After Living 10 Years Of A Happy Life Man Wakes Up And Realizes He Was Unconscious And Dreamt It All
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One of the most daunting experiences a human can endure is being close to dying. While some escape the claws of death without experiencing any changes in them, others come back just not the same. There are many theories trying to explain what happens to us when we are dying, however, there is no definite answer. Yet, many people candidly share what they felt during their near-death experiences and what effect they had on them.
When somebody created a thread on Reddit asking “Have you ever felt a deep personal connection to a person you met in a dream only to wake up feeling terrible because you realize they never existed?” one user found a perfect place to share his chilling experience. He said that his near-death experience was so strange that it took him 3 years to recover. Scroll below to read his story and find out why. (Facebook cover image: Guian Bolisay)
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“Throw away account cause this is really personal.
My last semester at a certain college I was assaulted by a football player for walking where he was trying to drive (note he was 325lbs I was 120lbs), while unconscious on the ground I lived a different life.
I met a wonderful young lady, she made my heart skip and my face red, I pursued her for months and dispatched a few jerk boyfriends before I finally won her over, after two years we got married and almost immediately she bore me a daughter.
I had a great job and my wife didn’t have to work outside of the house when my daughter was two she [my wife] bore me a son. My son was the joy of my life, I would walk into his room every morning before I left for work and doted on him and my daughter.
One day while sitting on the couch I noticed that the perspective of the lamp was odd, like inverted. It was still in 3D but… just… wrong. (It was a square lamp base, red with gold trim on 4 legs and a white square shade). I was transfixed, I couldn’t look away from it. I stayed up all night staring at it, the next morning I didn’t go to work, something was just not right about that lamp.
I stopped eating, I left the couch only to use the bathroom at first, soon I stopped that too as I wasn’t eating or drinking. I stared at the lamp for 3 days before my wife got really worried, she had someone come and try to talk to me, by this time my cognizance was breaking up and my wife was freaking out. She took the kids to her mother’s house just before I had my epiphany…. the lamp is not real…. the house is not real, my wife, my kids… none of that is real… the last 10 years of my life are not real!
The lamp started to grow wider and deeper, it was still inverted dimensions, it took up my entire perspective and all I could see was red, I heard voices, screams, all kinds of weird noises and I became aware of pain…. a s**t ton of pain… the first words I said were “I’m missing teeth” and opened my eyes. I was laying on my back on the sidewalk surrounded by people that I didn’t know, lots were freaking out, I was completely confused.
at some point a cop scooped me up, dragged/walked me across the sidewalk and grass and threw me face down in the back of a cop car, I was still confused.
I was taken to the hospital by the cop (seems he didn’t want to wait for the ambulance to arrive) and give CT scans and s**t..
I went through about 3 years of horrid depression, I was grieving the loss of my wife and children and dealing with the knowledge that they never existed, I was scared that I was going insane as I would cry myself to sleep hoping I would see her in my dreams. I never have, but sometimes I see my son, usually just a glimpse out of my peripheral vision, he is perpetually 5 years old and I can never hear what he says.
EDIT (24 hours after post): never thought anyone would read this, I changed a line so that it no longer seems that my 2-year-old daughter bore a child.
I have never seen Inception or the Star Trek episode so many have mentioned (but I will eventually)
I will not do an AMA
I’ve had many PM’s describing similar experiences and 3 posters stating such experiences are impossible, I’d say more research needs to be done on brain functions. Pre-med students, don’t assume you know everything.
A few have asked if they can write a book/screenplay/stage play/rage comic etcetera, please consider this tale open source and have fun with it”
Image credits: Eric Perez (not an actual photo)
While some people were completely blown away by the story, others tried to find an explanation
He could have made his story up, but I think it's possible he actually did experience something like this. There's lot we don't know about the human brain/consciousness yet. Plus, it's possible to get attatched to people who aren't real. In my teens I experienced abuse at home for a couple of years and lost my social circle outside of home at the same time. At some point I made up an elaborate second, imaginary life for myself and whenever my mind was at leisure (like riding the bus or waiting for something or when I couldn't sleep), I would withdraw into my own mind and just imagine my life there. I made up a kind of different family and friends and even problems I had to deal with and overcome. I got quite attachted to the world inside my head. Eventually my real life got better and I phased the imaginary one out, but that was a slow process. Your brain will go to some length to preserve your sanity/wellbeing.
