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Woman Shares How Moms Finish Eating Last Due To The Additional Work They Have To Do After Seeing This Husband Get Fed Up
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Christine Koh, a Singaporean woman who works at the Ministry of Education, has recently penned an illuminating Facebook post which resonated with many people on social media. She was prompted to write the text after witnessing an unpleasant incident in a food court on March 6.
“Today I saw a hubby questioning his wife angrily (in front of everyone in the food court) because he couldn’t understand why his wife was always so slow in eating,” Christine started her post, which has now gone viral with 3.7k reactions. The author further stated that the reason for the man’s anger and frustration was “because he no longer could handle both a baby in a carrier and a wailing toddler.”
After the husband stormed off with the kids, leaving her to eat alone out in public, Christine shared a heartfelt explanation to why the woman was eating so slowly and it seriously kicked people in the feels.
In her second post, Christine also made it clear that she had no intention to cause a burst of negativity towards the father, since she “didn’t paint the full picture.” On the contrary, her illuminating explanation stands as a tribute to all the mothers who “are often overlooked in the grand scheme.”
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After witnessing a husband storm off with kids because his wife was eating slowly, one woman took it to Facebook to explain why moms are always the last ones
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The Singaporean woman penned this illuminating explanation which resonated with many people on social media and went viral
Bored Panda reached out to Christine Koh, the author of the viral post who said that she penned her reflection post to share in her circle of friends, and hoped that everyone would understand that “in the modern context, a lot of wonderful men have stepped up as a role as a father and are a great partner to support their wives in caregiving and chores,” regardless of this singular incident we don’t know that much about.
Christine believes that the post resonated with her fellow mothers because “we probably encounter this scenario very often, but we didn’t think much of it.”
“I don’t think they were trying to share the post in order to ‘spite their hubbies’ or to make guys look bad (since the reverse in the gender role can also happen too, can’t it) but they are hoping to use the post to perhaps gain some understanding from our family (not just our partners, but even from our kids).”
Later, she also released an update asking everyone not to spread negativity towards the husband and think of the role of women instead
At this point, it dawned on her that the answer that seemed so obvious to both her and her husband wasn’t so obvious at all to everyone, “at least not for both my children and the frustrated hubby who posed this question.”
“This was when I decided to write this reflection post to share with my own circle of friends in the bid to help us give more appreciation and patience to mothers (or even fathers) who are always seen gasping for time to rush out of the house after everyone.”
Christine believes that for some of us, “we probably didn’t even realize why we were so slow ourselves and the post probably caught them by surprise. To be able to recognize this beautiful driving power at work behind the reason why is something we love to share with our fellow mothers too, so that we can learn to appreciate ourselves better instead of self-reproaching.”
The post struck a chord with many people and this is what they had to comment
When Christine saw the father storming off with the kids, leaving the mother behind, she started wondering why the mother did not just simply explain this to him. “It made me ponder if she was reproaching herself when she sat there in silence eating her food and staring into the empty space in front of her.”
Moreover, the author of the reflection post said that she thought “it was a good learning moment as both my kids were present and decided to pose a similar question to them—why is their mummy always the slowest to go out of the house whenever we are heading out? Just when I was confident that they could relate to it and know the reason why… to my surprise, my 9-year-old son asked if it was because I was busy dressing up.”
What do you think ?
Eunice Probert 4 years ago
If the husband shouts at his wife in public like that, then it's likely that he does is at home as well.
Falcon 4 years ago
can confirm from personal experience. In my case the person was also a huge narcissist. Might be a connection. 🤔
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More Thinking Needed 4 years ago
The reason the husband is yelling is that he is simply and most likely an a**hole. Why does everything have to turn into a sociological analysis of the human condition. We need to stop making excuses for the poorest examples of our species.
Irina Ionascu 4 years ago
Yeah I completely agree. That's just asshole behavior. We don't need the extra explanations, one kid, two kids, no kids, that's just not a normal or respectful way to behave towards your partner.
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StrawberryParfait 4 years ago
Nope. That husband was having an tantrum because he had to deal with his two kids himself for a WHOLE 10 minutes. He was also an abusive asshole, because only an abusive asshole would berate and humiliate his wife in public like that while she's trying to eat. So, regarding the author's insipid calls for "kindness" to the husband, she can shove it. The man is not deep. He is not having a crisis. He's an entitled d*ckwad who feels it is well within his rights to yell at his wife for eating her lunch too slowly, when she's probably damned exhausted from chasing after his two kids all day. And this is hwy we don't date men who act entitled or don't appreciate us, ladies. This is what they turn into once you've married them. Call it as you see it, ladies--don't make excuses for abusive behaviour in ANY context. It never gets better, it only gets worse.
