30 Things That A Lot Of Moms Have In Common And People On Twitter Can’t Understand How It Works
InterviewEveryone has a different experience and a different relationship with their mom, but weirdly enough, there are things that almost all of them do. Maybe it’s a generation thing or every mom gets a manual of very specific things that aren’t necessarily related to parenting that they have to do when they become moms.
Twitter users noticed that every mom they encountered does the same things as the next one and listed the behaviors they have seen repeatedly, asking why they do that and creating a mini trend on Twitter.
Which of these tweets describe your mother or a mom you know? Are there any other things that are universal for all moms? Share your experiences and your thoughts in the comments!
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Who takes care of Mom? Mom takes care of ... The kids, her partner, the house, the bills, her job, her parents, his parents.... Who takes care of her?
Always just one more thing to do. I remember rushing around, tiding up, grabbing things as I went, have to pee, better grab a few things to put away , ack..wipe the counter first, phone rang, oven beeped, rushed to the bathroom, slipped on the bathmat , peed myself and on the bathmat. Life as mom.
I did that the week after each time I had a baby. Oh, baby's diaper also needs changed, she's first. Why is my leg wet?
Load More Replies...Because someone else always needs something first.. them's the breaks
My oldest is 45 and I STILL feel guilty when I get something nice for myself!
Load More Replies...I wish my mom hadn't done that. By the time we knew anything was wrong, it was already time for hospice.
Because woman are socially groomed to put everyone's needs above our own. And if we don't do it, do the dishes do laundry and fix the food, no one will
Just like we have things in common with our friends, fellow students or coworkers, moms also share things only they do. Twitter users pointed out how they all handle the phone and texting in the same way or how they have long conversations with schoolmates they met on the street while you stand there not knowing what to do.
On a more serious note, a lot of moms do have things in common because even though their experiences are different, some things are just the same as they go through similar stages of parenting and their own lives.
The anxiety. Will she make it back before you get to the register? Won't She? Sh*t we are getting close... Where tf is she?!
I just send my most able kid off to get said item instead. She's quicker than me and has probably memorised the layout of the shop.
Load More Replies...Are we getting things for ourselves or are the gummies that you love the best are on sale and it caught my eye when we were headed for the checkout ?Hold our fracking place will you please ..promise I wont make you pay cause you have NO money other than mine anyway.
It's because we JUST remembered something else we planned to get. The mental work of taking care of a family causes a lot of cracks for things to slip through
It's a rite of passage into adulthood, when you have kids of your own you'll understand :D
I also do this to my husband. I wasn't even out of view and he got the cashier to page me. Funny guy.
LOL My mom wants total control. She'll be like "I can swipe through the pictures. You don't have to do it for me." As if I'm the one treating her like a toddler. Then she gets angry because she ends up doing something to mess up the pictures and can't figure out how to stop it. I don't let anyone touch my phone anymore.
Yk my parents taught me phone etiquette so they would never, but my siblings do this. Apparently I was taught it’s rude to look at someone’s phone behind there shoulder but as soon as I got one my brother can look at my PRIVATE texts whenever he wants, even if I’m far away and try to tell him not to.
I use my Hidden folder for everything but memes and even then not the ones my friends send me cause those are basically products of the Upside-Down
It's my friends who do this!!! I've learned to hold on to my phone abs let them look at the picture I am sharing then when they reach to slide over to other ones I just pull it quickly away. Whether there are pictures I don't care to share or not I get totally upset when they have done this. I find being in control is good for my mental health.
Push a bowling ball through your hoo haw... and NOTHING will phase you. :)
Load More Replies...We've been there, done that, wrote the book. Sometimes a good ol' traumatic story is what's needed to get certain points or lessons across.
My mom would tell us the most messed up stories when the electricity went out. Like the time the Chicago mob would drop off headless bodies in the cornfields in my area. Aunt so-so stumbled across one once when taking a short cut. They'd toss the head somewhere else. They knew the local police were super lazy and terrible at their job. The mob may be gone, the local police are the same.
It's called suppression, they often aren't aware that traumatic s**t traumatized them.
OMG. This. About being moms. When I got pregnant, every single mother I talked to would tell me THE WORST horror stories about traumatic things that happened during pregnancy, while giving birth, while infants, while toddlers... My son turned 13 last year, and I'm still hearing stories about how terrible he will be as a teenager. Why do they do this?!
