Dating Apps Are Not The Perfect Match For Influencers

We all know the cliche stories of online dating all too well, the one night flings, that (0.01%) rare chance rate of meeting the love of your life or the most common phrase. “It was nice meeting you, let’s hang out again soon.” and awkwardly never speaking to the other person again but you guys still follow each other on social media but from time to time watch their stories just to creep. Awkward.

But have we heard stories about celebrities, athletes, public figures or influencers using the dating apps and their experience?

We’ve reached out to a random Social Media Influencer and Entrepreneur who volunteered to share his own personal experience with online dating. His name is Ali Vongsathian @avongsathian, he is a full-time entrepreneur, businessman, and influencer. Here are some of the most popular and common questions we’ve asked him, Note: please be in mind we asked him to be completely honest in this questionnaire!

What made you decide to give online dating a chance?

“Well, I have a pretty busy schedule and I’m constantly working all the time and always on-the-go with my phone. I guess it’s convenient but I haven’t made the time or effort in finding a relationship because my time is right now is more focused on my business at the moment. But, I don’t mind the company of another person if you know what I mean. I don’t like the whole experience and spill of getting to know someone before sex. I mean it’s unnecessary for me because what happens if you don’t like each other but are physically attracted to another. I personally feel if both party’s intentions are clear and known, it’s acceptable to “hook up” because everyone has sexual needs and there’s a mutual understanding. I definitely don’t tell females what they wanna hear just to hook up because a high percentage of women on these dating apps are looking for something more serious. So I rather not waste their time or mines. Netflix and chill right or I’m not looking for anything serious?”

Do you tell people who you are and what you do for a living?

“No, I don’t really go in-depth about anything I do. I just keep it brief and give a generic answer, I own my own business and run a social media marketing agency on the side. Often times this conversation doesn’t even come up, but my problem is that I can carry long on-going conversations about different topics, talk about different point of views and basically talk about our each other days. But all of a sudden I just get extremely busy and I won’t respond back within a period of time until 4-6 hours later and it’s not that I don’t want too but because my hands are occupied doing photography or meeting people and forming business relationships, I don’t want to be rude and on my phone. I don’t have the time to check my phone every minute and that becomes a problem if you’re talking or interested in me. I don’t like to tell people what I’m doing or where I’m at. I’m very independent and I don’t require a lot of attention from someone. But that has been a reoccurring problem in the past for my partner because that’s something they want and expect from me. I can’t give them the attention they need or require, so I had many good relationships that just didn’t work out.”

Any crazy, weird or out of the ordinary experience dating someone online?

“Yes. Definitely. I had multiple dates where they either think I’m a catfish before they meet them or they don’t believe it’s me in the photos. I have to explain I’m a photographer and take my own photos because the majority of my photos are high-quality shots on these dating apps. Shoot, even I would think the same thing.”

“To share one of my weirdest experience was meeting someone for the first time and I mentioned I didn’t have any social media to avoid any intentions they might have. So, after our date. I realized she either took a picture or memorized the name on my credit card and happened to look me up on Instagram and she found out what I do. She became more interested in me to the point where it became a little too much. She kept calling and texting me where I was every 10 minutes. She even told me at one point, she won’t let anyone have me beside her. I began to think she was stalking and monitoring when I came online. I had to, unfortunately, cut things off and it didn’t go so well.”

“I just want to keep my story brief and not go too much into detail about this person. But to sum it all up, the majority of my dates are sometimes a bunch of gold diggers interested only after my money or clot chasers who are just in it for the fame. It’s truly hard for me as an influencer to find someone who genuinely likes me for me and not what title I have or what I have to offer. My experience as a Influencer using date apps hasn’t been the greatest.”

“I would recommend meeting people the old tradition way, by either attending mutual-friends get together or meeting someone in person where you share the same interests (e.g. reading, coffee shops, parks, etc.) if you’re all for meeting up and hooking up, go right ahead. But, the app isn’t the place for most people and it certainly isn’t the place for me to find a serious relationship.”

There you have it. Moral of the story. You already know what you’re getting yourself into when you hear “Tinder” or “Netflix and chill.” You won’t find what you’re looking for because not everyone has the same similar intentions. Be clear on what you want and don’t give false hope to someone just for your own personal sexual benefit. People have feelings and don’t want to invent time into something the other person doesn’t want. Value and save each other some time! Know the differences between Eharmony and Tinder people!