Ozacoter 4 years ago
It is infuriating how in 2021 women are still expected to do most everyhting around the house and all the mental load. There are some wonderful men that behave resposibly but most still behave like if we live in the 1500s.
Hiker Chick 4 years ago
It's because things need to get done and we moms will do it because we want our kids to be fed and clean, and if the dad's sit back, we have to take charge. I tried communicating, calm discussions, "going on strike", and marriage counseling, but he really didn't care. Since I didn't want my kids to starve or live in squalor, I had to do all the work. Anyway, life is much more peaceful since the divorce.
Load More Replies... Hiker Chick 4 years ago
My ex-husband was a good dad, but I don't think I was able to enjoy a hot meal until my youngest was probably 2 1/2 or 3 years old. I distinctly remember the pleasure of once again eating dinner while it was still warm when the kids were finally old enough to manage their whole meal without much help. It was literally that significant of a change to be able to eat before my food got cold that it sticks in my memory.
Hans 4 years ago
It is very simple with small children if you have the luxury of being two adults available at eating time: either both of you help while eating, or one gets to eat in peace while the other one helps the children, and once the first one is done eating, the second one gets to eat in peace. Everything else is not only stupid, it is unfair. From own experience, I recommend to even switch roles occasionally, as it makes you appreciative of either role (getting to eat first while being hungry BUT caring for the children without any time to rest VS waiting hungry while feeding BUT eating in peace while everyone is is fed). As a father I find it absurd that the "during" AND "after" job seems to be allocated to the mothers in many cases.
Crochet lady 4 years ago
It's interesting to me that he couldn't handle two babies and makes me wonder how much he is ever in that position, does he need more practice? My son was 2 years old when my twins were born. Since (obviously) my husband was at work all day guess what my day was like? Taking 3 children to the grocery store, to the park, to the mall etc. If I can handle three (and I'm not saying it was easy, the first time I went to the mall I was terrified the twins would cry at the same time while my 2 year old ran off, never happened, whew) but the alternative was staying locked up in the house because it was "too hard". Sounds like dad needs more time with his kids so he gets to feel how his wife feels every damn day.
Joseph Cheung 4 years ago (edited)
Why does it matter if the wife had a secret job or a sociological analysis of gender roles? You can't just yell at someone for eating too slow? Why are the men and women in the comment section acting like both are complet aliens, both have specific roles and behaviors and they will never understand each other? Like "we women". No, you are people, you may both be women, but there are many different households and ways of parenting/living/human stuff. TALK TO EACH OTHER, your partners, the people you interact closely with not "the men" and "the women".
Mewton’s Third Paw 4 years ago
Imagine ripping yourself from vulva to asshole for a guy who won’t even help you with the kids and then thinking “well moms are always last cause we are doing so much.” I would never have kids with a man who made me do all the work. My father wasn’t like that.
K. 4 years ago (edited)
1. Talk about the things you do (doesn’t work sometimes, doesn’t work on people who don’t care to listen in the first place). 2. Go on strike....I’m not a parent, but I felt something from reading this article. That woman who looked sad...yeah, she probably is exhausted and hurt. There was another BP article about womanhood; when the women talked about their reality, there were quite a bit of people telling them to shut up and stop complaining or do something about it. So what should one do if it’s not obvious that the way society sets one gender to be caretakers takes a toll on them, if a dog has more empathy than their families? I say burn everything and start fresh somewhere else (/s), but you can’t because you love your family and you keep going for them.
K. 4 years ago
It’s not the eating slow that’s a problem to me or that she’s probably the last to eat or has to eat in between feeding her kids, it’s that her husband yelled at her in public and that she looked sad. I don’t know what goes on at home.
Load More Replies... Eunice Probert 4 years ago
If the husband shouts at his wife in public like that, then it's likely that he does is at home as well.
Falcon 4 years ago
can confirm from personal experience. In my case the person was also a huge narcissist. Might be a connection. 🤔
Load More Replies... More Thinking Needed 4 years ago
The reason the husband is yelling is that he is simply and most likely an a**hole. Why does everything have to turn into a sociological analysis of the human condition. We need to stop making excuses for the poorest examples of our species.
Irina Ionascu 4 years ago
Yeah I completely agree. That's just asshole behavior. We don't need the extra explanations, one kid, two kids, no kids, that's just not a normal or respectful way to behave towards your partner.