Honey, it's been over 20 years since I've spent any time with my abusive mother, and I *still* go into my fantasyland every time I'm bored or not otherwise engaged. It's a lovely place. No shame!
Exactly. The best part of fantasyland is you know and actually like everyone there. If you’re having a bad day, or someone really pisses you off, in fantasyland you can commit murder in the most horrific fashion and get away with it. Over and over and over again. I can’t count how many times I’ve murdered my abusive mother. It usually occurs right after I get off the phone with either her or my sister. 😈 Why do I allow this to happen? 🤦♀️
To expand on it being possible to get attached to people who aren't real... I think that's what stalkers often do, they invent this whole person who isn't really representative of the person they're infatuated with, and sometimes even invent large chunks of a relationship that never really happened.
I think stalkers are just the extreme, but any crush or early in a relationship is like that. We first "fall in love" with a perfect, imaginary version of that person, and then actual love may or may not come as we get to really know them. That's why we can fall in love at first sight, with someone we know nothing of, sometimes not even their name, and why sometimes when a person is crushing hard on someone for a long time it can actually be harder for the relationship to work if it comes to be (they already have a really distorted view of that person)
Hey, I really don't know a lot about this stuff, but it sounds familiar and I think I've been through the same thing you did. I'm not a doctor or a psychiatrist but it sounds like you developed something called "maladaptive daydreaming." I could be totally wrong it's just I've been through the same thing and I've had it, but everyone is different and idk. Just letting you know it sounds familiar, and I'm so sorry if I'm totally wrong
If you have ever been knocked out, you would know this is completely possible. Time changes and everything gets strange. When you come to, it feels as if massive amounts of time have gone by.
I hope my other reply shows up. I went to fantasyland until I had EMDR therapy. In fact my real-life daughter is named after fantasyland daughter. And it's a little eerie because she has the same beautiful blue eyes. Sometimes I wonder a little if my amazing husband and kids are really really real. Then my toddler spends the day whining and I know they are LOL
I did this too. In fact, it didn't go away until I met and married my husband, and even some time after that. My daughter is named after my daughter in my fantasy world. EMDR therapy really stopped the escaping for me. Reality was finally liveable :)
Actually, that is an excellent coping mechanism that intelligent and creative people use. Not all people are able to enter “fantasyland” to deal with their traumatic experiences. I learned that when I finally went to see a therapist in my late 40s at the insistence of my supervisor. There was an incident at work that I used my sarcasm and humor to deflate. She found it inappropriate and called HR. They had me go to a therapist “just to be on the safe side.” The therapist told them my supervisor was an idiot (not in those terms, but close). I kept going to see the therapist until she retired. 😂
Maladaptive Daydreaming.
I also have a made up life.
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Grieving something that never existed is still grief. What a difficult thing to experience.
Very true... When my husband and I spent 10 years trying to conceive, I would sometimes have what I call "baby dreams". It was always the end of my pregnancy or right after birth, either way baby would be born shortly before I woke up. I could spend either hours or days with this perfect little girl, fall in love with her, then wake up to reality. It broke my heart over and over again.
I rocked my baby son as he disappeared from my arms in my dreams for years. I never conceived, and now when I have the dream it is just me in a washed out, cobwebby nursery in a creaking old rocking chair all alone. I tell the never-existed little boy that I mourn that mommy misses him every day. I often wonder if it is a remembrance of a past life.
That is so true. And when people ask you what's wrong and you reply "I'm grieving my imaginary wife" people are so confused.
I can't believe someone else had this happen. I have had a very similar experience. I didn't do therapy though. It's been years and I have thought about it literally every single day since it happened. I know how he feels. It is very devastating. Back when I still believed in heaven, I always prayed that that's where I would go when I die.
