Groom Is Stood Up By His Parents At His Own Wedding Because Of Sister, His Best Friend Comes Up With The Best Revenge Plan
Your wedding day should be one of the most exciting days of your life. You get to publicly profess your love for your other half, and all of your friends and family gather around to celebrate you and your partner. You’re in a beautiful setting, you’re looking your best, and you get to dance the night away and eat delicious cake with all of the people you love most in the world. The night should be pure magic.
A wedding is often very exciting for parents of the bride and groom as well, as they get to welcome a new member into their family and celebrate their child’s joy. Unfortunately, however, one groom recently found out that he was never going to be his parents’ priority, even on his wedding day. Below, you can read the full story that was recently shared on Reddit by a newlywed who is wondering if he should have handled the events following his wedding differently. We’ve also gathered some of the replies his post received, so you can read them and then let us know in the comments how you feel about this situation. Then if you’re interested in another Bored Panda piece featuring family drama surrounding a wedding, you can check out this story next.
After his parents missed one of the happiest days of his life, the drama was just beginning for this newlywed
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The best man shared a video from the wedding online that the groom found heartwarming, but his parents did not feel the same way
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Regardless of these parents’ track record, a wedding is one of those life events that should trump almost anything else that is going on. Unless you’re in the hospital, there are not very many valid excuses for missing your child’s wedding. Especially when it was the sister’s dog who was allegedly ill, not the parents’. My heart aches for this groom because, although he thankfully was able to have friends and his wife’s family at the wedding, that day will never be repeated. It is hard to comprehend that his parents and sister were not concerned about missing such a major life event.
Unfortunately, sometimes parents just favor one child. And while they might not even realize it, they end up prioritizing one and treating the other very differently. But this can be detrimental to the mental health and self-confidence of the child who is not favored. According to Dr. Yelena Gidenko, a licensed professional counselor, “The unfavored child can feel defeated, and unmotivated, as a result of working hard to get parental affirmation and support, with no success. He or she may also suffer from depression and become angry, bitter, resentful, or jealous.”
At the same time, a child who is shown special treatment might let that go to their head. “Favored children may feel a sense of entitlement, and that rules do not apply to them,” Dr. Gidenko explained. That sounds very similar to the sister in this situation. According to the groom, his sister frequently has meltdowns and ruins his most important days. Perhaps she cannot handle not being in the spotlight, so she, consciously or subconsciously, sabotages his most important days.
Whatever the justification may be for this newlywed’s family trying to taint one of the happiest days of his life, it is not a valid reason. Your wedding day should take priority over almost anything else, and I’m just glad that the best man was able to be there to support his friend. Let us know what you think about this situation in the comments and if the groom should remove the video or not. And whether you are married or not, would you forgive your parents or your close family members if they skipped your wedding last minute?
Despite the family drama, readers unanimously agreed that the groom is not at fault
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Sooo, the sister is older than her little brother who got married. She does not have any developmental issues. So why the heck couldn't she stay home alone with her dog? Why did the parents have to stay home as well?
Exactly my thoughts! I absolutely understand wanting to stay with her sick dog (if that's the truth and not just an excuse to manipulate her parents) but unless her dog was severely sick I don't see why the parents would've needed to stay home with her either.
Load More Replies... Maybe the dog was conveniently sick? Bro's big day, can't let him have any parental attention, I'll feed it grapes and chocolate! 😒
I was thinking that too. She's definitely unhinged enough to have done it on purpose.
I took care of my own puppy all alone who had Parvo which is one if the worst sicknesses a dog can have. It only took one person. Not multiple
Parvo is brutal, I hope your puppy was ok. (Edit) i just saw your other comment! So glad she's ok
I love dogs too, and even 'severely' sick isn't going to cut it as a reason for not being there for the one important event in life.
Actually, Parvo would have prevented me from going. Your dog doesn't eat, doesn't drink, and you have no idea if she's going to be dead when you get home from the wedding. It was the most heartbreaking and nervewracking experience if my life. Watching her condition deteriorate and not knowing if she was going to still be alive when you woke up the next morning. I lost so much sleep. Luckily she made a full recovery. She required around the clock care. I had to force feed her water every hour.