Load More Replies... StrawberryParfait 4 years ago
Nope. That husband was having an tantrum because he had to deal with his two kids himself for a WHOLE 10 minutes. He was also an abusive asshole, because only an abusive asshole would berate and humiliate his wife in public like that while she's trying to eat. So, regarding the author's insipid calls for "kindness" to the husband, she can shove it. The man is not deep. He is not having a crisis. He's an entitled d*ckwad who feels it is well within his rights to yell at his wife for eating her lunch too slowly, when she's probably damned exhausted from chasing after his two kids all day. And this is hwy we don't date men who act entitled or don't appreciate us, ladies. This is what they turn into once you've married them. Call it as you see it, ladies--don't make excuses for abusive behaviour in ANY context. It never gets better, it only gets worse.
Ozacoter 4 years ago
It is infuriating how in 2021 women are still expected to do most everyhting around the house and all the mental load. There are some wonderful men that behave resposibly but most still behave like if we live in the 1500s.
Hiker Chick 4 years ago
It's because things need to get done and we moms will do it because we want our kids to be fed and clean, and if the dad's sit back, we have to take charge. I tried communicating, calm discussions, "going on strike", and marriage counseling, but he really didn't care. Since I didn't want my kids to starve or live in squalor, I had to do all the work. Anyway, life is much more peaceful since the divorce.
Load More Replies... Hiker Chick 4 years ago
My ex-husband was a good dad, but I don't think I was able to enjoy a hot meal until my youngest was probably 2 1/2 or 3 years old. I distinctly remember the pleasure of once again eating dinner while it was still warm when the kids were finally old enough to manage their whole meal without much help. It was literally that significant of a change to be able to eat before my food got cold that it sticks in my memory.
Hans 4 years ago
It is very simple with small children if you have the luxury of being two adults available at eating time: either both of you help while eating, or one gets to eat in peace while the other one helps the children, and once the first one is done eating, the second one gets to eat in peace. Everything else is not only stupid, it is unfair. From own experience, I recommend to even switch roles occasionally, as it makes you appreciative of either role (getting to eat first while being hungry BUT caring for the children without any time to rest VS waiting hungry while feeding BUT eating in peace while everyone is is fed). As a father I find it absurd that the "during" AND "after" job seems to be allocated to the mothers in many cases.
Crochet lady 4 years ago
It's interesting to me that he couldn't handle two babies and makes me wonder how much he is ever in that position, does he need more practice? My son was 2 years old when my twins were born. Since (obviously) my husband was at work all day guess what my day was like? Taking 3 children to the grocery store, to the park, to the mall etc. If I can handle three (and I'm not saying it was easy, the first time I went to the mall I was terrified the twins would cry at the same time while my 2 year old ran off, never happened, whew) but the alternative was staying locked up in the house because it was "too hard". Sounds like dad needs more time with his kids so he gets to feel how his wife feels every damn day.
Joseph Cheung 4 years ago (edited)
Why does it matter if the wife had a secret job or a sociological analysis of gender roles? You can't just yell at someone for eating too slow? Why are the men and women in the comment section acting like both are complet aliens, both have specific roles and behaviors and they will never understand each other? Like "we women". No, you are people, you may both be women, but there are many different households and ways of parenting/living/human stuff. TALK TO EACH OTHER, your partners, the people you interact closely with not "the men" and "the women".
Mewton’s Third Paw 4 years ago
Imagine ripping yourself from vulva to asshole for a guy who won’t even help you with the kids and then thinking “well moms are always last cause we are doing so much.” I would never have kids with a man who made me do all the work. My father wasn’t like that.
K. 4 years ago (edited)
1. Talk about the things you do (doesn’t work sometimes, doesn’t work on people who don’t care to listen in the first place). 2. Go on strike....I’m not a parent, but I felt something from reading this article. That woman who looked sad...yeah, she probably is exhausted and hurt. There was another BP article about womanhood; when the women talked about their reality, there were quite a bit of people telling them to shut up and stop complaining or do something about it. So what should one do if it’s not obvious that the way society sets one gender to be caretakers takes a toll on them, if a dog has more empathy than their families? I say burn everything and start fresh somewhere else (/s), but you can’t because you love your family and you keep going for them.
K. 4 years ago
It’s not the eating slow that’s a problem to me or that she’s probably the last to eat or has to eat in between feeding her kids, it’s that her husband yelled at her in public and that she looked sad. I don’t know what goes on at home.
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