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Entitled Dad Demands Bio Son Start Cooking For His Stepchildren, Gets Livid As Mom Supports Kid
Any divorce of parents always becomes a tough mental challenge for children, especially for older ones among the siblings. However, many psychologists are pretty sure that it’s still better than living in a toxic atmosphere with a “full-fledged” family.
Well, the parents of the user u/SeaworthinessOdd2477, the author of today’s story, divorced as well – but the father, as the teen later realized, also began to look for benefits for himself from his eldest son’s visits. Okay, let’s just take things in order and go on reading.
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The author of the post is a 16 year-old boy whose parents divorced years ago and his dad lives with another family
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The father also has 2 stepchildren, both younger than the author, and he recently asked his son to start cooking for them
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The point is that the boy recently told his dad that he cooks for his siblings when his mom is at work, so the dad decided to take this chance too
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However, the man faced a flat-out ‘no’ because the author claimed that he doesn’t consider the father’s stepkids his family
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The man even tried to guilt the son into cooking for his stepkids, but to no avail – and the boy’s mom also sided with him
So, the Original Poster (OP) is 16 years old, he has a younger brother and sister, but his father divorced their mom and went to live with another family. There he has two stepchildren – both younger than the author, and from time to time our hero comes to visit his bio dad and spend time with them.
And so one fine day, the father literally demanded that the OP make food for the younger stepsiblings while in his house. The thing is that the author himself admitted that he sometimes cooks for his brother and sister, thus helping his mom. And the dad almost immediately decided that he could use the services of a “free cook” too.
Needless to say, the man faced a flat-out ‘No?’ In the end, our hero comes to his father’s house to spend time with his parent, and not to cook for free… But the man, apparently, was incredibly inspired by this “inventive” idea, and at almost every meeting he continued to coax the son.
It came to a direct conflict with the author’s mom, who directly told her ex to simply cherish the time spent with his son and nothing more. Especially since he had already decided not to retain 50/50 custody. But the man just told her to shut up. And then he even accused the OP of favoritism towards his blood brothers and sisters.
Our hero was outraged by this manipulation attempt on the part of his father, and he decided to take it online in order to ask the netizens for some advice. Is he actually right in this situation, and how would they act in a similar case?
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“I don’t want to make any judgments, but trying to manipulate a child in a dispute is never a good thing,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, whom Bored Panda contacted for a comment. “Especially with a child who is already traumatized by having his parents divorced.”
According to the expert, adults should not try to expand their area of responsibility to children, and especially not try to shift their own parental responsibilities onto them. “This teenager already has the responsibility of helping his mom with his younger brothers and sisters, with whom he lives under the same roof – and making him to cook for his father’s stepchildren looks completely inappropriate. Trying to solve his own problems at the expense of the child – this is not good at all.”
Still, the original poster deserves credit for his poise and composure. Qualities that are not always typical of teenagers, let’s admit it. “I’m nevertheless glad that this boy acted very smart and mature – he didn’t succumb to provocations from his father, calmly explained his position. In the end, no one could force him to love his biological father’s stepkids. And if such reactions from the father continue, it’s worth taking some legal action,” Irina sums up.
People in the comments also sided with the original poster, claiming that his father’s behavior was completely outrageous and rude here. “I feel like this was just him trying to find a way to guilt you into being a free nanny,” one commenter wrote. “You’re not responsible for taking care of your father’s stepkids. Feeding them is your father’s and his wife’s job. Not yours,” another person wisely added.
And many responders were really surprised at how entitled some people actually are. “You can tell him to pay you $50 a meal and you’ll cook for his adopted children. Why do people feel entitled to your time and effort?” one user wrote in the comments. And what do you, our dear readers, think about this story? Please feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below.
Most people in the comments also gave the teen their unanimous support, bashing his dad for being completely inappropriate
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Ellen Townsend 1 year ago
Gee, since there is a sitter for the kids maybe the parents could pay to have this person cook or just order DoorDash.
Broadredpanda 1 year ago
I'm shocked that this lazy a*s father is VERY focused on this particular chore? You will most definitely resent or even hate your father if he keeps pushing this rubbish. WTF does the sitter do? Is it that he's a tight fisted t**t who pays a "babysitter" who can't/won't cook because they're inexperienced. Your father should employ a sitter that can look after their needs. Guaranteed your father wants to eventually eek out the sitter then voila... unpaid sitter and cook at the detriment of studies/work/family time which every young person needs to have a fulfilling and a happy healthy life! He's not going to let this happen. As soon as you can, only see him on your terms, even if it's just you and dad. I have a feeling you're reaching the end of your tether. You're a very strong person and I'm so impressed by your writing!! You're going to be fine. I just hope your father realises he's pushing you away before it's too late!!!!!