But thats still the job of 1 person and maybe 2. If the dog was really that sick and she needed help, why did BOTH parents have to abandon one child for the next. This was an issue with a simple solution, but they didnt care.
At risk of being crass, I could see why sister dearest regards the dog with such affinity, since she sounds deserving of a kennel name, herself.
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I assume the person complaining is exaggerating, or downplaying things..seems severe ASD and they dog is likely a support animal. They can save their lives many times over especially if they have epilepsy (common in ASD) and help them get around etc. So yeah that would be major.
Stop acting like you have any idea what's happening, you don't. Again, take your own advise
It's not a support animal, she's nowhere on the spectrum, and this dog has never had to save her life - this dog just saved her from having to spend one day actually admitting that she's NOT an only child (even though she basically is considering the parents won't treat their son as one of their children). The OP clearly states she has no developmental issues, she's just a spoiled entitled b***h who's parents can't even briefly stop enabling her even if it means telling their son he might as well have been adopted - or rather he should have been adopted. Any couple that adopted him would've cared far more about him than his biological parents ever have - or ever will as long as she's alive, and if she dies they'll probably be too devastated to deal with the fact that they actually do have another child or they'll end up expecting the support from him that he never got from them once and will be nothing to him but a burden.
Yeah, I'd actually excuse the sister for a pet emergency. But I can't imagine a situation that requires more than one person -- even if she can't drive, this is a situation where you pay for a f*****g Uber. Even if the dog died, sorry kid, you can stay home to grieve, but unfortunately your brother is getting married and that takes priority today, you'll need to bear it alone for a few hours.
I feel like she got the dog sick on purpose to destroy the one day that is biggest one of his life. The only day that is truly about him.
she's six years older and still at home .... there's issues alright , plenty of them . parents got a few as well I suspect
maybe less about her, and more about what she represents.I'll tell you my thoughts/story. My folks were married 20 years before they got a 3+ BR walkout rambler. Hubby & I signed the closing papers the day before our 2nd anniversary on a 3+ BR walkout rambler. Didn't bother my dad, but my mom had a cow! She hated anyone who did/had better than her. As long as my siblings had less than her, you were 'gold'. Somewhat kept them underachieving to keep her superior, but dad just enabled her. So might be a narcissistic player there.
And the sister lives with the parents too from the way it reads? SPOILED ROTTEN and that won't make her a good person!
That family dynamic sounds so psycho. He go no contant. Cut the umbilical chord and live your life awesomely. Life's too short for that drama. Is my point of view.
The solution to the sick dog problem is simple. You take the dog to the vet and leave the dog at the vet for the day and go to the wedding. Believe me I've had a ton of dogs and they're very important in my life. She could have gone to the wedding, perhaps left early from the reception, but this is ridiculous. And the parents staying home because of the sick dog?? From their son's wedding? He should divorce his parents and his sister.
Right? If they didnt want to do that, sister could have stayed and both or AT LEAST ONE parent could have gone to support the brother. But NONE showed.
It doesn't say the sister has or hasn't any developmental issues. I am high functioning on the spectrum myself and live independent, 32 now. And that's been going perfectly well since the last 10 years. Sometimes a panic attack can still happen. Good thing however that I have the social abilities to actually have worked my network to be bigger than just my parents, and I don't have to burden them. Even more so, there's always a professional that I can reach if necessary. The sister sounds to me like she may also be on the spectrum, independent enough to clean up her own house, cook for herself and take care of a dog, but not with a social network beyond her parents. And if there was "nothing" with the sister you'd expect the sister to be invited too, but if a wedding is too overwhelming it's only logical that she isn't. Still, this is no excuse for parents to neglect one of their children. The parents should arrange something that the daughter has more shoulders to lean on then just them, so they don't have to neglect their son for her sake. Because I can understand for someone on the spectrum a sick pet is scary. I have two cats too. But if my cats are sick and I need someone to help me or comfort me, I have more than just my parents! Even more so, parents don't have eternal life. If these people don't start making arrangements for their highly dependent daughter it sounds like the girl will be in huge trouble on the day she can't lean on them anymore. That girl's support system has to grow beyond the parents for the sake of the entire family.