I mean for real. It changed my entire life and I can't forget it. I used to be very energetic and always played basketball and football with my friends and after it happened I went into a deep depression and I still suffer from the depression. I don't even talk with people anymore. It fucked me up. I still can't believe I've found someone else like me.
You need to do yourself a favour and talk to a mental health professional about this since it is creating problems in your daily life. Please do.
I echo Monika. Please consider finding a therapist, then stick with it. There are people willing and capable of helping you process these feelings and work with depression. There is hope, even when you may not always believe that.
Find somebody you can talk to. Find a professional you trust, somebody you think understands you and let him/her help you. You deserve to be happy!!!
Damn just talking about it is depressing. I would give anything to go back.
Just had an intuitive hit that the accident somehow connected you to past life memories. Reincarnation is real. Your brain is not making up something that resonates to that degree. WAY suggest finding a Reiki Master and getting some energy work done to clear the current trauma and help you energetically align to the experience. Also, watch the new Netflix documentary Heal. Western medicine is amazing but is thousands of years behind ancient Chinese and Japanese practices.
I wanna know about it. Email me: serrarojas10@gmail.com
What was your experience if you don't mind me asking? No pressure tho if you don't want to say :)
I would like to tell you, but it is a lot. I can't tell the whole thing. At least not here. BP comments and replies can only be so long. Not enough room here.
I second that, I go would like to read about this as well. I've had similar experiences, and I'd like to hear about others. Thank you
You dreamed of people who don’t exist while you were unconscious ? Details?
Your brain created a dream for your conscious to escape to under great pressure to prevent you from suffering a heart attack and die. It is kinda common.
Not entirely "don't exist". Our brain is incapable of creating a human face from scratch. Whoever you meet in dream, you meet that person somewhere in real life before, and your brain recorded his face in your subconscious and use it as "actors" in your dream. Personality is random setting.
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He could have made his story up, but I think it's possible he actually did experience something like this. There's lot we don't know about the human brain/consciousness yet. Plus, it's possible to get attatched to people who aren't real. In my teens I experienced abuse at home for a couple of years and lost my social circle outside of home at the same time. At some point I made up an elaborate second, imaginary life for myself and whenever my mind was at leisure (like riding the bus or waiting for something or when I couldn't sleep), I would withdraw into my own mind and just imagine my life there. I made up a kind of different family and friends and even problems I had to deal with and overcome. I got quite attachted to the world inside my head. Eventually my real life got better and I phased the imaginary one out, but that was a slow process. Your brain will go to some length to preserve your sanity/wellbeing.
Honey, it's been over 20 years since I've spent any time with my abusive mother, and I *still* go into my fantasyland every time I'm bored or not otherwise engaged. It's a lovely place. No shame!
Exactly. The best part of fantasyland is you know and actually like everyone there. If you’re having a bad day, or someone really pisses you off, in fantasyland you can commit murder in the most horrific fashion and get away with it. Over and over and over again. I can’t count how many times I’ve murdered my abusive mother. It usually occurs right after I get off the phone with either her or my sister. 😈 Why do I allow this to happen? 🤦♀️
To expand on it being possible to get attached to people who aren't real... I think that's what stalkers often do, they invent this whole person who isn't really representative of the person they're infatuated with, and sometimes even invent large chunks of a relationship that never really happened.
I think stalkers are just the extreme, but any crush or early in a relationship is like that. We first "fall in love" with a perfect, imaginary version of that person, and then actual love may or may not come as we get to really know them. That's why we can fall in love at first sight, with someone we know nothing of, sometimes not even their name, and why sometimes when a person is crushing hard on someone for a long time it can actually be harder for the relationship to work if it comes to be (they already have a really distorted view of that person)
Hey, I really don't know a lot about this stuff, but it sounds familiar and I think I've been through the same thing you did. I'm not a doctor or a psychiatrist but it sounds like you developed something called "maladaptive daydreaming." I could be totally wrong it's just I've been through the same thing and I've had it, but everyone is different and idk. Just letting you know it sounds familiar, and I'm so sorry if I'm totally wrong
If you have ever been knocked out, you would know this is completely possible. Time changes and everything gets strange. When you come to, it feels as if massive amounts of time have gone by.
