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Mom Causes A Scene At A Restaurant After Overhearing That This Couple Wants To Switch Tables Due To Her Crying Baby
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Mom Causes A Scene At A Restaurant After Overhearing That This Couple Wants To Switch Tables Due To Her Crying Baby

A confused woman who was out with her husband for the first time after their baby was born turned to the subreddit ‘Am I the [Jerk?]’ to get an outside perspective on the way she and her partner responded to a particularly noisy infant nearby.

Using the nickname Ok_Candy7966, she said that the couple got a babysitter and went to a very nice restaurant, so they really put a lot of effort (including money) into making the night worth remembering. So they were really frustrated with the “extras” that weren’t on the menu — the screams and cries.

Continue scrolling to read how everything unfolded.

This woman and her husband wanted to get away from their family life and do something as a couple, so they went to a fancy restaurant

Image credits: Sarah Chai (not the actual photo)

But their night took an unpleasant turn when the baby next to them started bawling their eyes out

Image credits: Alan Light (not the actual photo)

Credits: Ok_Candy7966

This topic has been resurfacing on the internet in one form or the other for quite some time now. Grant Achatz, the Chicago chef of Michelin-starred restaurant Alinea, caused an uproar a couple of years ago when he tweeted that someone brought an 8-month-old baby into his (very expensive) restaurant and the other diners weren’t happy about it. He asked his followers for advice, and, just like this post, it also generated a variety of opinions.

Many people appear to agree that the answer to how should all parties handle the situation lies in the setting. Vincenzo Mangiafridda, the owner of 83 ½, a restaurant in New York City, supports this line of thinking.

“As a father of toddlers, I encourage parents to select kid-friendly restaurants when they dine with younger children,” he said. “My wife rarely eats at 83 ½ because our son is not old enough to behave appropriately in such a setting.”

While Mangiafridda hasn’t enacted a ban or definitive policy, he’s aware of how a crying child can affect his company’s reputation among diners. “My business is my livelihood, and its success is dependent upon providing an enjoyable experience for all our customers.”

And it’s not just restaurants that are trying to figure it out. Some airlines have also joined in on the no-kids trend. Malaysia Airlines, for example, made headlines in the past for banning infants from first-class cabins and creating kid-free zones in economy, while Singapore’s Scoot Airlines introduced the ‘ScootinSilence’ upgrade, barring children under the age of 12 from particular rows. Then there’s AirAsia, which has the ‘Quiet Zone’ for passengers 10 years and above.

But you can’t discreetly exit a plane to give other people’s eardrums and nerves a break. You can in a restaurant, though. And that’s what one should do if one’s child is bothering everyone around them. At least for a little while. Do you agree? Let us know in the comments.

Most people think the couple did nothing wrong

But some believe everyone sucks here (ESH)

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Paul C.
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I grew up in and around my Grandfathers rather posh restaurant, and I believe that until a child can sit through a meal, without needing to get down from the table early, they shouldn't be in the restaurant. I know it may be unpopular but with hot foodstuffs being carried around, it's not fair on other patrons or the serving staff.

Kimberly Wiltshire
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Inam a chef and it really gets problematic when people let their kids run around the restaurant. It puts everyone in danger. I have tripped over kids mucking about, they even come into the kitchen which is an absolute no. No unauthoruzed staff are allowed in the kitchen least of a dueing service. I dont take no for an answer. I will swnd the kid back to their table and tell the parent they need to stay seated. Also parents who let their kids take off their shoes and run around..yo do you know how many glasses get broken in a restaurant? Stupid. When I owned a streerfood style restaurant I literally had a parent change their 2 year olds shitty diaper at the.table. i knew they did it becauae of the god awful smell. They acred liike it was cute. Wth! I wa sso stunned I couldnt say anything, partly because if I did it would have been Gordon Ramsey level anger. I love seeing well behaved kids at a restaurant. Kods that appreciate the experience and who are being included in the experience.

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Darth Starfish
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your child is not my problem, period. If I am discreetly and politely asking a waiter to be moved and not engaging with you, then you should STFU and not insert yourself into the situation at all. It's your fault my meal, that I am paying for is being ruined to start with. OP is NTA 100%, the other mom isn't an AH for having a baby out in public, but her and the father are both mega AHs because they are ruining other peoples time out of the house; and to top it off decide to be smart @sses about it.