I totally hear you on that! But I believe the OP confirmed she has no development issues. See response to the 1st question in the article - screen capture.
I think big sister can't bear ANYTHING that puts attention on her brother and away from her. Typical narcissist. She learned early how to play the victim, and her parents were too stupid to notice what she was doing. Although narcissists are amazingly good at coercing people into being their puppets. She's just lucky her brother didn't fall for her victimhood. He's lucky to marry a good woman and get away from that toxic bunch. I'd go NC as long as sister is in that house with her parents. Which might, sadly enough, be until they're gone.
To prove to the sister ,that no matter what she is the only one who matters
I hope when their parents are at a stage in their lives that 'daughter dearest' will drop everything and devote all her time to their needs. I suspect that they will expect their son and his wife to be the jack#*! and take care of everything. When they eventually die, don't be surprised if 'darling daughter' makes the parents funeral about her; much weeping and gnashing of teeth coupled with collapsing on the floor. Been there, seen that. It's all about me me me me.
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There is a possibility that the sister has an undiagnosed mental disability/disorder. You may be surprised how many people go through the majority of their lives without ever being properly diagnosed with a condition that they have. Also, no idea what is actually meant with the "dog was sick" line. One time my cat ate a penny and was lethargic and was literally about to die if I didn't seek medical attention. There's a possibility there was a similar situation with her dog. We don't really have all the details here. Just one person's side of the story.
Uh huh. A mental disability/disorder that somehow always acts up when her brother is the focus of attention and not her? I mean, yeah, sure, there probably is a diagnosis somewhere out there for her, but unless this illness is truly debilitating in some way, mental illness is not a reason to excuse bad behaviour.
She's a sociopath and just all around bad person. She likes to manipulate everything bc she can and she's proved it over and over and over! This was the ultimate one. There is no bigger day that is just about you than your wedding. I'm sure she got her dog sick on purpose. She every well could have other mental issues but she'd definitely a pyschopath. She seems to enjoy making her brother feel like s**t. Now the 3 are crushed bc the cat's out of the bag. Karma is a b***h
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She has ASD......that's a developmental issue or at least co-exists with developmental most times. I wouldn't trust the toxic bridezilla to tell the truth anyhow...how selfish. My husband and I would've loved to afford a wedding like many others out in the REAL world. We also would've loved for our parents to not party or chill at home instead of seeing our newborn, especially when she was in the NICU. But life happens and you grow up and realize it's not all about you. It's not the movies, your wedding is not the most important thing when compared to a disabled relative etc.
Show us your degree in psychology. Because obviously your reading comprehension sucks. It's the brother who is complaining the parents weren't there because of the sister. The sister who managed to disrupt everything that the parents should be around for, for their son. Not only the daughter. They didn't go to his games, they missed his graduation, and now his wedding. You're assuming the sister has a disability. Do you personally know the sister? Maybe you are the sister and your trying to get people to call the brother/OP out for being angry at the parents. I only see you trying to defend the sister. OP is totally not the AH in the situation. But ArielZepplin, you're beginning to be.
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This is such a far reach, I can't believe it would really happen. In the end parents not showing up on the wedding makes guests question it, it's not a football game. And excuse is just.... not believable, toxic parents couldn't possibly keep their face with sth like that. I call bs on that story
Nope, had something similar happen to me. Parents moved heaven and earth for my older brother, but couldn't lift a finger for me. This shite happens a lot.
Yes, I had a parent who hated me and loved her three other kids. No, I don't visit any of them.
That's exactly how my step grandma was with me up until she died. Yes, she went to some events throughout school for me, but she talked up my cousins and talked me down and went as far as to take my summer homework away because she didnt think I had any, then acted like it was my fault for starting highschool with a failing grade in my best subject. Not to mention she tried getting my dad to enforce me asking for food at his house like I had to at my mom's since we lived with her. I'm the only one out of my cousins with an eating disorder, and she caused it. People are like this a lot more often then you think. Just because you haven't experienced it doesnt mean it hasn't happened.