Mommy Nearest says that there are a few things that all moms go through and we shouldn't argue about them. Firstly, every mom goes through pregnancy and giving birth, no matter in what way, and they feed their children in the way they can. They have all felt lonely at some point and wanted a break. Every mom has their own worries, but they always wish the best for their children.
Moms are caring and always worrying about their children’s safety and if they have eaten. Moms become nurses, psychologists, storytellers, explorers and much more when they are raising a new human being.
According to Paula Rollo who is a mom herself, every good mom has bad days and can get sick of her children. They may feel like they're going insane, but they love their children unconditionally and every decision they make, they consider possibilities of what the outcome could be. They need peace sometimes and someone to help them once in a while.
I've seen my mom's mouth literally curl up when I was crying, as if she was really enjoying seeing me suffer. Super creepy.
Are we related? My mom actually chuckles like she just st heard a good joke.
Load More Replies...Maybe its because you can be yourself around your mom and it's the familiarity and the comfort zone that allows you to let your guard down and spill it all out.
Honestly, I wouldn't cry if I heard my mom's voice. I'd scream like a toddler (mom passed in 2003)
i had that when my cat had to be put to sleep i thought i was ok but the second my mum asked me if im ok niagra falls
See my trait is I could be fine but my resting face naturally looks super upset and on the verge of tears so she asks "are u okay" and I have this bad trait whenever someone asks that, soesnt matter how happy or sad I am, I always start crying
no seriously her voice always makes me cry when i'm already about to
Maybe for the same reason I always cried in the principal's office
My mom gets angry at me for crying and being angry about something because I’m too old to be crying or angry over something she finds stupid. But she can cry and be angry
According to Paula Rollo who is a mom herself, every good mom has bad days and can get sick of her children. They may feel like they're going insane, but they love their children unconditionally and every decision they make, they consider possibilities of what the outcome could be. They need peace sometimes and someone to help them once in a while.
Bored Panda talked with Paula and we wanted to know what in her opinion is the most important thing every mom should have in common and he pointed out what many of us would also think of, "It may sound cliche but the most important thing that all moms need to have in common is love and devotion for their kids. When we know that even when other moms are making very different parenting choices than we are, if we can acknowledge that they are simply doing what they believe to be the best thing for their kids, that makes it a lot easier to find common ground."
In my case thats the other way around... i always text my son with kiss-emojis and tell him that i love him and his answers are always yes/no/ok... 😬
I think it's because we spend half our lives busy having to answer messages short like that so not to leave people without response that we just get used to it.
LOL My mom texted me "k" one day and I thought she was pissed off at me. So I asked her what I said wrong. She was like, "I was just agreeing with what you said. I'm not mad." I had to explain to her why it came off passive aggressive.
Like my mom sending only a thumbs up when I say something. I had to explain to her how that seems passive aggressive lol
Load More Replies...Not my mom. I would get every confetti emoji and happy face in the Unicode set. Three times. And then she'd call and want to hear all the details. And then we'd talk for hours about what we're going to do in Italy. And then, she'd call me every day for the next week about the cute lemon dresses she's making for the trip, and did I want a skirt from the same fabric?
I always think my mom's mad at me based on how she texts one word responses to everything 🙃
My mom JUST gave me a lecture on how dark mode and low brightness would ruin my eyes XD
Oh lordy. High brightness and especially the blue spectrum light are actually what's harmful to the eyes. As an older person with family history of cataracts; give your moms a psa on this, people
Load More Replies...Because are eyes aren't what they used to be and we have nothing to hide
Im 12, i keep the brightness all the way up most of the time...
Mothers are also just humans who live during a specific time period in a specific socio-political environment that influences them and shapes them as people and as parents. Mothers in the same generation are more likely to have more similar habits just because they were brought up in a similar reality themselves.
Moms also may have learnt their parenting skills from their own mothers, our grandmothers. Scientists have observed family dynamics and made the conclusion that children have the tendency to mirror their parents’ behavior, lifestyle and adopt their views.
Do you know how much knowledge you can get from background of a photo?
