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Parents Spent 14 Years Blaming Their Son For Grandfather’s Death, So He Finally Reveals His Biggest Secret
We all have burdens to carry, but the hardest ones are those you have to hide from others. For 14 years, these parents have been blaming their child for his grandfather’s death. Mainly, for not watching after him when it happened and for not trying to save his life. The kid, however, has a secret that would change their minds instantly. He has been carrying this huge load for all of this time and he’s probably doomed to continue for the rest of his life.
Probably to get some closure, the 28-year-old has just decided to anonymously share the story with the internet. “The way I tell the story is kinda nonchalant,” he wrote. “It was so long ago that I’ve had time to cope and think about what happened and how it changed me.” Scroll down to read the confession and let us know what you think about it in the comments.
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He hasn’t even told his parents
Naturally, commenters had a lot of questions for him, and he was prepared to answer
People wanted to know how he was coping with it afterward
Wait, so how young was he?
What about the parents? Do they know anything?
So he was only a teen when it happened
Some were amazed that he actually shared it online
Others simply called him a hero
What do you think ?
Neeraj Jha 7 years ago
Kudos to this person for handling the situation and himself so well even being a teenager. Proves that age has nothing to do with maturity.
jenna 7 years ago
That is a thing..... that everyone nowadays is defined by age and everything society bestows on the needs and cunnings of a certain age. In this case, grandfather and grandson were perfectly able to conduct the things that need to be done. But, society does not accept when people do things differently. Such shortmindedness can be killing. Kudos to this person for handling the situation so properly.
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A S Koziol 7 years ago
One of my friends works in the ICU and she regularly has to revive elderly patients because the family wants it. She says she can't understand why the family thinks this is helping because the patient almost always ends up with broken ribs along with a raw bronchial tube from the intubation. Once the patient revives, they are in constant pain, can't get adequate rest to heal quickly, and almost all of them die within a week and because of the broken ribs, the chance of being revived again is very small. So all the family did was ensure the patient lived their last week in terrible pain from every breath, and take away the dignity of passing on their own time.
jenna 7 years ago
Please wish your friend well. She/he has a terrifying job, knowing you have to hurt the dying more than they would want or wish.
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stellermatt 7 years ago
Usually when someone dies the people left behind want something to 'blame' a disease, or a reason or something like that, it feels like the parents don't want to blame the grandparent even though it's his choice he's the reason he went when he went, so they blame their kid, that's a huge amount of blame to lay on someone so young. Hopefully, if they know all the facts as we do, they can forgive and forget? Easy to say I guess.
Nora Bora 7 years ago
I am an atheist and I am not afraid of death. what I am afraid of is the kind of torture one can go through on the way to death. I have notified my relatives and friends, and signed the documents. This young man was brave, and I salute him.
Darla Johnson 7 years ago
I am the same way, I realize that death is not something to be afraid of.
Load More Replies... jenna 7 years ago
Salute to the grandson. In the Netherlands, we have ways of offering help to anyone who does not want to be revived, due to very personal and private meanings. As long as you record it with GP;s, specialists, whatever? Your wishes are respected in many euthanasia laws here. However, many people, even Trump, think that these laws are used to kill any elderly by whoever asks for it. That is not true. In our society there are many laws who guard the proces of euthanasia and non-revival wishes. To the grandson: be at peace. Your grandfather would have died at any stage of his life/disease. Now, he died in the presence of someone he loved and trusted. That is a peaceful death.
varwenea 7 years ago
Between the ages of 9 and 11, I was responsible for going home after school to watch my dad, who was dying of cancer. I'm not sure what I would have done if my dad had asked me of this. (He had breathing trouble in the night and died in the hospital the next day when I was 11.) He was clearly a mature young man. Hugs to him.
Jonathan Eatsalot 7 years ago
Many people plan their lives. Few plan their deaths. Don't wait until you can't.