John Smith (he/him/xy/️) 1 year ago
I know what you mean but this is in fact very derogatory to the kid
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Mary Masavage 1 year ago
I would be informing the judge of these events. If the judge knows that the father is attempting to force this child to cook for the step siblings and leading to the consequences of failing in school by not doing homework, impacted mental and physical health due to the stress and lack of sleep for the travel (depending on how far this man is) to do the forced request, and being a terrible parent for the manipulation and not caring about the welfare/education of his son, most likely all privileges will be revoked involving the bio kids.
Karen Philpott 1 year ago
The sitter can cook a meal. You can not be in 2 places at once. If you were to start cooking for the step children I bet the sitter will start not turning up, all arranged by your Dad. Time to record your interactions with your Dad, and go back to the Judge. You shouldn't have to put up with this. And if my ex talked to me like that, he'd get it back, in spades.
Victoria Singleton 1 year ago
They don’t want him to cook. They want him to babysit so they don’t have to pay the sitter. What a bunch of AHs. I bet the dad left the mom for this woman too!
Guess Undheit 1 year ago
From now on, when "required" to be there, go. Then immediately leave and go to the library, go to parks, spend as little time there as possible. Don't talk to him, go Grey Rock and give minimal answers.
FreeTheUnicorn 1 year ago
If we forget the step aspect, this is a dad absolutely obsessed with getting his teen son to prepare meals. Even if its reasonable request, the ask didn't go well. Instead of addressing the food issue by peeping meals for the younger ones (7 can use the microwave, 10 can put a frozen pizza in the oven at the least, unused to make about 30 crepes because they keep well on the fridge and then everyone can put filling in, use a toaster oven or microwave, that's several meals done). But no dad keeps focused on this one thing, and tries guilt and asking again. That isn't working. It's clear why the marriage failed, just repeating yourself again and again doesn't get the issue resolved. He's not concerned about his kids eating, he's concerned about not being obeyed.
Louise Brown 1 year ago
I mean, the whole reason he makes food for the other kids is coz he's already in the house with them. Wild to expect anyone to make a special trip to cook for anyone...
Ron Muldowney 1 year ago
At 16 years old, in most states you are old enough to decide if you even want to keep going to see your dad and his family. Have mom get in front of a judge and stop this BS. Good luck young man.
Lizzy D 1 year ago
This could be the father manipulating the son and mother into requesting less visitation, skewing the judges decision on a change to financial support. If the father asks, immediate upping of support, but if he pretends to fight the mother and sons request outcome maybe different. Father is still insecure and still trying to control his ex wife, son is being used as a p**n in the game. Hope judges see-through it.
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Binky Melnik 1 year ago
“You blatantly favor your blood relatives over strangers!” Of course he does; who doesn’t? (I’m talking the majority here, not outlier situations.) What an insane thing to say; he seems unable to grasp the obvious, and I’d laugh if someone said that to me. (Neither of my sisters speaks to me, yet I’d favor them over strangers 100% of the time.)
Karen Bird 1 year ago
Why would hit father just presume that he loves a strangers kids as much as his siblings? This young man sounds like a gem for helping out his single mum and caring for his siblings but his father has a two parent household and can afford childcare! They're just lazy expecting a child to pick up their slack.
MrsEgonSpengler 1 year ago (edited)
Dad is giving Lady Tremaine vibes. Kid needs to stick to his guns and say no. He'll only have his self to blame when kid goes NC once he turns 18!!
dayngerkat 1 year ago
I'd just say fk it and stop going. Doesn't sound like he has a good time there
Janelle Collard 1 year ago
Could be a court order says OP HAS to go. :( I agree with the person who said: "Have the conversation again + record it." Hopefully , it will help OP get out of going to dad's so often.
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Westy 1 year ago
C.O.N.T.R.O.L. This isn't about cooking, blending a family or building a bond between OP and his step siblings. This dad has some serious issues and I hope Mom takes this to a parenting coordinator/judge, because at 16 OP is old enough to testify that is impacting his mental health, and that father is intentionally creating a hostile environment as punishment.
Wombatish 1 year ago
Don't be nasty to your step siblings just because they're steps? Sure, absolutely. But you can't force closeness, even amongst bio siblings. Basic respect is the only 'enforceable' sibling relationship. And that's putting aside the whole 'be a slave' aspect. I just hate it when parents think they can just say 'be close' and expect it to happen like that.
