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Whether you are cis het and are confused about something or are having trouble figuring out your gender/sexuality, you can post a question here.
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#1
I don’t know if I’m asexual or bisexual, I like both boys and girls but they also gross me out. I’m just so confused. I’m having a proper full-on gay crisis.
Final score:
5points
A Wild Bean (they/them/any) 2 years ago
You might be biromantic and asexual (also that is the BEST LINE EVER)
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#2
why does the gender binary have to exist? I think life would be a lot easier if there was no binary whatsoever. People are just people.
Final score:
5points
Mermeow Overlord (they/them) 2 years ago
This is all just a guess so don't assume that I know what I am talking about, gender probably originated from the physical differences of the sexes, transphobia probably didn't exist at the time therefore trans people like us were allowed to live as ourselves and no one cared, but at some point in history sexism and homophobia made it so the genders were divided by the stupid inconsistent rules, remember that this is all a guess based on logic and a bit of prior knowledge, if anyone can confirm this or tell me which parts of this are wrong, it would be greatly appreciated.
Lex <3 (they/them) (Submission author) 2 years ago
ugh I wish transphobia was just an imaginary concept, not a real one.
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#3
I have encountered a lot of trans and non-binary people on this site and at school, my question is, why are so many of us afab (assigned female at birth)?
Final score:
4points
Lex <3 (they/them) 2 years ago
Because, imo, being a female literally sucks and I want nothing to do with it for the rest of my life :)
Mermeow Overlord (they/them) (Submission author) 2 years ago
That sounds understandable, I am just confused about why I see so few amab trans and non-binary people.
Load More Replies... Mermeow Overlord (they/them) (Submission author) 2 years ago (edited)
The only 2 other trans amab people I can think of at the moment who I have met are May and Sam.
#4
How do you get in relationships so easily ? I am aroace and it seems to me that the probability of a crush actually being attracted to you too seems so low. Do you just go in the relationship and hope you catch feelings ? It makes me so confused
Final score:
1point
Huddo's sister 2 years ago
I tried the 'hopefully catch feelings' thing and it sucked so I don't recommend it to anyone! Some people are afraid to be alone, but I think they need some time alone so they can figure out who they are and what they like.
Mermeow Overlord (they/them) 2 years ago
I have had a few crushes and experience attraction to most people of the gender(s) I am attracted to. Personality, common interests or common experiences may also help people find someone they like.
#5
I don’t know if this type of question is what you meant but anyways here it is. if you are non-binary are you transgender?
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0points
Mermeow Overlord (they/them) 2 years ago
I saw your profile, thanks for the shout out, you are great at art and dragons are really cool (did you make your previous profile picture, it was awesome!)
◦•●◉ 𝒮𝒽𝓎 𝒟𝓇𝒶𝑔𝑜𝓃 (𝓈𝒽𝑒/𝒽𝑒𝓇) ◉● (Submission author) 2 years ago
I didn’t draw any of them. this one is from a colouring book I like
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What causes the feelings about gender identity, I read an article on this site that said chromosomes actually determine gender and one tiny piece of the chromosomes caused you to become the wrong sex (for example: a transmasc person would be born with XY chromosomes but would still appear biologically female). I found it on BP so I am not sure if it's accurate but it would explain the feelings of gender identity.
Final score:
0points
#7
No
Final score:
-4points
#8
“Spiderpunk, I see you're back.” WHAT U TALKIN BOUT WILLIS?
Final score:
-4points
Mermeow Overlord (they/them) 2 years ago (edited)
You are using the same account, it is very obvious.