Molly Tallmadge 7 years ago
Wow... Jonathan is starting to say nice things... What happened? (not being sarcastic, honestly curious)
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lunanoir69 7 years ago
My mom's second round of cancer spread to her bones and she was in horrifying pain. She and a nurse friend of mine made an agreement that my friend would end it for her when it became too bad and she was ready to go. The end came quickly, so it wasn't needed, but I believe that people with terminal or severe chronic illnesses should have the right to end their lives in a painless manner.
jenna 7 years ago
The issue is: so many people think they are the experts on other peoples lives. Whether that is due to religious or non religious issues such as life style, psychological stuff, etc. Why do people think they can control the death of a fellow human? Yes, nowadays people want to live, we have lots of drugs/medications that alow people to live. Often not payable... however, we cannot control each other. That should be the word. Let us please respect the wishes of our fellow humans and still take care of them.
Neeraj Jha 7 years ago
Kudos to this person for handling the situation and himself so well even being a teenager. Proves that age has nothing to do with maturity.
jenna 7 years ago
That is a thing..... that everyone nowadays is defined by age and everything society bestows on the needs and cunnings of a certain age. In this case, grandfather and grandson were perfectly able to conduct the things that need to be done. But, society does not accept when people do things differently. Such shortmindedness can be killing. Kudos to this person for handling the situation so properly.
Load More Replies... A S Koziol 7 years ago
One of my friends works in the ICU and she regularly has to revive elderly patients because the family wants it. She says she can't understand why the family thinks this is helping because the patient almost always ends up with broken ribs along with a raw bronchial tube from the intubation. Once the patient revives, they are in constant pain, can't get adequate rest to heal quickly, and almost all of them die within a week and because of the broken ribs, the chance of being revived again is very small. So all the family did was ensure the patient lived their last week in terrible pain from every breath, and take away the dignity of passing on their own time.
jenna 7 years ago
Please wish your friend well. She/he has a terrifying job, knowing you have to hurt the dying more than they would want or wish.
Load More Replies... stellermatt 7 years ago
Usually when someone dies the people left behind want something to 'blame' a disease, or a reason or something like that, it feels like the parents don't want to blame the grandparent even though it's his choice he's the reason he went when he went, so they blame their kid, that's a huge amount of blame to lay on someone so young. Hopefully, if they know all the facts as we do, they can forgive and forget? Easy to say I guess.
Nora Bora 7 years ago
I am an atheist and I am not afraid of death. what I am afraid of is the kind of torture one can go through on the way to death. I have notified my relatives and friends, and signed the documents. This young man was brave, and I salute him.
Darla Johnson 7 years ago
I am the same way, I realize that death is not something to be afraid of.
Load More Replies... jenna 7 years ago
Salute to the grandson. In the Netherlands, we have ways of offering help to anyone who does not want to be revived, due to very personal and private meanings. As long as you record it with GP;s, specialists, whatever? Your wishes are respected in many euthanasia laws here. However, many people, even Trump, think that these laws are used to kill any elderly by whoever asks for it. That is not true. In our society there are many laws who guard the proces of euthanasia and non-revival wishes. To the grandson: be at peace. Your grandfather would have died at any stage of his life/disease. Now, he died in the presence of someone he loved and trusted. That is a peaceful death.
varwenea 7 years ago
Between the ages of 9 and 11, I was responsible for going home after school to watch my dad, who was dying of cancer. I'm not sure what I would have done if my dad had asked me of this. (He had breathing trouble in the night and died in the hospital the next day when I was 11.) He was clearly a mature young man. Hugs to him.
Jonathan Eatsalot 7 years ago
Many people plan their lives. Few plan their deaths. Don't wait until you can't.
Molly Tallmadge 7 years ago
Wow... Jonathan is starting to say nice things... What happened? (not being sarcastic, honestly curious)
Load More Replies... lunanoir69 7 years ago
My mom's second round of cancer spread to her bones and she was in horrifying pain. She and a nurse friend of mine made an agreement that my friend would end it for her when it became too bad and she was ready to go. The end came quickly, so it wasn't needed, but I believe that people with terminal or severe chronic illnesses should have the right to end their lives in a painless manner.
jenna 7 years ago
The issue is: so many people think they are the experts on other peoples lives. Whether that is due to religious or non religious issues such as life style, psychological stuff, etc. Why do people think they can control the death of a fellow human? Yes, nowadays people want to live, we have lots of drugs/medications that alow people to live. Often not payable... however, we cannot control each other. That should be the word. Let us please respect the wishes of our fellow humans and still take care of them.
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