This! My grandma zooms in pics of my son (her great grandson) and analyses them, she lives in another country and she seems to know him as if she's been spending every day with him. I've no idea how she does that
Load More Replies...Just to mess with your mind....we know we have to provide for you but we want you to know that we are sacrificing our beings for you dammit! 😁
Well when does she say that? Was it when you groaned and acted like emptying the dishwasher was a certifiable act of torture? When you wouldn't take out the trash? When she tried to teach you some basic cooking techniques so you could cook for yourself when needed? Need more context.
You don't need to shave what your skirt covers. Mystery solved. Love, Mom.
It works. I’m going on 70 and listened to my mom Never had to shave my knees or above
I don't shave above my knees, either. There's not enough there to justify it.
Load More Replies...Only strippers shave above the knees; good ones anyway. - Linda Belcher
If I hadn't saved my legs at all! But really, I wax and until recently (about 20 years since I started shaving) the hair all grew back fairly fair even when I had shaved. I do laugh at the fact she I told her I needed a razor for underarms only and immediately used it on my legs.
I have no visible hair on my thighs - I do have pretty hairy knees though
Genes or listening to mom? Dunno but I maybe have to shave above the knee twice a year.
Paula added, "Some of it has to be instinct, and simply cultural similarities. We're going to raise our kids in specific ways because of our current surroundings and the surroundings when we grew up. I try to surround myself with other moms who do not talk negatively about their kids because I want to keep things positive in my home too."
Because a lot of moms share similar circumstances, that leads them to have similar habits and say almost the same things to their children, so we shouldn’t be that surprised, and it’s even quite comforting to learn that your mom isn’t the only one doing a specific thing you find annoying, funny or weird.
Other way in our house. The kids are supposed to be in bed, it's my relaxation time, and I want to be left alone lol.
Foxxy you're leaving? i understand your situation, but aww man
Load More Replies...I talk you my mom ALL DAY EVERY DAY. when I wear my ear buds on a 10 minutes drive, then she'll have so much to say
Load More Replies...Because my kids always have earbuds in. If I didn't talk to them when they have earbuds in I would never talk to them lol
Hey sorry, the airpods are there 24/7/365... When is the right time to say: pick up the socks and shirts behind your door? 🤪
In 20 years, her child is going to make a similar tweet, "Why do moms always dab and keep walking when they see an old friend???" 😄
"I am just gonna have an hour long conversation instead"
Load More Replies...If you come across a high school acquaintance or an old friend you haven't seen in 20 years, and they're interested in hearing you yap for an hour, that's someone worth yapping for an hour with.
I agree! I have been trying to organize (well actually my sister tried first, because we are that lame) a catch up with myself and three of my high school friends, but it is hard when everyone has busy lives! If I met them on the street I don't think I could avoid an hour long conversation, because you never know when it will happen again!
Load More Replies...Yeah, no thanks. If I see them first I pretend to act unaware and hope they don't see me.
This is the main reason my sister enjoyed wearing masks during COVID. Between a mask and a hat, she was invisible!
Load More Replies...I'm an introvert mum, I'll pretend I didn't see them and walk off. My kids on the other hand make me talk to people
"You guys are grounded." "WHAT!?" "WHAT DID WE DO!?" "You made mama socialize."
Load More Replies...Me and the other kid dont even know each other but we always exchange looks like "fuuuuuuuuuu........"
Even worse I think is when they see the mum's of your high school friends! Get two of them in a room they will dissect every minutiae of each families' lives. With her high school friends they will just organize a time to go out drinking in my experience :)
That's not a mom thing my uncle did this once in a Walmart. He ran into a old friend he had from the boy's Boarding house he stayed in when cps finally took him away from my grandfather. We walked into Walmart at 3:30 by time we walked out the moon was out.
I hate when people run into friends at the grocery store on a busy weekend and block a whole isle for 20 minutes while they catch up.
Because no one is helping and as soon as we are done the house is back to being a mess! Help and respect our work!
Yep, you clean one room and the rest fall to ruin whilst you're away. Then when you're finally all done some a**e-hat comes and walks muddy footprints and drops crisps ALL OVER THE HOUSE! Getting angry just think about it....
Load More Replies...It's because we hate cleaning...cleaning up after others, cleaning up things we just cleaned....cleaning in general. I sometimes get in a 'dishes mood' as we handwash our dishes and my son and husband know to stay far away when I get in this mood.... I dont mean to get grouchy but washing dishes will do that to me sometimes.
