Get Premium
Dark mode theme is available exclusively for premium users. Learn more about the benefits of subscribing.
No fees, cancel anytime.
Dark Mode 
No fees, cancel anytime 
then open in external browser
and click "Open in External Browser" 
User submission
224
This Guy’s Story About A Female Coworker Sexually Harassing A Male Sparks A Debate On Double Standards
Sexual harassment at work is a serious problem, especially when the United States’ Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) estimates that about 80% of the victims don’t report it. Usually, because of fear of retaliation, as well as not being sure what the what behavior constitutes as sexual harassment and what does not. With so many cases kept private, it is hard to see the full picture of this issue, however, it should be taken seriously regardless of the gender of the victim or the perpetrator.
With the recent rise of sexual allegations, one user shared his own encounter with the sexual harassment his coworker experienced at work. While many people supported the coworker and his story, a lot of commenters were against his expressed sentiment that sexual harassment against males is taken less seriously. We reached out to the original poster for further comment. Scroll down to read the full story and tells us where you stand in the comment section.
RELATED:
One user shared a sexual harassment story he witnessed at work
Many supported him and the victim
But others couldn’t agree with his statement that “sexual harassment against men isn’t as big as a concern”
54Kviews
Share on Facebook
What do you think ?
K. LNU 7 years ago
"She reported him for sexual harassment." She is one of the many reasons that the #metoo movement isn't taken as seriously as it needs to be for both genders.
Suzi Gauthier 7 years ago
Nasty people of all genders screw it up for us all. It's not male against female, but jerks against good people. We all need to remember this.
MsChloe 7 years ago
She was wrong and made it worse by claiming he was the one who did it. She should have been terminated esp. since he had a witness. I've seen woman sexually harass men and for some men it's torture. They feel boxed in and helpless in trying to get it to stop. People need to learn that NO means NO, no matter what sex you are!
Darryl Kerrigan 7 years ago
I agree with the bottom comments. It happens to both genders by both genders and should stop.
Elaine Nicole 7 years ago
True, but it this case that clearly didn’t apply. Apparently the company took it seriously when a woman reported it and almost fired the guy until a different woman went to bat for him. The fact that they gave zero weight to what either of the men had to say and almost fired him while giving the woman a slap on the wrist for not only making a false accusation but actually harassing her co-worker, shows that at least at this company, it is skewed in favor of the woman. She victimized him twice over, and aparently got away with it.
Load More Replies...
Rob Chapman 7 years ago
To those saying there is no double standard, try rereading the story. He was going to be fired after she accused him of sexual harassment. When the truth was revealed that she was the harasser AND that she falsely accused him....she was only reprimanded. How is that NOT a double standard. She should have been fired on the spot.
Serbob 7 years ago
Until recently the men weren't fired or reprimanded if they were the instigators. This is how it's been for women for centuries. It's only now that women are saying they've had enough. Now men are experiencing what women have and see the unfairness. Ya. It's unfair. That's why we're fighting back! And yes... she should have been fired.
Load More Replies...
Carol Emory 7 years ago
When I had my first job out of high school, I was working at a tax prep company and I would often wear blouses and straight cut skirts with high heels. I was the receptionist and I knew that many of the guys were married. So when one male co-worker approached me when we closed up for the night and said "We should get together sometime and go to the hotel next door." I replied with "I'm not sure that's such a good idea. Should we call your wife and ask her..or should we ask your boss first?" He got all offended and said "No need to be a b***h about it." To which I turned to our boss sitting two desks away and said "Am I being a b***h about threatening to tell his wife that he just asked me to go with him next door to the hotel?" Our boss, female, became very irate. She took him to the back office where I heard yelling. He came out, apologized to me, and left. She apparently threatened to call his wife if he ever talked to me again. He avoided me the rest of tax season.
Carol Emory 7 years ago
I will add that word quickly spread of the incident around to the rest of the men in the office. They were nothing but respectful to me and one even gave me an "atta girl" for how I handled it.
Load More Replies...
Amina Hays 7 years ago
I was sexually assaulted on more than one occasion at work. Actually, just quickly, as I was being shown round on my first day, my boss commented to everyone we came across how I was the first woman to work in their department and how they'll now have to be on their best behaviour and how he hopes I don't make them effeminate. A man I worked with grabbed my underwear and another time grabbed by behind with both hands while I was bending over, shook it and grunted. The next morning I had a performance review and was told I was doing incredibly well and my boss was thrilled with my work. That lunchtime I reported my co-worker to HR. The next day I was fired.