Puppy Dancing! 1 year ago
The kids dad heard 1. The kid that doesn't want to visit him takes care of his siblings when they are at their mom's 2. How can I convince him to come full time to my place to babysit all 4 kids half the time and the two step kids half the time so we don't have to pay a babysitter. 3. If he cooks, he should do it for the whole family, it isn't fair my ex wife gets these benefits for free and I don't.
BreAnn East 1 year ago
Dad wants the step kids fed dinner before him and wife come home so they don’t have to. That’s ridiculous! The babysitter should be doing it if someone has to, not op. They are already there. As others said great way to push kids away. None of the bio kids will have any contact with dad in a short time because he will pull this type of bs with the other two.
Paula Wynn 1 year ago
NTA, but your father DEFINITELY is! I don't understand this AT ALL! If they're paying a sitter, why can't she make them something to eat? Also, a 10 and 7 year old should be perfectly capable of making a frigging sandwich! It's not YOUR responsibility. You cook for your own siblings out of LOVE, not because you HAVE to. By the way, you SHOULD love your siblings more because you've lived with them for their entire lives! You've only known your steps for the past year! Your father is being EXTREMELY UNFAIR to you!!!
MaryAnn McGill Hoffman 1 year ago
His dad and step mom want the kids fed dinner before 5hey get home from work so they can do whatever they want for dinner. Easy solution is prep dinner and ask the sitter to cook. Or have dinner like a family with the young children. The 16 yr old has no obligation to go after school and personal chef dads step kids.
FrozenTreat 1 year ago
I'm sorry your dad is such a jerk. Why can't the sitter fix the step kids dinner since she has a couple hours until the parents come home? You have school work and just being a kid to do. I'm proud you help your mom around the house and cook for them sometimes. That's really sweet of you. DON'T let your dad talk you into doing the cooking. He's being manipulative. He needs to ask that sitter or they need to do what parents do, feed your own kids! That's such nerve asking you. Keep being the sweet kid that you are.
Reta Murphy 1 year ago
Oh he is there cooking, we don't need to hire babysitter anymore. Guess what you have new job, you have to take care of kids whenever we say.
Janice 1 year ago
OP should avoid telling his dad he's crazy. If the dad hits him, he can justify it by saying OP was disrespectful. If OP just stays with not my problem, or I don't care about them - if dad continues to insist, OP can go to court and stop the visits. OP should also record his dad so he can prove what's happening
JB 1 year ago
Doesn’t matter what OP says to his dad, there’s no legal justification for assault.
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Leigh Kinnaird 1 year ago
NTA. Repeat to him over and over, 'Parentification is abuse. I'm not here to provide parenting responsibilities you chose to take on'. Tbh, I'd go with the suggestion of recording him doing to you over and over and go back to the judge and start making an evidence trail of texts and messages v. speaking to him orally. Personally I think the dad's end goal is to manipulate his son to take over the afterschool care the sitter is doing, for free, ofc. If they want their kids fed before they get home they need to pay the babysitter to do it. Also I'd see about getting a weekend job, that way you spend as little time as possible with this so-called dad until you can work towards not having to visit him at all. Do NOT cave to his manipulation. 'Parenting children is your job.'
Jenny Begnell 1 year ago
Just tell your father you have to go home and do homework. If you went to his place, he would probably decide that since you are there anyway he may as well save on the cost of a sitter as you can babysit as well
Sarah Léon 1 year ago
In France, by the age of 13yo children can decide if they want to see one or other parent after divorce. Most of the time, if there is no proof of any manipulation from the other parent, the judge goes with the child decision.
Abraxas59 1 year ago
the op is 16 no judge in any land can or does force a kid of-that age infact over the age of 12 they go by what the child wants well they do in uk n im pretty sure they will in usa etc to refuse to go your not his slave and i can see why u mum divorced him you will be happier in the long run speaking from experience
Lynda Murray 1 year ago
If he cooks after school, it will be, just stay till we get back after work…and we can let the sitter go those days. Save the money, because OP won’t need paid. It’s done for love and family. . NTA and soon be 18. No visits at all, then
Carol Williams 1 year ago
Get yourself emancipated then you to could get out of mandatory visits
John Smith (he/him/xy/️) 1 year ago
The marital family is not the same as blood related family. The dad can ride off of a cliff for all I care
Tanya Phillips 1 year ago
I was looking after my baby brother when I was 11, so at ten, that kid could fix something simple for him and the younger sibling. Time to empower those kids instead of guilting the oldest one.
