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‘I didn’t know she was dating a black boy, did you?’ Mom Shuts Down Comments About Her Daughter Dating A Black Guy
What traits would you hope the person your child is dating would have? respectful, kind, and caring, maybe? Well to some people race is also on that list, but not for Mississipi mother Heather Boyer. Recently, her daughter began dating someone new, who happened to also be black and she undoubtedly approved because of the way he treated her. He had all the characteristics that she felt her daughter deserved in a boyfriend, but when her daughter changed her profile picture to an image of the young couple, her mom received a racist text that revealed the sad truth that not everyone shared her views on what mattered in a relationship.
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Image credits: heather.boyer
Boyer received a text about the profile picture from someone who thought she may have an issue with the skin color of her daughter’s new boyfriend. The mom was taken aback, but instead of responding to the text in a negative way she chose to use the experience to create a larger response to this kind of mentality and wrote a heartfelt Facebook post about the experience.
Image credits: heather.boyer
“Today my daughter changed her profile picture. After maybe 5 minutes I get a text ..” I didn’t know she was dating a black boy, did you?” It took me all day to think up a response, which I didn’t send personally but thought I would share for anyone else that “may not know” Yes in fact I did know, but the color of his skin doesn’t define who he is. What does define who is he is how he treats my daughter. I see my daughter dating a boy that comes to my house and shows me nothing but respect (a big deal in my book). It’s always Yes Ma’am, No Ma’am, we talk about football and baseball, he tells me bye when he leaves, and has not once shown me a lack of manners or respect.
I see my daughter dating a boy who treats her good. He takes her on dates, to ballgames, out to eat..not to a club or partying on the weekends.
I see my daughter dating a boy who takes her to church with him. Every Sunday. He plays in the band, she sits with his family. How many young men these days make church a priority? None of the others have.
He doesn’t hit her, cuss her, lie to her, or make her cry. Would I rather her date a white boy that did, to keep from her dating another race? Absolutely not. So that’s my response to the question I was asked. And I know people have their own opinion, but at the end of the day, the fact that my daughter has someone that loves her and treats her like a queen makes me happy. That’s something I’ve never had in my life and I’m glad she does.”
People loved the post and responded with photos of their own interracial relationships
According to census.gov, the percentage of U.S married-couple households that are interracial or interethnic grew from 7.4 percent in 2000 up to 10.2 percent and in 2016 it grew 2.8 more percentage points. While there was an overall increase across the nation, in Missippi where Boyer lives, most counties did not see a significant change.
And were shocked that in this day and age people were still so narrow-minded
Boyer was touched by all the loving posts and said the responses to her post had been overwhelmingly positive
What do you think ?
Robyn Gardam 6 years ago
I told my daughter when she started dating that I didn't care if she dated a guy or a girl, just as long as they treated her with respect. I don't see why race/colour/gender should still be such an issue.. I guess some people just have to be whingers about something just to get their fix of attention..
Krissy Bulan 6 years ago
Together for 16 years, married for almost 11. My grandmother thought it was nice that we were getting married but "we shouldn't have kids together." We have an awesome 8 year old son! 53297001_1...28a72a.jpg 
KarmaQueen 6 years ago
I am reading all of these stories and looking at the pictures, as I get chills, all I can say is Amen sister. I want happiness for my children, I do not care what race, color, or gender they are. Please just treat my child with respect and love them. That is all a mom can ask for with her kids.
Magpie 6 years ago
john if you are going to quote "statistics" you better show where you found them. Otherwise we could think you are just making numbers up. And why would a bigot do that ? ( yes that is ironic )
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Yakisha Henneborn 6 years ago
When I started dating my husband who is German, my mother side of the family was upset. They kept calling my mom and asking why she was letting me date a white guy. My mom response was "Lokk, this man treats my daughter like a queen. I never seen how much a man love his other half as much as he loves her." She even told them that if they keep their attitude up like they were doing, she was going to cut them out of her life completely. Some has changed but we do have family members we haven't talked to since I started dating my husband and that was over 12 years ago.
Помаже Бог 6 years ago
Yakisha, I'm in love with your name! And I admire your mom! I'm dating a German, too(born in Namibia and grew up in South Africa), aren't they just the tits? <3 all the best <3 I hope your family open their hearts and that you'll be able to rekindle with them. If not, you seem happy as is, thank God, so.. <3
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Joe Sauer 6 years ago
Love is love I always say. Whats so wrong with two people being happy together? I'll never understand why people would be upset with someone being in love.
Meowton Mewsk 6 years ago
Many of them are threatened or feel a sense of ownership over the opposite sex in their race. This has been my experience with these people.
