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Artist Illustrates The Pressures She And Other Women Face From Society In 30 New Honest Comics
Society puts pressure on everyone: most are expected to be someone, do something and whatever else. But that does not mean that those expectations are valid, or if the pressure is really necessary. Who knows, perhaps we're forced to chase after goals that don't really reflect our true self, or even worse, we can lose our true selves whilst chasing them.
If that's the case, perhaps we need to do the opposite It's very important to continually deprogram ourselves from things that are not true, and in some cases even harmful. Therefore we need to find ways to heal ourselves from the harm that modern life may cause.
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Which is why it's great to have artists like Lainey Molnar, who help others to do exactly that. She has a mission to point out all of the wrong and right things of what it means to be a woman at this day and age, and illustrates these things in a very accurate and aesthetic way. In her comics, she explores the topic of femininity, double standards, societal pressures, expectations, and various other problems that modern independent women face every day.
Yes. It's never about the clothes. You should be able to control yourself and your thoughts.
And many people are grateful that she's raising awareness on the aforementioned issues. In fact, she's really popular both amongst her fans on Instagram, and you, our beloved Bored Panda readers. Her Instagram has a whopping 896k followers and the two posts (which you may find here and here) were viewed by millions on our page. Lainey an important voice.
Ok, where are the people who do this? Raise your hand. No one? And there you have it folks, another problem. No one wants to admit they said that
I do say #3 (to myself, though) every time I see kids being abused by their parents. But then again, I'm a firm believer in having children ONLY when you want to be a parent. No, "I want a baby" is not a good enough reason to have one. It has to be "I want to be a Mom/Dad and give my best to lovingly raising another human being", or just don't (like me, since I'm totally not ready for parenthood)".
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I enjoy the fact the third panel lady has one and a half arms. Nice diversity
I am childfree. Selfish? Hell yea! I would rather spend my money on what I want and the charities I support than something I don´t care for.
What's really selfish is trying to shame someone and pressure them into having a child they don't want and don't care for because YOU think it's what women are supposed to do.
Once I decided that I didn't want children, it was like this weight was lifted off me. It's such a good feeling. For me, anyway.
Heck, it’s not always about the woman. I (18M) have childhood brain cancer and epilepsy, and I don’t want to couple the stresses of paying for my medicines, MRIs and treatments with the stresses of raising a kid, much less force them on anyone else.
I recently made a comment on a fitness influencer's page who had targeted "busy mom's" in her advertising as her desired demographic. I stated that moms aren't the only busy women out there who want to invest in their fitness, and was subsequently riddled with vicious comments in response. I was told that "it was a good thing I didn't procreate because I was nasty and grumpy, and kids deserve love which I obviously couldn't provide them". That "the world was better off without the kids I would've brought into the world and ruined." Those are just a few of the gems, and they all came from other women. I was shocked! Why the hate? All I wanted to express was that childless women are frequently marginalized in female driven ad campaigns.
Adoption/foster/surrogate mom: You’re not a real mom! Single mom: You’re irresponsible! Gay moms: Children need a dad!
I've been told that because I'm childfree. That's my business however everyone and their granny wanted to tell me how selfish I was. So I told them why I'm child free. I am an abuse survivor, I miscarried my partners baby and couldn't get pregnant again. So I'm at the age where I can't due to health reasons. So I'm child free, I do have a kid only it's covered in fur and she wags her tail when she's happy to see me.
There is always an accusation, no matter the situation, that blames YOU.
Hurts my heart, but, many of these judgments come from our ‘sisters’. Coming from a man is hurtful enough but I am able to flip a bird. Coming from a woman, feels so much more targeted and pointed. Ladies, can all just please support the decisions our ‘sisters’ make given there position at the time.
I never heard anyone say I'm selfish for not having children, though they often talked about the joy of having them and saying I would regret not having them, later
And just cause someone puts their kid up for adoption doesn’t mean that they don’t love them some people can barely support themselves let alone someone else
Jesus... Sounds like dinner around our house at Christmas. My mom has started obnoxiously pestering my daughter about grandchildren. I told her to stfu.
Yeah, I'm really selfish because I didn't want to bring a child into this world.
We are raised with the expectancy of developing a family. Not something everyone wants to do. For those who are trying but failing to have children, adoption is only one recourse and there are others. But by the time the Adoption agencies and the Government are finished with your finances, not every one can afford it.
So much stupid people giving unwanted opinion about matters they don't know.
Part of what shames people is the vernacular we use around adoption. When a young mother decides adoption is the right choice, she is placing them with a forever home, not giving them up. By making this choice she is never giving up on them. These words matter and so does supporting all young women when facing whatever way they have, or chose to not have, a family.
I recently made the mistake of calling out a fitness influencer for targeting "busy moms" as her desired demographic. Stating moms aren't the only women who are busy or want to invest in their fitness. I subsequently received dozens of replies that were so vicious I had to turn off notifications for the post. People were saying it was a good thing I didn't procreate because I was "grumpy, nasty, and kids deserve love, that I clearly couldn't give them." that the "world was better off without the kids I would've brought into the world.", just to name a few. And these were coming from other women. I was so shocked. I couldn't believe that women could dish out so much hate against me just because I had the nerve to point out that childless women are sometimes marginalized in a lot of female driven ad campaigns.
Ok opinions, here they come. No. I have never thought of these examples. I have wildly raging violent addicts having children. I didn’t enjoy that environment.
Who calls "selfish" a child free woman won't help a single mom to raise a child, or pay their sustent. Also, a woman without kids can be good for others, unlike the jerk.
What's great about these illustrations is that their tone isn't restricted to criticism and negative stuff. While she criticizes, which is an important and a difficult task in itself, she also promotes body positivity and mental wellbeing. She kindly reminds us not to follow norms which don't suit your natural needs, she reminds us that we're all beautiful and normal in our own special way. No size is wrong, no height is wrong, and no habit is disgusting. All of it is you, and you should accept that first and foremost. And if the other's can't accept that, we'll, sucks to be them.
Yeah. This one is tricky and requires a never ending balancing act.
Though the expectations and the pressure for women in our society may sometimes feel like they're crushing you, don't give up, girls. Just remember, diamonds are made under pressure. They're also a woman's best friend. This might be that extra bit of inspiration you may have wanted to hear to get out there and take over the world. Tread on, women!
Exactly! So unfair! You capture the most unseen stuff in this world and put it out there! You are now my new favorite artist
Never. My therapist said "your progress is not lost just because you had a bad moment". Better to let it out rather than let it eat you up from the inside. It's just a bump in the road, not the end.
Exactly! I may not feel that I can care for children now, but hopefully one day!
And yet, every time Madonna is featured on BP, she's roasted like a Christmas turkey.
Bro yes. I get really sweaty between and behind my thighs and oddly enough my inner elbow it’s uncomfortable so I always gotta cool down.
Our differences are what make us beautiful. The world would be boring if we were all the same!!!!!!
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This is an excellent post! Insightful, thoughtful and just mighty damn brilliant! Fantastic artist ❤️
This is an excellent post! Insightful, thoughtful and just mighty damn brilliant! Fantastic artist ❤️