Becaue its just sliding back into entropy as soon as its clean. It's never-ending.
And because they hate cleaning as much as you do but they love a clean home even more!
Load More Replies...Because you should be cleaning up after yourself, she's not you maid and doesn't owe you.
She knows you're gonna be extremely late if she doesn't exaggerate the time.
Yes, me who has never been late a day in my life, and has gotten myself up in time everyday for 25 years totally needs my mother in law calling me at 7am to make sure I'm up in time for my job that starts at 3pm.
Load More Replies...Maybe because she's been busy cleaning up after you sorry *ss and it FEELS like 2pm?
Not the case with my mum. We call her our late mother even though she is very much alive!
Oh yeah, my mom used to do this to me. Even my MIL does this. We have a good chuckle afterwards when I call her out on it
Because they are old and their eyes are tired ... and they wish it was 2pm
From some of the tweets it seems that some people are truly quite annoyed with some of their moms habits and may think they are wrong. Paula reveals that her children are growing up so they start to disagree with her decisions. As a mom, Paula would want her kids to start a conversation and explain why they think she was wrong.
Paula says that her children are always welcome to question her decisions and give their own arguments. She thinks that it is actually applaudable because "even explaining my reasons for decisions I've made, will help them as they grow older to make better decisions themselves." And it allows space to grow herself, "to be completely transparent, sometimes I am wrong, and they bring a perspective to the conversation that I hadn't considered, and in those cases, I'm happy to go with their view."
Do you recognize your mom in any of these tweets? Why do you think they become so similar? Have you ever felt that you are becoming more similar to your mom? Share your thoughts with us in the comments!
When you're shuffling cards, you cut the deck, sorta push in the sides of the 2 decks with the cards interlacing and bend them into an arch, and the arch will start collapsing. It's tricky to do. I can't do it yet.
Load More Replies...I've never seen any mum do this! My grandparents/church had card nights and a lot of them could do it, but none of us under 50 I don't think. My mum never sat still long enough to play cards, except on rare occasions when she got to the table after all the cards were dealt!
Learned to do that after just playing like 200 hours of solitaire at a summer camp, boredom will teach you things
Don't play against my mum. She looks like a harmless little old lady, but she effin cheats even in solitaire and can count cards.
See the post about "why are moms angry when cleaning" and Alison Hell's reply.
My mum also likes inviting people to my house, like she's coming to visit & then tells me - your brother's going to be coming for the weekend. Oh I guess I had better wash some sheets then....
Load More Replies...she just wants to get this laziness, selfishness and lack of empathy out of you ...
Because she is already trying to do 10 things and failing so will be really late as it is, in my experience.
They are remembering the time when you were a kid. I do this to my son and he's just 8. 😁
My friends mom hid a creepy doll for me to find. She was pleased with her work (in a wholesome mom way)
Mine just says 'are you sure you don't want it? you might want to give it to your kids? no, I will keep it myself then'.
"Hey look, more of your b******t that you left behind in my house."
In regards to partners, not kids, we are Just checking to make sure we can take the remote. So many times my hubby will seem like he is asleep, so I go pick up the remote and he will say "Hey, I was watching that".
I will miss you, but I understand completely (I am toying with the idea myself). I have enjoyed your comments.You are a really lovely person and I wish you all the best.
Load More Replies...Okay but the real issue here is the giant pig bÖrthole on that man's chest?!
Like no I'm committing war crimes what tf does it look like 😂
Because you where suppose to get up but went back to sleep and where trying to be nice about it. Wait until third time. Third time is a charm 😉
When I was a baby, my parents would consistently check on me to make sure I was alive
Because you cried more than when my first pet died when you got that haircut and I wanted to make sure you were ok.
No one ever notices anything different about me at school. Are they supposed to?
Because in her view, your appearance and behavior reflect on her, good or bad
My mom would cut and style my hair all the time, but when I was in 3rd grade, she decided to cut it short and tried to give me bangs. The result was absolutely horrible... Other kids bullied/mocked me, and referred to me as "Chucky". Yes, the doll from the horror films. I never let that woman touch my hair again.
Tilt the phone? Landscape mode pics? Pre TikTok generations know there's more then one way to use a phone, ya know.