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frederic eeckman 6 years ago
It's cute, and he is a good guy, big up for that ! But that stance about "how many people put church blablabla" made me sligthly uncomfortable, I have no problem with people's faith, but it sounded like without the religion you can't have values and principles...
Liz Karsa 6 years ago
No, what it sounded like is this woman & her family are religious so this is important to her and them. Just like it is NOT important to you everyone is free to value what they value. Respect that.
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Hans 6 years ago
Judgemental attitudes everywhere. Unfortunately in the reply as well, though. Why would going to church on Sunday be a better choice than going to a club at the weekend? And why would not both be OK? Just respect the decisions being made....
SirWriteALot 6 years ago
Yeah, I'd prefer my child to not be indoctrinated with ancient lore.
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Wil Vanderheijden 6 years ago
Looking on the bright side: In another 1000 years all people will be the same colour. That's to say if we haven't killed ourselves and this planet by then.
Gracie Mae 6 years ago
I have a sister that told me "you are welcome in our home, but your husband is not." while he understood that people were going to feel that way, he told me he it was "ok" -- it was not! I have not had a relationship with her for almost 20 yrs now...SHE NEVER EVEN MET HIM or saw him for herself, just 'heard' that i was with a 'black' man!
Milena 6 years ago
She's missing out on her sister's and brother in law's love and affection ...
Load More Replies... Robyn Gardam 6 years ago
I told my daughter when she started dating that I didn't care if she dated a guy or a girl, just as long as they treated her with respect. I don't see why race/colour/gender should still be such an issue.. I guess some people just have to be whingers about something just to get their fix of attention..
Krissy Bulan 6 years ago
Together for 16 years, married for almost 11. My grandmother thought it was nice that we were getting married but "we shouldn't have kids together." We have an awesome 8 year old son! 53297001_1...28a72a.jpg
KarmaQueen 6 years ago
I am reading all of these stories and looking at the pictures, as I get chills, all I can say is Amen sister. I want happiness for my children, I do not care what race, color, or gender they are. Please just treat my child with respect and love them. That is all a mom can ask for with her kids.
Magpie 6 years ago
john if you are going to quote "statistics" you better show where you found them. Otherwise we could think you are just making numbers up. And why would a bigot do that ? ( yes that is ironic )
Load More Replies... Yakisha Henneborn 6 years ago
When I started dating my husband who is German, my mother side of the family was upset. They kept calling my mom and asking why she was letting me date a white guy. My mom response was "Lokk, this man treats my daughter like a queen. I never seen how much a man love his other half as much as he loves her." She even told them that if they keep their attitude up like they were doing, she was going to cut them out of her life completely. Some has changed but we do have family members we haven't talked to since I started dating my husband and that was over 12 years ago.
Помаже Бог 6 years ago
Yakisha, I'm in love with your name! And I admire your mom! I'm dating a German, too(born in Namibia and grew up in South Africa), aren't they just the tits? <3 all the best <3 I hope your family open their hearts and that you'll be able to rekindle with them. If not, you seem happy as is, thank God, so.. <3
Load More Replies... Joe Sauer 6 years ago
Love is love I always say. Whats so wrong with two people being happy together? I'll never understand why people would be upset with someone being in love.
Meowton Mewsk 6 years ago
Many of them are threatened or feel a sense of ownership over the opposite sex in their race. This has been my experience with these people.
Load More Replies... frederic eeckman 6 years ago
It's cute, and he is a good guy, big up for that ! But that stance about "how many people put church blablabla" made me sligthly uncomfortable, I have no problem with people's faith, but it sounded like without the religion you can't have values and principles...
Liz Karsa 6 years ago
No, what it sounded like is this woman & her family are religious so this is important to her and them. Just like it is NOT important to you everyone is free to value what they value. Respect that.
Load More Replies... Hans 6 years ago
Judgemental attitudes everywhere. Unfortunately in the reply as well, though. Why would going to church on Sunday be a better choice than going to a club at the weekend? And why would not both be OK? Just respect the decisions being made....
SirWriteALot 6 years ago
Yeah, I'd prefer my child to not be indoctrinated with ancient lore.
Load More Replies... Wil Vanderheijden 6 years ago
Looking on the bright side: In another 1000 years all people will be the same colour. That's to say if we haven't killed ourselves and this planet by then.
Gracie Mae 6 years ago
I have a sister that told me "you are welcome in our home, but your husband is not." while he understood that people were going to feel that way, he told me he it was "ok" -- it was not! I have not had a relationship with her for almost 20 yrs now...SHE NEVER EVEN MET HIM or saw him for herself, just 'heard' that i was with a 'black' man!
Milena 6 years ago
She's missing out on her sister's and brother in law's love and affection ...
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