My parents and grandparents weren't going to come to my wedding. My parents because I wasn't having the wedding my mom wanted or the dress she wanted me to wear but I was paying for my own wedding and my grandparents because I invited my sister's boyfriend who was black and they were prejudiced and I told them if their ignorance and hate was greater than their love for me stay home but remember I'm starting a new family that won't be including them if that's their choice. And I told my parents they made my life h*ll throughout my childhood and into the beginning of adulthood and if they chose not to be there for me, I wouldn't be there for them in the future and they both worked hard to scr*w me up so I expected them to both walk me down the aisle and give me away as my mom had always wanted. So yes, it's probable.
Lilly Francis You're AMAZING! Too many people bow down to the word "family". Just because you're related by blood or even adoption, doesn't mean there should be a relationship of any kind. Family is only meaningful if respect is shown and actions back up the "love" and "respect". We are meant to live in peace. Anyone who screws with our peace should be out of our lives. We should not be captives just because we are "family". No guilt trips!!!!!
My eldest sister is a megasized narcissist!!! She accused me of a bunch of BS...this was the night before Daddy's funeral. She told everyone that I forbade her to attend the service. I did no such thing...only mom had the word on who could/couldn't attend. Some of the family believed her, others didn't. I went through years of gossip & whispers. And she never even apologized. I haven't dealt with her nor our alcoholic drama queen middle sis since then. Washed my hands of them.
You're funny! My family tried to guilt me all the time but that didn't mean I was going to put with it! I loved my family deeply but there's only so much you can take and then you say that's enough! It's not healthy for anyone to let that go on but you have to be big enough and strong enough to back it up and I hit that at 17 and then I was done and I told my parents they needed help and they were going to get it one way or another because I was tired of being a punching bag and kickball both physically and verbally and I wasn't going to allow that to happen to my baby brother and I sacrificed a lot because of their BS. I walked away from a double major full scholarship because I couldn't leave my brother alone with my dad but that was my choice because his safety was more important. Guilt isn't the issue, it's about right and wrong and I'll do the right thing every time and never regret it.
BTW, I believe everyone is family I just haven't met yet. We're all brothers and sisters on this earth and we need to watch out for each other.
Thank you but I'm not like most people besides I'd already tolerated enough throughout my life, I decided I was done taking it and it was time for them to start being reasonable. And no one hurts my sister! And my grandparents were hurting her.
My grandmother didn't come to my wedding because it was "too far to drive". One, it was 45 minutes away. Two, any one of a dozen relatives would have happily brought her. Three, shee never had a drivers license in all her 90 years on this planet, how would she know how far a drive it was? The real reason? She told me not to marry my first serious boyfriend and I did, after 5 years together. Some people are just that small.
It's pretty common, parents like that don't care about keeping face in front of their kids.
I have seen it happen a couple of times, and have heard about it to many to count while doing my thesis on religious trauma. There are horrible parents out there that put many other this before their children.
Religion was forbidden in my dad's castle! I brought it into our home but I'm not really religious I'm spiritual and there is a difference. I don't follow any one religion, I follow the teachings of Jesus and try and follow the path He would walk. The WWJD is what I live by and I told my dad he needed to take some lessons because he was extremely abusive. He took the church away from my mom and all of us but we didn't know about it. I learned on my own. I think my would have destroyed me if I didn't have my Faith to lean on because he was so brutal in every way, emotionally, mentally and physically. And he was emotionally and mentally abusive to my mom. He was a narcissistic sociopath with a rage disorder but I refused to let him destroy my family.
