if he already touched me. he often tells me to take a bath and come to his house everyday but i never listen. it went on till 4th grade. i told my parents about it when i couldnt really hold it any longer i tried to kill myself multiple times growing up and even hurting my self in different kinds of ways.
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#93
I don’t know how to feel anymore. Mental health is taboo for me but i feel so weird and don’t even know what i’m typing anymore my thoughts just won’t stop and i feel so overwhelmed.
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0points
#94
I woke Nov. 2020 with my memory gone believing it was 2012. I pretend to know how to do my job.
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0points
#95
i have a plan to off myself on wednesday. not sure how it’s gonna go. but yeah
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What do you think ?
Aura Guzman 2 years ago
First. Funny you should mention that, I have a 15 pound cat laying on my chest right now.
frogfrog (Post author) 2 years ago
*deciding i wiether i should or shouldnt post onmy own post*
Aura Guzman 2 years ago
First. Funny you should mention that, I have a 15 pound cat laying on my chest right now.
frogfrog (Post author) 2 years ago
*deciding i wiether i should or shouldnt post onmy own post*
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