patricia Torres 1 year ago
As everyone pretty much stated NTA, at all. You clearly don't have a relationship with his step kids and it sounds like your short visit is meant to continue to stay connected to your bio. The big problem besides being blatantly naive your father believes somehow you were involved in his relationship, as if a marriage made in heaven. Despite being an adult he doesn't get it. He met said woman and children. He chose to develop feelings, not you. Trust me, I get it. My mom asked me what I thought, I told her the truth and it made no difference. Never liked that person nor cared for his relatives. You don't owe anyone anything. I'm glad your mother supports you but his response to her is childish, very low blow.
Col Prettyman 1 year ago
I feel so bad for these kids. All of them but especially the little ones. The people who are supposed to love and care for them don't. Where is their father? Maybe he can love them properly.
Roberta Surprenant 1 year ago
So this identical story is over on cheezburger, but in that one it is a daughter, not a son. AI generated is getting too easy to pick out. https://cheezburger.com/36590853/man-demands-estranged-daughter-cook-for-step-siblings-leading-to-heated-father-daughter-showdown-as
Kristyn Kaari 1 year ago
This is just dad's way to get a step closer to saving money on after-school babysitter. "If you're here cooking for them, you can spend time with them..." Visitation agreements are intended for parents to spend time with their child when they don't have full custody. Why would OP come to his father's house if the father isn't there? Dad needs to value that he has weekends with OP, because court ordered visitations do not extend into the child's adulthood.
Paul Phillips 1 year ago
Same as me when me and my mum are away for a long weekend away and my dad and brother are staying at home if it not the food stains it dirty dishes in the sink and if it not them it is the washing clothes
Leigh Kinnaird 1 year ago
Why should he? They are no relation to him. They're not 'family members' to him.
Load More Replies... Ellen Townsend 1 year ago
Gee, since there is a sitter for the kids maybe the parents could pay to have this person cook or just order DoorDash.
Broadredpanda 1 year ago
I'm shocked that this lazy a*s father is VERY focused on this particular chore? You will most definitely resent or even hate your father if he keeps pushing this rubbish. WTF does the sitter do? Is it that he's a tight fisted t**t who pays a "babysitter" who can't/won't cook because they're inexperienced. Your father should employ a sitter that can look after their needs. Guaranteed your father wants to eventually eek out the sitter then voila... unpaid sitter and cook at the detriment of studies/work/family time which every young person needs to have a fulfilling and a happy healthy life! He's not going to let this happen. As soon as you can, only see him on your terms, even if it's just you and dad. I have a feeling you're reaching the end of your tether. You're a very strong person and I'm so impressed by your writing!! You're going to be fine. I just hope your father realises he's pushing you away before it's too late!!!!!
John Smith (he/him/xy/️) 1 year ago
I know what you mean but this is in fact very derogatory to the kid
Load More Replies... Mary Masavage 1 year ago
I would be informing the judge of these events. If the judge knows that the father is attempting to force this child to cook for the step siblings and leading to the consequences of failing in school by not doing homework, impacted mental and physical health due to the stress and lack of sleep for the travel (depending on how far this man is) to do the forced request, and being a terrible parent for the manipulation and not caring about the welfare/education of his son, most likely all privileges will be revoked involving the bio kids.
Karen Philpott 1 year ago
The sitter can cook a meal. You can not be in 2 places at once. If you were to start cooking for the step children I bet the sitter will start not turning up, all arranged by your Dad. Time to record your interactions with your Dad, and go back to the Judge. You shouldn't have to put up with this. And if my ex talked to me like that, he'd get it back, in spades.
Victoria Singleton 1 year ago
They don’t want him to cook. They want him to babysit so they don’t have to pay the sitter. What a bunch of AHs. I bet the dad left the mom for this woman too!
Guess Undheit 1 year ago
From now on, when "required" to be there, go. Then immediately leave and go to the library, go to parks, spend as little time there as possible. Don't talk to him, go Grey Rock and give minimal answers.
FreeTheUnicorn 1 year ago
If we forget the step aspect, this is a dad absolutely obsessed with getting his teen son to prepare meals. Even if its reasonable request, the ask didn't go well. Instead of addressing the food issue by peeping meals for the younger ones (7 can use the microwave, 10 can put a frozen pizza in the oven at the least, unused to make about 30 crepes because they keep well on the fridge and then everyone can put filling in, use a toaster oven or microwave, that's several meals done). But no dad keeps focused on this one thing, and tries guilt and asking again. That isn't working. It's clear why the marriage failed, just repeating yourself again and again doesn't get the issue resolved. He's not concerned about his kids eating, he's concerned about not being obeyed.