I reside at least 3,000km away from my family, leapt at the chance, when told my job was going to get relocated. Have been back for my 50th, but was more about things happening with my stepmothers family , rather than me on my 50th. I did get to go out with my dad, until a do called unforeseen emergency came up, that could've waited a day or two. I relocated on 2002, and only went back twice. Once in 2004, and again in 2017.2017i was planning on going for 2 weeks, but cut it back to 1.Suster made excuses not to catch up, plus I'm estranged from my brother (Yes it's spelt correctly aka d'head, by my dad and myself) Dad was apologetic on my day, I just put on a brave face and told him that it was fine, tough he knows otherwise ( He worked it out himself). I speak to him about once a fortnight. I've learnt to survive by myself, it's easier. Plus I have an ABI (sub arachnid aneurysm clipped 1991). Families can suck at times.
Me too! Anyone has a link to it? I tried finding it but no success
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Come on, sharing the video is basically doxing op and probably his whole family
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Because it doesn't exist. Fake AITA situation created just for likes, karma, and to draw attention to the subreddit.
Parents have been enabling sister. Extended family has been enabling parents into thinking that's ok. Chickens came home to roost. I hope the groom married into a good family that will treat him as an equal instead of an afterthought.
Powerful words! "Afterthought" ...very profound. Applies to so many of us. Your last sentence says it all. I feel sorry for people who are bound to toxic families. They say, "but they're family". Sad.
Load More Replies... And you just know that if something happened to the parents, the son & his wife will bear the burden. Cause they're more organized, have a better knowledge about things & 2 of them can handle easier, blah blah blah... While older sister runs off with someone else to care for her...friends, boyfriend, daddy figure... OP & his wife need "witness protection"!!! LOL
Sooo, the sister is older than her little brother who got married. She does not have any developmental issues. So why the heck couldn't she stay home alone with her dog? Why did the parents have to stay home as well?
Exactly my thoughts! I absolutely understand wanting to stay with her sick dog (if that's the truth and not just an excuse to manipulate her parents) but unless her dog was severely sick I don't see why the parents would've needed to stay home with her either.
Load More Replies... Maybe the dog was conveniently sick? Bro's big day, can't let him have any parental attention, I'll feed it grapes and chocolate! 😒
I was thinking that too. She's definitely unhinged enough to have done it on purpose.
I took care of my own puppy all alone who had Parvo which is one if the worst sicknesses a dog can have. It only took one person. Not multiple
Parvo is brutal, I hope your puppy was ok. (Edit) i just saw your other comment! So glad she's ok
I love dogs too, and even 'severely' sick isn't going to cut it as a reason for not being there for the one important event in life.
Actually, Parvo would have prevented me from going. Your dog doesn't eat, doesn't drink, and you have no idea if she's going to be dead when you get home from the wedding. It was the most heartbreaking and nervewracking experience if my life. Watching her condition deteriorate and not knowing if she was going to still be alive when you woke up the next morning. I lost so much sleep. Luckily she made a full recovery. She required around the clock care. I had to force feed her water every hour.
But thats still the job of 1 person and maybe 2. If the dog was really that sick and she needed help, why did BOTH parents have to abandon one child for the next. This was an issue with a simple solution, but they didnt care.
At risk of being crass, I could see why sister dearest regards the dog with such affinity, since she sounds deserving of a kennel name, herself.
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I assume the person complaining is exaggerating, or downplaying things..seems severe ASD and they dog is likely a support animal. They can save their lives many times over especially if they have epilepsy (common in ASD) and help them get around etc. So yeah that would be major.
Stop acting like you have any idea what's happening, you don't. Again, take your own advise
It's not a support animal, she's nowhere on the spectrum, and this dog has never had to save her life - this dog just saved her from having to spend one day actually admitting that she's NOT an only child (even though she basically is considering the parents won't treat their son as one of their children). The OP clearly states she has no developmental issues, she's just a spoiled entitled b***h who's parents can't even briefly stop enabling her even if it means telling their son he might as well have been adopted - or rather he should have been adopted. Any couple that adopted him would've cared far more about him than his biological parents ever have - or ever will as long as she's alive, and if she dies they'll probably be too devastated to deal with the fact that they actually do have another child or they'll end up expecting the support from him that he never got from them once and will be nothing to him but a burden.
