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Elise Gudar • commented on 7 posts 4 months ago

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

I'm doing okay, but it's looping in my head. I'm working and spending time with friends to think about something else.

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

You are right, you just made me realize it. The first questions she asked me were: “ Do you know my name?’, ‘Do you know where I work?’, and ‘Do you know what I do?’ One of the things she asked her husband in front of me was whether he had told me about her — because otherwise, how would I know who she is.

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

I'm doing okay, but it's looping in my head. I'm working and spending time with friends to think about something else.

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

You are right, you just made me realize it. The first questions she asked me were: “ Do you know my name?’, ‘Do you know where I work?’, and ‘Do you know what I do?’ One of the things she asked her husband in front of me was whether he had told me about her — because otherwise, how would I know who she is.

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

He told me he was separated since 3 years, and had two girlfriends since. I learned about the wife 4 days ago…

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

I know that…

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

EDIT: I went to talk to his wife. I had checked beforehand and saw that she was working full-time, which didn’t match the chemo treatments she was supposedly going through or the state he had described her in. It turned out she had no idea — they are still together, and she never had breast cancer. She called him in front of me to confront him. He told me in the past about the two latest girlfriends, so yes, he’s a repeat cheater, covered by his friends and colleagues.

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

Thank you for your message. I feel like I am falling apart right now and it is extremely violent. I fell in love, and it really felt true, also from his side. Learning about the manipulation that entire time, and that he used the story of my breast cancer to go on with the relationship

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

He has literally no leverage over my life. My friends and closest ones know the story and wouldn’t give him one second of benefit of the doubt — they’re all disgusted. On top, I ’ve reflected on it, and I wouldn’t have made any move if his wife were actually battling cancer, and only confronted him. I checked — she looks perfectly healthy and working full time. This part makes me sick and I feel violated

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Elise Gudar • upvoted 7 items 4 months ago

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

covered by the wife too, since she is still there, knowing how he keeps cheating.

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

Thanks for the update, stay safe. Good luck for the future.

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

covered by the wife too, since she is still there, knowing how he keeps cheating.

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

Thanks for the update, stay safe. Good luck for the future.

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

EDIT: I went to talk to his wife. I had checked beforehand and saw that she was working full-time, which didn’t match the chemo treatments she was supposedly going through or the state he had described her in. It turned out she had no idea — they are still together, and she never had breast cancer. She called him in front of me to confront him. He told me in the past about the two latest girlfriends, so yes, he’s a repeat cheater, covered by his friends and colleagues.

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

Thank you for your message. I feel like I am falling apart right now and it is extremely violent. I fell in love, and it really felt true, also from his side. Learning about the manipulation that entire time, and that he used the story of my breast cancer to go on with the relationship

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

Tell his wife. Would you want someone else to tell YOU if he was your husband? He could be bringing home STDs to her, a (presumably) innocent person in all of this. And if he cheated on her with you, he's cheating on her with other women too. IMO, tell her. Expose him.

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

Im so sorry OP. I cant even begin to imagine the betrayal, the pain. Well, similar, I've been there too. The realisation that *you* are the other woman (and for someone who hates cheating, that cuts deep). That everything is lies. But using your own experience against you? Especially cancer. That, is just sick. Tell his wife. Send pics/screenshots. You need to have the message drafted in full, then hit send and block block block. Give her the info she needs, then walk away from the $hïtshow. Good luck

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Elise Gudar • commented on 7 posts 4 months ago

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

I'm doing okay, but it's looping in my head. I'm working and spending time with friends to think about something else.

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

You are right, you just made me realize it. The first questions she asked me were: “ Do you know my name?’, ‘Do you know where I work?’, and ‘Do you know what I do?’ One of the things she asked her husband in front of me was whether he had told me about her — because otherwise, how would I know who she is.

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

He told me he was separated since 3 years, and had two girlfriends since. I learned about the wife 4 days ago…

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

I know that…

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

EDIT: I went to talk to his wife. I had checked beforehand and saw that she was working full-time, which didn’t match the chemo treatments she was supposedly going through or the state he had described her in. It turned out she had no idea — they are still together, and she never had breast cancer. She called him in front of me to confront him. He told me in the past about the two latest girlfriends, so yes, he’s a repeat cheater, covered by his friends and colleagues.

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

Thank you for your message. I feel like I am falling apart right now and it is extremely violent. I fell in love, and it really felt true, also from his side. Learning about the manipulation that entire time, and that he used the story of my breast cancer to go on with the relationship

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

He has literally no leverage over my life. My friends and closest ones know the story and wouldn’t give him one second of benefit of the doubt — they’re all disgusted. On top, I ’ve reflected on it, and I wouldn’t have made any move if his wife were actually battling cancer, and only confronted him. I checked — she looks perfectly healthy and working full time. This part makes me sick and I feel violated

Elise Gudar • upvoted 7 items 4 months ago

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

covered by the wife too, since she is still there, knowing how he keeps cheating.

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

Thanks for the update, stay safe. Good luck for the future.

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

EDIT: I went to talk to his wife. I had checked beforehand and saw that she was working full-time, which didn’t match the chemo treatments she was supposedly going through or the state he had described her in. It turned out she had no idea — they are still together, and she never had breast cancer. She called him in front of me to confront him. He told me in the past about the two latest girlfriends, so yes, he’s a repeat cheater, covered by his friends and colleagues.

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

Thank you for your message. I feel like I am falling apart right now and it is extremely violent. I fell in love, and it really felt true, also from his side. Learning about the manipulation that entire time, and that he used the story of my breast cancer to go on with the relationship

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

Tell his wife. Would you want someone else to tell YOU if he was your husband? He could be bringing home STDs to her, a (presumably) innocent person in all of this. And if he cheated on her with you, he's cheating on her with other women too. IMO, tell her. Expose him.

Hey Pandas, He Manipulated Me With A Fake Tragedy, Should I Tell His Wife The Truth?

Im so sorry OP. I cant even begin to imagine the betrayal, the pain. Well, similar, I've been there too. The realisation that *you* are the other woman (and for someone who hates cheating, that cuts deep). That everything is lies. But using your own experience against you? Especially cancer. That, is just sick. Tell his wife. Send pics/screenshots. You need to have the message drafted in full, then hit send and block block block. Give her the info she needs, then walk away from the $hïtshow. Good luck

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