Heck, back in the olden days, we used phones to make and receive phone calls. Now, unless the number is on my very short list, I refuse to answer it.
Load More Replies...Wait, in another entry mum's are always zooming in. Can't be both zoom and full body.
My mum just sucks at taking photos- at least she has a screen to look at now, so many photos with heads cut off pre-digital. My dad is the same though, so can't say that it is a mum thing in particular. Funny since my mum's branch of the family has a lot of professional photographer in it!
That's better than ending in a full stop. That would be panic inducing...
because they have so much more to tell you but they got tired of taping and you will hear it when you come home
For the same reason you say things like 'aight' and abbreviate ETH
My mom doesnt do that but my gramma does like "ok... have a good day at school..." like meemaw gonna show up with a nerf gun
Because we went through the g-ddamn trouble to cook it! Cooking sucks! If you don't eat it hot, why did I even bother cooking for you?
my mom does this bc she wants to limit microwave use which is readonable
Because she knows darn well that YOU aren't going to reheat it! Nope! YOU are going to sit at the table, while Mom goes and reheats your food and HER food gets cold, so she has to reheat that too. Moms never get a nice, hot meal, do they?
Did I take the time to make you a delicious, well-made meal and you're gonna be disrespectful by not showing up to the table on time and *then* you're gonna *ruin* my careful cooking by nuking it? Frickin ungrateful.
In other words, get to the table now, because you didn't come the first 10 times you were called!
Trying to stay asleep, if I dont see the light maybe I can pee, wipe, wash my hands and get back to bed before I realize I was awake. Many many years ago I asked my mom why she didnt turn on the light. She said " I know where everything is"
This right here is absolutely the reason. Depending on the time I wake to pee, once I'm awake, that's it, that's the start of my day. The one thing that sucks is doing the half asleep shuffle to the bathroom only to be met with the lid down. That's a shock to the lady bits. I bought a motion activated toilet bowl light so that doesn't happen anymore. Dumbest best $10 I ever spent.
Load More Replies...Lights cost money and you don't need the light to see what your doing in there
They are pretty.. we like pretty things 😁. Though my phone case is black..because that's my fave color.
My old phone case had brass knuckles and was actually made out of aluminum. D@mn I loved that case! Sadly they don't make them big enough to fit anything over iPhone 5. Oh, not a mom btw.
Load More Replies...That case holds my phone, ID, debit cards and cash. The only other thing I need is my keys. Don't have to lug a purse around. It's efficient.
Just make sure there is a partition to protect the screen from the cards
Load More Replies...I had these cases to protect my phone before having kids. It's a pain to take pictures with and my kids are still in that super cute stage with little attitude. I switched to a bumper case and wrist strap
My mom's side of the family is very distantly related to the Windsors through their German relatives. Have we been invited to any of the royal weddings? No! It's like they don't even know we exist.
Dude my mum is Italian and has lived here for a while and cried her heart out when Diana died, like she had actually lost a very special person.
She doesn't. My great aunt's on the other hand. Maybe my mum just hid that part of herself because my dad is very vocal about the fact we (Australia) should become a republic, but then again, my stepdad is English, so it surely would have come up by now.
Just a reminder - grandmas are moms too. their kids are just older.
Load More Replies...LOL I sorta do but there are times when I don't. If I don't I tell her in case she's rummaging up plans. But it's always "So... when do you work next?" "Did you work today?" I hate that question because she'll ask it on any day, including the weekend and it makes me feel like if I answer no she'll think I'm not working enough.
I have trouble keeping my own schedule and you think I can remember yours? As if….
We have too many other things to keep track of in our heads. Sometimes I keep lists of my lists.
My mum just forgets that I work, or isn't certain what time I have to leave from whatever location I'm at.
When I was 20, my mom and I worked for the same company. I had no idea we had Good Friday off as a holiday. My mom didn't say a word as I got ready for work and drove in to an empty parking lot.
Because all us pre-Waze drivers know every shortcut through every neighborhood
It's legit a trick. My GPS takes me a less convenient route that is a minute shorter IF you don't hit a red light but has way more traffic by Costco. Some of them don't account for traffic properly
Because we can. We aren't algorithms. We know where we're going (for the most part) and we know that there are more options than just the one Waze chose.