Louise Brown 1 year ago
I mean, the whole reason he makes food for the other kids is coz he's already in the house with them. Wild to expect anyone to make a special trip to cook for anyone...
Ron Muldowney 1 year ago
At 16 years old, in most states you are old enough to decide if you even want to keep going to see your dad and his family. Have mom get in front of a judge and stop this BS. Good luck young man.
Lizzy D 1 year ago
This could be the father manipulating the son and mother into requesting less visitation, skewing the judges decision on a change to financial support. If the father asks, immediate upping of support, but if he pretends to fight the mother and sons request outcome maybe different. Father is still insecure and still trying to control his ex wife, son is being used as a p**n in the game. Hope judges see-through it.
Load More Replies... Binky Melnik 1 year ago
“You blatantly favor your blood relatives over strangers!” Of course he does; who doesn’t? (I’m talking the majority here, not outlier situations.) What an insane thing to say; he seems unable to grasp the obvious, and I’d laugh if someone said that to me. (Neither of my sisters speaks to me, yet I’d favor them over strangers 100% of the time.)
Karen Bird 1 year ago
Why would hit father just presume that he loves a strangers kids as much as his siblings? This young man sounds like a gem for helping out his single mum and caring for his siblings but his father has a two parent household and can afford childcare! They're just lazy expecting a child to pick up their slack.
MrsEgonSpengler 1 year ago (edited)
Dad is giving Lady Tremaine vibes. Kid needs to stick to his guns and say no. He'll only have his self to blame when kid goes NC once he turns 18!!
dayngerkat 1 year ago
I'd just say fk it and stop going. Doesn't sound like he has a good time there
Janelle Collard 1 year ago
Could be a court order says OP HAS to go. :( I agree with the person who said: "Have the conversation again + record it." Hopefully , it will help OP get out of going to dad's so often.
Load More Replies... Westy 1 year ago
C.O.N.T.R.O.L. This isn't about cooking, blending a family or building a bond between OP and his step siblings. This dad has some serious issues and I hope Mom takes this to a parenting coordinator/judge, because at 16 OP is old enough to testify that is impacting his mental health, and that father is intentionally creating a hostile environment as punishment.
Wombatish 1 year ago
Don't be nasty to your step siblings just because they're steps? Sure, absolutely. But you can't force closeness, even amongst bio siblings. Basic respect is the only 'enforceable' sibling relationship. And that's putting aside the whole 'be a slave' aspect. I just hate it when parents think they can just say 'be close' and expect it to happen like that.
Puppy Dancing! 1 year ago
The kids dad heard 1. The kid that doesn't want to visit him takes care of his siblings when they are at their mom's 2. How can I convince him to come full time to my place to babysit all 4 kids half the time and the two step kids half the time so we don't have to pay a babysitter. 3. If he cooks, he should do it for the whole family, it isn't fair my ex wife gets these benefits for free and I don't.
BreAnn East 1 year ago
Dad wants the step kids fed dinner before him and wife come home so they don’t have to. That’s ridiculous! The babysitter should be doing it if someone has to, not op. They are already there. As others said great way to push kids away. None of the bio kids will have any contact with dad in a short time because he will pull this type of bs with the other two.
Paula Wynn 1 year ago
NTA, but your father DEFINITELY is! I don't understand this AT ALL! If they're paying a sitter, why can't she make them something to eat? Also, a 10 and 7 year old should be perfectly capable of making a frigging sandwich! It's not YOUR responsibility. You cook for your own siblings out of LOVE, not because you HAVE to. By the way, you SHOULD love your siblings more because you've lived with them for their entire lives! You've only known your steps for the past year! Your father is being EXTREMELY UNFAIR to you!!!
MaryAnn McGill Hoffman 1 year ago
His dad and step mom want the kids fed dinner before 5hey get home from work so they can do whatever they want for dinner. Easy solution is prep dinner and ask the sitter to cook. Or have dinner like a family with the young children. The 16 yr old has no obligation to go after school and personal chef dads step kids.
FrozenTreat 1 year ago
I'm sorry your dad is such a jerk. Why can't the sitter fix the step kids dinner since she has a couple hours until the parents come home? You have school work and just being a kid to do. I'm proud you help your mom around the house and cook for them sometimes. That's really sweet of you. DON'T let your dad talk you into doing the cooking. He's being manipulative. He needs to ask that sitter or they need to do what parents do, feed your own kids! That's such nerve asking you. Keep being the sweet kid that you are.
