32 Delusional Notes From Bosses That Went Viral Online

How many times have you heard, "People leave managers, not companies"? Whether you believe it or not, there’s a grain of truth in this old adage. In fact, according to a survey from GoodHire, a leading provider of employment and background screening services, this is the very reason that pushes workers to hand in their resignation letters.

In the report, the researchers surveyed a total of 3,000 full-time American workers, an equal number across ten of the most popular job sectors, to better understand manager-employee relationship dynamics. The results show that while 70% of employees revealed they strongly enjoy or somewhat enjoy working for their manager, 82% said they might quit their job because of a bad one.

To learn more about horrible bosses and how their behaviors affect the well-being of their staff, we reached out to Kristina Leonardi, a holistic career coach, personal growth expert, speaker, and author of Say It To Make It: Affirmations to Empower the Heart, Mind, Spirit and Soul. She explained that more often than not, a bad manager is the root cause of a worker’s departure.

"When reviewing their work history, many of my clients were happy with their jobs and, for example, would rate the actual role a 7 or 8 (on a scale of 1-10 with 10 being the best). But it would come down to a 3 or 4 almost always because of issues with their boss. In other words, they might have really liked their role and function and would have stayed there, but the toxic environment created by their manager is what made them leave," Leonardi told Bored Panda.

The career coach pointed out there are different levels of toxic bosses. "Some behaviors are more benign albeit annoying, like micromanaging. Others are more obvious and heinous — like having no boundaries, gaslighting or being disrespectful or verbally, physically emotionally, or sexually abusive."

Every employee has at least one story about an awful supervisor. But the dire reality is that bad managers are abundant, and they have the power to turn a potentially fulfilling work environment into an enormous misery. More alarmingly, they can take a toll on our well-being. Leonardi explained that leaders who opt for negative behaviors at work can lead to employees having depression, anxiety, poor physical health, and low self-esteem. "Having a toxic boss creates additional stress and stress can cause or trigger a variety of illnesses, both mentally and physically," she added.

According to Leonardi, harmful behaviors should not be tolerated. "However, the problem is that people often can’t even see how toxic a situation is because they are on some level familiar with it," she added. This often means "they are playing out their family dynamics in their work situation, usually with their bosses filling in as their mother or father with the same patterns of personalities and interactions. So in a weird way, as bad as it might be, it’s what they are used to or comfortable with, which means they can’t always perceive it as being unacceptable and detrimental."

The GoodHire poll revealed that most employees in the American workforce feel irritated by a manager who is overbearing, micromanages, and expects them to work outside of working hours. When it comes to supervisor traits workers deem as positive, the responses were fairly simple — employees wish to have a boss who is authentic and honest. The researchers stressed, however, that "while quitting because of a bad manager is a huge and important decision, oftentimes those decisions are made because of consistent unhappiness at work.”

"Workplace dynamics have changed drastically," GoodHire’s COO, Max Wesman, said. "Now, employees have more leverage so managers need to step up and work on being better managers, and that includes showing empathy, improving transparency, and keeping the lines of communication open. Our survey is telling us that when employees aren’t satisfied, they’ll quit because they see the thriving job market and other opportunities available to them."

By now, you’ve probably heard about the great resignation — a quitting trend that doesn’t seem to quit. Feeling tired of being treated like a piece of machinery, employees started voluntarily leaving their positions in droves after the pandemic rattled the world. Well, it looks like the quitting spree shows no signs of slowing down. In June, another 3.9 million people moved their talents elsewhere in the US alone, all in search of better pay, better opportunities, and overall better treatment.

However, some people may be lucky enough to love their jobs but unfortunate to be stuck with delusional bosses. If you can relate to any of the entries you find in this list, yet feel unsure of how to handle your out-of-touch supervisor, Leonardi had a few pieces of advice to share.

"First of all, take responsibility and reflect on how you got yourself into that situation and/or how long you have endured it. Is the boss the person that hired you and were there any red flags that you ignored in the beginning? If you had no control over the boss you now have, were there opportunities to leave at any time?" The career coach stressed that taking responsibility is important. "That means if you had the power to get yourself into the situation, you have the power to get yourself out of it."

While it may seem like a tough lesson, it reminds you that you always have other options, Leonardi added. "Acknowledging the value that you bring and recognizing and honoring your own self-worth are often the underlying issues. Addressing that is often part of what the experience is trying to grow in you. Know that you are empowered to make better choices for yourself with the right perspective, strategy and professional help, if needed."

"Life is a classroom," Leonardi said. "It just so happens we spend most of our time and energy at our jobs. No matter what the situation, take a step back and reflect on what the universe is trying to teach or show you in order for you to break patterns and know your value. Then, you are able to get to a place where you can truly thrive."

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