Never heard of Waze but my mum is always late, so even using a gps, she is really trying to beat herself or time itself :) What I don't get is why she bought a new car with in built gps, but is convinced it doesn't work as well as google maps so uses her phone (illegally I might ad, because it is neither mounted in a holder or voice controlled)
I guess it depends on the context of this statement. Are there dishes that could be washed? Pets that need tending to? Laundry to be sorted? Potatoes to be peeled? Then yeah, I'd be ticked off too. If however, you offered to do chores and the answer was no thank you or chores are already done, nap away!
other way around my mom yells at me saying it's late and i have to go to sleep
This! I can take a nap, my mother can find out and tell me how I'm missing out on life. B***h, you just sat in a chair for 14 hours other than 3 bathroom trips while watching Another 48 Hrs reruns for the 97th day in a row. 😠😡🤬 Yes I have bad anger issues with my mother, is it that obvious?🤷🏻♀️
My mum is the one who insists my sister goes to sleep, not that she listens! I on the other hand have always been an early to bed person, which was fine.
iPhones have something called “iMessage” - when you text another iPhone, the texts appear blue. When you text an android device (or an iPhone with iMessage turned off) the texts show up as green.
Load More Replies...Not using ICloud I guess, or if it’s Samsung and apple then the messages are green.
Why is this an issue? My mum changes the theme of her texts so it is a different colour for each person I think.
Um. How does facetime work? Asking for a friend who's totally not me who only video calls via messenger
They want to see your beautiful face and know you would ignore a FT call
So you know the sacrifices we made for you all day that didnt allow us time to eat... 😁
I don't care for the attitude in this one. We say a lot of things that when "nobody f'n asked". We think out loud because there's so much hustle and bustle in our heads that our thoughts have to be audible to remember things sometimes. This though, rude. Kindness is free, show your mother a little appreciation for all the things she's done that day which led to her to "not eating anything all day" because chances are, it was the last thing on her mind and she forgot about herself.
Damn! My mom started working so I have to make lunch for my siblings and it’s tiring! I forget to eat breakfast most days then spend 15 mins cooking food for other people, starr making food for me and they want seconds. So I make seconds and don’t eat. Than ussually around three I start feeling light headed or queasy and remember I didn’t eat all day. And like I don’t even have to clean the house or do laundry.
why was my comment downvoted?? i was saying that we DO care about them so we offer them food, yet when they don't want it we just don't know what to do. i never said we didn't care that they didn't eat. i never explicitly agreed with the horrible "nobody f*****g asked" statement in this tweet.
Cancelled one, you're still at -3. Moms sometimes are weird about food as asexualotl has unfortunately experienced. The problem is that all kinds of eating disorders that the mothers have that really don't get treated and the women get trapped in the world of weird diets while doctors only say that they should lose some weight. (Said as someone who's mom has been on some diet or another for the last 45 years)
Load More Replies...As a mother of 4 (all grown) I must be super weird because only #13 applies to me
"Always" and "Never": two aggressive words that turn a statement into an accusation. "You took the last cookie." becomes "You ALWAYS take the last cookie." Don't fight with your mom.
Mom: "eat the last *piece of whatever meal we're having* Me: "no thanks I'm really full." Mom: "but it's so little left, can't you just eat it so it doesn't go to waste?" Me: "can't you eat it?" Mom: "no I'm full" Every single time...
Either your mum has never heard of leftovers and/or has no fridge
Load More Replies...According to this I am not a mom as only two apply to me. The rest are just weird.
"Why do moms stop in the middle of fight and yell, "But do you what? You Know What?.... I still love you."
As a mother of 4 (all grown) I must be super weird because only #13 applies to me
"Always" and "Never": two aggressive words that turn a statement into an accusation. "You took the last cookie." becomes "You ALWAYS take the last cookie." Don't fight with your mom.
Mom: "eat the last *piece of whatever meal we're having* Me: "no thanks I'm really full." Mom: "but it's so little left, can't you just eat it so it doesn't go to waste?" Me: "can't you eat it?" Mom: "no I'm full" Every single time...
Either your mum has never heard of leftovers and/or has no fridge
Load More Replies...According to this I am not a mom as only two apply to me. The rest are just weird.
"Why do moms stop in the middle of fight and yell, "But do you what? You Know What?.... I still love you."