ADHD McChick
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I bring my kid everywhere too, & while I didn't take him to a movie theater until he was old enough to sit quietly through a movie, yes , I absolutely would have brought him to a fancy restaurant, even as a baby. **BUT** If he had started crying, had a tantrum, or otherwise made a scene, I would (& have) immediately take him outside. Babies are part of life. & I had no problems with kids being at my own wedding (though this is a personal choice, & if someone wants a child free wedding, that's their choice, no judgement). But parents have to be responsible about it. Just because they can't understand and regulate, is not an excuse to let them annoy everyone else. So go ahead & bring your kid with you. Just take them outside, or leave, if they get like that. It's pretty simple, really. And while I don't think what the baby's mother said was appropriate, I think it's possible she could have been exhausted & frustrated & vented her feelings at OP. Still not right. And OP is definitely NTA.

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Mr.Kris
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had something somewhat similar happen to me, but on a plane. Kid (around 4yrs old id say) sitting behind me kicking my seat, screaming like crazy while the parents did absolutely nothing. I pushed the button to call the stewardess whom came over. I politely asked if I could change seats because the parents behind me weren't considering anyone around them- but I politely said it very loud. Stewardess said no problem, but then the parents got mad At Me! Actually having the nerve to say 'I could've asked them to curb (their own) kid!' in stead of calling the stewardess...I flipped around stunned and replied for everyone to hear 'I shouldn't have to!'

Celtic Pirate Queen
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a kid kicking my seat. I, very politely, asked the mother to have her child stop. She basically ignored me. I'd finally had it & stood (to the best of my limited ability), turned around and SCREAMED in the kid's face "STOP KICKING MY F*****G SEAT". Not my best moment I will admit, swearing at a child is beyond uncool - BUT, it did get him to stop kicking my seat.

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Paul C.
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I grew up in and around my Grandfathers rather posh restaurant, and I believe that until a child can sit through a meal, without needing to get down from the table early, they shouldn't be in the restaurant. I know it may be unpopular but with hot foodstuffs being carried around, it's not fair on other patrons or the serving staff.

Kimberly Wiltshire
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Inam a chef and it really gets problematic when people let their kids run around the restaurant. It puts everyone in danger. I have tripped over kids mucking about, they even come into the kitchen which is an absolute no. No unauthoruzed staff are allowed in the kitchen least of a dueing service. I dont take no for an answer. I will swnd the kid back to their table and tell the parent they need to stay seated. Also parents who let their kids take off their shoes and run around..yo do you know how many glasses get broken in a restaurant? Stupid. When I owned a streerfood style restaurant I literally had a parent change their 2 year olds shitty diaper at the.table. i knew they did it becauae of the god awful smell. They acred liike it was cute. Wth! I wa sso stunned I couldnt say anything, partly because if I did it would have been Gordon Ramsey level anger. I love seeing well behaved kids at a restaurant. Kods that appreciate the experience and who are being included in the experience.

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Darth Starfish
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your child is not my problem, period. If I am discreetly and politely asking a waiter to be moved and not engaging with you, then you should STFU and not insert yourself into the situation at all. It's your fault my meal, that I am paying for is being ruined to start with. OP is NTA 100%, the other mom isn't an AH for having a baby out in public, but her and the father are both mega AHs because they are ruining other peoples time out of the house; and to top it off decide to be smart @sses about it.

ADHD McChick
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I bring my kid everywhere too, & while I didn't take him to a movie theater until he was old enough to sit quietly through a movie, yes , I absolutely would have brought him to a fancy restaurant, even as a baby. **BUT** If he had started crying, had a tantrum, or otherwise made a scene, I would (& have) immediately take him outside. Babies are part of life. & I had no problems with kids being at my own wedding (though this is a personal choice, & if someone wants a child free wedding, that's their choice, no judgement). But parents have to be responsible about it. Just because they can't understand and regulate, is not an excuse to let them annoy everyone else. So go ahead & bring your kid with you. Just take them outside, or leave, if they get like that. It's pretty simple, really. And while I don't think what the baby's mother said was appropriate, I think it's possible she could have been exhausted & frustrated & vented her feelings at OP. Still not right. And OP is definitely NTA.

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Mr.Kris
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had something somewhat similar happen to me, but on a plane. Kid (around 4yrs old id say) sitting behind me kicking my seat, screaming like crazy while the parents did absolutely nothing. I pushed the button to call the stewardess whom came over. I politely asked if I could change seats because the parents behind me weren't considering anyone around them- but I politely said it very loud. Stewardess said no problem, but then the parents got mad At Me! Actually having the nerve to say 'I could've asked them to curb (their own) kid!' in stead of calling the stewardess...I flipped around stunned and replied for everyone to hear 'I shouldn't have to!'

Celtic Pirate Queen
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a kid kicking my seat. I, very politely, asked the mother to have her child stop. She basically ignored me. I'd finally had it & stood (to the best of my limited ability), turned around and SCREAMED in the kid's face "STOP KICKING MY F*****G SEAT". Not my best moment I will admit, swearing at a child is beyond uncool - BUT, it did get him to stop kicking my seat.

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