Yeah, I'd actually excuse the sister for a pet emergency. But I can't imagine a situation that requires more than one person -- even if she can't drive, this is a situation where you pay for a f*****g Uber. Even if the dog died, sorry kid, you can stay home to grieve, but unfortunately your brother is getting married and that takes priority today, you'll need to bear it alone for a few hours.
I feel like she got the dog sick on purpose to destroy the one day that is biggest one of his life. The only day that is truly about him.
she's six years older and still at home .... there's issues alright , plenty of them . parents got a few as well I suspect
maybe less about her, and more about what she represents.I'll tell you my thoughts/story. My folks were married 20 years before they got a 3+ BR walkout rambler. Hubby & I signed the closing papers the day before our 2nd anniversary on a 3+ BR walkout rambler. Didn't bother my dad, but my mom had a cow! She hated anyone who did/had better than her. As long as my siblings had less than her, you were 'gold'. Somewhat kept them underachieving to keep her superior, but dad just enabled her. So might be a narcissistic player there.
And the sister lives with the parents too from the way it reads? SPOILED ROTTEN and that won't make her a good person!
That family dynamic sounds so psycho. He go no contant. Cut the umbilical chord and live your life awesomely. Life's too short for that drama. Is my point of view.
The solution to the sick dog problem is simple. You take the dog to the vet and leave the dog at the vet for the day and go to the wedding. Believe me I've had a ton of dogs and they're very important in my life. She could have gone to the wedding, perhaps left early from the reception, but this is ridiculous. And the parents staying home because of the sick dog?? From their son's wedding? He should divorce his parents and his sister.
Right? If they didnt want to do that, sister could have stayed and both or AT LEAST ONE parent could have gone to support the brother. But NONE showed.
It doesn't say the sister has or hasn't any developmental issues. I am high functioning on the spectrum myself and live independent, 32 now. And that's been going perfectly well since the last 10 years. Sometimes a panic attack can still happen. Good thing however that I have the social abilities to actually have worked my network to be bigger than just my parents, and I don't have to burden them. Even more so, there's always a professional that I can reach if necessary. The sister sounds to me like she may also be on the spectrum, independent enough to clean up her own house, cook for herself and take care of a dog, but not with a social network beyond her parents. And if there was "nothing" with the sister you'd expect the sister to be invited too, but if a wedding is too overwhelming it's only logical that she isn't. Still, this is no excuse for parents to neglect one of their children. The parents should arrange something that the daughter has more shoulders to lean on then just them, so they don't have to neglect their son for her sake. Because I can understand for someone on the spectrum a sick pet is scary. I have two cats too. But if my cats are sick and I need someone to help me or comfort me, I have more than just my parents! Even more so, parents don't have eternal life. If these people don't start making arrangements for their highly dependent daughter it sounds like the girl will be in huge trouble on the day she can't lean on them anymore. That girl's support system has to grow beyond the parents for the sake of the entire family.
I totally hear you on that! But I believe the OP confirmed she has no development issues. See response to the 1st question in the article - screen capture.
I think big sister can't bear ANYTHING that puts attention on her brother and away from her. Typical narcissist. She learned early how to play the victim, and her parents were too stupid to notice what she was doing. Although narcissists are amazingly good at coercing people into being their puppets. She's just lucky her brother didn't fall for her victimhood. He's lucky to marry a good woman and get away from that toxic bunch. I'd go NC as long as sister is in that house with her parents. Which might, sadly enough, be until they're gone.
To prove to the sister ,that no matter what she is the only one who matters
I hope when their parents are at a stage in their lives that 'daughter dearest' will drop everything and devote all her time to their needs. I suspect that they will expect their son and his wife to be the jack#*! and take care of everything. When they eventually die, don't be surprised if 'darling daughter' makes the parents funeral about her; much weeping and gnashing of teeth coupled with collapsing on the floor. Been there, seen that. It's all about me me me me.