Tracy Mouaikel 7 years ago
It does happen and it's HORRIBLE! If we, as a woman, want men to be outraged when it happens to us and be our advocates, we need to be outraged when it happens to a man. Unwanted attention is unwanted, period and we need to stand up for each other.
Gerry Higgins 7 years ago
Same thing happened to me. Caught a female co-worker going through my brief case, told her not to but didn't report it. She reports me for sexual harassment, I got fired.
K. LNU 7 years ago
"She reported him for sexual harassment." She is one of the many reasons that the #metoo movement isn't taken as seriously as it needs to be for both genders.
Suzi Gauthier 7 years ago
Nasty people of all genders screw it up for us all. It's not male against female, but jerks against good people. We all need to remember this.
MsChloe 7 years ago
She was wrong and made it worse by claiming he was the one who did it. She should have been terminated esp. since he had a witness. I've seen woman sexually harass men and for some men it's torture. They feel boxed in and helpless in trying to get it to stop. People need to learn that NO means NO, no matter what sex you are!
Darryl Kerrigan 7 years ago
I agree with the bottom comments. It happens to both genders by both genders and should stop.
Elaine Nicole 7 years ago
True, but it this case that clearly didn’t apply. Apparently the company took it seriously when a woman reported it and almost fired the guy until a different woman went to bat for him. The fact that they gave zero weight to what either of the men had to say and almost fired him while giving the woman a slap on the wrist for not only making a false accusation but actually harassing her co-worker, shows that at least at this company, it is skewed in favor of the woman. She victimized him twice over, and aparently got away with it.
Load More Replies... Rob Chapman 7 years ago
To those saying there is no double standard, try rereading the story. He was going to be fired after she accused him of sexual harassment. When the truth was revealed that she was the harasser AND that she falsely accused him....she was only reprimanded. How is that NOT a double standard. She should have been fired on the spot.
Serbob 7 years ago
Until recently the men weren't fired or reprimanded if they were the instigators. This is how it's been for women for centuries. It's only now that women are saying they've had enough. Now men are experiencing what women have and see the unfairness. Ya. It's unfair. That's why we're fighting back! And yes... she should have been fired.
Load More Replies... Carol Emory 7 years ago
When I had my first job out of high school, I was working at a tax prep company and I would often wear blouses and straight cut skirts with high heels. I was the receptionist and I knew that many of the guys were married. So when one male co-worker approached me when we closed up for the night and said "We should get together sometime and go to the hotel next door." I replied with "I'm not sure that's such a good idea. Should we call your wife and ask her..or should we ask your boss first?" He got all offended and said "No need to be a b***h about it." To which I turned to our boss sitting two desks away and said "Am I being a b***h about threatening to tell his wife that he just asked me to go with him next door to the hotel?" Our boss, female, became very irate. She took him to the back office where I heard yelling. He came out, apologized to me, and left. She apparently threatened to call his wife if he ever talked to me again. He avoided me the rest of tax season.
Carol Emory 7 years ago
I will add that word quickly spread of the incident around to the rest of the men in the office. They were nothing but respectful to me and one even gave me an "atta girl" for how I handled it.
Load More Replies... Amina Hays 7 years ago
I was sexually assaulted on more than one occasion at work. Actually, just quickly, as I was being shown round on my first day, my boss commented to everyone we came across how I was the first woman to work in their department and how they'll now have to be on their best behaviour and how he hopes I don't make them effeminate. A man I worked with grabbed my underwear and another time grabbed by behind with both hands while I was bending over, shook it and grunted. The next morning I had a performance review and was told I was doing incredibly well and my boss was thrilled with my work. That lunchtime I reported my co-worker to HR. The next day I was fired.
Tracy Mouaikel 7 years ago
It does happen and it's HORRIBLE! If we, as a woman, want men to be outraged when it happens to us and be our advocates, we need to be outraged when it happens to a man. Unwanted attention is unwanted, period and we need to stand up for each other.
Gerry Higgins 7 years ago
Same thing happened to me. Caught a female co-worker going through my brief case, told her not to but didn't report it. She reports me for sexual harassment, I got fired.
Related on Bored Panda
121
85