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I’ve always thought Lesbian was a female attracted to females and Gay was male attracted to male, but people often refer to women as gay. How does this work?
Why do some in the community have to assume someone is (whatever)phobic as soon as they have a different view than them? I think it rather gives a bad outlook for others of the community.
This isn’t really a question to pose to a community where having an opposing opinion [i.e. most ‘opposing opinions facing the lgbtq community are, ‘being ‘x’ is bad/goes against religion/goes against evolution.’] So when you have an opposing opinion to an lgbtq-centric community that is why the the jump goes to ‘phobic’…99% of the time, it is. Now, if you mean on a universal scale why we are so intolerant of other peoples lifestyles and beliefs…we are in an incredibly divisive era and are incapable of tolerating our differences and social media has only made it worse.
I am a very curious person and if I met someone I want to get to know them. I ask someone their sexuality, and they took offense. How do I ask someone and be as kind as possible?
i think you have to know someone better. it also depends on the person as some people are more private than others. or you can casually ask if they would date an objectively attractive celebrity of their same gender, so they could politely say “i don’t swing that way” or “yeah i would”
I have a question about me, kind of "what is my letter, do I have a letter, aren't I just normal with a side of mental?"
First, I know that labels are not what's important, but I'm confused about me and they can give me a direction.
So, confusion:
1) I always said that I don't fall in love with a gender but with a person. If that person would happen to be female (as me), fine.
2) But I only crushed or fell in love with males.
3) As far as I know...
4) ... because of a lot of mental health c**p I had extrem problems in aknowledging my feelings. First time I could admit to myself that I had a crush on someone was at 18.
5) Since having learned listening to what I need instead of what others want, sex is a big no for me...
6) ...but that may be partly or mainly trauma related
So, am I
1) Pan
2) Hetero
3) Unknown because mental
4) Ace
5) Non-Ace, just mental
?
you can just identify as queer or unlabeled until you figured it out. i will say that you don’t have to have a crush on a girl (at least one that you admit to yourself) to know you’re queer. the first time i let myself acknowledge that i had a crush on someone of my same sex, it was three or four months after i realized i was bi. 🙂
Falling in love with a person not a gender is pan/bi. Depending on who you talk to pan is a sub genre of bi or it’s own genre. Ace would be my call if you didn’t mention trauma. No one can answer that except you & id encourage therapy if it’s something you find hard to determine yourself. Edit: if you’re still unsure of what you want/who you are in the relationship department or in general I would highly, highly encourage holding off worrying about dating. I did not & nearly destroyed my entire life. It’s okay to be single and discovering yourself.
I think you may be asexual demiromantic. Correct me if I'm wrong fellow Pandas but i belive demisexual is when you only like people you already have a relationship with(adding romantic mean you want a romantic relationship if you are asexual).
Can I edit posts? Forgot to include trans, enby, whatever in point 1)
Sounds less like a question and more like a statement. You are valid and cool no matter what!
I have a couple of questions. The first, when did the term q*eer become acceptable? When I was growing up that was considered a negative term for gay and lesbians. Second, what does the "IA" in LGBTQIA stand for? That's new to me. I'm not a part if the LGBTQIA community but I have always believed in treating everyone with respect.
Intersex means that at birth a person has a mix of male/female sexual characteristics ( to my understanding anyways). And the term queer is different for everyone. I use it personally- it's kind of like reclaiming it. Just make sure to say they're queer and not "a queer"
I know this was 2 months ago but how do I figure out my sexuality? I'm mostly attracted to the opposite gender but I wouldn't mind if the same or another gender liked me and I could actually form a relationship with them but I most likely wouldn't have a crush on the them first. I do feel differently about each gender though but is this just straight or mostly straight? It feels like it's mostly straight but some say it isn't a "real" sexuality so..?
Honestly, there isn't an exact way to find out. Mostly, people just research to find the term that relates to how they feel the most. Though from what you said, you might be Demisexual, though I don't want to assume. Demisexual loosely means that it takes you awhile to form romantic connections to any gender. If you have a good bond, romantic feelings can form, but it's not live at first sight, if that makes sense.
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Honestly, there isn't an exact way to find out. Mostly, people just research to find the term that relates to how they feel the most. Though from what you said, you might be Demisexual, though I don't want to assume. Demisexual loosely means that it takes you awhile to form romantic connections to any gender. If you have a good bond, romantic feelings can form, but it's not live at first sight, if that makes sense.
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