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There is a possibility that the sister has an undiagnosed mental disability/disorder. You may be surprised how many people go through the majority of their lives without ever being properly diagnosed with a condition that they have. Also, no idea what is actually meant with the "dog was sick" line. One time my cat ate a penny and was lethargic and was literally about to die if I didn't seek medical attention. There's a possibility there was a similar situation with her dog. We don't really have all the details here. Just one person's side of the story.
Uh huh. A mental disability/disorder that somehow always acts up when her brother is the focus of attention and not her? I mean, yeah, sure, there probably is a diagnosis somewhere out there for her, but unless this illness is truly debilitating in some way, mental illness is not a reason to excuse bad behaviour.
She's a sociopath and just all around bad person. She likes to manipulate everything bc she can and she's proved it over and over and over! This was the ultimate one. There is no bigger day that is just about you than your wedding. I'm sure she got her dog sick on purpose. She every well could have other mental issues but she'd definitely a pyschopath. She seems to enjoy making her brother feel like s**t. Now the 3 are crushed bc the cat's out of the bag. Karma is a b***h
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She has ASD......that's a developmental issue or at least co-exists with developmental most times. I wouldn't trust the toxic bridezilla to tell the truth anyhow...how selfish. My husband and I would've loved to afford a wedding like many others out in the REAL world. We also would've loved for our parents to not party or chill at home instead of seeing our newborn, especially when she was in the NICU. But life happens and you grow up and realize it's not all about you. It's not the movies, your wedding is not the most important thing when compared to a disabled relative etc.
Show us your degree in psychology. Because obviously your reading comprehension sucks. It's the brother who is complaining the parents weren't there because of the sister. The sister who managed to disrupt everything that the parents should be around for, for their son. Not only the daughter. They didn't go to his games, they missed his graduation, and now his wedding. You're assuming the sister has a disability. Do you personally know the sister? Maybe you are the sister and your trying to get people to call the brother/OP out for being angry at the parents. I only see you trying to defend the sister. OP is totally not the AH in the situation. But ArielZepplin, you're beginning to be.
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This is such a far reach, I can't believe it would really happen. In the end parents not showing up on the wedding makes guests question it, it's not a football game. And excuse is just.... not believable, toxic parents couldn't possibly keep their face with sth like that. I call bs on that story
Nope, had something similar happen to me. Parents moved heaven and earth for my older brother, but couldn't lift a finger for me. This shite happens a lot.
Yes, I had a parent who hated me and loved her three other kids. No, I don't visit any of them.
That's exactly how my step grandma was with me up until she died. Yes, she went to some events throughout school for me, but she talked up my cousins and talked me down and went as far as to take my summer homework away because she didnt think I had any, then acted like it was my fault for starting highschool with a failing grade in my best subject. Not to mention she tried getting my dad to enforce me asking for food at his house like I had to at my mom's since we lived with her. I'm the only one out of my cousins with an eating disorder, and she caused it. People are like this a lot more often then you think. Just because you haven't experienced it doesnt mean it hasn't happened.
My parents and grandparents weren't going to come to my wedding. My parents because I wasn't having the wedding my mom wanted or the dress she wanted me to wear but I was paying for my own wedding and my grandparents because I invited my sister's boyfriend who was black and they were prejudiced and I told them if their ignorance and hate was greater than their love for me stay home but remember I'm starting a new family that won't be including them if that's their choice. And I told my parents they made my life h*ll throughout my childhood and into the beginning of adulthood and if they chose not to be there for me, I wouldn't be there for them in the future and they both worked hard to scr*w me up so I expected them to both walk me down the aisle and give me away as my mom had always wanted. So yes, it's probable.
Lilly Francis You're AMAZING! Too many people bow down to the word "family". Just because you're related by blood or even adoption, doesn't mean there should be a relationship of any kind. Family is only meaningful if respect is shown and actions back up the "love" and "respect". We are meant to live in peace. Anyone who screws with our peace should be out of our lives. We should not be captives just because we are "family". No guilt trips!!!!!
