“My Dad Left Me A Storage Unit In His Will. What I Found Inside Changed How I See Him Forever”

Everybody has secrets, and even the people closest to us might have a side we’re not familiar with.

So when Reddit user Dixonnail inherited her late father’s storage unit, she wasn’t in a hurry to open it — there was a real chance that whatever was inside could flip her opinion of him upside down.

Eventually, curiosity got the best of her, and she found the courage to take a peek. Just as she expected, the contents did surprise her. Only in a much more pleasant way than she imagined.

Sometimes, after people pass away, they leave behind more than just possessions

Storage unit hallway with partially open door revealing packed boxes inside, symbolizing hidden memories and family legacy.

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Inside her late father’s secret storage unit, this woman found a lifetime of memories

Text about a storage unit left by dad, revealing emotional distance and changed perception of their relationship.

Text excerpt describing a will leaving a storage unit key to a daughter, hinting at a meaningful discovery.

Hand holding a storage unit key left by dad, symbolizing discovery and changing perceptions forever.

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Text excerpt about hesitation and fear before exploring a storage unit left by dad, revealing surprising discoveries inside.

Storage unit contents from dad's will include childhood toys, drawings, notes, and a container with baby teeth discovered inside.

Box of unopened letters found in storage unit revealing a dad’s hidden fears, stories, and emotions about his child.

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Emotional reflection inside a cold dusty storage unit left by dad, revealing hidden care and changing perspective forever.

Emotional text reflecting on how finding a storage unit from dad changed the view of him forever.

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Young woman emotionally overwhelmed, covering her mouth, reflecting on the storage unit her dad left in his will.

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We need our parents’ affection right from the get-go

“Children rely on their caregivers for everything,” writes Darius Cikanavicius, a certified mental health coach with over a decade of experience and author of Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults.

“They need mirroring, attunement, and validation from their caregiver, in addition to having their physical needs met, in order to flourish in adulthood. If a child’s caregivers are emotionally healthy and resolved, they will develop a strong sense of self.”

“They will feel healthy, unconditional love radiating from the people closest to them. They will know what love looks and feels like. They will pursue this feeling throughout their lives. Indeed, they will be able to comfort themselves, love themselves, and develop strong, healthy relationships with the people around them because they have a healthy template to fall back on,” Cikanavicius explains.

However, if the parents aren’t healthy emotionally, the kids will develop a weakened and unstable sense of self.

“They will be unable to comfort themselves, trust others, love themselves, and will face many difficulties finding fulfillment, meaning, and contentment in their adult relationships. They will not know what healthy love looks and feels like.”

Therefore, the sting we feel in our chest when our mom and dad don’t show us enough love is very real.

Maintaining a relationship with emotionally distant parents can be really hard

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Some experience a disconnection from their parents in childhood, and the relationship improves once they reach adulthood. Others are relatively close during their childhood, and the relationship disintegrates as they mature, while others have difficulty in the relationship throughout their lives.

“As a result, some individuals [might] decide to [entirely] cut off their relationship with their parents,” says Michelle P. Maidenberg, Ph.D., MPH, LCSW-R, CGP, who maintains a private practice and is an adjunct graduate professor at New York University. “In some instances, communities and people outside of the family become a surrogate family for them.”

“Others choose to maintain a relationship with strict boundaries in place. Still others continually engage in the relationship and tend to find themselves in a recurrent pattern of hopefulness and disappointment because of neglecting to get their emotional needs met.”

Different scenarios lead to different outcomes, but according to Maidenberg, what she finds the most distressing is the perpetual thoughts of “not being good enough,” and constantly second-guessing whether or not to engage and re-engage in the relationship.

Whatever the case may have been for our Redditor, at least it’s clear that her father loved her with all his heart, and luckily, she found that out later rather than never.

People have had a lot of reactions to the woman’s story

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Comment on Reddit expressing bittersweet feelings about a dad leaving a storage unit in his will and its emotional impact.

Reddit user sharing emotional thoughts about discovering what their dad left in a storage unit after his will.

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Screenshot of a heartfelt comment suggesting writing letters to a dad after discovering a storage unit left in his will.

Text about emotional struggles men face, highlighting how fathers model stoic behavior and discourage showing feelings.

Text about emotional struggles of men with family and expression of feelings, reflecting on a dad and his emotional silence.

Text excerpt reflecting on how a dad’s deep feelings and sentimental love reveal new understanding from a storage unit discovery.

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Reddit comment about the need to raise boys differently and the struggle to express care while alive.

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Comment about emotional struggles as a father, reflecting on difficult relationship with own dad left storage unit.

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Reddit comment praising a heartfelt storage unit story that changed how the user views their dad forever.

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Reddit comment reflecting on discovering a storage unit left by dad in his will and how it changed perceptions forever.

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Reddit comment expressing emotional reaction to finding a storage unit left by dad in his will.

Text post about a person reflecting on their relationship with their dad and considering expressing love after his dad's death.

Reddit comment offering advice to express feelings after loss, related to a dad leaving a storage unit in his will.

Reddit comment expressing emotional reaction about discovering a storage unit left by a dad in his will.

Some also shared their own similar experiences

Man reflecting thoughtfully while sorting through keepsakes in a storage unit left by his dad in a will.

Emotional story of discovering hidden memories in a storage unit left by dad, revealing a new perspective on him.

Alt text: Personal story about discovering meaningful items in a dad's storage unit changing perceptions forever.

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