I hope my other reply shows up. I went to fantasyland until I had EMDR therapy. In fact my real-life daughter is named after fantasyland daughter. And it's a little eerie because she has the same beautiful blue eyes. Sometimes I wonder a little if my amazing husband and kids are really really real. Then my toddler spends the day whining and I know they are LOL
I did this too. In fact, it didn't go away until I met and married my husband, and even some time after that. My daughter is named after my daughter in my fantasy world. EMDR therapy really stopped the escaping for me. Reality was finally liveable :)
Actually, that is an excellent coping mechanism that intelligent and creative people use. Not all people are able to enter “fantasyland” to deal with their traumatic experiences. I learned that when I finally went to see a therapist in my late 40s at the insistence of my supervisor. There was an incident at work that I used my sarcasm and humor to deflate. She found it inappropriate and called HR. They had me go to a therapist “just to be on the safe side.” The therapist told them my supervisor was an idiot (not in those terms, but close). I kept going to see the therapist until she retired. 😂
Maladaptive Daydreaming.
I also have a made up life.
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Grieving something that never existed is still grief. What a difficult thing to experience.
Very true... When my husband and I spent 10 years trying to conceive, I would sometimes have what I call "baby dreams". It was always the end of my pregnancy or right after birth, either way baby would be born shortly before I woke up. I could spend either hours or days with this perfect little girl, fall in love with her, then wake up to reality. It broke my heart over and over again.
I rocked my baby son as he disappeared from my arms in my dreams for years. I never conceived, and now when I have the dream it is just me in a washed out, cobwebby nursery in a creaking old rocking chair all alone. I tell the never-existed little boy that I mourn that mommy misses him every day. I often wonder if it is a remembrance of a past life.
That is so true. And when people ask you what's wrong and you reply "I'm grieving my imaginary wife" people are so confused.
I can't believe someone else had this happen. I have had a very similar experience. I didn't do therapy though. It's been years and I have thought about it literally every single day since it happened. I know how he feels. It is very devastating. Back when I still believed in heaven, I always prayed that that's where I would go when I die.
I mean for real. It changed my entire life and I can't forget it. I used to be very energetic and always played basketball and football with my friends and after it happened I went into a deep depression and I still suffer from the depression. I don't even talk with people anymore. It fucked me up. I still can't believe I've found someone else like me.
You need to do yourself a favour and talk to a mental health professional about this since it is creating problems in your daily life. Please do.
I echo Monika. Please consider finding a therapist, then stick with it. There are people willing and capable of helping you process these feelings and work with depression. There is hope, even when you may not always believe that.
Find somebody you can talk to. Find a professional you trust, somebody you think understands you and let him/her help you. You deserve to be happy!!!
Damn just talking about it is depressing. I would give anything to go back.
Just had an intuitive hit that the accident somehow connected you to past life memories. Reincarnation is real. Your brain is not making up something that resonates to that degree. WAY suggest finding a Reiki Master and getting some energy work done to clear the current trauma and help you energetically align to the experience. Also, watch the new Netflix documentary Heal. Western medicine is amazing but is thousands of years behind ancient Chinese and Japanese practices.
I wanna know about it. Email me: serrarojas10@gmail.com
What was your experience if you don't mind me asking? No pressure tho if you don't want to say :)
I would like to tell you, but it is a lot. I can't tell the whole thing. At least not here. BP comments and replies can only be so long. Not enough room here.
I second that, I go would like to read about this as well. I've had similar experiences, and I'd like to hear about others. Thank you
You dreamed of people who don’t exist while you were unconscious ? Details?
Your brain created a dream for your conscious to escape to under great pressure to prevent you from suffering a heart attack and die. It is kinda common.
Not entirely "don't exist". Our brain is incapable of creating a human face from scratch. Whoever you meet in dream, you meet that person somewhere in real life before, and your brain recorded his face in your subconscious and use it as "actors" in your dream. Personality is random setting.
This comment has been deleted.