Reta Murphy 1 year ago
Oh he is there cooking, we don't need to hire babysitter anymore. Guess what you have new job, you have to take care of kids whenever we say.
Janice 1 year ago
OP should avoid telling his dad he's crazy. If the dad hits him, he can justify it by saying OP was disrespectful. If OP just stays with not my problem, or I don't care about them - if dad continues to insist, OP can go to court and stop the visits. OP should also record his dad so he can prove what's happening
JB 1 year ago
Doesn’t matter what OP says to his dad, there’s no legal justification for assault.
Load More Replies... Leigh Kinnaird 1 year ago
NTA. Repeat to him over and over, 'Parentification is abuse. I'm not here to provide parenting responsibilities you chose to take on'. Tbh, I'd go with the suggestion of recording him doing to you over and over and go back to the judge and start making an evidence trail of texts and messages v. speaking to him orally. Personally I think the dad's end goal is to manipulate his son to take over the afterschool care the sitter is doing, for free, ofc. If they want their kids fed before they get home they need to pay the babysitter to do it. Also I'd see about getting a weekend job, that way you spend as little time as possible with this so-called dad until you can work towards not having to visit him at all. Do NOT cave to his manipulation. 'Parenting children is your job.'
Jenny Begnell 1 year ago
Just tell your father you have to go home and do homework. If you went to his place, he would probably decide that since you are there anyway he may as well save on the cost of a sitter as you can babysit as well
Sarah Léon 1 year ago
In France, by the age of 13yo children can decide if they want to see one or other parent after divorce. Most of the time, if there is no proof of any manipulation from the other parent, the judge goes with the child decision.
Abraxas59 1 year ago
the op is 16 no judge in any land can or does force a kid of-that age infact over the age of 12 they go by what the child wants well they do in uk n im pretty sure they will in usa etc to refuse to go your not his slave and i can see why u mum divorced him you will be happier in the long run speaking from experience
Lynda Murray 1 year ago
If he cooks after school, it will be, just stay till we get back after work…and we can let the sitter go those days. Save the money, because OP won’t need paid. It’s done for love and family. . NTA and soon be 18. No visits at all, then
Carol Williams 1 year ago
Get yourself emancipated then you to could get out of mandatory visits
John Smith (he/him/xy/️) 1 year ago
The marital family is not the same as blood related family. The dad can ride off of a cliff for all I care
Tanya Phillips 1 year ago
I was looking after my baby brother when I was 11, so at ten, that kid could fix something simple for him and the younger sibling. Time to empower those kids instead of guilting the oldest one.
patricia Torres 1 year ago
As everyone pretty much stated NTA, at all. You clearly don't have a relationship with his step kids and it sounds like your short visit is meant to continue to stay connected to your bio. The big problem besides being blatantly naive your father believes somehow you were involved in his relationship, as if a marriage made in heaven. Despite being an adult he doesn't get it. He met said woman and children. He chose to develop feelings, not you. Trust me, I get it. My mom asked me what I thought, I told her the truth and it made no difference. Never liked that person nor cared for his relatives. You don't owe anyone anything. I'm glad your mother supports you but his response to her is childish, very low blow.
Col Prettyman 1 year ago
I feel so bad for these kids. All of them but especially the little ones. The people who are supposed to love and care for them don't. Where is their father? Maybe he can love them properly.
Roberta Surprenant 1 year ago
So this identical story is over on cheezburger, but in that one it is a daughter, not a son. AI generated is getting too easy to pick out. https://cheezburger.com/36590853/man-demands-estranged-daughter-cook-for-step-siblings-leading-to-heated-father-daughter-showdown-as
Kristyn Kaari 1 year ago
This is just dad's way to get a step closer to saving money on after-school babysitter. "If you're here cooking for them, you can spend time with them..." Visitation agreements are intended for parents to spend time with their child when they don't have full custody. Why would OP come to his father's house if the father isn't there? Dad needs to value that he has weekends with OP, because court ordered visitations do not extend into the child's adulthood.
Paul Phillips 1 year ago
Same as me when me and my mum are away for a long weekend away and my dad and brother are staying at home if it not the food stains it dirty dishes in the sink and if it not them it is the washing clothes
Leigh Kinnaird 1 year ago
Why should he? They are no relation to him. They're not 'family members' to him.
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