My eldest sister is a megasized narcissist!!! She accused me of a bunch of BS...this was the night before Daddy's funeral. She told everyone that I forbade her to attend the service. I did no such thing...only mom had the word on who could/couldn't attend. Some of the family believed her, others didn't. I went through years of gossip & whispers. And she never even apologized. I haven't dealt with her nor our alcoholic drama queen middle sis since then. Washed my hands of them.
You're funny! My family tried to guilt me all the time but that didn't mean I was going to put with it! I loved my family deeply but there's only so much you can take and then you say that's enough! It's not healthy for anyone to let that go on but you have to be big enough and strong enough to back it up and I hit that at 17 and then I was done and I told my parents they needed help and they were going to get it one way or another because I was tired of being a punching bag and kickball both physically and verbally and I wasn't going to allow that to happen to my baby brother and I sacrificed a lot because of their BS. I walked away from a double major full scholarship because I couldn't leave my brother alone with my dad but that was my choice because his safety was more important. Guilt isn't the issue, it's about right and wrong and I'll do the right thing every time and never regret it.
BTW, I believe everyone is family I just haven't met yet. We're all brothers and sisters on this earth and we need to watch out for each other.
Thank you but I'm not like most people besides I'd already tolerated enough throughout my life, I decided I was done taking it and it was time for them to start being reasonable. And no one hurts my sister! And my grandparents were hurting her.
My grandmother didn't come to my wedding because it was "too far to drive". One, it was 45 minutes away. Two, any one of a dozen relatives would have happily brought her. Three, shee never had a drivers license in all her 90 years on this planet, how would she know how far a drive it was? The real reason? She told me not to marry my first serious boyfriend and I did, after 5 years together. Some people are just that small.
It's pretty common, parents like that don't care about keeping face in front of their kids.
I have seen it happen a couple of times, and have heard about it to many to count while doing my thesis on religious trauma. There are horrible parents out there that put many other this before their children.
Religion was forbidden in my dad's castle! I brought it into our home but I'm not really religious I'm spiritual and there is a difference. I don't follow any one religion, I follow the teachings of Jesus and try and follow the path He would walk. The WWJD is what I live by and I told my dad he needed to take some lessons because he was extremely abusive. He took the church away from my mom and all of us but we didn't know about it. I learned on my own. I think my would have destroyed me if I didn't have my Faith to lean on because he was so brutal in every way, emotionally, mentally and physically. And he was emotionally and mentally abusive to my mom. He was a narcissistic sociopath with a rage disorder but I refused to let him destroy my family.
I reside at least 3,000km away from my family, leapt at the chance, when told my job was going to get relocated. Have been back for my 50th, but was more about things happening with my stepmothers family , rather than me on my 50th. I did get to go out with my dad, until a do called unforeseen emergency came up, that could've waited a day or two. I relocated on 2002, and only went back twice. Once in 2004, and again in 2017.2017i was planning on going for 2 weeks, but cut it back to 1.Suster made excuses not to catch up, plus I'm estranged from my brother (Yes it's spelt correctly aka d'head, by my dad and myself) Dad was apologetic on my day, I just put on a brave face and told him that it was fine, tough he knows otherwise ( He worked it out himself). I speak to him about once a fortnight. I've learnt to survive by myself, it's easier. Plus I have an ABI (sub arachnid aneurysm clipped 1991). Families can suck at times.
Me too! Anyone has a link to it? I tried finding it but no success
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Because it doesn't exist. Fake AITA situation created just for likes, karma, and to draw attention to the subreddit.
Parents have been enabling sister. Extended family has been enabling parents into thinking that's ok. Chickens came home to roost. I hope the groom married into a good family that will treat him as an equal instead of an afterthought.
Powerful words! "Afterthought" ...very profound. Applies to so many of us. Your last sentence says it all. I feel sorry for people who are bound to toxic families. They say, "but they're family". Sad.
Load More Replies... And you just know that if something happened to the parents, the son & his wife will bear the burden. Cause they're more organized, have a better knowledge about things & 2 of them can handle easier, blah blah blah... While older sister runs off with someone else to care for her...friends, boyfriend, daddy figure... OP & his wife need "witness protection"!!! LOL
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